Ladies/women/tomgirls of all ages
You've said it much better than I could have and I agree completely with your reasoning, this included:
And even those good accomplishments are questionable. Women have made great art, for example, and would have made still more. But sexist societies have a) kept them too busy with housework and child care to have time for art b) actively prevented them from making art c) suppressed what art they did make d) sometimes even forced them to credit males for the art they'd made.
Exactly. How many famous men with great feats under their belts would have been able to explore/create/invent as they did had they been stuck with the childcare and domestic duties? SOMEone was doing that for them - the women in their lives - and in turn sacrificed their chance at accomplishing more than just being a great washerwoman. In the U.S. until the 20th century I believe, it was illegal for women to hold patents. So all you see in the history of the US is men holding patents, men being the inventors. Who knows how many of those men who hold patents, did so at the behest of their womenfolk because they themselves could not?
So what men and women can accomplish or have accomplished should be seen in the context of what each has been allowed to do.
In more and more animal studies of primates, it's seen that the usual inventors in simian societies are the young females. They invent things and different ways of doing things. The next to adapt to new ways are the mothers of the societies who then teach their youngsters.
The last and most conservative bunch to pick up new things and adapt to them after everyone else has? The adult males of the society.
Makes me and anthropolgists and primatologists wonder if in early human societies, it was no different.
From women, in many cases. Women have absorbed society's sexist messages, too. For example, many Afghani women are pleased to don a burkha and accept other restrictions. Many American women refuse to consider themselves feminists.
And the major reason for this is societies have developed that have no room for women who buck the system. There is no culture of single women in poor Muslim countries/societies. Women live with their families until they marry, then they live with their husband's family. There is no cultural phase girls go through when they become women to spread their wings, fly and become independent members of society. They're not supposed to be independent or free-thinking. They're always to be under the control of some man. And if they choose not to be? You've heard the horror stories of what happens to such women. At the very least, they will be threatened with the loss of their family's status, love and protection. Where can they go? In freer societies, a woman can, with regret, shrug and go make her life elsewhere, these women have no place to go. Such societies are very controlling this way.
Nowadays, with secular law enforcement just starting to come down hard on those who commit 'honor killings' what is happening now, is if teenage girls start to buck their family's traditions, they start getting extreme harrassment from their families, ostracism, threats, until these poor girls - already hormonally on edge with puberty - commit suicide. And that solves everything. The family 'honor' is protected and the family members are 'innocent' of any crime.
Makes me sick.
Is it any wonder women are quick to scamper under the bourka and hide? Better to be a live dog than a dead lion.
and I agree with
loneleeb's statement:
I think it is because straight men find the situation of two women having sex incredibly hot!
That is the main reason it is accepted. Lets face it, for the most part this is a society dominated by straight males.I'm not trying to be sexist, i'm just statingthe facts as i see them.
Straight men I know find lesbianism fascinating and titillating and don't think women are
really lesbians. They just haven't had a good enough fuck yet from a man. Once they do, of course, they'll be 'turned around'.
Yes, several men have told me this and one says this is one of his cherished goals in life.
Of course, they actually mean lipstick lesbians, not the Rosie O'Donnell type lesbians.
Some straight men can be so deluded.