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TOTW 07/08: Two effin years - Looking back
Penthesilea:
Mornin BetterMostians :)
For many of us, it's already been two years since we first saw Brokeback Mountain. Time to look back.
I think none of us had an idea of the things to come. The numb feeling, the agony over Jack's death, leaving Ennis alone, the countless hours online to get more input about the movie, the relief to find likeminded people ('Thank God, I'm not going nuts" ;)) - all this is well behind us.
But we're still here.
What's different in your perception towards the movie (and/or story) now than it was two years ago?
Is there a difference at all? Are there scenes you now see in another light than back then? Do you think you developed a deeper understanding of the movie or its characters over time?
Have your reactions to the movie changed over the years?
Did you at one point "get over it"? Where you able to let the tragedy behind you, at least in parts? Do you still see the movie from time to time?
Have you changed?
Some of us have made drastic changes in their so-called RL. Other changes may not be drastic, but just as meaningful. Maybe the change is more inwardly; has your attitude towards some things or to life in general changed? Or are you the same person you ever were apart from the obvious, meaning becoming a Brokie?
Share as much as you're comfortable with! :)
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brokeplex:
The film certainly changed me and how I view my life and the world I live in!
The film acted as catalyst in helping me to understand my grief and pain, and realizing that I have one life to live and my time is precious. In better understanding myself and the factors in my own life which lead me to this place, I have grown closer to the man whom I love, and I treasure my time with him, taking nothing for granted. These are gifts beyond price.
forsythia12:
good thread!
yeah, the movie has changed for me lots. i definately don't cry as much, or at all anymore. i guess the shock has worn off.....and i don't sit there 'numb' anymore.
i do have a quieter love for the movie....and i can watch it while i do laundry, or dust, or whatever. i still have the deep love for it, but it's more reserved i guess....more comfortable....like a real love story. you know, when you meet someone and there's excitement, and butterflies, and they're all you can think about.....and then after some time it just gets softer, quieter, and more comfortable. the amount of awe isn't gone, but just different.
i still get bothered seeing jake and heath in other roles though. for some reason, i can't seperate the characters from the actors...and i find it unsettling to hear about their real lives.....it just sound foreign to me.
Katie77:
A few things have happened over the last couple of months, that now make me realize how far things have changed over the last two years.
Tonight, I was talking to someone online, who I had not spoken to for a few months, and she said "I was thinking about you, when Heath died". I thought of all the others who rang me on that terrible day in January.
It made me realize, that now, instead of "making fun" of me because of my obsession, now, I think the people who know me, understand that Brokeback was not just a passsing phase that I was going "silly" over, it was something more, and two years later, it is still there, in my heart and my soul.
I knew it back then, I knew that something had happened to me, something unexplainable, something unique and something wonderful. Why were some of us chosen to be like we are over this movie, I dont know, but I'm so glad I was.
Finding my way here, and meeting so many people who have become dear friends, has been just an unbelivable journey. I never tire of reading or talking about the movie, reading other people's interpretations and what it meant to them, only adds to the intrigue of it all.
And of course, Jack and Ennis, they are like family. I love them unconditionally. I always will.
CellarDweller:
--- Quote from: Penthesilea on March 03, 2008, 08:35:37 am ---What's different in your perception towards the movie (and/or story) now than it was two years ago?
Is there a difference at all? Are there scenes you now see in another light than back then? Do you think you developed a deeper understanding of the movie or its characters over time?
--- End quote ---
One thing that I remember happening was where I would start to cry would change. I would start crying at the tire iron scene. Later, first time I cried was the arguement at the lake. One time, it was the when Ennis left Alma, holding Alma Jr. I felt so badly for her as she cried.
Different "meanings" came to me over the times I've seen it. One lesson was to hold onto love. Another was to not waste time. Another was to tell people how you feel about them.
--- Quote from: Penthesilea on March 03, 2008, 08:35:37 am ---Have your reactions to the movie changed over the years?
Did you at one point "get over it"? Where you able to let the tragedy behind you, at least in parts? Do you still see the movie from time to time?
--- End quote ---
The only time I watch the movie now is if it's at a brokie get together. My friend Jimmy (gnash) once said a while ago that it is no longer about "brokeback , the movie" and it's now about "brokeback, the people". If I were to go to get togethers and the movie was not showed, I would not be bothered. I would rather associate with the members of the forums than watch the movie at the gatherings.
--- Quote from: Penthesilea on March 03, 2008, 08:35:37 am ---Have you changed?
Some of us have made drastic changes in their so-called RL. Other changes may not be drastic, but just as meaningful. Maybe the change is more inwardly; has your attitude towards some things or to life in general changed? Or are you the same person you ever were apart from the obvious, meaning becoming a Brokie?
--- End quote ---
I'm definitely not the same person that I was before.
I exercise more regularly, eat healthier (I actually started to eat vegetables), think more highly of myself, I've become more "touchy feely" with my friends, more ready to tell them how I feel about them, I'm actively getting in shape physically and mentally (I made some appointments with a therapist), and I'm traveling more. I was always a homebody, and now, in the past 2 years, by June, will have been to 12 states. Looking forward to add more to the list.
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