Brokeback Mountain: Our Community's Common Bond > Heath Ledger Remembrance Forum
Poll: Your opinion on Jake's silence
Brown Eyes:
I agree that Jake doesn't owe us anything. But, this question isn't all about us either. And, it's not about his private pain or personal grief.
I've said from the beginning that if it was an intrusive effort by paparazzi to try to capture Jake's private emotions... that would be entirely inappropriate and something I would never want to see happen.
I do think it's entirely appropriate to expect a eulogy for Heath. It's about eulogizing a friend and one of his most significant colleagues in his career.
I still find his silence very perplexing, especially in light of gestures other colleagues have felt moved to make.
Also, just to re-iterate an interesting point made at some point earlier in this long-running discussion about "what's up with Jake" and the issue of tributes in general...
How would we feel if none of Heath's colleagues made the tributes and eulogies that they did? Clearly, Ang Lee, Anne Hathaway, Michelle Williams, Daniel Day Lewis, etc. also didn't owe us anything either in terms of a statement. So in an extreme hypothetical scenario there could have been no eulogies by Heath's filmmaking/celebrity colleagues, etc. But, of course, there are now so many tributes by professional colleagues, friends and family that there is a big thread here all about that. I think having those tributes out there is important to honoring Heath and those tributes seem important to many folks here on this forum. To me Jake continues to feel like a glaring omission amongst the list of tribute-makers.
serious crayons:
When my mother died recently, the hospice nurse was very helpful afterward. My brother and I would ask her, "Should we do such and such?" and she would reply, "Whatever is best for you. Some people do X, some people do Y. Whatever you feel most comfortable with is what you should do."
Everybody grieves in their own way, she said. There is no right or wrong.
ednbarby:
--- Quote from: atz75 on April 01, 2008, 09:15:00 pm ---I agree that Jake doesn't owe us anything. But, this question isn't all about us either. And, it's not about his private pain or personal grief.
I've said from the beginning that if it was an intrusive effort by paparazzi to try to capture Jake's private emotions... that would be entirely inappropriate and something I would never want to see happen.
I do think it's entirely appropriate to expect a eulogy for Heath. It's about eulogizing a friend and one of his most significant colleagues in his career.
I still find his silence very perplexing, especially in light of gestures other colleagues have felt moved to make.
Also, just to re-iterate an interesting point made at some point earlier in this long-running discussion about "what's up with Jake" and the issue of tributes in general...
How would we feel if none of Heath's colleagues made the tributes and eulogies that they did? Clearly, Ang Lee, Anne Hathaway, Michelle Williams, Daniel Day Lewis, etc. also didn't owe us anything either in terms of a statement. So in an extreme hypothetical scenario there could have been no eulogies by Heath's filmmaking/celebrity colleagues, etc. But, of course, there are now so many tributes by professional colleagues, friends and family that there is a big thread here all about that. I think having those tributes out there is important to honoring Heath and those tributes seem important to many folks here on this forum. To me Jake continues to feel like a glaring omission amongst the list of tribute-makers.
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Yes. But many of his other colleagues have also chosen not to say anything. I haven't heard anything from Christian Bale (maybe I just missed it). Or Terry Gilliam. Or Billy Bob Thornton. Or Todd Haynes. Or Matt Damon. Or his other siblings (beside his beloved sister Kate - didn't he have another brother and sister?) There are many people who've known him intimately and/or worked with him closely who have chosen not to eulogize him for whatever reasons. Why can't we respect that choice from Jake? Perhaps he feels he can't properly put into words what Heath meant to him and so trying to would do him a disservice. Or perhaps it's just too difficult in general. As has been said here many times, most recently by Katherine, everyone deals with grief in his own way. While I certainly would be comforted by a eulogy from Jake, as I've said, I can respect his choice not to make one.
MilAn:
You should check out the tributes thread, there are a lot of tributes/quotes from Todd Hayness, he even dedicated Heath the ensemble award for IMT the whole cast and crew got. Christian Bale also payed tribute and recently did an interview, you can find it on youtube, where he talked about Heath. About Terry Gilliam i'm not sure, but i think he also said something.
About his sisters, all three sisters, Kate and the two half sisters, as well as the parents payed tributes. Wrote very moving eulogies!
ednbarby:
OK, so I missed a few. ::)
Really, even if every other person who has ever remotely known Heath has paid some sort of public tribute to him, it doesn't mean Jake is required to, also.
And really, would Heath want or expect anything more from him?
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