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forsythia12:

--- Quote from: Katie77 on March 31, 2008, 03:48:10 pm ---I know what you are saying Susie. and dont doubt for one minute the problems and anxieties we have all felt with mother in laws. The relationship I have had with my own mother in law has not been all rosey and perfect either.

Early on in our marriage, there were issues that really bugged me, I guess now, she is old and I am older too, that I just overlook the things that bothered me so much when I was younger and things dont bother me as much. I guess you could say we have all mellowed with time, and I have learnt to ignore or laugh things off easier than I did in the earlier years.

Being a mother in law myself, too, I always hope that I am not being critisized for things that I dont deserve to be, and I have tried to be a better mother in law to my daughters in law, than what my MIL was to me.



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i'm sure you're a great MIL and gramma.

Katie77:

--- Quote from: forsythia12 on March 31, 2008, 05:25:06 pm ---i'm sure you're a great MIL and gramma.

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Thank you forsythia (I know your real name but cant remember it)....

I do have a great relationship with my daughter in law. We are friends, and we go to bingo together, and we enjoy talking to each other about different tv shows we both watch, and we both went on the same diet about 12 months ago, and we gave each other encouragement and then went shopping for new clothes together when we had reached our goal weight. There is only an 18yr age gap between us, so we do have a lot of things in common with each other. And...best of all she has given me a beautiful grandson, who is now 8yrs old, and she has unselfishly shared every moment of his life with us......so I did really hit the jackpot when my son married her....

I think the important thing is that there is no competition or petty jealousies between us. She knows I expect my son to always put her first, and he does. Her mum lives 1000 miles away, and visits at least twice a year, and her and I too, have developed a nice friendship, and she has often thanked me for looking out for her daughter so well, when she is not here herself to do so.

Its a two way street, conflict will breed conflict, but understanding will breed understanding as well.

MsMercury:
My family squabbles have been so bad that I no longer speak to them. My father passed away in '98. I no longer speak to my mother or brother. People always say that you should stick by your family no matter what but to me your family should, in theory, treat you better than anyone else. Mine have done some absolutely horrible things to me that I just could not put up with anymore. It just got to the point that I had to cut them out of my life for my own sanity.

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