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TOTW 18/08: The lines from the trailer
loneleeb3:
--- Quote ---A lady I knew was divorced for 4 years and had no kind words for her ex, who ran off with another woman. She once cried on my shoulder that she missed him. Puzzled, I asked why, if he was so bad. Her answer, between sobs, was .. 'I miss him as he used to be'. She didn't miss what he did, but she missed his love. I think sometimes that's how a lot of people feel.
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This is a great point!
I can relate to it a lot. We can never go backto how it used to be which is sometime the hardest thing to take.
Mandy21:
--- Quote from: loneleeb3 on June 02, 2008, 08:23:07 am ---This is a great point!
I can relate to it a lot. We can never go backto how it used to be which is sometime the hardest thing to take.
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Hey Rich, good morning. I think what you said is quite true of BBM, and of life in general. If we're lucky, we have so many special and precious moments in our life, moments which we should memorize and embrace and treasure. But then they're gone, just like that, in the blink of an eye. And we're left waiting for the next special moment to come along. Sometimes, we're left waiting for far too long. I think the whole point of life is to recognize those moments AS THEY ARE HAPPENING, which we tend not to do for whatever reasons. Maybe we're just scared that we don't deserve for that much happiness to be coming our way in the first place. Wouldn't it be great if we could all get over our fears and insecurities from the past, and actually LIVE LIVE LIVE and LOVE LOVE LOVE in the present?
Next question -- would BBM have been such a treasured film to us IF Jack and Ennis had started a real life committed completely to each other, in full view of the world? IMHO, no. Part of the allure of the film is the tragedy that they didn't. Ennis reading the "DECEASED" postcard on the street, and the look on his face that he can't even wrap his head around the concept of living in a world where his one great love no longer breathed. If only he had a second chance..... If only.....
optom3:
--- Quote from: Mandy21 on June 02, 2008, 08:51:01 am ---Hey Rich, good morning. I think what you said is quite true of BBM, and of life in general. If we're lucky, we have so many special and precious moments in our life, moments which we should memorize and embrace and treasure. But then they're gone, just like that, in the blink of an eye. And we're left waiting for the next special moment to come along. Sometimes, we're left waiting for far too long. I think the whole point of life is to recognize those moments AS THEY ARE HAPPENING, which we tend not to do for whatever reasons. Maybe we're just scared that we don't deserve for that much happiness to be coming our way in the first place. Wouldn't it be great if we could all get over our fears and insecurities from the past, and actually LIVE LIVE LIVE and LOVE LOVE LOVE in the present?
Next question -- would BBM have been such a treasured film to us IF Jack and Ennis had started a real life committed completely to each other, in full view of the world? IMHO, no. Part of the allure of the film is the tragedy that they didn't. Ennis reading the "DECEASED" postcard on the street, and the look on his face that he can't even wrap his head around the concept of living in a world where his one great love no longer breathed. If only he had a second chance..... If only.....
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Is it our tragedy as humans that we don't recognise our perfect time until it has passed.It seems to be a recurring theme for many of us here.Maybe we are so busy planning for the next one or thinking ahead that we miss out on the here and now,realising only with hindsight that it has already gone.
The double tragedy in BBM is that not only do they never manage to go back, but their last meeting was so upsetting.
I insist if any of us in my family have an argument and we do,plenty, that we make up before parting for bed,work school whatever. I do not want any of us to live with the guilt of angry words being our last memory.In effect Ennis has to live with that memory as well, which compounds the misery.
underdown:
Hey, those posts are great.
Maybe one of the most important messages the film has: that we should never be afraid to love, never miss the opportunity to show it, nor to receive it, and always try to put love before our own pride and material wants?
optom3:
--- Quote from: SunShadow on June 02, 2008, 11:27:52 am ---And to be willing to take a risk ....
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That is probably the biggest one,it means a blind leap of faith which is so difficult for many of us. It reminds me of the trust exercise, where you have to let yourself fall backwards and trust the person at your back will catch you. It always seemed relatively easy for me,nut I think tat had less to do with trust and more to do with an impulsive streak.
I remember one day with the oldest's father,my ex. We were sitting in a wine bar one Sunday afternoon,the next thing we were crossing the chanel on a ferry for France.Well duh !! what about work on Monday !!!!
Still I miss that impulsivity now, much more difficult with 3 kids. I have to at least make a token gesture to responsibility.
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