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optom3:
I am not sure if this is the correct place for this topic, but it is BBM related.
I was really shocked when I arrived on the west coast of Florida to see the the depth of gay hatred that exists here. I use the word hatred, after much consideration as it goes beyond mere dislike or non tolerance.
I was even more horrified when my oldest son started spouting some of it.
We have a zero tolerance to all irrational hatred and bigotry in our house. Long story short, as many of you know, I have had a rough time with my oldest son, until we finally got his meds. right.
He has a lovely girlfriend for the time being and all is good.This girls best friend is a gay boy, and so one afternoon, I suggested to my son he watched BBM.
What a change, he was crying, just like me.He was mortified about some of the things he had previously said about gays.He asked me if people were still like that, I told him just to think back at some of the comments he had passed.I told him in the more recent past, a boy had been killed for that very reason and that for some people gay bashing verges on a blood sport.
He is now this gay boys biggest champion.They were all around at his girlfriends house the other evening and some guys came by, chanting their normal filth.
My son went after them and just chased them.He told them he had a gold in wrestling and perhaps they might like to take him on.No one seemed that keen to rush to the challenge.!!! He also said, as they were such a bunch of ignorant, ugly sods why would any girl be interested in them let alone a good looking guy.
The boy who my son had rushed to defend said, and he is 15, that was the first time a straight guy had ever jumped to his defence.He then said to my son that he had only hung round with girls up until then as guys were so obnoxious to him.So all three hang round quite a bit now.
So BBM can even change that most difficult of all age groups, the prejudice teenage boy.
The film did what months of my "talks" failed to do.
So I decided to post this to give some hope and encouragement to others out there. My son was truly disgusting in some of the things he used to say.I was ashamed of him and it was one thing I could not blame on his illness.So he is back at school and trying to educate boys who used to be like him.
With so many horrible things going on I thought this would make a refreshing change. I really believe that BBM should be shown to all teenagers, albeit maybe a Bravo type censored version.
I don't suppose it ever will be, but at least we can continue to chip away at some of the hatred that exists.Wht a revelation ,that BBM continues to influence still.

Katie77:
Getting these kids educated early is the key to abolishing bigotry and homophilia.

If one more child is affected like this every day, and he educates one of his friends and so on and so on, the world will definately be a better place.

optom3:

--- Quote from: Katie77 on August 22, 2008, 10:13:00 am ---Getting these kids educated early is the key to abolishing bigotry and homophilia.

If one more child is affected like this every day, and he educates one of his friends and so on and so on, the world will definately be a better place.





--- End quote ---

I agree 100% and particularly when the child in question, my son is percieved as so macho and yet still refuses anymore to be drawn into the gay bashing cult.
Instead, he  tries to pass on the word. He even said to me that at one stage he thought he might be gay.I told him it made not one iota difference to my feelings or his families towards him.I also said a lot of men and women go through a period of questioning their sexuality.Some will even go as far as experimenting.
Back in England, 25 plus years ago when I was at university it was the big thing at the time to be bisexual.
So I think BBM has done more than change my sons' attitude, it has opened up a whole chanel of communication between me and my son.

Katie77:
Your children are lucky to have you for their mum....they will certainly grow to be wonderful adults.

Gabreya:
I'm so happy that your son has changed for the better. This film had really opened his eyes to see how homophobia really is and how we can reduce it if we try to understand that God had created everyone equal. I even though you tried hard to help him before this, I'm glad you stayed strong throughout. Thanks to this movie, your boy has really taken to consideration on how each and everyone of us are different and deserved to be loved. And it's like others, you, and me have been saying:THIS MOVIE CHANGED PEOPLE'S LIVES.

Kudos to you and your son!!!

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