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Getting in Touch With Your Feelings About Brokeback Mountain
Fla_Tim:
Nancy,
Thank you for your note. Luckily I grew up in a place and time that allowed me to be the person I am, though not without some struggle.
I was talking with a friend who was 13 in 1963 and grew up in rural Indiana. The thing that he identified most with the characters in the movie was the oppression he felt growing up in the country in the 1960s.
We need to remind ourselves how fortunate many of us have it today.
Warm regards.
Tim
strazeme:
I'm hurting so bad I can hardly stand it, almost makes me wish I'd never opened to door to BBM. This film made me aware of a profound emptiness in my life .. I'm so lost and alone ... and I don't even have shirts. I've cried so much, literally, more than in my entire life. Everything has been so bottled up inside, I've lost touch with myself. So now, when I try to remember if I ever had a dream of a bluebird-whisky spring, I have no idea where to go with my new awareness. My life is just on auto-pilot, going through the paces, but now I have to deal with it ... and I feel deeply wounded. Looking for clue, I've tried to replay all my past, asking whether there was ever a time I was really happy, really felt love, and I've decided I'm far worse off than ever. Because now I know it, and it won't go away. Thanks for listening, just writing it out seemed helful.
BBMGrandma:
Dear Straz....
So very glad you've joined us here. This is TRULY the place to share that sadness...it's a safe haven for ALL of us!! We've all cried, and are STILL crying as we share this emotional upheaval with one another here. You're NOT alone with those feelings...trust me. I'm a straight little old grandma...and my life has been impacted FOREVER by this story. Don't be afraid to open that door....you are safe here with us.
Just a little aside....I thought I was done with all the sobbing and the feeling of such great sadness. I am...in a way....because NOW when I cry it's with a feeling of JOY and happiness that this story has opened up for me and others here on our forum.
Hang in here with us...:::taking your hand::: You're safe here!!
and WELCOME to our 'haven'
Nancy
p.s. Philip....can you direct STRAZ to your "5 stages" plz? I don't yet know how to post from another forum to THIS one!!
Lynne:
Strazeme,
I want to echo BBMGrandma and also extend my own welcome to you. You are not alone. We all seem to be at some point in those '5 Stages of Grief' that Phillip posted. And remember that they are not necessarily sequential or linear. I saw the movie again tonight and each viewing I feel some different area has been opened and exposed to pain while some other part may feel more healing love. Let's work through these feelings together.
Lynne
Fla_Tim:
Strazeme,
Know that you are not alone, welcome. Like you I've been carrying a lot of feelings bottled up inside me that were unleashed this week after the Oscars and finally seeing the film on Tuesday (it is still playing here so I AM going back to see it again before it leaves).
The crashing feelings I've had this week were the painful reminder to me that I do have the capacity to feel and that I need to feel things much more than I have been. The emotional dust bunnys we sweep under the bed only get bigger if we ignore them. It is a lesson I've had to re-learn every so often throughout my life.
The thing that has sustained me this week is knowing that when I've been in this place before, as painful as it has been, I've moved past it and grown as a person. It is hard to deal with pain, but it made me reexamine my life and make the changes to have the things I truly wanted.
If only Ennis had been able to do so.
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