I agree, totally, that the words have become meaningless and hollow in movies. I don't think he necessarily meant to say those exact words so much as he wished he'd made sure Jack knew that he'd felt them.
Which is why, to drag in one of my favorite topics, I don't mind the idea of him saying it in the closet to the empty shirts. I know some people are repelled by this possibility -- over and above the question of whether they can detect him saying it or not -- because they see it as some maudlin capitulation to cinematic convention.
I don't, for two reasons: 1) If he does say it, it's not done in some big dramatic clichéd sappy way, but in a way that's indiscernible to 99.9999999 .... percent of the viewing audience, including those who've seen the movie dozens of times, and 2) If he does say it, he's saying it to an empty shirt, after years of not responding adequately to Jack's endearments, underscoring the hopelessness of his ever fully expressing his feelings to Jack. How poignant is that?
You did drag up one of those touchy subjects …didn't ya?!!
I am one who absolutely thinks that it is out of the character of Ennis to say “I love you” to the shirts. I have seen this film too many times to count and I have turned up the volume and watched his lips … he
doesn’t say it! (I am sure there are those who think just as strongly as I that he
did say it.) IMO, Ennis says “love” one time in the entire film and that is when he asks Alma, Jr. if “this Kurt fella, he
loves you?”
That is a poignant moment because he realizes what could have been and what will never be. I see in Ennis’ expression a bitter longing, knowing that his one chance of happiness is gone.
Ennis *knows* without a doubt, in his heart, what Jack meant to him - that he loved him. But he doesn't know that Jack ever fully knew or was made to understand how deeply Ennis loved him, - the way Ennis never spoke up, the way he behaved, from punching Jack out to omitting any verbal response to the "Sometimes I miss you so much....." to blaming Jack for making him a "no one". Ennis can only try to believe that despite his silences and fears and his constant holding back, what he did do was still enough, so that Jack *did* at one point experience the confirmation of Ennis's love for him without any doubts lingering and lurking, *did* believe all that Ennis "swears" to Jack after Jack is gone. It seems to me one of the worst regrets Ennis has to live with is that he never managed to tell Jack his feelings right out, loud and clear. Despite their relationship taking up and shaping Ennis's entire life - he never said the words, except indirectly, and as a part of a bitter accusation. Sure, he has to try to believe and hope that what he did do was somehow still enough - but there's a huge space of doubt between that and certainty.
I agree with what you are saying …. Ennis
doesn’t know if Jack realized how deeply he was loved. I think Ennis was also reeling from the
possibility that Jack was going to take up with another man. Had Jack lived, would have Jack ended their relationship? Was Ennis’ lack of commitment (i.e. his unwillingness to make room for Jack in his ordinary life) too frustrating for Jack? This is something Ennis will never know … I am unsure if the audience is meant to know that, either. The romantic in me believes strongly that Jack
did know that Ennis loved him and that Ennis understood Jack like no one else and vice versa. I also think that Ennis had hoped to take Jack’s ashes up on BBM so that when he (Ennis) died, he could have his own ashes spread there, too … and they could be together. (I know, I know … that is a bit of a pipe dream, but I enjoy thinking it anyway).
I'm astonished how many different interpretations people have for the last sentence of the book.
To be honest, I'm puzzled that there are different interpretations at all. Guess I shouldn't be (puzzled), since I'm aware of the ambiguity of both, book and movie.
I see the last sentence in connection with the two before:
"The spoon handle was the kind that could be used as a tire iron. And he would wake sometimes in grief, sometimes with the old sense of joy and release; the pillows sometimes wet, sometimes the sheets."
Both sentences refer to the mystery of Jack's death. Spoon handles which transform into tire irons in his dreams. "sometimes in grief": bad dreams about Jack being beaten to death (wet pillows). "sometimes with the old sense of joy and release": good (and hot) dreams about Jack (wet sheets).
So for me the last sentence is about Jack's death. Ennis knows that it has been murder, but what he wants to believe it that it was an accident.
I agree with some of what you are saying … but not everything. I am glad you quoted that line from the book … It is very telling. The primary thing I differ with is that “Ennis knows that it has been murder …” The film, screenplay and book are all ambiguous on this point. Ennis
believes it has been murder … he doesn’t know. His first thought is that Jack was killed with a tire iron because that is how Earl was murdered. The very last paragraph in the short story is telling (and it also fits in with the “open space” outside the window.
“There was some open space between what he knew and what he tried to believe, but nothing could be done about it, and if you can’t fix it, you’ve got to stand it.”