How about "do you mind?" Or its twin, "hope you dont mind."
You certainly arent allowed to say 'yes. I do mind."" That makes you the ass for saying so. It
stops them from taking the onus for getting you to do something you dont really want to do, without being able to
say so.
I work with a woman who says "Do you mind?" a lot. When she says it, especially in the way she does, couched in grinning, sycophantic faux-camaraderie, you
know she actually means "Do it
now!" She is very passive-aggressive and dangerously unstable with it. I work with so many absolutely wonderful people. Alas, she is not one of them!