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jstephens9:
Welcome Chris and thanks for relaying your story to us. I definitely think what you are experiencing is very normal. I know it is for all of us on the forum. There are absolutely some wonderful people on here. There is no doubt about that. I don't know of a more down to earth and understanding group of people. So I hope you will post often and let us get to know you.
Jack
optom3:
Hi Chris,
if it isn't normal then there you are in good company here.I think pretty well everyone has experienced what you are going through.Plenty are still going through it 2 years later.Only the other night,I was sifting through some Heath interviews on youtube,he was asked if he had realised at the time,how profound an effect it would have on people.He replied no, and was glad at the time of filming he did not, as he felt it would have been too heavy a burden.He was however pretty pleased at the effect.
So pop by and rant at any time,I sure do.
ChrisC:
Thank you everybody for making me feel so welcome.
There are so many wonderful, and heart rendering posts here, it makes me realise how vunerable we can all be, fragile yet strong throughout. Since my onset of Brokie-Fever I realise that part of the cure is to change my life around, I can fix this, I keep saying to myself - it's gonna take a while but it can be done.
Since my long time relationship ended earlier this year, I've sort of shut myself away (apart from going to work of course), don't get me wrong people have been supportive but they don't really understand. But seeing BBM, and reading some of the comments posted here, I'm starting to understand that other peoples journeys are so similar. I've since come to realise there are so many things I need to do, some I'd never even considered before. You see, I think the problem with being in such a long term relationship with the man I adored, is that I lived for him and forgot about myself, and now I must change that, and do those things.
It's still early days yet, but I'm up beat about this.
Chris xx
jstephens9:
--- Quote from: ChrisC on June 15, 2008, 02:04:35 pm ---Thank you everybody for making me feel so welcome.
There are so many wonderful, and heart rendering posts here, it makes me realise how vunerable we can all be, fragile yet strong throughout. Since my onset of Brokie-Fever I realise that part of the cure is to change my life around, I can fix this, I keep saying to myself - it's gonna take a while but it can be done.
Since my long time relationship ended earlier this year, I've sort of shut myself away (apart from going to work of course), don't get me wrong people have been supportive but they don't really understand. But seeing BBM, and reading some of the comments posted here, I'm starting to understand that other peoples journeys are so similar. I've since come to realise there are so many things I need to do, some I'd never even considered before. You see, I think the problem with being in such a long term relationship with the man I adored, is that I lived for him and forgot about myself, and now I must change that, and do those things.
It's still early days yet, but I'm up beat about this.
Chris xx
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You are indeed on a new journey Chris. I can completely relate to what you are saying. I too was in a long term relationship that ended very badly. The relationship should have ended a long time before it did. I kept thinking it should work so I kept trying. However, things got so bad that I completely lost all feelings that I had for the guy. I realized that I was living for him and forgetting about myself. That is not a good thing, but I didn't realize until much later how much of my life I had given up for him. I guess there is a certain amount of resentment in me for allowing myself to end up in that situation. However, I did after all do it to myself. So since then I have done many things to change, fix, and turn my life around. It seems I have been on adventures that at one time I would not have done. Those things including overcoming obstacles have given me a true sense of self satisfaction. I am by no means fixed, but at least I feel I am heading in the right direction. The one thing that I do not really consider as positive is the fact that I have built up a lot of walls. Some people have succeeded in getting through some of those walls, but I do still have quite a barrier built up around me. Like you I have in many ways shut myself off, but the people here have truly helped me realize that I am not alone.
Kelda:
Another Brit! Yay! I'm Kelda, female and 26 and I live just outside Glasgow. You're feelings are perfectly normal - so welcome and enjoy the start of this ride!
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