Nope. Again, he participated in "launching" the project, so to speak, and now is financially responsible for carrying it through.
Not when abortion is available as an option.
Sure. I don't see what marital plans have to do with it.
In the "old days," the man would have wanted to do the "right" thing and marry the woman upon discovering the pregnancy. I hear this still happens. I also hear that, increasingly, young women are turning that option down (sometimes with good reasons). So you're telling me you're having
our baby, but you won't let me marry you. Then you stick your hand out and ask me to finance that lifestyle?? There's no justice in that, and the man has zero choices.
And I think we can exclude one-night-stands, abusive men, and rapists from this whole discussion because nobody thinks those men deserve much consideration...and neither will a judge.
Not unilaterally. The father made a decision earlier on that he was open to the possibility of becoming a parent.
No. They made a decision to have sex. One doesn't become a parent until the child is delivered. And since this thread is all about abortion, we are talking about a method whereby men & women can avoid parent hood until they are ready. The woman unilaterally makes the decision whether to abort or deliver.
One of the reasons this whole issue is of particular interest to me is that I am constantly hearing tales of woe from men who get screwed over by girlfriends who leverage the legal system against them. The most pointed example of this is the story of an old friend of mine who I've known since we were 11, "Jim." Jim is Jewish. While was attending MIT, he met "Maria." Maria was from Puerto Rico (
muy católico) and fell in love. They dated steadily, (and exclusively AFAIK) for 3-4 years, and after Jim finished grad school, he proposed and she accepted. Neither family was thrilled with this idea, but nobody stopped them. About a year into the engagement, Maria got pregnant. Her family took this opportunity to hit the roof, call off the engagement, and summon her back to Puerto Rico. Of course in their minds, this is all Jim's "fault." He "dishonored" her...treated her like a "common whore." Jim had nowhere to turn. His family, which contains several lawyers, wouldn't help him--"should never have gotten mixed up with
those people to begin with," etc. So eventually, Maria gives birth, and then Jim has to start making child support payments for a kid he's never even seen. I desperately wanted to think of a way to help him out of this situation, but at 26, I didn't know too much about these things. All I could do was offer him a shoulder to cry on.
There was no justice in Jim's case. And I hate the idea that things like this happen to men.