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I Love You, Man (as a Friend) - NYT Article on gay/straight male friendships
milomorris:
--- Quote from: Buffymon on July 09, 2009, 02:19:01 am --- the point is that if it´s something that can be taught, but isn´t...well than that can be changed. A pretty big difference, after all.
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I'm not sure I understand what you mean.
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milomorris:
--- Quote from: garycottle on July 09, 2009, 02:27:27 am ---but if you're guarding your emotions in the way you'd guard Fort Knox, then maybe you need to loosen up a bit.
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I think we can all agree on that one. There certainly are men out there who over-do all of this. But I think that there just as many, if not more, men who are simply being misunderstood by people because those people have a difficult time reading the guy.
--- Quote from: garycottle on July 09, 2009, 02:27:27 am ---For the women who are disappointed in the openness of the men in their lives, I would ask them what kind of men are they attracted to. And I would ask them would a man be safe opening up to them.
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A question that I think is more to the point of the thread is what kinds of men make good friends: be they hetero or homo?? What kinds of qualities do guys who do bond across the sexual orientation gap have?? What makes a homosexual man a good friend to a heterosexual guy?? Ask that same question in reverse.
IMO, this conversation is getting bogged down with this debate about what men feel, and how they express those feelings. As far as I'm concerned, by & large, we men already have that figured out.
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