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bailey1205:
Uh, sorry Bill, but it was open for viewing of guests. Too many of us went in there and read it.
It has probably been deleted and cleaned up now, but we saw before that happened.
Sorry, but that is a fact.
bailey1205:
Or, you could ask Jess and Brad.
I'm sure they would own up to it.
brokeplex:
--- Quote from: Susie on July 26, 2009, 08:08:21 am ---From Jess' comments at The Retreat, it's pretty obvious that she is reading this thread. So I have one more thing to say then I'm done.
Jess was not made to leave because the mods didn't like her, she was made to leave for her repeated personal attacks on people, often driving them away from Bettermost completely (myself included). She was warned time and time again and yet chose to ignore those warnings.
As far as I'm concerned my grievances have nothing whatsoever to do with politics, or personal disagreements or dislikes.
Posts have been taken from here for the sole purpose of mocking and ridiculing the poster, in the most cruel and cowardly way.
I can't quote them directly anymore because the offending remarks have been removed but calling Gary a "Nasty boy" "Flower girl" "The token victim" "Naif" "Clever manipulator" "'tard", to name but a few, is horrible and really rather pathetic.
We don't all have to be friends with one another ... that would be asking for the impossible ... but I would hope that our basic common decency would stop us from taking delight in ripping people to shreds.
And I'm done ....
ps.... a note to you androphiles .... being bitchy and catty about other people behind their backs is very ........... "girly" 8)
And after that childish remark I really am done :)
--- End quote ---
I can't speak for androphiles, but I have no problem calling myself a gay man, cuz that is what I am. But, the androphiles most definitely do not have a monopoly on catty behavior.
As far as my friend Jess is concerned, ultimately she was made to leave because she fundamentally disagreed with the majority, and wouldn't make any compromises in her statements defending her beliefs, esp those which concern gay men. Her disagreement with members here should not have lead to her expulsion. Do people say things in the heat of argument that are "catty"? Sure they do. So, what?
So, what were the real reasons for Jess's expulsion? Frankly, I don't want run away personal attacks either, but the definition of what is and what is not a personal attack is VERY flexible. And what it came down to concerning Jess's posts, was the individual "complainer" was given permission to define her comments as personal attacks at their own personal whim, and the mods enforced that policy. It was almost to the point that Jess could have said "good morning", and someone would have complained.
IMO it is this type of whining more than anything else that hurts open and interesting discussion on social networking forums, in fact it hurts far more than an incidental personal attack.
bailey1205:
--- Quote from: Susie on July 26, 2009, 08:18:44 pm ---Brokeplex ... this is the only quote I can give you ... I copied it before it was removed ....
Quote from Judgeholden ...
To be honest with you, these days I mostly scroll thru her posts or skim (No doubt she does the same w/ mine): Louise "blah blah blah", Cottle [fiddle theme from the Ken Burns Civil War series playing mournfully]: "I was born dirt poor ina cabin on a mountainside in Kentucky, my Daddy was blind, my Mamma was lame and we had a 3-legged dog with emphysema...[morphs into Lorretta singin Coal Miners Daughter]", till Isee if Milo wrote something of interest in response to one of these 'tards..
....... pretty childish in my opinion .....
--- End quote ---
I'm glad you were able to copy that Susie in case we were questioned?
I suspected we would be, but too many of us read that thread.
brokeplex:
--- Quote from: bailey1205 on July 26, 2009, 08:09:52 pm ---Uh, sorry Bill, but it was open for viewing of guests. Too many of us went in there and read it.
It has probably been deleted and cleaned up now, but we saw before that happened.
Sorry, but that is a fact.
--- End quote ---
then I didn't see what you saw. and I will take your word for it. :)
however what I have saw today and yesterday is an orderly rational dialog about how social networking forums should function.
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