Dangit -- I was having so much fun talking about Jake's come-and-get-me eyes above, and you ladies had to go and change the subject. Oh well....
Anyway, to get back onto the latest topic -- I agree that parents -- or the lack thereof, or the incompetence thereof, or the negligence thereof, or the abusiveness thereof -- has a huge effect on the type of people we turn out to be. NO question.
And based on all the clues and signs, it seems that Jack was abused in some way by his father, even above and beyond the urinating debacle. I think OMT is a sick, bitter, twisted, horrifying excuse for a father. But, just the same, who twisted HIM into that person??? Probably his own father, as abuse runs down through generation after generation, until someone stops it. I believe Jack, mostly because of his mother's kindness and strength, became the one in this long line of potentially abusive men in the Twist family, who finally said NO. The damage was done to him, no doubt. But that didn't mean he had to continue in the same way. And that didn't mean he had to let it scar him for life and make him sick and bitter as well. I'm not a psychiatrist or anything, but I think part of the reason that childhood/adolescent/teenage room of his had no decoration and nothing to do or amuse him in it, was because he spent all of his time lying in his bed or staring out that window, thinking and thinking and thinking, about how his life was going to be better than his old man's.
Regarding the screenwriter's/director's/whomever's rationale for leaving what was, I agree, a monumental piece of information out of the movie -- perhaps they could see into the future and know that America, at least, was going to label this the "gay cowboy" movie, and a huge percentage of (homophobic) Americans wouldn't come within a mile of a theater showing it. Now let's say those that did go to see it come out of the theater and are standing around the water cooler the next day, discussing it with their coworkers. Here's how I imagine the conversation would go:
Moviegoer: Hey, I went to see that movie "Brokeback Mountain" last night.
Coworker: Oh, yeah, that one about the gay cowboys? You went to see that? WHY?
Moviegoer: Well, cause I figured it was going to be about something more than gay cowboys.
Coworker: Well, was it?
Moviegoer: Yeah, actually, it was pretty good. It was really more of a love story, it was kind of sweet.
Coworker: Eeuuyyyhhhhh, how can you watch a gay cowboy love story. Weren't there some gross parts? Did they show them, like, kissing and stuff?
Moviegoer: Well, yeah, but it was tastefully done.
Coworker: What was the grossest thing they showed? Out of all the gross things, what was the grossest?
Moviegoer: Um, well, there was this one scene when the dad of one of the cowboys urinates on him when he's about 4 years' old.
Coworker:
The reason I didn't put any words behind Coworker at the end? You can figure it out. I can honestly tell you that if that scene had occurred before my eyes when I saw it at the theater the first time, me and just about everybody in the theater would have run for the door and never looked back. And I don't even have children. If you were a parent, could you watch that being done to a child, even knowing that they're actors and it's a movie and it's probably just lemonade being squirted onto him? And how would they have shown a grown man's uncircumcised penis, and shown a 4-year-old looking at it, and try to possibly convey to an audience who hasn't read the book, and keep in mind, there was no narration in this film, exactly what in the world was going on there. Seriously, if reading about the act in a book disturbs the two of you (and many others on this thread, I'm sure) as much as it has, how in God's green earth, would you be able to watch it on a screen?
To me, including that scene would have taken away just about everything I was feeling optimistically about the love story itself. And maybe the powers-that-be felt somewhat the same. I believe the movie was done the right way and went far enough by showing us the horror that Ennis had to see, which by the way, was shot from very far away and you couldn't barely even see there was a man lying there, let alone the real fact that that man no longer had a penis.
I think it was the right choice. Sorry for ranting.