The World Beyond BetterMost > Women Today
Woman decides full-time mothering isn't for her
delalluvia:
Ten years ago, when her sons were 5 and 3, Rizzuto received a fellowship to spend six months in Japan, researching a book about the survivors of Hiroshima. Four months in, when her children came to visit, she had an epiphany: She didn't want to be a full-time mother anymore. When she returned to New York, she ended her 20-year marriage and chose not to be her kids' custodial parent.
http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/parenting/the-opposite-of-a-tiger-mother-leaving-your-children-behind-2460982/;_ylt=AmtAIgVHo7oSsQxv40hgyxN8bqU5?pg=1143#comments
If you read the comments, you will see that the double-standard is alive and well. Women who have kids are mothers, first, foremost and always and should subjugate their lives to their kids. Period.
Any attempts to lead your own life after you have kids will be met with contempt and derision.
How 1st century some people's attitudes still are.
pnwDUDE:
--- Quote from: delalluvia on March 05, 2011, 09:58:17 pm ---Ten years ago, when her sons were 5 and 3, Rizzuto received a fellowship to spend six months in Japan, researching a book about the survivors of Hiroshima. Four months in, when her children came to visit, she had an epiphany: She didn't want to be a full-time mother anymore. When she returned to New York, she ended her 20-year marriage and chose not to be her kids' custodial parent.
--- End quote ---
It's not that she didn't want to be a full-time mother. She didn't want to be a mother, period. You should re name the subject of this thread to SELF CENTERED WOMAN THROWS AWAY HER CHILDREN.
--- Quote ---Any attempts to lead your own life after you have kids will be met with contempt and derision.
--- End quote ---
This has nothing to do with having a fulfilled life after children. It is about abandoning and wanting nothing to do with your children. Sorry, but there is responsibility in being a mother or father. This womans attitude reminds me of a woman named Diane Downs--she 'abandoned' her kids so she could have a life............ Sick.
Brad
Monika:
--- Quote from: bradINblue on March 06, 2011, 03:29:02 am ---It's not that she didn't want to be a full-time mother. She didn't want to be a mother, period. You should re name the subject of this thread to SELF CENTERED WOMAN THROWS AWAY HER CHILDREN.
This has nothing to do with having a fulfilled life after children. It is about abandoning and wanting nothing to do with your children. Sorry, but there is responsibility in being a mother or father. This womans attitude reminds me of a woman named Diane Downs--she 'abandoned' her kids so she could have a life............ Sick.
Brad
--- End quote ---
Nice one, Brad ::)
Shasta542:
I have taught children whose mother has left them totally to the father. Even when the father is the better parent, involved, etc., they have ALWAYS been more troubled, more affected, more prone to acting out--than the ones whose father left them with the mother. It may be a double standard, but IMO, it's worse for a mother to do that. I agree with you, Brad.
Marge_Innavera:
--- Quote from: delalluvia on March 05, 2011, 09:58:17 pm ---If you read the comments, you will see that the double-standard is alive and well. Women who have kids are mothers, first, foremost and always and should subjugate their lives to their kids. Period.
Any attempts to lead your own life after you have kids will be met with contempt and derision.
How 1st century some people's attitudes still are.
--- End quote ---
No kidding. And you don't have to go any further than this thread to see some ripe examples.
I suspect the kids will be okay, as long as they're not homeschooled.
Navigation
[0] Message Index
[#] Next page
Go to full version