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Woman decides full-time mothering isn't for her
pnwDUDE:
--- Quote from: louisev on March 07, 2011, 02:45:39 pm ---no, exactly the opposite. The lack of contact with a noncustodial parent is detrimental: TO THE CHILDREN. I would have thought from the context and the way I restated it a couple of times, that this is what is meant.
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You stated it just fine and I got it. We're in agreement here, take a deep breath........................... ;)
Brad
louisev:
--- Quote from: bradINblue on March 08, 2011, 12:25:24 am ---You stated it just fine and I got it. We're in agreement here, take a deep breath........................... ;)
Brad
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forgive me if i missed the too-subtle innuendo criticizing 'others here' -maybe instead of dragging me into your criticism you can just talk directly to the people you disagree with.
Ellemeno:
I sometimes see women suffering because of their parental commitments. I don't just mean exhaustion at the end of a long day, but real turmoil because they aren't free to do the other things they want. I feel really lucky - I want to be a full time mom. But as I have said many times, it's a good thing I didn't start parenting in my 20s or probably even my 30s - I would have been one of those women chafing. I was still too selfish.
Marge_Innavera:
--- Quote from: Kelda on March 07, 2011, 05:00:13 pm ---For me though it was interesting why she is not the custodial parent. Not because she didn't want to be/couldn't be with her husband but that she didn't want to be with her kids full time. What about her husbands needs and wants outside of being a Dad?
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Again to Del's point -- if the genders were reversed I doubt we'd be reading any speculation re 'his wife's needs and wants outside of being a Mom'.
And you rarely hear of men with families whose careers consume their time described as selfish. On the contrary, if they spend any time at all with their kids they're praised for being involved.
serious crayons:
--- Quote from: Marge_Innavera on March 08, 2011, 11:50:58 am ---And you rarely hear of men with families whose careers consume their time described as selfish. On the contrary, if they spend any time at all with their kids they're praised for being involved.
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That's true, up to a point. But men who take time off work to care for their kids are also sometimes penalized in the workplace. Women are, too, which is why mothers pay a wage penalty compared to both men and women who don't have kids. But those women are considered bad workers but good mothers. Men who forgo work for kids are sometimes considered bad workers AND bad fathers because they aren't "good providers." So for example, even in companies that offer paternity leave, men are afraid to take it.
Our assumptions regarding gender roles, parenting and work are very screwed up, and both men and women pay the price.
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