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What is your take on the BBM phenomenon

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Katie77:
Like you Paul, I did not know a thing about the story....except for the "gay cowboy" tag......I thought it was going to be set in the wild wild west, so I got my first surprise in the opening scene, when the year 1963 came up.

From there on in, I watched a life that I had lived, unfold...not one of the main characters, but one of the daughters.

Here was MY story, yet it wasn't my story, it was the story of the people in my life who had created my story. For the first time I was able to see it from their side, feel the emotions that they had felt...the anguish, the fear, the family committment, but especially the LOVE. It was gut wrenching, especially the end, when one was left alone, as was the case with my father.

The fact is, while I lived my story as a child and then as I got older, I really had never had anything or anyone show me how it would have been for the others...so as I sat and watched this movie, it all unfolded there in front of me like I was reading their secret diary or something. What it also showed me, was that I was not the only one who had lived in such a situation, that my story was not as unique as I had always thought it was. I had kept this part of my life secretive to so many people over the years, and here it was now, out for all to see and I had this feeling of relief that it was out there, and I wanted everyone to see it and feel it like I was.

There is no doubt it changed my future life, how fortunate I was to, so many years later, finally know how it all was back then. It was like my father talking to me from the grave, it was as if he waited till I was old enough to really understand, and unknown to me then, it also gave me the opportunity to meet with and talk with so many others who were like him, who also had their own story to tell.

x-man:
Sason.  Thank you very much for your full and open explanation.  I now have a much better idea of why BBM would appeal to women.  I was so focused on the central love story, I could see nothing else.  Now I can. :)

Mandy21.  "and (2) HELLO? Have you seen Heath and Jake?"  Indeed I have.  I looked away from your words on my screen up at the large BBM wall posters here in my bedroom.  Ennis staring down at me is the first thing I see when I wake up in the morning.  (BTW, I asked a friend when he first saw them, "What do these posters say--I'm gay? or gay with a 'thing' for cowboys?"  "The latter," he replied.  Well, it's not true!  The closest I have ever gotten to a cowboy is hooking up a couple of times with the bass player in a country & western band from Manitoba.)  Mandy, you mean straight women can look at gorgeous men the way gay men do?  Who would have thought!   :)

Front-Ranger.  Do gay men love I Love Lucy, The Wizard of Oz, Bewitched?  I don't, or haven't since I was a child.  And even as a kid I only watched half an episode of Bewitched before dismissing it as silly tripe.  I don't watch old Joan Crawford, Bette Davis and Judy Garland movies either.  I don't like being reduced to a cultural cliche.  Please let's put that one to bed.  Personal anecdotes by gay friends who happen to like them are not enough evidence to say if the percentage of gay men who like them is any greater than of the population as a whole.  Straight bikers show up at Singalong Sound of Music's here in Toronto.   :)

Kathie77.  That must have been difficult to write, but thank you very much for showing me something I had never even considered before.  I have only hinted at my own BBM story in postings in BetterMost.  That's really all I can do without coming completely apart and exposing myself to such psychic pain that it would be almost unendurable.  I admire your courage in being able to speak openly of something that comes from a place so deep inside you.   :)

Mandy21:
{{{{Sue}}}}, you just taught me something I never knew about you.  THANK YOU for sharing that.

Sason:
You're welcome, x-man. I'm glad you got some answers.

I forgot to add - and was reminded by Sue's moving post - that quite a few female members here and on DCF have gay sons, brothers,
ex-boyfriends.

That could be (one of) the reason(s) that BBM hit them so hard, to see parts of their loved one's lives in the movie.

Katie77:
X-man.....I wrote my story on here, just after I joined, which enabled me to talk more about it in real life.....

Mandy....I thought you knew my story, I have talked about it frequently on here....

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