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For Our New Members: Brokeback Mountain Stages of Grief & Acceptance
bbm_stitchbuffyfan:
I am not quite sure what stage I'm in. I still obsess over this movie, contemplate it constantly, and feel stabs of sorrow for the characters, reawakened by the soundtrack or even something unrelated to Brokeback, like other films or songs.
I am glad to be celebrating this movie but sometimes it's too much to handle. At least it's not as hard as when I first saw the movie; that was bad... :'(
juneaux:
Since purchasing the DVD I'm afraid I'm back in Stage One~ AGAIN.
twistedude:
Guess almost everyone has heard my tale of woe---I've seen (at least the first 20 minutes of) 5 DIFFERENT DVDs--and they all SUCK (as in: welcome to the...). All are too dark, generally, but the first tent scene is invisable, except for Jack's shirt, when he takes his jacket off, and--you get a VERY GENERAL idea of what's going on, but not why, how, how the participants feel about it, or anything else especially interesting.
Having tried the three i own (I also rented two--no better) on my own medium priced stuff, I took them, by invitation, to the house of a friend, who has the best equipment in the world.
Aside from the fact that under the blackness, there is MUD--
I got the distinct impression that my friend Britt took an instant dislike to Jack, and in fact (during the 20 minutes he watched of the film before the tent scene--after which, after watching it 3 times, he refused to watch ANY MORE of the movie), he responded to something Jack said in a nasty voice, ending in "baby." (Perhaps he has led a more interesting sex life than I thought, or, perhaps, a less interesting sex life).
I really feel I should make some attempt to convince Britt that Jack is not a sexual preditor...but I don't know where to start...without a decent film. I don't want to get angry with him...
I am quite at peace with my own obsession. Except with some...friends...
TJ:
I cannot say that I have had to go through any of this as far as Brokeback Mountain is concerned.
I have, however gone through steps of Grief and Bereavement, followed by Acceptance, in regard to the loss of my late partner/husband Eldred "Ed' Pursell. And, that only worked because I had professional help to guide me through the steps, too.
I wonder sometimes if what some people claim is/was caused by seeing the Brokeback Mountain movie might be related to something hidden in their subconscious and they have forgotten about it.
I have gone through times where I felt sad for no reason and wondered why. But, when I looked at the date on the calendar, my memory was jogged and then the date reminded me that particular day was an anniversary of what might have been a sad or a happy day in my life years ago. It was a "sad" memory because of the feeling to remember the happy times.
That's like Ennis Del Mar in the book's published "prologue" in the following quote:
--- Quote ---The stale coffee is boiling up but he catches it before it goes over the side, pours it into a stained cup and blows on the black liquid, lets a panel of the dream slide forward. If he does not force his attention on it, it might stoke the day, rewarm that old, cold time on the mountain when they owned the world and nothing seemed wrong. The wind strikes the trailer like a load of dirt coming off a dump truck, eases, dies, leaves a temporary silence.
--- End quote ---
Ennis had had a good dream about Jack Twist which he remembered having when he got early that morning.
David:
Looking over the different folks who have posted on this thread has made me notice something. Alot of the folks are not regular posters. ie: low numbers. Does this mean they came here looking for resolution and found it? or perhaps they didn't.
I know the Oscars are way behind us and the DVD is on most of our tables. But I think alot of us are still here because we have formed some kind of extended group therapy.
Lord knows, misery loves company! LOL. But seriously. We all seem to have embraced these characters. If you can't shake them, you might as well embrace them.
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