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For Our New Members: Brokeback Mountain Stages of Grief & Acceptance
emjayen:
Phillip, you're starting to scare me. I've been through those first 4 stages, and started on the "distract yourself 'til you can forget about it" part of stage 5. But I totally want to make the rest of my journey on earth enjoyable, so I choose to "re-invest in a new reality".
juneaux:
This is great~ I wish I'd had known about these stages while I was in the first one! The last time I saw Brokeback was with my partner on Valentine's Day. I truly believe holding his hand during the last 20 minutes helped me want to get to "work" on myself ~stage 5. His first viewing didn't affect him nearly as much as mine did. (Of course I really didn't expect it to. I was just thankful that he went.) I'm just glad that there are others out there that were moved by this movie to the point of obsession and that I can communicate with them. Thanks, Phillip, for bringing us together.
Drew Kerrigan:
I have a gal pal who 'came out' to me after we watched the film in silverscreen. She asked me if I had doubts then of her being a lesbian and all that and I said: "I never suspected my dear" (honest to goodness!). The good part of this is I wasn't shocked or anything. I was just happy that she confided with me, I really appreciated it. I think only me and her mother (since her hghschool days) knows. This didn't change our friendship. She will remain to be a close friend and I will accept her as she is. :)
lhundol:
Hi everybody, Im from the Netherlands so my English writing can be a bit bad sometimes, hope you dont have any problems with that :)
Im defenitly in stage 1, and Im glad that I found this forum! Yes while I was searching on the internet (That means lots of screen time in front of the computer Googing for as much information you can find about the film and hunting down forums in order to verify you have not just lost your mind.) hahahaha! Its the first thing I did when I woke up this morning!
I life in a town close to Amsterdam, as you all know Amsterdam has a big gayscene. A very close friend of mine came out last year when I just met hem. We go to clubs a lot in Amsterdam ( Im a 18 year old girl and Im not gay). The first thing I did when I left the movie is sent my friend a text message telling him I was thinking about him and that we should be so happy about livving in Holland where gays are so excepted!
After that I went to a bar with a friend who I had seen the movie with, and we were just standing there, being very depressed, rethinking the movie and drinking Martini's on high speed. While everybody else was having fun dancing. Just leave us alone! Thats when we decieded we had to go home early and take some quit time to think about the movie. I had a short night without much sleep!
Hope Ill get to fase 5 very soon!
iristarr:
Some great posts here, Phillip. Thanks for being so supportive of my presence on this site. I'm still floundering about trying to learn how to use all the bells and whistles, but have made contact with BBMGrandma (hey, that's my name too!" and the Ladies Room, and look forward to a long, fruitful, healing relationship here.
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