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synne:
Marie, thoughtful comments, love to read them!
--- Quote from: magicmountain on January 09, 2007, 10:16:24 pm ---Just a postscript. Who would have thought that the wedding reception or party would end up being so fraught! I am probably not the only one who thought, like Edna, that it would be a jolly affair and an excuse have more fun and high jinks! As veterans of BBM and the Laramie Saga, we should have known better!
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Here are my simple thoughts as I too tried skip my own wedding reception ( without success).
Nothing new, right, maybe more my feeling about it than Ennis’s.
To marry Ellery, as term “marry” itself “ is tool( as for all of us)for Ennis how to prove Ellery what he actually said and is constantly repeating – “I’m yours.”, to prove the fact, the truth that he hadn’t been able to demonstrate almost by any way toward Jack.
Ring and just illegal private wedding ceremony are on the top of his pedestal of importance while wedding reception for him-introvert compare to this is just simply superfluous show intruding his privacy maybe even lessening spirit of what he has done.
MaineWriter:
--- Quote from: magicmountain on January 10, 2007, 12:09:32 am ---LOL David!
It occurs to me that Ennis sometimes seems somewhat childlike in his need for physical comfort, almost like being held like a baby. (This is the other side of the coin to Ennis' stoic, silent masculinity but does it also represent going to the other extreme?) Ellery, the nurturer, acts the role of parent giving the comfort sought.
Again, at the risk of rocking the boat, it may be that sometimes intimate relationships can infantalise us to some degree and the parent/child, rescuer/dependent roles are easily fallen into. Do the benefits of Ellery's emotional satisfaction in providing comfort and Ennis' emotional relief in receiving comfort outweigh the costs of incurring the hurt and guilt resulting from their recent exchange?
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True, Jo, but there are lots of times when Ennis takes on the role of nurturer...combing Ellery's hair as the most obvious example. He has also taken on the lion's share of household chores: cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping, etc. I see this as very nurturing, creating a home for the two of them.
In my mind, it is important to remember that they have come from very challenging backgrounds: both motherless at very young ages, having experienced a number of difficult (perhaps even dysfunctional?) relationships. Even though they are both middle-aged men, emotionally, they are, at times, very young and turn to each other for some very desparately needed comfort, support, and love.
As Ellery has said many times, he is learning to love for the first time, and they are both learning how to negotiate and support a relationship.
Leslie
magicmountain:
Thanks for that mature and insightful response Leslie. Everything you say is true. They are babes in the wood clinging to each other for support. God that thought really pushes my emotional buttons!
Bigheart:
--- Quote from: magicmountain on January 10, 2007, 07:54:59 am ---Thanks for that mature and insightful response Leslie. Everything you say is true. They are babes in the wood clinging to each other for support. God that thought really pushes my emotional buttons!
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and mine!
Thank you so much, Jo, Marie and Leslie for all your wonderful, thoughtful posts :) They are all so helpful to me :)
David:
<listens for the sound of Louise typing> ::)
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