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A different viewpoint
Scott6373:
--- Quote from: ineedcrayons on April 04, 2007, 01:13:12 pm ---Well put, Nic!
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But isn't also a message about coming to terms with the reality of what does not work in our lives. Changing those things, even if it means leaving people behind, that while we care for, we know in our heart of hearts keep us from being the person we're supposed to be.
Cameron:
--- Quote from: Scott on April 04, 2007, 01:21:04 pm ---But isn't also a message about coming to terms with the reality of what does not work in our lives. Changing those things, even if it means leaving people behind, that while we care for, we know in our heart of hearts keep us from being the person we're supposed to be.
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What great thoughts here. It is nice to see my old post from IMDB brought up again here. Scott, great post but I have a question. It is really possibly to leave behind people that one cares about, really cares about? Even it they are ultimately stopping one from being the person one wants to be and if even they are worse than that, it is still possible to care. I guess some, yes, but others I don't know.
Your post made me wonder.
Scott6373:
--- Quote from: Cameron on April 04, 2007, 02:46:49 pm ---What great thoughts here. It is nice to see my old post from IMDB brought up again here. Scott, great post but I have a question. It is really possibly to leave behind people that one cares about, really cares about? Even it they are ultimately stopping one from being the person one wants to be and if even they are worse than that, it is still possible to care. I guess some, yes, but others I don't know.
Your post made me wonder.
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Yes I do believe it's possible, and sometimes even vital. There have been people in my life that I have cared a great deal about, but they made choices that put them on a different path than me: one that I couldn't and shouldn't follow them on.
nic:
Do you think Jack should have given up on Ennis then?
I find it hard to cut ties with certain people, because I rarely make meaningful ties with anyone so I really place a lot of worth on any I do. In some circumstances it is best to move on if you can, but you have to be comitted to believing you will be better off in the long run which can be so very difficult to do.
injest:
--- Quote from: nic on April 04, 2007, 05:54:37 pm ---Do you think Jack should have given up on Ennis then?
I find it hard to cut ties with certain people, because I rarely make meaningful ties with anyone so I really place a lot of worth on any I do. In some circumstances it is best to move on if you can, but you have to be comitted to believing you will be better off in the long run which can be so very difficult to do.
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and the problem with doing that is you may come to a time in your life when it gets easier to just cut people out rather than work with them....and that leads to being truly alone.
I know in my own life (for very good reasons) I cut contact with my own extended family. I don't go to family reunions, I don't send out Christmas cards...nothing....but just in the last couple of years I realized that that coping mechanism was destroying my friendships....because when the going got rough my thought was "Hey, I am tough! I can never see you again and won't even care!" so I walk away...
I am fortunate to have a small but determined group of friends...and one very special one that will tell me just how the cow ate the cabbage...and I am working on this...
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