NO !!.....no reasonable explanation, only that she had "better" things to do with her time, and she was tired of being expected to do things for her mother.....
Considering her mother, even at 81, lives independently, and still drives her own car, there was not a lot of things that she was "expected" to do.
i call this phenomenon "stella-fest" 'cause the kid's name is stella, and she practically comes out all propped up on a princess pillow when she arrives by horse and carriage! lol
:laugh: :laugh: That's so funny!
(But your in-laws should be ashamed to make differences like that in the grandchildren--inexcusable to do that to sweet little kids.)
Is Stella's dad the "chosen one" as well?
My sister has three girls with three daddies (yeah ::) ::) ) 18, 13, and 6. For Easter, my sister got a $300 haircut and color and a new outfit; the stepdad got a new suit, shirt and tie; the oldest got a new fancy dress (in addition to a new gown for Prom); the YOUNGEST got TWO new dresses....the middle? Nada. wore blue jeans and a shirt.
>:( >:( >:(
While reading about the unrest in the Ledger family, it brings to the realization that there are skeletons or infighting in so many families. Fortunately, most of us can keep these things private, but unfortunately for those in the public eye, they make front page headlines.
So.......this brings me to this new topic......for those who want to discuss or write about their own family situations and squabbles. Are any of us immune to them?....why does it happen?.......and how do they get resolved?
To start with I will briefly tell you about my most recent one....
We live in the same town as my my husbands mother (my MIL), and my husbands sister (my SIL).
About 18 months ago my SIL stopped talking to her mother (MIL), stopped going around to visit her even though she lived only five minutes from her. Because the MIL is 81 years old, my husband took exeption to his sister being so nasty and unreasonable, and ended up having an argument with her, and so she stopped talking to my husband as well.
Then about 8 months ago, the sister just turned up on the MIL's doorstep, no words of apology, or reason why she had ignored her mother for ten months, and ever since has kept up a reasonable relationship with her. The MIL accepted her return without any questions or animosity.
My husband is pleased that at least his mother now has the contact with her daughter, and has no problem with them having a nice relationship.
BUT.....the SIL still refuses to talk to my husband......it sure doesn't make for "happy families" situation.
The friend is absolutely flabbergasted that her fiance has saddled her with a house full of company that she now has to provide for and entertain on top of everything else. She has no support from her him, because he invited them, they're his family! He can't uninvite them from his future wife's home!=
Makes me think of the comment...when asked, what do you think of gay marriage, the answer was, don't gays have it tough enuff already?" Or something like that. It's true that when you marry someone, you unwittingly marry their whole family.
I know what you are saying Susie. and dont doubt for one minute the problems and anxieties we have all felt with mother in laws. The relationship I have had with my own mother in law has not been all rosey and perfect either.
Early on in our marriage, there were issues that really bugged me, I guess now, she is old and I am older too, that I just overlook the things that bothered me so much when I was younger and things dont bother me as much. I guess you could say we have all mellowed with time, and I have learnt to ignore or laugh things off easier than I did in the earlier years.
Being a mother in law myself, too, I always hope that I am not being critisized for things that I dont deserve to be, and I have tried to be a better mother in law to my daughters in law, than what my MIL was to me.
i'm sure you're a great MIL and gramma.