Hello Brokies,your cat likes your soup? I have an older long haired siamese that loves cream of tomato.
I love the romance of Brokeback Mountain, however I feel deep inside that I am a family of one and so have decided to be single for life (I am 39).
I was wondering if anyone else on this forum can relate?
If so how is life going for you?
My decision has been a very concious one and came after a good deal of self reflection (and also a couple of bad relationships!)
I hope people don't feel I have given up on love, I have been in love before and believe in it, however I seem to be better suited to the single life and look forward to the years ahead.
Well better get my cat fed and open my soup for one (haha) :laugh:,
Thanks to all and thanks for reading,
Peter
I´m single and happy about that. I have never been able to see myself in a relationship and I sure ain´t the marrying kind. Don´t want no kids either.
I have grown too used to be able to spend my freetime as I wish
Stripey, I'm a lifelong single, and though I have regrets from time to time, I think it's been the right choice for me. There's a price to be paid either way, as you know. You just need to make the choice that works best for you. :)I would agree with Meryl. I have had one 18 month relationship in 66 years. I do not count the heterosexual "going out together" or even the 6 month engagement of an earlier time which I do now regard as wasted years. There are times when I wish it could be otherwise as just now when I am about to set off on 10 weeks travelling the world alone. I have never made it a conscious choice though, it just worked out that way. Perhaps I am too choosey. A number of years ago, after describing an encounter to a lifelong friend, he said "And what's wrong with this one?" which made me think I may be searching for perfection which is of course impossible. However I have decided that is just the way I am and do not get depressed. But do not make a conscious decision not to be partnered at such an early age, you never know. On the other hand don't try to invest every meeting with an expectation that he may be the one. Good luck.
your cat likes your soup? I have an older long haired siamese that loves cream of tomato.
Is that a cat date? ;Dcat date? well no its a demanding siamese, she like tomato soup, so she gets some tomato soup from time to time. :) :)
cat date? well no its a demanding siamese, she like tomato soup, so she gets some tomato soup from time to time. :) :)
I hope she is not picky on the brand, as well. :)not yet, I hide the generic can of tomato soup I buy at Sam's Club from her, so she is still convinced it is Campbell's or Knorr's. ;)
Hi everyone,
I hadn't been around for ages , and then I log in and ... come across the ONE topic that's been looming large on my mind lately ! (this is what I love about this forum) . Stripey , thanks for this thread , and I can only agree with you on the happiness of single life (though as someone rightly stresses, there's a price to be paid either way) .
I am 44, and the longest (not happy) relationship I was in lasted for 9 years (7 of which we lived together under the same roof). As Mandy says , being a "wife" or partner to anyone, male or female, simply doesn't work for me . I have come to the happy and public assertion that I sure ain't the marrying kind , but I'm not the "living together as a couple " kind either ... and not even the "in a relationship" kind ! I know for a fact that I have always been happier when I have been on my own. Is it shameful if I say I suspect I am the " one-night-stands" kind ?? :o
Hey Isabelle. Great to see you here! And no that's not shameful!! as long as you are both consenting adults!
Hi Lynne and Kelda !
Oh KELDA !! I might be French , but still ... YES , only between consenting adults !
haha i should offer my cat soup to see if she likes it!just as an occasional treat, I don't think a milk based soup does any harm. occasionally I put out some canned salmon for them too, but 95% of the time they get the diet the vet insists that I feed to them.
Does it come in a box?
haha i should offer my cat soup to see if she likes it!
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How did we get so far off topic? I was really enjoying reading people's stories about their singledom.'
I am reminded of what Mona Ramsay said in Tales of the City when faced with similar prospects "I think what I really need is five good friends."
I wonder if Jack appeared to you singletons and insisted on befriending you if you would tell him "why don't you leave me be"??
I wonder if Jack appeared to you singletons and insisted on befriending you if you would tell him "why don't you leave me be"??
Worked for Ennis didn't? Got all the perks without Jack being around most of the time? ;)
I wonder if Jack appeared to you singletons and insisted on befriending you if you would tell him "why don't you leave me be"??
Well, but there's a difference between "befriending" and "ranching up together." Isn't there?
No, not the way Jack defines it.
Well in my case, Bud, obviously yes I'd say something along those lines.
But, I'd be more than happy to rub Cassie's feet or slow dance with Lureen. But, the more difficult question is about establishing a long term relationship. As I mentioned in an earlier post, I really like the idea of something like that. But, I'm also self-aware enough to know that it would be a massive, massive adjustment to live with someone. The old cliche about getting "set in one's ways" feels very, very real to me after years of doing things according to my own schedule, comfort level, etc.
(OT - I've been reading about Olympia Dukakis recently, who played Mrs. Madrigal in TOTC. She definitely does not fit in this thread - she and her actor husband Louis Zorich - Paul Reiser's dad on Mad About You - have been married for 48 years.)
Well, if I were Jack, I'd say, "you and Alma, that's a life." Can't you just hear him saying it! I'll have to think about the concept of being set in one's ways, Amanda. It's true that there's a lot of people in my life which leads to a lot of chaos. Still, when I feel like being alone, I go to a movie or take a hike in the mountains, or just go to my room and take a nap. And that seems to take care of my need to be alone. The Dalai Lama said, Spend a little time alone each day. It's good advice (and I tell my friends, your commuting time doesn't count!) There's also the benefit of feeling secure about your possessions. I'm forever dealing with my things being "borrowed" or mislaid. It's unnerving. Still, there is something in my DNA which causes me to seek out the warmth of others. I must have been a bunny in a previous life.
The right man (or woman) for you, della, might be an older one, if you ever decided to give up singleness. My neighbor is married to an older man, and she says it works out perfectly because "you have your evenings free." She says it right in front of him, teehee!!