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fer all yer grippin needs! ;D
And try an keep the foul language to a minimum please, damn it! :laugh:
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Driver's on cell phones !!!!
I dodge them every day on the roads.
Hang up the damn phone and pay attention !!!
Karen
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Having to watch someone spit on the pavement when you are standing nearby ..
..or on the train (I mean, come on!)
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Trying to get in the door of a building cloged by smokers congregating on their breaks. Ugh!
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People charging into the elevator as soon as the doors open..... knocking you down as you are trying to get out!
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Not a bitch but a pet hate.. people who leave the stickers on the sole of their new shoes.. gha!!!!!
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Not a bitch but a pet hate.. people who leave the stickers on the sole of their new shoes.. gha!!!!!
;D
It has happened to me once or twice (by accident..lol)
Do you make it a habit of looking under people's shoes, Kelda? :P
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I'm looking under my shoes at this second !
Karen ;D
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Do you make it a habit of looking under people's shoes, Kelda? :P
heh no I have a habit at looking at people's feet when walking in a crowd.... !
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heh no I have a habit at looking at people's feet when walking in a crowd.... !
WHY?
If I may ask? ;D
j. U. d. E.
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I get angry at people driving too slow! >:( Not that I need to go over the speed limit, but overly slow drivers can cause a lot of harm! And they anger other drivers. Why do they need hours to turn right or left, when it's obvious, that there's noone there. No other car, no foot passenger... *grrr*
Oh and I hate those drivers on the phone too! They are road hazards!
But I admit, I suffer a bit of road rage.. Have to control myself. Have to control myself..
Can't stand it when people make lots of noise when eating..
j. U. d. E.
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WHY?
If I may ask? ;D
j. U. d. E.
I dunno, I'm just drawn to looking at the feet if stickers etc are obvious! Like when i get off the train each morning everyone is in close proximity and heading in the same direction so the soles of their feet are obvious!
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Giving a clerk $5. and two pennies when the charge is $3.02.......and they confusingly try to figure out what is going on.
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Milli, are you checking all your shoes right now? :laugh:
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Trying to guess which line to get in when there are separate lines at the bank or at ticket outlets. Always seem to get the one where there's a slowpoke holding everyone up. ::)
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Trying to guess which line to get in when there are separate lines at the bank or at ticket outlets. Always seem to get the one where there's a slowpoke holding everyone up. ::)
I don't remember if this happens in the US but here in Spain, if there's a group of people who are together and are going to the movies, they all stand in ticket line at the same time. Sometimes they get busy talking and laughing and fail to realize it is their turn to move. I always wonder why can't they designate one person to buy the tickets.
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Milli, are you checking all your shoes right now? :laugh:
When I read Kelda's post back there, I did hastily check under my shoes, just to be sure... ;D
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Oprah!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! God that woman grates on my last nerve. I just want to smack her!
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Another thing..
The other day I was out shopping and some guy walked past me and burped the most loud, obnoxious, foul burp I ever heard (and smelled!) ..
Urgh! ::) Gross, gross! lol..
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Oprah!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! God that woman grates on my last nerve. I just want to smack her!
:laugh:
I knew someone would bring this up..lol
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Another thing..
The other day I was out shopping and some guy walked past me and burped the most loud, obnoxious, foul burp I ever heard (and smelled!) ..
Urgh! ::) Gross, gross! lol..
Eeeewwww...that's so gross.
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Eeeewwww...that's so gross.
I was pretty yucky! I can laugh now but I was pretty peeved at the time..lol
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heh no I have a habit at looking at people's feet when walking in a crowd.... !
You mean I'm not the only one? ::)
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When I read Kelda's post back there, I did hastily check under my shoes, just to be sure... ;D
*evil laugh*
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Major pet peeve: People not knowing the difference between you're and your. (I know Jack made this error in the film, but we can forgive him; most of us are better off than that character was.)
And if you're better off than he was, your grammar should not suck! :P
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Laura -
I am sure that there are many people out there who share you're pet peeve. Your not alone ..
;D :P
I only kid .. don't hit me! ;)
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Men that CONSTANTLY check to make sure their genitals are still there. They DON'T FALL OFF! Seriously, have you EVER seen any laying out on the floor?
I blame their parents for not teaching them better. It is not that hard to teach your boys not to handle themselves in public!
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Laura -
I am sure that there are many people out there who share you're pet peeve. Your not alone ..
;D :P
I only kid .. don't hit me! ;)
You mean, their are more of you out their? ;D
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sheesh, Pipe...don't never go into that their Feed Store...youd pass write out!
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sheesh, Pipe...don't never go into that their Feed Store...youd pass write out!
...err... what are the openin' times of yer feet store? ;)
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You mean, their are more of you out their? ;D
Apparently ..LOL.
Anke, I love the feet! I'm copying it! ;)
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people in SUVs that creep over speed bumps.
Have these people never seen a commercial for the things?? What do they think it is? false advertisement? They show those behemoths crashing through rivers and climbing boulders bigger'n my couch....they can make it over a speed bump!!
MOVE IT!
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Trying to guess which line to get in when there are separate lines at the bank or at ticket outlets. Always seem to get the one where there's a slowpoke holding everyone up. ::)
Meryl..... it is a gift !!!!! I always chose the wrong one !! :D
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People who stand in the middle of the aisle at the grocery store with their baskets !!
Pisses me off. I now say in a louder then normal tone.......... EXCUSE ME !!!!
I haven't been smacked yet ! LOL
Karen
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Speaking about driving, my biggest complaint, tailgators!!!! I can't stand them. Around here they tailgate you even if its snowing and raining. I can't understand why they don't realize it dangerous for themselves. Also, they are usually in those SUV"s.
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What bothers me most is those stupid drivers in the huge gas sucking suvs. The ones that dont know how to drive them...They dont know how to park them or unpark them,...it makes me crazy...i want to get out and say HAND ME YOUR DAMN LICENSE until you learn how to drive, you dont drive a damn boat.
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Here's someone who makes me MAD: CNN's Nancy Grace..
She is so rude most of the time .. I can't deal with her at all ..lol
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Something typically German, you can encounter during your summervacations at hotel pools: tourists who compulsively occupy "their" sun loungers with bath towels everyday at dawn even if they don't plan to show up there for another couple of hours. It totally sucks and makes the British and Dutch people hate us. Lol.
::)
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Something typically German, you can encounter during your summervacations at hotel pools: tourists who compulsively occupy "their" sun loungers with bath towels everyday at dawn even if they don't plan to show up there for another couple of hours. It totally sucks and makes the British and Dutch people hate us. Lol.
::)
bwhahahahahahah!!!!! Yes that does make me go 'grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr'
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Something typically German, you can encounter during your summervacations at hotel pools: tourists who compulsively occupy "their" sun loungers with bath towels everyday at dawn even if they don't plan to show up there for another couple of hours. It totally sucks and makes the British and Dutch people hate us. Lol.
::)
Happens on this side of the pond, too. >:(
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Men that CONSTANTLY check to make sure their genitals are still there. They DON'T FALL OFF! Seriously, have you EVER seen any laying out on the floor?
:laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
It's the fear of castration. ... ;D
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Here's someone who makes me MAD: CNN's Nancy Grace..
She is so rude most of the time .. I can't deal with her at all ..lol
Oh....... I can't stand her.............. she is like a nail thru the head !!!
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People farting in an elevator.
I had an appointment last week downtown at the Bank One building. Just as the elevator doors closed someone farted loudly. Everyone looked around at each other, and I quickly exited the elevator at the next stop and took a different elevator up to the 42nd floor. :P
Has anyone mentioned express checkout aisles yet? It makes me mad when people with a cart full of groceries use the express aisles. I don't mind if someone uses the "10 items or less" aisle and they have 15 different items. But 60 or 70?
How Rude!! >:(
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Giving a clerk $5. and two pennies when the charge is $3.02.......and they confusingly try to figure out what is going on.
That's because the clerks did not take full advantage of their school's math curriculum when they had the opportunity. The math involved to do this transaction is not in the same league as rocket science. I blame the clerks.
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That's because the clerks did not take full advantage of their school's math curriculum when they had the opportunity. The math involved to do this transaction is not in the same league as rocket science. I blame the clerks.
I blame the schools. :P
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Something typically German, you can encounter during your summervacations at hotel pools: tourists who compulsively occupy "their" sun loungers with bath towels everyday at dawn even if they don't plan to show up there for another couple of hours. It totally sucks and makes the British and Dutch people hate us. Lol.
::)
It's an American thing too, Anke. This happens over here all the time. >:(
Another thing that happens all the time over here: People taking 2 or 3 parking spaces to park their car. Instead of pulling in (like any normal person would) they pull in horizontally so their car takes up 2 or 3 spaces! ARRRRGGGHHH!!!!! >:( >:(
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Not a bitch but a pet hate.. people who leave the stickers on the sole of their new shoes.. gha!!!!!
Hiya Kelda!!!
My pet peeve? People who point out that I have a sticker on the sole of my new shoes!!! Jeez, it's under my foot or under the sole of my shoe!!!! WHY should this bother anyone but me!?!?! :laugh:
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Something typically German, you can encounter during your summervacations at hotel pools: tourists who compulsively occupy "their" sun loungers with bath towels everyday at dawn even if they don't plan to show up there for another couple of hours. It totally sucks and makes the British and Dutch people hate us. Lol.
::)
Happens in Texas too. We wait about 10-15 minutes and if no one shows up we move the towels to the railings or nearby tables and accomodate the sunloungers. How do we know someone didn't leave those out from the night before? They don't like it? Too bad. They should've shown up and stayed earlier. 8)
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It's an American thing too, Anke. This happens over here all the time. >:(
Another thing that happens all the time over here: People taking 2 or 3 parking spaces to park their car. Instead of pulling in (like any normal person would) they pull in horizontally so their car takes up 2 or 3 spaces! ARRRRGGGHHH!!!!! >:( >:(
It happens in Spain too. During the summer vacation people crowd the beaches, especially the Alicante area. I used to get up rather early to jog and there were already seats and umbrellas stationed all over the place. Nobody was there, though. However, this doesn't happen in Puerto Rico. Maybe it is because us the caribbean pepople are so used to the beach that we are aware it is long enough and it won't go anywhere!
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Another bitch: Cashiers who fail to deactivate the security tags, and all the store alarms are set off when you try to leave the store.
(That happened to me the other day) >:(
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people in SUVs that creep over speed bumps.
Have these people never seen a commercial for the things?? What do they think it is? false advertisement? They show those behemoths crashing through rivers and climbing boulders bigger'n my couch....they can make it over a speed bump!!
MOVE IT!
Hiya Jess,
Don't know about the newer SUVs, but I have an older one and the reason I go slow over the speed bumps is because - yeah, your vehicle can sure take the offroading, but that doesn't mean it makes YOU the driver very comfortable doing so. The suspension is very strong - i.e. stiff - in order to take off-road usage. In my SUV, I've gone over potholes and dips hard enough to hit the top of my head on the inside of the car or nearly been tossed out of the seat, my battery has bounced along with me and the car died after slamming back down. It also doesn't help your steering stabilizers or alignment either to hit things so hard.
I just slow down, sorry.
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I get angry at people driving too slow! >:( Not that I need to go over the speed limit, but overly slow drivers can cause a lot of harm! And they anger other drivers. Why do they need hours to turn right or left, when it's obvious, that there's noone there. No other car, no foot passenger... *grrr*
Oh and I hate those drivers on the phone too! They are road hazards!
But I admit, I suffer a bit of road rage.. Have to control myself. Have to control myself..
Can't stand it when people make lots of noise when eating..
j. U. d. E.
I'm not sure if you would like Indiana roads or not, Jude. Hoosier drivers seem to think they are supposed to drive TWICE as fast as the posted speed limit. So, this means everyone is driving 110 MPH down I-465. God, everyone else is forced to speed in order to keep from being killed.
And during the month of May, it's even worse. They will add an extra 15 or 20 MPH to their already doubled speed; for good measure I guess. >:(
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Another thing that happens all the time over here: People taking 2 or 3 parking spaces to park their car. Instead of pulling in (like any normal person would) they pull in horizontally so their car takes up 2 or 3 spaces! ARRRRGGGHHH!!!!! >:( >:(
Along the same lines...I really get annoyed when a full size or big honker land yacht parks in the 'compact car parking only' spots. Then they have the nerve to get annoyed when a compact car parks next to them anyway and blocks their doors because they are taking up too much room in the space!!! Grrrrrrrr
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Hiya Kelda!!!
My pet peeve? People who point out that I have a sticker on the sole of my new shoes!!! Jeez, it's under my foot or under the sole of my shoe!!!! WHY should this bother anyone but me!?!?! :laugh:
:laugh:
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:laugh:
People who park in Handicap Only spaces who don't have a sticker, or appear not to be handicap !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I see red when that happens !!!! I saw a guy park in one at the store and run in for beer !!! WTF
Karen
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People who park in Handicap Only spaces who don't have a sticker, or appear not to be handicap !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I see red when that happens !!!! I saw a guy park in one at the store and run in for beer !!! WTF
Karen
There's a funny "Seinfeld" episode about that very thing!
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"Head-on" commercials. And "Head-on" commercials that poke fun at other "Head-on" commercials.
(What the heck is that stuff, anyway? ??? )
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commercials for feminine products....try watching TV with a group of teenaged boys...
:P
I want to see a commercial with a dad and son walking on the beach...
"Dad, sometimes.....I just don't feel ....' fresh'"
"Son, it is time for you to try Jockwash!"
"Does it work?"
"Its what I've always used!"
"Thanks DAD!"
and they hug!
:laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
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commercials for feminine products....
Let's add commercials for "personal lubricants" to the list. :P :laugh:
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commercials for feminine products....try watching TV with a group of teenaged boys...
:P
I want to see a commercial with a dad and son walking on the beach...
"Dad, sometimes.....I just don't feel ....' fresh'"
"Son, it is time for you to try Jockwash!"
"Does it work?"
"Its what I've always used!"
"Thanks DAD!"
and they hug!
:laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
That is so funny!
Oh.... *looks around nervously*.... Don't ask me to name the things that annoy me in everyday life! I will take over this thread and somebody will have to drag me away to the nut house....
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From the gorgeous, strong women thread:
Katarina Witt sucks blue donkeys IMO.
Perhaps it was the way she was trained, but she was accused by other skaters and somewhat admitted in one interview - after the Curtain fell - to using intimidation tactics on the ice. During rehearsals she would intentionally skate too close or land too close to an opponent, try to run them off the ice into the wall. Then when called on it, she would put on an innocent face and pretend it was just an accident. I understand that mind-games are part of the competition, but these type of tactics could easily turn into an injury - they are wearing sharpened metal blades - so her actions were reckless and showed a definite lack of conisideration to the safety of her fellow performers.
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commercials for feminine products....try watching TV with a group of teenaged boys...
:P
I want to see a commercial with a dad and son walking on the beach...
"Dad, sometimes.....I just don't feel ....' fresh'"
"Son, it is time for you to try Jockwash!"
"Does it work?"
"Its what I've always used!"
"Thanks DAD!"
and they hug!
:laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
Oh God Jess, those commercials are the WORST!! >:(
But you failed to mention those Erectile Dysfunction commercials. God how embarrassing! And now they're airing those commercials at 4:00 in the afternoon. I feel so sorry for all those parents out there. I wonder how many times a child has walked up to his or her father after listening to one of those commercials and asking him "Daddy, do you have problems achieving an erection?"
Actually, all these drug ads piss me off. Why are they advertising to us? It's not like I can just run over to my neighborhood pharmacy and and buy them. Nearly every one of them requires a prescription from a physician. They should be advertising to the doctors; not to us! >:( >:(
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Speaking of ads, actually all drug and medical advertisements on tv really give me the creeps.
Something just doesn't seem right to me about advertising serious medicines, knee and hip replacements and even cancer treatments on tv as if they were soap or cereal. Also these companies spend so much money on these ads, that's part of the reason why they charge so incredibly much for all medicines. The whole system really bothers me.
Just realized I am repeating what you said David, well I certainly agree with you.
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Well my complaint on those dang drugs is they seem so scary...They all have
a list of precautions a mile long. Seems like more of them would make you sicker
than anything you may have wrong with you to begin with.
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DEL!!!
:laugh: :laugh: ;)
You the bomb!
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DEL!!!
:laugh: :laugh: ;)
You the bomb!
What did I say?
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What did I say?
I think Jess liked your comment about Katarina Witt, Delalluvia. It was pretty funny!
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I think Jess liked your comment about Katarina Witt, Delalluvia. It was pretty funny!
:laugh: :laugh:
I think Del is very clever and resourseful!
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Oh, OK. I just happened to have said a lot on this particular thread and was wondering to what Jess was referring. Thankee kindly. ;D
Just goes to show what I was talking about true equality. Katarina is undoubtedly an excellent skater, a true competitor, lovely to look at, but that doesn't make her a hero or someone to look up to.
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She had a cameo on Everybody Loves Raymond once. Ray met her when he was receiving a sportswriter's award.
She is pretty, but I don't think I've ever seen her skate.
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Oh, OK. I just happened to have said a lot on this particular thread and was wondering to what Jess was referring. Thankee kindly. ;D
Just goes to show what I was talking about true equality. Katarina is undoubtedly an excellent skater, a true competitor, lovely to look at, but that doesn't make her a hero or someone to look up to.
Ok just to clarify as this whole debacle was in response to my post on the other thread...
I never said i admired her as a person. In fact i dont know enough about her to make that judgement. but the title of the thread is strong, beautiful women - she is beautiful, and as a competitor she is incredibly mentally and phsically strong. i thought it was clear that that was all i mean from my comment, but maybe not.
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Ok just to clarify as this whole debacle was in response to my post on the other thread...
I never said i admired her as a person. In fact i dont know enough about her to make that judgement. but the title of the thread is strong, beautiful women - she is beautiful, and as a competitor she is incredibly mentally and phsically strong. i thought it was clear that that was all i mean from my comment, but maybe not.
no no! not meant that way at all Saucy!! ;)
We just wanted to keep that thread positive and focused on women's achievement....so Del moved her comment her (HER opinion) to keep the thread positive....nothing against ANYONE's contribution on the other....
You are perfectly right...and it kinda goes to the point (I think) of her mention of true equality. There ARE some Beautiful, STRONG women that we can disagree (or not) with their personal philosophies while still acknowledging them...
If that makes sense.... :P
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I hate how cars are made out of plastic. If you scratch your bumper it is $500 to get it fixed. :o
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I hate the way they seal CDs and DVDs. Like you're not actually supposed to get them open and play them. >:(
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OMG Jeff. I agree. That pisses me off so much !!!
It's like you have to get a machete out.
Sometimes I just give up and say screw it !!! LOL
Karen
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OMG Jeff. I agree. That pisses me off so much !!!
It's like you have to get a machete out.
Sometimes I just give up and say screw it !!! LOL
Karen
;D :laugh:
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Another thing that irritates me, tv news. There are too many reasons to even begin to list. Well a few, the background music they have been using lately, the over dramatic stories, and most news ladies hairstyles. No one has hair like them in real life.
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What I hate about the news (local and national) is all the negativity. It so awful and depressing to watch. And I think I know what you mean, Marlene. The women all look like glamour girls. Many of the men do too.
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What I hate about the news (local and national) is all the negativity. It so awful and depressing to watch. And I think I know what you mean, Marlene. The women all look like glamour girls. Many of the men do too.
What I hate about the news is superficiality. I liked Katie Couric on the Today show. I tried watching her as an evening news anchor during her first week in her new job. I lasted four days before I decided that NBC did news better and went back to Brian Williams. Not Katie's fault, I know, I just thought the show she was given to anchor was too superficial.
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OK here I go then.... ::)
* When I am cycling in the city I live in, in the narrow streets, people in cars tend to pass me by very closely and fast, making me very nervous because my boyfriend was in a bike accident 1,5 years ago.
(Don't worry, though, David, sweetie, I am REALLY careful, I know you worry about this...)
* Standing in line in the supermarket and people practically pressing their fronts against your back. Or looking over your shoulder at which pin number you enter.
* Generally: obnoxious people
* I have a clumsy right hand because of Carpal Tunnel syndrome and the fact that I constantly drop things drives me absolutely crazy! No other people involved here, just annoyed with my hand.
* The fact that we never hear the truth, we always have to go looking for it.
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I hate having to take my car for an oil change and they try to sell me on a 75,000 servicing with consists of changing the air filter and rotating the tires, for only $150! I say; "Maybe some other time".
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I hate the guys at car repair shops who try and take advantage of me because I am a woman. >:(
Karen
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My bitch is when men take you to dinner and then they spend the whole time complaining about the parking, the service, the food, everything.
And another thing, I hate it when someone who supposedly loves you will not invest the emotional baggage it takes to actually look you in the eye. Sometimes when I am about to leave the house I walk right up to my spouse and stand so close that he can not help but touch me. And yet, he finds a way. I am about to go off and spend my day in the service of him and my family, earning the family's bread. And in so many ways I just lay myself on the line, putting off indefinitely the experience of any kind of pleasure or relaxation. Yet, do I get a kiss, a hug, a look, a kind word, anything? No.
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Oh my Lee, i am so sorry...that seems dreadful...It seems that the least you should receive is
a thanks or a hug. You are very strong to be able to go on and work....with such hurt feelings.....
Hopefully someday he will see what he has to be thankful for.....
janice
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Thanks, Janice. You can imagine how much I am looking forward to seeing my Brokie buddies like you again and meeting others for the first time at the BBQ, to experience that love and appreciation that I so crave and don't get in my "other" life.
:)
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I hate it that it is the end of May and it is freezzzzzing here. Where is the spring?
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What pisses me off? That damned lingerie ad to our right.
"The lingerie we buy for ourselves". (WTF? Then why is she posing like someone out of Maxim — in nondescript crap you could buy at Target?)
This site is devoted to a film described as (among other things) a celebration of male beauty. For once, we get a break from straight-male-oriented cheesecake and straight-female-oriented "don't you wish you looked like this" bullshit. Get the tits outta my face, please!!
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What pisses me off? That damned lingerie ad to our right.
"The lingerie we buy for ourselves". (WTF? Then why is she posing like someone out of Maxim — in nondescript crap you could buy at Target?)
This site is devoted to a film described as (among other things) a celebration of male beauty. For once, we get a break from straight-male-oriented cheesecake and straight-female-oriented "don't you wish you looked like this" bullshit. Get the tits outta my face, please!!
I have thot that myself about that ditsy dame! Get 'er out a there, Phillip!!
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My bitch is when men take you to dinner and then they spend the whole time complaining about the parking, the service, the food, everything.
Passive-aggressive. They didn't want to take you there in the first place. But then they did for whatever reason but they made you sorry that you went.
One of my ex's was very much like this. It's a very controlling tactic. He makes you miserable every time you go somewhere he doesn't want to go. After a while, you dread going anywhere he doesn't want to. We didn't stay together.
And another thing, I hate it when someone who supposedly loves you will not invest the emotional baggage it takes to actually look you in the eye. Sometimes when I am about to leave the house I walk right up to my spouse and stand so close that he can not help but touch me. And yet, he finds a way. I am about to go off and spend my day in the service of him and my family, earning the family's bread. And in so many ways I just lay myself on the line, putting off indefinitely the experience of any kind of pleasure or relaxation. Yet, do I get a kiss, a hug, a look, a kind word, anything? No.
Another one of my ex's was like this, too. He would actually shrug off my touch in public, try to act like we were not together. It was self-esteem and soul destroying. That was many years ago now and I'm still not over that. :(
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Passive-aggressive. They didn't want to take you there in the first place. But then they did for whatever reason but they made you sorry that you went.
One of my ex's was very much like this. It's a very controlling tactic. He makes you miserable every time you go somewhere he doesn't want to go. After a while, you dread going anywhere he doesn't want to. We didn't stay together.
Another one of my ex's was like this, too. He would actually shrug off my touch in public, try to act like we were not together. It was self-esteem and soul destroying. That was many years ago now and I'm still not over that. :(
It is very painful when they do that to you, isn't it? It happened to me too. Made me feel like shit.
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my pet peeve is to ask someone where they want to go eat and they say "oh anywhere is fine"...ARGH!
just say where you want to go eat. My mother is the WORST! no matter where you choose she acts as if it was the wrong thing but she is gonna suffer thru for YOU!! That martyr act gets old FAST!
so now I try to narrow it down by saying two choices...."Do you want to go to Chili's or Casa Ole?" that seems to work a little better...
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my pet peeve is to ask someone where they want to go eat and they say "oh anywhere is fine"...ARGH!
Tell you what, I have to admit I'm guilty of this sort of behavior from time to time, and not just with regard to choosing a restaurant. And in my case I think I know where it comes from, too.
I was an only child, and I think because of that, my mother constantly drummed into my head that it isn't "all about me," I can't have my own way all the time, it's not always what I want, and so forth.
So I seem to have this knee-jerk reaction that when someone asks me what I want to do, and so forth, I have this instinctive reaction to want to be agreeable, not try to have my own way, and accommodate what the other party wants.
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Tell you what, I have to admit I'm guilty of this sort of behavior from time to time, and not just with regard to choosing a restaurant. And in my case I think I know where it comes from, too.
I was an only child, and I think because of that, my mother constantly drummed into my head that it isn't "all about me," I can't have my own way all the time, it's not always what I want, and so forth.
So I seem to have this knee-jerk reaction that when someone asks me what I want to do, and so forth, I have this instinctive reaction to want to be agreeable, not try to have my own way, and accommodate what the other party wants.
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well, I will give you a pass if you are gracious about whereever you end up! :laugh:
It is the attitude that is most important....if you are like..."Great! I like that!" then I am fine....
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my pet peeve is to ask someone where they want to go eat and they say "oh anywhere is fine"...ARGH!
just say where you want to go eat. My mother is the WORST! no matter where you choose she acts as if it was the wrong thing but she is gonna suffer thru for YOU!! That martyr act gets old FAST!
so now I try to narrow it down by saying two choices...."Do you want to go to Chili's or Casa Ole?" that seems to work a little better...
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Yet another one of my ex's was like this. Not only did he say, "oh, anywhere is fine." but when you made a suggestion would say, "Oh, not there." So you had to go through a list of restaurants before you found a place he wanted to go. Once, we sat in a parking lot, engine running, for 20 minutes trying to find a place.
I finally asked, exasperated, "If any place is 'fine', why are you disagreeing? Apparently SOME places are not fine. Why don't you just say so?!?!?"
Jess and Jeff
But of course, being decisive about dinner is a two-edged sword.
If someone asks me where I want to go, I will sometimes say "Oh, anywhere." But I mean it. But trouble is, I almost always know where I want to eat and I will say so when asked.
You eventually get called 'controlling' or 'selfish' because the other person, being polite, will give in and gets resentful after a time.
"We always go where you want to go."
Is it my fault if I know where I want to go when someone asks me?
It's not like I won't compromise. :P
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What pisses me off are those thrill seeking pedestrians who cross at the crosswalk or jaywalk fully into traffic. They know you won't run them down, and will slow down or stop for them. They have no problem blocking traffic. And they don't hurry either, just strolling in front of you.
>:( >:( >:(
This is very dangerous behavior but they don't seem to care.
Heh, I did get my revenge once though. I didn't hit anyone or brush them, I just scared the heck out of them. I was driving west near sunset. Nearly empty road, I had a green light. Just as I approached the intersection, I passed through a bar of sunlight shining straight into my face. My eyes needed a couple of seconds to adjust. I wasn't worried though, because I had a green light and there was no one in the way.
Well, at that moment, a couple of those idiot suicide walkers, seeing only me in the road, crossed against the light in front of me, figuring I would slow down for them.
Problem was, I didn't see them, being blinded by the sunlight at that instant.
Luckily for everyone involved, right before I entered the intersection, I passed out of the sunlight into shade again, and my eyes - not yet fully adjusted - went back and I suddenly saw I was on top of these guys.
I slammed on the brakes, locking them, laying rubber all over the road trying to slow down.
The terrified look on their faces was priceless. I stopped in time, they went on their way, shit in their trousers, I hope.
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well, I will give you a pass if you are gracious about whereever you end up! :laugh:
It is the attitude that is most important....if you are like..."Great! I like that!" then I am fine....
Well, fortunately, my buddies and I all share more or less similar tastes, so it's mostly a matter of picking which plain old mid-American type place to go. Nobody suggests anything really way out--like that place Meryl and Amanda went to that served eel and octopus. :P
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No octopus or eel on my plate please,,,i couldnt even sample the frog legs, or the rocky mt oysters, at the
bbq...Im not that cosmopolitan i guess...thank you, but no thanks..............i did love the shrimp and the steak with peanut sauce however. very yummy surf and turf Brokie style.....
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Okay, here is my bitch for today: CHILDREN!
Is it just me, but are all people under the age of 10 totally irritating, whinny, loud, spoiled, egomaniacs or what? Why is it every time they are out in public they have to be constantly demanding the attention of the adult they are with? Why is it when two or more of them gather one or all of them ends up crying? Why is it everytime I am in a restaurant the child in the next booth or table ends up trying to communicate something to me with their eyes?!?!
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The one that gets to me is the kid that says "Momma"
"Momma"
"Momma"
"Momma"
"Momma"
I want to just scream "ANSWER THE KID!!"
Argh!! How hard is it to just say "What?"
I was in a store one time looking at a magazine...an older lady tapped me on the shoulder and said "My granddaughter is trying to tell you Hi!"
I said "I taught my child not to interrupt adults or talk to strangers"
and went back to looking at the magazine. (felt bad later though... :P )
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I guess if I had a child I would think they could do no wrong and everything they said was cute. I am glad you reminded that woman not to talk to strangers.
I have also noticed that children occure a lot in crowd of people, which compounds the issue. If a single child is not in a crowd they are less likely to be loud.
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Haha--I'm with you, injest--if I know the person, I do tell them to answer--the momma doesn't even seem to hear the kid!
I'm mad when people on the interstate take forever to pass--geez, stay in the slow lane until I get by!!! Also when traffic is fairly heavy and people in the slow lane scoot over into my lane to let people merge!!!!!!! Ahhhhhhh!!!! The merger is the one who is supposed to slow down---not me. (I don't mind scooting over if there's no traffic.)Basically, any time I have to get off "cruise" and I feel it's unwarranted, I'm mad.
Store clerks who, when I am checking out, do not acknowledge what I say to them because they are too busy visiting with the next clerk over.
People who don't say thank-you when someone opens a door for them. It's just polite to say thanks.
Okay, that's all for now. Thank-you for letting me get that off my chest!
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One of my pet peeves -- yeah, there are a lot of them -- is drivers who can't park their cars within the lines in parking garages, especially when they make it impossible for anyone to use the adjoining space. I always feel they should have to pay double.
Fran
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Okay, here is my bitch for today: CHILDREN!
Is it just me, but are all people under the age of 10 totally irritating, whinny, loud, spoiled, egomaniacs or what? Why is it every time they are out in public they have to be constantly demanding the attention of the adult they are with? Why is it when two or more of them gather one or all of them ends up crying? Why is it everytime I am in a restaurant the child in the next booth or table ends up trying to communicate something to me with their eyes?!?!
Yes, Truman, I think it was just you having a bad day :). While in SF, I met the sweetest most adorable little 3 year old boy - love at first sight, without a doubt. But children are active and curious little sponges, and the adults with them need to pay attention to them. If you're not going to pay attention to the child, why'd you bring him or her along, anyhow?
The children are looking at you from the next booth or table because you emit a special aura of kindness that is attractive. You should just smile at them or say 'Hello, How are you?' They're just people in miniature size. ;)
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Okay, here is my bitch for today: CHILDREN!
Is it just me, but are all people under the age of 10 totally irritating, whinny, loud, spoiled, egomaniacs or what? Why is it every time they are out in public they have to be constantly demanding the attention of the adult they are with? Why is it when two or more of them gather one or all of them ends up crying? Why is it everytime I am in a restaurant the child in the next booth or table ends up trying to communicate something to me with their eyes?!?!
Uh, that sounds like a lot of so-called adults I know. ... :-\
(Except maybe for the crying part. ...)
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The one that gets to me is the kid that says "Momma"
"Momma"
"Momma"
"Momma"
"Momma"
I want to just scream "ANSWER THE KID!!"
Argh!! How hard is it to just say "What?"
The reason they don't answer the kid, Jess - and I know from experience with my sister and her child - is because the child does this all the time so the parent has learned to tune them out. Unfortunately, while this tactic works well at home, it doesn't spare the ears or nerves of the rest of us out in public.
I was in a store one time looking at a magazine...an older lady tapped me on the shoulder and said "My granddaughter is trying to tell you Hi!"
I said "I taught my child not to interrupt adults or talk to strangers"
and went back to looking at the magazine. (felt bad later though... :P )
That was a bit abrupt, Jess - so much for 'it takes a village', eh? ;) - but that was presumptuous of the grandma to be so brainwashed by grandchild-love that they think total strangers will ooh and ahh over their grandkids like they do. :P
My co-worker in the next cubical over is one of those grandmotherly types who turns into a bragging, blithering, grinning idiot whenever her grandkids so much as fart or burp over the phone to her. She is so glassy-eyed herself that she doesn't notice my eyes glazing over when she tells me Grandkid Adventure Stories that are neither cute nor interesting. :-\
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The reason they don't answer the kid, Jess - and I know from experience with my sister and her child - is because the child does this all the time so the parent has learned to tune them out. Unfortunately, while this tactic works well at home, it doesn't spare the ears or nerves of the rest of us out in public.
That was a bit abrupt, Jess - so much for 'it takes a village', eh? ;) - but that was presumptuous of the grandma to be so brainwashed by grandchild-love that they think total strangers will ooh and ahh over their grandkids like they do. :P
My co-worker in the next cubical over is one of those grandmotherly types who turns into a bragging, blithering, grinning idiot whenever her grandkids so much as fart or burp over the phone to her. She is so glassy-eyed herself that she doesn't notice my eyes glazing over when she tells me Grandkid Adventure Stories that are neither cute nor interesting. :-\
I know...I am on the direct bus to hell... :( :-\
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What pisses me off are those thrill seeking pedestrians who cross at the crosswalk or jaywalk fully into traffic. They know you won't run them down, and will slow down or stop for them. They have no problem blocking traffic. And they don't hurry either, just strolling in front of you.
>:( >:( >:(
This is very dangerous behavior but they don't seem to care.
Reminds me of the time about a year ago I had a guy about 20 years older than me walk right into me when I stopped at an intersection instead of continuing on into the street.
"Why'd you stop?" he asked in an indignant tone.
Well, I'd stopped because the light was red.
Dumbass mule. ... >:( >:( >:(
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My pet peeve of the day:
People who take the aisle seat of two unoccupied seats on a bus--and then don't move over to the window seat as the bus fills up. ... >:(
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My pet peeve of the day:
People who take the aisle seat of two unoccupied seats on a bus--and then don't move over to the window seat as the bus fills up. ... >:(
thats well anoying...
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thats well anoying...
Yes, it is annoying, isn't it Kelda. I've experienced such rudeness on buses before.
I'll tell you something else that's annoying. I was driving home from work today on I-465, and a car was approaching the end of the on-ramp to the interstate. So I moved over to the center lane to let her in. Once she was in the right hand lane, she wouldn't let me back in. When I sped up, she would speed up. If I slowed down, she slowed down too. I missed my exit because I was stuck in the center lane so I had to drive 4 miles further to the next exit, then get back on the interstate and circle back to the exit I missed all because of this rude woman.
I know it's not really that big of a deal, but it still annoyed me. She could have easily let me back in the right hand lane, but she didn't, and I was inconvenienced because I was trying to help someone. >:(
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My bitch is slow drivers in the fast lane. The speed limit is 65 and all the drivers are driving 70 except for this one dufus that decides to be everyones cop.. He or she gets in the fast lane and drives 60 or 65 and wont move to the center or slow lane.. makes all the cars pass them....The law is speed that the rest of the traffic is going, not what some old fart decides to say it is. I saw a policeman pull one person over for doing that one time.. i wish they would do it more.
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My bitch is slow drivers in the fast lane. The speed limit is 65 and all the drivers are driving 70 except for this one dufus that decides to be everyones cop.. He or she gets in the fast lane and drives 60 or 65 and wont move to the center or slow lane.. makes all the cars pass them....=The law is speed that the rest of the traffic is going, not what some old fart decides to say it is. I saw a policeman pull one person over for doing that one time.. i wish they would do it more.
It is? Better tell that to the cops in California. They pulled Robert Redford over and gave him a ticket for speeding. His excuse was that he was 'going with the flow of traffic'. I don't think speed limits are suggestions. I think they're the law.
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It is? Better tell that to the cops in California. They pulled Robert Redford over and gave him a ticket for speeding. His excuse was that he was 'going with the flow of traffic'. I don't think speed limits are suggestions. I think they're the law.
I remember being taught in Driver's Ed to always drive the speed of the traffic. Otherwise, you become a traffic hazard. If everyone is traveling at 85 MPH, and I'm only driving 55, someone could easily slam into my tail end if they are not watching closely.
BUT, I took Driver's Ed back in 1977 and they may have changed their thinking on this. I don't know. ???
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I think the law is: drive the speed limit and the inside lane is for passing only not for cruising. So if you have to pass someone you pass on the left and then move back to the right...regardless of how fast anyone goes...
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Yes, it is annoying, isn't it Kelda. I've experienced such rudeness on buses before.
I'll tell you something else that's annoying. I was driving home from work today on I-465, and a car was approaching the end of the on-ramp to the interstate. So I moved over to the center lane to let her in. Once she was in the right hand lane, she wouldn't let me back in. When I sped up, she would speed up. If I slowed down, she slowed down too. I missed my exit because I was stuck in the center lane so I had to drive 4 miles further to the next exit, then get back on the interstate and circle back to the exit I missed all because of this rude woman.
I know it's not really that big of a deal, but it still annoyed me. She could have easily let me back in the right hand lane, but she didn't, and I was inconvenienced because I was trying to help someone. >:(
what a beeeyatch - i would also have been very annoyed.
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I woulda showed her 'Dolly Pardon hiding behind the telephone pole'!!!!
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The speed limit in my state and many others is that it is safe for the conditions...and besides if you are on the inside lane doing 60 when all others are doing 70 you are being unsafe. As well as impeeding traffic...how is anyone supposed to pass on the left if you are in the inside lane.?
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The speed limit in my state and many others is that it is safe for the conditions...and besides if you are on the inside lane doing 60 when all others are doing 70 you are being unsafe. As well as impeeding traffic...how is anyone supposed to pass on the left if you are in the inside lane.?
exactly...NO ONE is supposed to TRAVEL in the left lane...you are supposed to stay in the right lane...and if you come up on a slower car you get in the left lane...pass...then GET BACK INTO THE RIGHT...
the ones that are being the unsafest (IMO) are people that just stay in the left lane as if THEIR speed is the correct one...grrrr...
of course I know it is not always possible to stay in the right lane (especially INSIDE the city) then you should be courteous and move over if you are going slower...
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Right!!!!!!!!
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I remember being taught in Driver's Ed to always drive the speed of the traffic. Otherwise, you become a traffic hazard. If everyone is traveling at 85 MPH, and I'm only driving 55, someone could easily slam into my tail end if they are not watching closely.
BUT, I took Driver's Ed back in 1977 and they may have changed their thinking on this. I don't know. ???
David, I was taught the same thing in Driver's Ed, and only about three to four years before you.
BTW, that you in your new (newish?) avatar? Wowsers! ;) ;D
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yep...that is our David... ;)
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yep...that is our David... ;)
Too bad that picture's not bigger. Ooo-eee! ;)
Somebody ought to put it on the "Then he smiled" thread. ;D
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You all are going to give me a swell head if you keep this up. :-*
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You all are going to give me a swell head if you keep this up. :-*
Well, it's a nice picture. Even in a tiny little avatar pic, that's a great smile. :)
(And country boys are hot. ... ;) ;D )
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You all are going to give me a swell head if you keep this up. :-*
oh stop it!! you know you are all cute and stuff!!
heck you got men FLYING in from other countries just to smooch ya!!
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You all are going to give me a swell head if you keep this up. :-*
oh stop it!! you know you are all cute and stuff!!
"And stuff"? :laugh:
heck you got men FLYING in from other countries just to smooch ya!!
Jesus H.! :laugh:
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"And stuff"? :laugh:
Jesus H.! :laugh:
HE DOES!!
I have it on VERY good authority that he comes over SEVERAL times a year just to court David!
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HE DOES!!
I have it on VERY good authority that he comes over SEVERAL times a year just to court David!
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Smile like that, I'm sure he's worth flyin' in for. :)
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well looks fade...but sweet is forever...and he is a sweetheart... ;)
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Too bad that picture's not bigger. Ooo-eee! ;)
Somebody ought to put it on the "Then he smiled" thread. ;D
He's all shy - I wanted to see a bigger picture too and he sent it to me via PM instead.. (Better in a bigger version by the way - that smile is perhaps even better than Jack's) David's even cuter cos he doesn't know it!
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He's all shy - I wanted to see a bigger picture too and he sent it to me via PM instead.. (Better in a bigger version by the way - that smile is perhaps even better than Jack's) David's even cuter cos he doesn't know it!
WHAT?? You got a bigger pic and I didn't???
>:( >:(
;) ;)
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*evil laugh*
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*evil laugh*
DAVID!!
Look at Kelda SMIRKING at me...send me TWO pics of you!! THEN she will be smirking out the OTHER side of her face!
>:( >:( >:(
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DAVID!!
Look at Kelda SMIRKING at me...send me TWO pics of you!! THEN she will be smirking out the OTHER side of her face!
>:( >:( >:(
See, I'd never even dream of asking. I'd be afraid of putting him on the spot. :-\
But I still think that smile belongs on the "Then he Smiled" thread. :)
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Boy, this thread went OT for a quick minute, didn't it?? :laugh:
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Okay, I have another gripe. ROAD CONSTRUCTION! Has anyone mentioned it yet?
Every year, the city performs road construction in I-465 (the interstate circling the city) and this year they've closed numerous lanes and even some of the exits. The traffic congestion is atrocious. People sit in jammed up lanes for hours sometimes. They've done this every year since I-465 was built in the early 1970's. And once they've finished working on it, it looks like they never even touched it! (That's the MOST annoying part!)
Road construction. That's my bitch bitch bitch of the day. >:(
:D :D
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Okay, I have another gripe. ROAD CONSTRUCTION! Has anyone mentioned it yet?
And once they've finished working on it, it looks like they never even touched it! (That's the MOST annoying part!)
I understand. I wish I had a dollar for every time they've repaved a street here in Philly, and less than a week later someone comes and digs another hole in it! >:(
Boy, this thread went OT for a quick minute, didn't it?? :laugh:
We're still drooling over admiring the new pic. ... ;)
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See, I'd never even dream of asking. I'd be afraid of putting him on the spot. :-\
But I still think that smile belongs on the "Then he Smiled" thread. :)
I wasn't asking...
:laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
;)
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I wasn't asking...
:laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
;)
Yes, ma'am, but Kelda said she asked. I reckon a nice boy like David wouldn't say "no" to a lady.
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I was driving down the little two lane road out in the middle of nowhere...come around the corner and there was some yahoo standing there with a stop sign in his hand....we waited over twenty minutes..then he let us go...
HUH???
I was thinking...so just ANYBODY can get a stop sign and stand out here making us late for NO reason... ::) ::)
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I was driving down the little two lane road out in the middle of nowhere...come around the corner and there was some yahoo standing there with a stop sign in his hand....we waited over twenty minutes..then he let us go...
HUH???
I was thinking...so just ANYBODY can get a stop sign and stand out here making us late for NO reason... ::) ::)
You sat there for over TWENTY minutes while a stranger stood in front of your car with a stop sign Jess?
I would have ran over his ass .... or at least threatened to. >:(
I'm mean, aren't I?? :laugh:
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You sat there for over TWENTY minutes while a stranger stood in front of your car with a stop sign Jess?
I would have ran his ass over.... or at least threatened to. >:(
well at first I was all..."Well maybe they are doing something down there..." but the longer we sat the madder I got!
and the thing is that I would have had to drive ten miles or more out of my way if I turned around and went another way...cause I was on the other side of the river!
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When I worked at the nursing home, we had a resident there by the name of Hebert Jones. He was a sweet old man. 104 years old. But he got confused sometimes. Once he walked out of the nursing home (not on my shift, thank God) and stood in the middle of Carmel Drive (a farily busy street) and started DIRECTING TRAFFIC!! He was out there for about 10 minutes before one of the nurses noticed he was missing.
Can you imagine that?
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One time we found an old man hiding in our garage (when I was young); he had got out of a locked ward of a nursing home....he was hiding from the planes...he thought he was in Europe and still in the war.
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One time we found an old man hiding in our garage (when I was young); he had got out of a locked ward of a nursing home....he was hiding from the planes...he thought he was in Europe and still in the war.
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That poor man. He must have been scared to death. Did someone get him back home safely?
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That poor man. He must have been scared to death. Did someone get him back home safely?
wasn't real scared...more confused...but yes we made sure he got back home...
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Yes, ma'am, but Kelda said she asked. I reckon a nice boy like David wouldn't say "no" to a lady.
indeed - sorry David. :( :-* ;)
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indeed - sorry David. :( :-* ;)
??? ???
Sorry about what Kelda?? :)
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I guess we musta upset him. He changed his avatar. No more David with a big, handsome smile. :(
I'm sorry, David.
(But the lamb is cute. :) )
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oh no!
We kept talking about how CUTE he is and he got shy and took the picture away!!
Bring it back David we promise to quit drooling!!
;) ;) ;D
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oh no!
We kept talking about how CUTE he is and he got shy and took the picture away!!
Bring it back David we promise to quit drooling!!
;) ;) ;D
Or at least we'll use a napkin. ...
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Or at least we'll use a napkin. ...
;)
:laugh: :laugh:
{{David}}
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Or at least we'll use a napkin. ...
;)
:laugh: :laugh:
{{David}}
I guess my last wasn't really much help, was it? :-\
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Here is a napkin David. If they keep drooling on your shirt.. just wipe it off. You are pretty cute. I have to agree. If ya got it just show it. Dont be shy. We can still remember what ya look like that lamb aint fooling no one. Even as Jeff said, he is pretty dang cute.
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Here is a napkin David. If they keep drooling on your shirt.. just wipe it off. You are pretty cute. I have to agree. If ya got it just show it. Dont be shy. We can still remember what ya look like that lamb aint fooling no one. Even as Jeff said, he is pretty dang cute.
But if we ask real nice, and promise not to tease about it any more, would you bring back the pic with your nice smile? Please? :-\
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I like his hiccup one the best! (guess I'm in the minority here though)
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I like his hiccup one the best! (guess I'm in the minority here though)
What one was that? ???
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LET'S START A POLL!!
Which avator of David is the cutest?
:laugh: ;)
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LET'S START A POLL!!
Which avator of David is the cutest?
:laugh: ;)
If we keep this up he'll never let us see the one with the big smile and the muscly-lookin' arms again. ... :-\
They're all nice. :)
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If we keep this up he'll never let us see the one with the big smile and the muscly-lookin' arms again. ... :-\
They're all nice. :)
I agree!!!! ;D
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The vote is in David. This is your polling place...you need to reveal the answer...Its your muscle shirt!!! ;D ;D
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The vote is in David. This is your polling place...you need to reveal the answer...Its your muscle shirt!!! ;D ;D
That old raggedy looking thang?? :laugh:
I only wore that shirt because we went down to the woods and I figured I would get muddy. I didn't want to ruin one of my good shirts. I've had that shirt for years. I think I got it in South Carolina. Can't remember for sure.
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Alex has a "bitch, bitch, beeyotch" he wants me to mention.
He wants to know why Americans (and Canadians too) drive on the WRONG side of the road! :laugh:
Anyone know the answer to his question?
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LOL. I think it's the steering wheel position!!
I like this warning.
“Visitors are informed that in the United Kingdom traffic drives on the left-hand side of the road. In the interests of safety, you are advised to practise this in your country of origin for a week or two before driving in the UK.”
http://users.pandora.be/worldstandards/driving%20on%20the%20left.htm (http://users.pandora.be/worldstandards/driving%20on%20the%20left.htm)
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Yeah thats a swell idea. And where does he propose we practice this manuever.? Unless
of course he wants to start a bumper car revolt.?
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Alex has a "bitch, bitch, beeyotch" he wants me to mention.
He wants to know why Americans (and Canadians too) drive on the WRONG side of the road! :laugh:
Anyone know the answer to his question?
:laugh:
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Tell you what, I don't know whether there have been any changes, but in 1985 I visited St. Croix, U.S. Virgin Islands, and I rented a car for a visit to an old sugar plantation. Even though the island is a U.S. possession, you drove on the left-hand side of the road. But the car was a typical U.S. model with the steering wheel on the left. That was a weird and scary experience! :o
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Tell you what, I don't know whether there have been any changes, but in 1985 I visited St. Croix, U.S. Virgin Islands, and I rented a car for a visit to an old sugar plantation. Even though the island is a U.S. possession, you drove on the left-hand side of the road. But the car was a typical U.S. model with the steering wheel on the left. That was a weird and scary experience! :o
Eww. That sounds scary! It should be one way or the other, shouldn't it?
They drive on the left in the Bahamas too. I remember seeing it when I was in Nassau. They were owned by Great Britain so that's probably why they drive like that.
I wonder what St. Croix's excuse is? ???
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Eww. That sounds scary! It should be one way or the other, shouldn't it?
They drive on the left in the Bahamas too. I remember seeing it when I was in Nassau. They were owned by Great Britain so that's probably why they drive like that.
I wonder what St. Croix's excuse is? ???
I don't know. That was over 20 years ago. Perhaps it was explained to me when I was there and I've just forgotten it.
The U.S. bought "our" Virgin Islands from Denmark, so I guess we can't blame the Brits!
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GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!! >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:(
Bitch of the day - people who ask for favors, then want the favor their way and get pissed off if they don't get it!!!!
Hello!!!! YOU'RE the one who needs MY help! YOUR job is to make it as easy as possible for me to do you this favor!!!!!!!!!!!
My sister called a few weeks ago. She is having oral surgery this Friday and needed someone to drive her home - anesthesia you know. I'd have to leave work early, but that's fine, I understand. I told her, no problem.
I tell my boss I need to leave early, have been working extra this week to make up the time I'm going to miss.
Then, just this afternoon, it suddenly occurs to me that it will be very uncomfortable for her - who just had oral surgery done - to jounce around in my Jeep as I drive her home.
So I call to ask her about this.
Her: Oh, I thought we'd just leave your car there overnight.
Me: Uh, no.
Her: It's a nice strip mall.
Me: Um, no. Why don't we leave YOUR car there? It's a nice strip mall.
Her: I'm not going to leave MY car there!
Me: Well, I'm not leaving my car there.
Her: You know, just forget it, just forget it.
Me: No, I'm willing to work with you on this. I had a crappy day anyway, my car died at the gas station this morning, I had to call a tow truck...
I went on and on about how my car acted up that morning, how Sprint told me on the phone that my calling card did not work when I was trying to call for a tow truck and call my job to tell them I'd be late, blah blah blah and how maybe it would be better to have a friend drop her off and that way...
Suddenly it dawns on me that I'm talking to empty air. She hung up on me back after she said 'forget it!'
SHE needed the favor, but she got pissed off because I didn't just go along with her plans. She thought I was being unreasonable because I didn't want to leave my car overnight in a strange place and hung up on me. Plans she made and then neglected to tell me and then she gets all drama queen on me.
I don't play that mind-game shit. I'm not her ex-husband (to whom she did this kind of stuff all the time). No skin off my nose. She needs the ride, not me.
SO pisses me off. She does this ALL the time.
:P
OK, thanks, I feel better now.
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DEL!!
:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
you just described MY sister!!
is this the one you are going to Paris with??
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DEL!!
:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
you just described MY sister!!
is this the one you are going to Paris with??
Yep. She dragged her feet on getting the reservation, so we lost out on the nicer hotel..but this is HER trip, not mine, so if we end up mugged in a crack hotel because she didn't act quick enough - after all my stories about how difficult it was to find available hotels - I hope she enjoys. :P
I would SO like to travel alone.
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Yep. She dragged her feet on getting the reservation, so we lost out on the nicer hotel..but this is HER trip, not mine, so if we end up mugged in a crack hotel because she didn't act quick enough - after all my stories about how difficult it was to find available hotels - I hope she enjoys. :P
I would SO like to travel alone.
ROTF!!
you will have a good time....just take some gum so when you grit your teeth you wont hurt yourself!!
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ROTF!!
you will have a good time....just take some gum so when you grit your teeth you wont hurt yourself!!
:laugh: :laugh:
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GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!! >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:(
Bitch of the day - people who ask for favors, then want the favor their way and get pissed off if they don't get it!!!!
Hello!!!! YOU'RE the one who needs MY help! YOUR job is to make it as easy as possible for me to do you this favor!!!!!!!!!!!
My sister called a few weeks ago. She is having oral surgery this Friday and needed someone to drive her home - anesthesia you know. I'd have to leave work early, but that's fine, I understand. I told her, no problem.
I tell my boss I need to leave early, have been working extra this week to make up the time I'm going to miss.
Then, just this afternoon, it suddenly occurs to me that it will be very uncomfortable for her - who just had oral surgery done - to jounce around in my Jeep as I drive her home.
So I call to ask her about this.
Her: Oh, I thought we'd just leave your car there overnight.
Me: Uh, no.
Her: It's a nice strip mall.
Me: Um, no. Why don't we leave YOUR car there? It's a nice strip mall.
Her: I'm not going to leave MY car there!
Me: Well, I'm not leaving my car there.
Her: You know, just forget it, just forget it.
Me: No, I'm willing to work with you on this. I had a crappy day anyway, my car died at the gas station this morning, I had to call a tow truck...
I went on and on about how my car acted up that morning, how Sprint told me on the phone that my calling card did not work when I was trying to call for a tow truck and call my job to tell them I'd be late, blah blah blah and how maybe it would be better to have a friend drop her off and that way...
Suddenly it dawns on me that I'm talking to empty air. She hung up on me back after she said 'forget it!'
SHE needed the favor, but she got pissed off because I didn't just go along with her plans. She thought I was being unreasonable because I didn't want to leave my car overnight in a strange place and hung up on me. Plans she made and then neglected to tell me and then she gets all drama queen on me.
I don't play that mind-game shit. I'm not her ex-husband (to whom she did this kind of stuff all the time). No skin off my nose. She needs the ride, not me.
SO pisses me off. She does this ALL the time.
:P
OK, thanks, I feel better now.
You als o just described my sister to a tee too!
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Tell you what, you all are making me glad I'm an only child, for once! :laugh:
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LOL. I think it's the steering wheel position!!
I like this warning.
“Visitors are informed that in the United Kingdom traffic drives on the left-hand side of the road. In the interests of safety, you are advised to practise this in your country of origin for a week or two before driving in the UK.”
http://users.pandora.be/worldstandards/driving%20on%20the%20left.htm (http://users.pandora.be/worldstandards/driving%20on%20the%20left.htm)
How? You can't!
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Why is it that sound quality on the phone (any phone, not just cells) seems to have gotten WORSE the past few years?
I have okay hearing, but lately on the phone I'm like, what what whaaaaat? Dang telecom companies! This isn't the 1800s for Crissakes.
(My sweetie says it's because the sound is no longer analog; it's digital, and the telecoms use really CHEAP digital converters. So my "why" is rhetorical, but I just want to BITCH anyway!)
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Menopause SUCKS
thank you!
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Menopause SUCKS
thank you!
It sure do Jess!!
I think I'm going through it too, but they call it "Mid Life Crisis" in my case. Same thing though. Relentless hot flashes, feelings of dispair and a wicked temper that won't quit! >:(
[[[Jess]]]
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It sure do Jess!!
I think I'm going through it too, but they call it "Mid Life Crisis" in my case. Same thing though. Relentless hot flashes, feelings of dispair and a wicked temper that won't quit! >:(
[[[Jess]]]
dang, poor baby!...
{{{David}}}
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It sure do Jess!!
I think I'm going through it too, but they call it "Mid Life Crisis" in my case. Same thing though. Relentless hot flashes, feelings of dispair and a wicked temper that won't quit! >:(
[[[Jess]]]
Guess what, David? My doctor actually used the term, "male menopause." Whatever you call it, it sucks. :P
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Complaints of the week:
1) Homeless panhandlers who act mentally unstable, standing next to your car, staring at you through your - open - car window or yelling obscenities at you while you're a trapped audience at a red-light. This one nut will run in front of your car in attempts to slow you down because he knows you're trying to make the green light so you don't have to deal with him.
Not a damn thing you can do about them. >:( >:( >:(
It's just depressing to get off every day from a long day at work and have to run their gauntlet, stressed that someday they'll do something more than stare at you through your car window.
2) Co-workers you just have such a conflict with, personality-wise that you can't stand to even look at them, yet you can't ever seem to escape them - you arrive at work at the same time together, you take lunches at the same time, in training classes or meetings, you always end up sitting next to each other, you're always assigned related portfolios or clients so you have to interact, all the while you stare longingly at other groups/meetings/classes that exclude them that you are never invited to.
She's a sweet lady, but she's such a motor-mouth time-waster, running on and on and on and on and on about stories that are not interesting and do not have a point or work issues that are not even remotely related to what you asked her about. If you go to her desk to ask her opinion on an issue, she HAS to counter with one of her own or some story. She can't just answer your question and be quickly done. Then she waits for you to walk away before she adds something else so you have to turn around and come back and ask her to repeat what she said.
{these days I just keep walking and let her talk to air}
She just came back from vacation, but I didn't seek her out because I don't care to know how it was, but when I sat at my desk to read my book at lunch, she decided to spend my lunchtime showing me pics and talking to me about her trip. >:( >:( >:(
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dang, Del! That sucks! but it made a dang fine Bitch!!
;)
{{{Del}}}
(I HATE to be reading and have someone keep asking questions or talking to me....are they DENSE??)
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{{{Del}}}
(I HATE to be reading and have someone keep asking questions or talking to me....are they DENSE??)
So many people do this or experience this, I'm not sure what is causing the phenomenon. I think it's a clash of manners and what people consider polite behavior.
Now, if I'm alone at the local deli with my book, peacefully eating my lunch and reading and a co-worker or acquaintance comes by and says 'hi', I feel I'm being sufficiently polite if I look up and smile and say 'hi' back.
I consider it extremely rude if they take this as an opening and promptly sit down and invite themselves to share my lunchtime.
I think this breed of people are very people/socially oriented and believe that you are reading simply because you couldn't find anyone to have lunch with, not because you actually wanted to do it. So they think you will be happy to have company for lunch.
If you think they're being presumptuous and wanting to keep on doing what you were doing and keep on reading, hoping they'll get the point, they believe you're now being rude because they have taken you away from your solitary pursuit and blessed you with their company yet you won't talk to them.
One girl I see in the deli all the time says she's always envied me because she sees me reading differnt books/magazines constantly, yet if she tries to do the same, her co-workers all crowd onto the same table as she and she is obliged to put down her book and chitchat until her lunch is over, so she's never able to finish one, much less mutiple books. Recently she's begun to changing the time she eats so as to avoid her own co-workers who don't get that she would like to get away and relax over her book at lunch - alone.
This is the same kind of thing where a friend invites you to a base/softball game that they play in, but consider it rude if you read during the game. Like little kids, they expect you to come there and watch them play without ever considering if you find such games boring in the extreme. You are waiting for the game to be over so you can interact with them, they're expecting you to have your attention on them at all times.
I've run across this with lovers as well. They want to watch the game on TV. I find this extremely boring and want to go somewhere quiet to read or do my thing. They pout and whine. They want you there with them. The best compromise is to sit next to them and read while they watch the game, but you always get the feeling that they're a bit put off that you don't get excited when they do because you're not watching with them.
[shrug] Don't know what to do about these kinds of things.
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I just like being alone. and people find that weird! I NEED some time away from other people. Some times when I am out doing errands I just want to be alone so bad I can't hardly stand it.
and reading is a way of getting a little quiet and distance...for me...
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Residents Inn
they have a series of commercials featuring acrobats and various performers...one for example shows a man balancing spinning plates...one shows a woman doing acrobatics using curtains...very artistic.
but!
the MEN are all dressed in dress shirts and ties...
the WOMEN?? in their bras and/or panties.
sexist much?
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HEAD ON. APPLY DIRECTLY TO YOUR FOREHEAD. :(
HEAD ON. APPLY DIRECTLY TO YOUR FOREHEAD. :P
HEAD ON. APPLY DIRECTLY TO YOUR FOREHEAD. >:(
>:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:(
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HEAD ON. APPLY DIRECTLY TO YOUR FOREHEAD.
hunh?
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[youtube=425,350]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GOvFIxUz2XY[/youtube]
One of the world's most annoying commercials.
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HEAD ON. APPLY DIRECTLY TO YOUR FOREHEAD. :(
HEAD ON. APPLY DIRECTLY TO YOUR FOREHEAD. :P
HEAD ON. APPLY DIRECTLY TO YOUR FOREHEAD. >:(
>:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:(
But make sure while you applying directly to your forehead that you are looking up with a real dumb expression on your face. ;)
(Don't worry about it, Laura, you're lucky if you don't know about this.)
Hey Shasta, you posted that just as I was writing this. Thanks, I guess. ::)
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Two today:
1) OK, this might be a bit touchy, but I have some very religious friends. They tend to send me religious e-mails.
I don't mind the humanist story ones, the sweet ones. I'm willing to tolerate the emotional blackmail at the end of such e-mails ("you have a choice, send this e-mail and save a soul or just delete and let the world go on as normal") because I know the sender intended the story to be positive and inspirational.
Now the downright appalling so-called "humanist" stories I send back with my shock outlined to them.
But I think it's a bit rude when I get such religious e-mails wherein the disbeliever in the story is made to say or do foolish or stupid things to prove their point (invariably something happens in the story to refute the disbeliever's claims "There is no god").
I don't think they would like it too much if I sent around agnostic/atheists stories that made the religious person look like a dupe. Again, I haven't come 'out' religiously to most of my friends since I don't really consider it any of their business, so perhaps they think they're sending these to a like-minded person. But I also know that some religions require their members to proselytize or witness to others they think may need their help.
Not sure if there is anything I can do about this. I just hit 'delete' and try not to be annoyed.
2) Pig-headed homophobes. I mentioned to my red-neck Republican friend that a gay friend was moving with his husband to a pretty small country town near us that's recently become a 'boom' town for commuters and the arts and has attracted a gay population. They are buying a fabulous historical home that's old Victorian, bricks brought in from England.
He asked what town it was and hoped it wasn't town X as he was wanting to retire there. >:( >:(
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" asked what town it was and hoped it wasn't town X as he was wanting to retire there. "
He should be so lucky!!!
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I was at a reining event Saturday. we were there all day. There was a young girl there with her mother. About five or six. they were up in the bleachers. A man walked up and the little girl ran from him to her mother trying to get behind her. He pulled her out struggling and held her down while he kissed her....she got up wiping her face off hard...
I was so angry. What was that mother thinking to allow that....I could see she was fussing at the little girl. What is she teaching that girl? that she is to give in to any man that demands it? that it is acceptable for a man to manhandle her and force himself on her using brute force? that she is helpless and weak?
I think the little girl got it, if that was what she was teaching...
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That is appalling. I hope what you saw was not what it looked like. I hope it was something else, that appeared to be that... >:( >:(
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I love chocolate....LOVE chocolate. But you can't eat chocolate very often when you reach a certain age cause it goes right to your hips. >:(
So you decide to treat yourself cause you had a bad day and stop by the store for a little bit of sublimation...and you select a piece with nuts in it. Go home all ready to eat it. (I know, it is a BAD day when the only bright spot is you get to eat some chocolate...but the POINT is it is your TREAT for the day..an attempt to be good to yourself)
and it don't have but one or two little nuts in it!!
GRRRR.
I know it ain't a good bitch but....oh well.
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good enough (in alma Jr stylee voice)
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:laugh: :laugh:
;)
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Speaking of Alma Jr. (Kate Mara) i saw her last night in the Shooter with Mark Wahlburg...good enough movie..!! My husband got his dose of testosterone, and Mark is pretty cute too.
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Farting dogs. >:(
Or more specifically, farting Golden Retrievers! >:(
WHY for God's sakes... WHY??!!!! >:(
I pay attention to what I feed him, I try to keep him calm, and he's laying here next to me cutting loose. >:(
:P :P
Yup. Farting dogs. That's my Bitch of the day.
:laugh: :laugh:
God help me. :P
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:laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
it is karma for making fun of me when my kitten had gas so bad!!!
ninner ninner!!
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Lately I have no patience with people who seem unable to park within the lines of a parking space. Is it really that difficult, or are these people just that self absorbed and inconsiderate? AND have you noticed, they don't even drive nice cars. I could maybe understand it if someone double parked their Ferrari, but not their old Escort!
I was at Costco today around lunch time and it was packed like it always is. Driving around looking for a parking place I saw no less than 6 places that would have been available if the idiot who parked next to them had parked properly in his/her own space!
>:(
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:laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
it is karma for making fun of me when my kitten had gas so bad!!!
ninner ninner!!
I don't know. Maybe, but it's too hot outside to open these damn windows up. I have my air conditioning on. I still might do it anyway. Stink or sweat. I think I'll choose the latter.
Jess, don't pick on me tonight! I'm in misery here! >:(
God, his farts smell awful! You just have no idea! It's like something crawled up his butt and died. :P
I know. Nobody wants to hear about my little ol' problems here tonight. Don't worry about me folks. I'll just suffer through it!! :laugh: :laugh:
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Lately I have no patience with people who seem unable to park within the lines of a parking space. Is it really that difficult, or are these people just that self absorbed and inconsiderate? AND have you noticed, they don't even drive nice cars. I could maybe understand it if someone double parked their Ferrari, but not their old Escort!
I was at Costco today around lunch time and it was packed like it always is. Driving around looking for a parking place I saw no less than 6 places that would have been available if the idiot who parked next to them had parked properly in his/her own space!
>:(
Oh I know Dottie. I bitched about this very same thing in another thread. Don't you just hate it??!!! >:(
I swear every time I go to the mall or to the supermarket some IDIOT has parked his car (or truck) across three parking spaces as if to say "Oh, look at my beautiful car. Now don't ya'll even THINK of parking near it" and it's some old nasty junker from the 70's! What are they thinking?
Don't get me wrong. I have NOTHING against cars and trucks from the 1970's and 80's but does it really take 3 spaces just to park them? What's the matter with these people!
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I don't know. Maybe, but it's too hot outside to open these damn windows up. I have my air conditioning on. I still might do it anyway. Stink or sweat. I think I'll choose the latter.
Jess, don't pick on me tonight! I'm in misery here! >:(
God, his farts smell awful! You just have no idea! It's like something crawled up his butt and died. :P
I know. Nobody wants to hear about my little ol' problems here tonight. Don't worry about me folks. I'll just suffer through it!! :laugh: :laugh:
David! Honey (http://i149.photobucket.com/albums/s64/dotEmatrix/beefcake/Beefcake%202/Smilies%20Emoticons%20and%20Avatars/roflmao.gif) I know EXACTLY what you mean about doggie farts. Funny my females don't do it much but the boys will kill ya at least once a month ~and~ they ALL eat the same thing! Go figure. Elvis always seems to aim his butt right at me and it's impossible to sit down wind from three of them :laugh:
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David! Honey (http://i149.photobucket.com/albums/s64/dotEmatrix/beefcake/Beefcake%202/Smilies%20Emoticons%20and%20Avatars/roflmao.gif) I know EXACTLY what you mean about doggie farts. Funny my females don't do it much but the boys will kill ya at least once a month ~and~ they ALL eat the same thing! Go figure. Elvis always seems to aim his butt right at me and it's impossible to sit down wind from three of them :laugh:
:laugh: :laugh:
Well, at least you know where I'm coming from Dottie! :P It's awful isn't it?
You have a dog named Elvis? That's such a cute name for a dog. Well, actually it's a cute name period. I love that name. :D
Boy, I'd really like to light a few of my scented candles but I'm scared to strike a match with all this dog gas in here. What do you think? Is it safe? I'm scared I'll blow us all up to kingdom come. :-\
Cody's really farting up a tune tonight. I'm not sure what I should do about it. ???
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:laugh: :laugh:
Well, at least you know where I'm coming from Dottie! :P It's awful isn't it?
You have a dog named Elvis? That's such a cute name for a dog. Well, actually it's a cute name period. I love that name. :D
Boy, I'd really like to light a few of my scented candles but I'm scared to strike a match with all this dog gas in here. What do you think? Is it safe? I'm scared I'll blow us all up to kingdom come. :-\
Cody's really farting up a tune tonight. I'm not sure what I should do about it. ???
LOL I get the Febreeze out and spray the air around Elivis's butt! He hates that. :laugh: Go ahead and light your candles I think it's safe once it mixes with oxygen. ... except for us, for us it's still deadly ;) Yep Elvis is my baby, he's only 3 and is just a great big puppy. Rico and Studly tolerate him and his antics. My females are Coco and Bailey. Bailey is the dowager of the lot and don't she just KNOW she's queen bee.
My vet suggested charcoal bisquits. I get them at Petco and given em one or two a week. There is even an additive like Beano that you can get for their food but I haven't been that desperate yet.
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LOL I get the Febreeze out and spray the air around Elivis's butt! He hates that. :laugh: Go ahead and light your candles I think it's safe once it mixes with oxygen. ... except for us, for us it's still deadly ;) Yep Elvis is my baby, he's only 3 and is just a great big puppy. Rico and Studly tolerate him and his antics. My females are Coco and Bailey. Bailey is the dowager of the lot and don't she just KNOW she's queen bee.
My vet suggested charcoal bisquits. I get them at Petco and given em one or two a week. There is even an additive like Beano that you can get for their food but I haven't been that desperate yet.
I'm all out of Fabreeze Dottie! Gotta go pick some up tomorrow at the grocery, assuming someone hasn't parked their ol' 1971 Ford pick up across THREE parking spaces!! :laugh: :laugh:
What are the chances, huh? ???
Well, anyways, I'll call my vet about the charcoal tomorrow. I don't think Cody would eat charcoal anyway, no matter how good it tasted. I suppose I'll just stick with those scented candles. If ya'll hear a big KOBOOOM or if for some reason CNN breaks in on all ya'll's TV sets later on tonight about an unexplained explosion on the west side of Indy... well... hehe.... I was just trying to light my scented candles.
Currently, I'm sitting here with my shirt pulled over my face in desperation. I don't know what to do about all of this. :P
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You've reminded me of a spoof that went around the office a while back:
Lost dog kills 2,000 by farting
Written by A. Jerrbear
(http://img477.imageshack.us/img477/2671/187072744597877dogdd8.jpg) (http://imageshack.us)
Rusty: Killing people with farts
SYDNEY, Australia - A dog that vanished two months ago has been found to have killed 2,000 by farting, media reported Wednesday.
"I can't believe my dog has gas," Sherry Lowery, who has made several appeals in local media for her pet's return, told Australian Associated Press. "It just goes to show that feeding the dog beans is bad for everyone!"
How Rusty, an 8-year-old poodle-Maltese mix, killed people by farting remains a mystery, although the condition of Rusty's arse suggests the dog did not explode.
Rusty disappeared in May while Lowery was inside a shop in the east coast town of Woy Soy, located 25 miles north of Sydney.
The story above is a satire or parody. It is entirely fictitious.
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ARRRRRRGGGGHHHHH!
What is it with those self-centered, arrogant, screw-thre-rest-of-the-world attituded people.....you know....the ones who can go into a store, get a shopping cart, push it all over the store, fill it up, push it out the door all the way to their parked car but then cannot return it to the designated "Return Carts Here" place?
They just leave it blocking someone elses parking spot, or push it in front of their car and shorten up the available space for another person. Is is so hard to push the same cart they pushed around for 45 minutes another 1 minute and get it back to where it belongs?
What's the world coming to. It isn't about anyone else nowdays...it's all about SELF.....after all "I'm worth it!" Use to be people helped others....cared about them or at least the quality of life that we all share. We use to be courteous and look out for each other and do even something as insignificant as pushing a shopping cart out of another person way to make their experience of parking/shopping a little less frustrating. Well at least some of us still try.
I'm starting to get a little preachy......ain't I?
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Reverend Dot??? Father Dot? Pastor Dot??
hmmmm.....name don't look right...
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Reverend Dot??? Father Dot? Pastor Dot??
hmmmm.....name don't look right...
:laugh: Thanks darlin I needed that!
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Something that really bugs me, whenever you need to call anyplace, you have to go through a million of those horrible computer people to get to the option that you need. Then you have to talk to those computers, I hate to talk to them. Then if you finally get to a human being, they always sound five million miles away, cause they are, even if you are calling a place that is right near you.
I wish all those companies would just go back to using human operators again, a human in their own offices.. I would rather talk to a real person than have to go all those horrible computerized zombies.
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I heard an advertisement today for a computerized receptionist...."Make sure your company presents a professional image!"
I think there is no better example that customer service as we knew it is dead. NO ONE likes these phone systems...but hey they are cheaper than a person and if there is no other option all us SHEEP will fall in line and use it...
>:( >:( >:(
yep, Marlene this is one of my pet peeves too.
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I heard an advertisement today for a computerized receptionist...."Make sure your company presents a professional image!"
I think there is no better example that customer service as we knew it is dead. NO ONE likes these phone systems...but hey they are cheaper than a person and if there is no other option all us SHEEP will fall in line and use it...
>:( >:( >:(
yep, Marlene this is one of my pet peeves too.
Interesting. I read a decade ago that the future industry would be service-oriented. And I wondered then, really? How? No one I know in customer service likes it because people can be complete assholes or idiots or invariably, lost souls completely clueless who want long explanations and a dozen services at once, all the while the line of ill-tempered, in a hurry customers is stacking up and stacking up and stacking up...and then some can be dangerous.
Then technology came to the rescue with the answer! Automated systems, that's how. People don't want to be in service industries, so they let machines do the bulk of the serving. It's cheaper all the way around. Notice the increase in 'check yourself out' lines at grocery stores.
From what I read, the banking industry is waiting for the current baby boomer generation to die away, because the generations that have come after them are used to interfacing with computer systems so they will be able to do away with live tellers altogether. All banking will be via computer.
The future is less live people, not more.
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Del
I think the main trouble with live customer service people is there is never enough of them. For example, those self checkout registers? If there were enough real cashiers to check everyone out in a reasonable time I don't think people would use them.
To me the self checkout is making me work for the store. I am not a bag boy. Nor am I a Walmart cashier...nothing wrong with BEING one of those things...if you are getting paid to be.
Why should I give them my labor for free....
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Interesting. I read a decade ago that the future industry would be service-oriented. And I wondered then, really? How? No one I know in customer service likes it because people can be complete assholes or idiots or invariably, lost souls completely clueless who want long explanations and a dozen services at once, all the while the line of ill-tempered, in a hurry customers is stacking up and stacking up and stacking up...and then some can be dangerous.
Then technology came to the rescue with the answer! Automated systems, that's how. People don't want to be in service industries, so they let machines do the bulk of the serving. It's cheaper all the way around. Notice the increase in 'check yourself out' lines at grocery stores.
From what I read, the banking industry is waiting for the current baby boomer generation to die away, because the generations that have come after them are used to interfacing with computer systems so they will be able to do away with live tellers altogether. All banking will be via computer.
The future is less live people, not more.
I think this will do nothing but increase unemployment and poverty.
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Del
I think the main trouble with live customer service people is there is never enough of them. For example, those self checkout registers? If there were enough real cashiers to check everyone out in a reasonable time I don't think people would use them.
Agree, but it's very expensive to keep a store fully staffed all day. From my experience working retail, there are peak hours of business and for the rest - I have a theory that humans are really pack animals. When one shopper with their basket full of merchandise heads for the empty checkout lines, suddenly everyone decides it's a good time to check out and everyone converges at once. I'm not sure why that is. Suddenly the checkout lines are jammed packed. Then they get all checked out and again there's a lull. It's like this all day.
Armed with this knowledge, when I go to the grocery store and see jam packed lines when I'm ready to check out, I know if I just loiter for another 5 minutes or so, read a magazine, the lines will all clear out and I won't have to stand in line.
To me the self checkout is making me work for the store. I am not a bag boy. Nor am I a Walmart cashier...nothing wrong with BEING one of those things...if you are getting paid to be. Why should I give them my labor for free....
Because they're in the business of making money and the more they throw onto the customer, the more money on their bottom line. Isn't capitalism wonderful?
I agree. I go through the live person line, I don't want to bag my own stuff - even though I probably would do it a lot more skillfully than some of the knuckleheads who work these places and haven't been trained worth a damn would.
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I think this will do nothing but increase unemployment and poverty.
Yep. Wave of the future. Mechanize all the unskilled labor jobs. Cheaper for the business owners because there is less overhead. Capitalism again.
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I wait in a line rather than use one of those mechanical checkers... I too hate all those bad parking lot asses. And as for the stupid
computer answering machine services. AAAAAAAArrrrrrghhhhh dont get me started...those are my pet peeve. I get so angry when i call a number, and they demand all of your personal info...last four digits of your social, name spelled, and phone number, and then as soon as you get to a real live {who is neither real nor live} person they ask you the same stupid things all over again...I just boil. :P :P
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A lot of people on this board are optimists. I like to read how they look forward to the future, how things are changing, slowly but surely and how the future will look back on the past and wonder how we could have been such idiots in how we treated people.
I very much enjoy reading their posts, because I tend to lose heart during my days when I am surrounded by people who send me things like:
"Obama can go F H SELF. He is a racist. He is a bigot. He is for the repression of women. And he is a sophmoric ignorant fool. IMAO."
When I point out to the sender of this message that he just described his golden boy George Dubya, he recoils in a cloud of cognitive dissonance.
What ever can I mean, they wonder?
Dubya's bigoted comments are just ignorance.
Cutting funding to family planning clinics, passing laws to withhold information to women about choices involving abortion, passing laws banning partial birth abortions isn't "oppressing women"! So what if it's legal for a woman to have an abortion in this country and these laws make it harder for them to do so? That's not oppressive!
As for George being a 'sophomoric ignorant fool', he went to Yale, he flew a fighter jet, he made millions investing in a sports team, he became governor twice and president of the US twice. All this "proves" Dubya is smart as a whip!
When I point out the all too obvious flaws in their arguments...I get a nasty surprise. It's always shocking to run into a stereotype - the blinders-wearing, redneck, Republican, Dubya supporter, conservative, patronizing, thinks he's not sexist, thinks he's not racist stereotype is alive and well. And though I lay out my counterpoints so that a child could connect the dots and see the blatant double-standard held by them, they just look away and will never admit they hold a double standard - namely, that the flaws they find reprehensible in a Democratic candidate are OK if they're in a Republican president.
These are not uneducated backwoods yokels. These are college-educated men, who are quite capable of analytical thinking.
I used to think that in our world, one could talk to people, make reasonable, rational arguments, that sooner or later, reason would win out and people would see logical conclusions.
Some people not only can't, they refuse to see something as reasonable and logical if it doesn't fit into how they believe the world is supposed to be. Even if it smacks them in the face that their POV is wrong, they will go to their graves denying the truth of it.
I lose hope for humanity whenever I experience such things. Our civilization as it is now will be the 13th in our world's history to fall. We will not go into some glorious future a la Star Trek where we all grow up as human beings and build a wonderful world together. Instead we will all fall into yet another savage, Dark Age and have to start things all over again, just as we've done in the past because as humans, some of us will never want to learn.
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Ok, onto less world-angst. My higher up boss is a fucking idiot who also wears blinders.
She is the worst manager I've ever had. She is a workaholic and thinks nothing of working 10 am to 10 pm on a regular basis. And as such, she assigns out work accordingly, expecting of course, that you will have no problems working similar hours.
I was so hoping she'd get promoted or moved out from our area so I could have a more reasonable boss who understands most of us would like to work 40 hours a week and have a personal life. Oh, she got promoted all right. She got promoted to Chief Operating Officer of the company and now is over all of us. >:(
For someone in my position, to properly and accurately service client portfolios, I need a file count of about 150-200 files.
I currently have nearly 2000 files in my name.
I get on average, 10-30 phone calls per day, 20-40 e-mails per day, 5-10 other communications per day, that all require a response or some action. And those are in addition to my regular daily workload.
Twice a month, two projects come my way that have to be done because we're being graded by our clients. If we fall down on the number of their expectations, we could lose the client. So successfully completing a project in the ridiiculous timeframes allotted is taken for granted. There is no failure, no matter how many hours YOU have to work to get it done.
e.g. We get the mid-month report and have until two days before the end of the month to get it done. Do we get the report on the 15th? Nope. It usually comes about the 18th or 19th. Does the client or my bosses care that they've now shoved on us nearly 19 days worth of work into 10?
Nope. You'll just have to work longer hours and oh, come in this weekend if you have to.
Mind you, I'm still doing my regular work, too. That hasn't stopped.
To properly service a file in my line of work, it takes me about 15-45 minutes per file. But that's average. It can take as little as 15 minutes or a file may keep me busy for six hours or more.
Do my higher up bosses understand the staggering volume they've given us? Do they understand the time it takes to do the minutiae of detail the client wants us to update?
Yes.
Do they care?
No, because reality cuts into the pie-in-the-sky promises of service they have given the clients to get their business. Not a single boss has the backbone to tell any prospective clients that our company is a decades long Diamond Award winning company so as to give prospective clients the impression that we're an exclusive company and they should be lucky we deign to do business with them - fu'd unorganized company that they are - so that we will be on equal footing with the client as a partner. Instead my bosses grovel, promise we can do an outlandish amount of work in impossible time frames.
Remember, on average, I can work 10-12 files per day. Usually, on a project, I get called into a meeting at lunchtime, am given a new client/project and told I have to work up to 10 files per day to keep this new cllient happy on top of my other work that already takes me all day to do.
Today was just another stupid fucking day.
I'm working on a project, doing a certain number of files per day. Takes me 3-4 hours per day.
Am I failling waaaaaaaay behind in my other work? You betcha. :(
I used to work the files after lunch and sent my immediate boss and the COO my accomplished list at the end of the day.
The COO complained to my immediate boss - are they working these? I don't get reports during the day.
My immediate boss passed along the message and said, Just work your project when you first come in, that way she'll get your report during the day and know you're working it.
That lasted 3 days.
Today, the COO complained to my immediate boss - how come I'm getting this report at lunch? Why don't they work on this all day? Can't they increase their numbers?
Meaning, I must have no other work to do but this project and so must be sitting at my desk with my thumb up my ass doing nothing. >:( >:( >:( >:(
My immediate boss passes this message along to me.
I reply, OK, so A- wants me to stop doing everything else and just work this?
He says, no.
I reply, She does know this is already taking half my day and now she wants me to increase my numbers but not ignore the rest of my 10 hours worth of work?
He says, She doesn't really want to know. You know how she is. Just send your report at the end of the day.
I reply, Then she'll complain that if I'm working on this all day, how come I'm not getting any more done, right?
He says, That's right.
Fucktards, I work for fucktards!!!!!!!!!
>:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:(
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whoa!! now THAT is a rant!!
poor DEL!!
{{{Del}}}
I am sorry sweetie....you deserve better!
I like you! I think you are TERRIFIC and SMART and TALENTED and those other people can go straight to heck!
or hell...whichever you would rather send them!
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Sorry: I don't know what else to say but Sorry. :-\
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Del, that was a five-smiley rant. Glad I have an appropriate one. You go, girl!
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gawd, del, yuck! Hope the rant made you fele better in some way!
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Del! That's a doddamn bitch of an unsatisfactory situation, indeed! >:(
I guess they just take your hard work for granted. It can't go on like this. One of these days, there will have to be a confrontation, and I think you will look rather good in it! They know what you are worth! :-*
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ok. my rant for the day...
my mother broke both legs and an arm. Obviously cant' take care of herself. So my sister takes her to her house. She has a four bedroom custom built home. Does she put my mother in one of the rooms? NO>..she is making my mother sleep on the couch!
and bitching to beat sixty about it.
I told her we should put her in a nursing home temporarily...just til she can get around on her own.
"NO!! No mother of mine is going to a nursing home!"
Oh so just let her sit on your couch and listen to you complain about her?? that is better?
She says she has spent more than $300 on her since she has been there...(one week). You know what she is buying? diapers, disposible pads, sheets....cause you know if ANY part of my mother touchs anything that belongs to her it will be the end of the world! She wants me to give her money for all that crap...I don't think so. She is CHOOSING to spend that money...she could just use towels and the sheets she HAS.
I will not be emotionally blackmailed into bringing her here. I won't. There are nursing homes available. We could take turns staying with her. If my sister wants to keep her out it is on her!
I know...I sound terrible. But I know I can't let her stay here. I couldn't handle it.
and if my sister says " I pulled myself up by my bootstraps" ONE MORE TIME...I am gonna bitch slap her. She most certainly did NOT. She lived for two years with my mother. and she lived here for almost a year! Then she got married to her husband du jour and they lived rent free for three years in a house HIS family owned.
That is not 'pulling yourself up by your bootstraps'!!
And as far as finances go?? If you can afford to spend $400 to have your hair colored...you can afford to feed one old woman.
please!
ok....I will be nice now... :) :P
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ok no I wont....I am not finished yet.
I am SICK of her superior attitude about her 'success'....SHE has a big bank account, SHE has a sports car, SHE has a custom built $150,000 house.
but you know what else she has? She has a husband that beats her. She has a four year old that sits by herself in her room with her head on her hands looking sad, saying "My momma is yelling again". She has a four year old that cries and begs me to not leave her there. She has two older girls that would rather be with me than her. She has a museum....not a home.
I don't have a lot of cash. I have an older house. The carpet is looking sad in some places. The animals have shed some hair in here. I got two litter boxes. Sometimes it smells a bit in here....my husbands boots sometimes tracks stuff in here...
but you know what else I have?? I have a home where it is ok to put your feet up. I have a husband that is gentle and loving to me. I have a son that smiles and kisses me in the morning.
I guess it all depends on how you define 'success'.
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ok no I wont....I am not finished yet.
I am SICK of her superior attitude about her 'success'....SHE has a big bank account, SHE has a sports car, SHE has a custom built $150,000 house.
but you know what else she has? She has a husband that beats her. She has a four year old that sits by herself in her room with her head on her hands looking sad, saying "My momma is yelling again". She has a four year old that cries and begs me to not leave her there. She has two older girls that would rather be with me than her. She has a museum....not a home.
I don't have a lot of cash. I have an older house. The carpet is looking sad in some places. The animals have shed some hair in here. I got two litter boxes. Sometimes it smells a bit in here....my husbands boots sometimes tracks stuff in here...
but you know what else I have?? I have a home where it is ok to put your feet up. I have a husband that is gentle and loving to me. I have a son that smiles and kisses me in the morning.
I guess it all depends on how you define 'success'.
What you just said makes me that of that Brooks and Dunn song "Red Dirt Road"...
It's where I drank my first beer
It's where I found Jesus
Where I wrecked my first car
I tore it all to pieces
I learned the path to heaven is full of sinners and believers
Learned that happiness on earth ain't just for high achievers
I've learned I've come to know
There's life at both ends
Of that red dirt road
It sounds like you are very lucky in many ways Jess! :D
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Well said Jess, you have a successful life the rest of us can only dream of.
Not only do you and your husband love how and where you live, so do your nieces.
Don't cave into guilt or emotional blackmail. You need to also consider the health and happiness of your house hold. Let your sister bitch, but I'd be thinking about some cool comeback the next time the 'bootstrap' thing comes up.
With my sister, since she has the cell phone and I can't afford one, she is the first person my mother calls whenever she needs something or has an emergency.
My sister complains and grumbles and bitches and finally starting dropping hints about me not doing "my fair share".
My mother was ill with cancer while taking care of my father who was also ill and on his last legs when my sister had her daughter. My sister has never believed that having a child meant giving up partying and bars and bringing strange men home - especially when she and her husband separated. She was on a tight budget, always complaining she didn't have money, but she always had money to party...but not for a babysitter.
She called my mom. My mother, unable to put her foot down would say oblique things like, "I'm not feeling too good, daddy was tired, he's gone to bed early." hoping my sister would pick up the hint.
Knowing she was not going to get a direct refusal, my sister would just blithely reply, "It's ok, my daughter won't bother you. It'll just be for a few hours."
And she'd drop off her daughter regardless. This shit has gone on for some time now, expanding now to my mother needing to pick up her granddaughter at school because her mother can't make it for whatever reason. My mother does all this for free, mind you. My sister has paid her nothing.
So, finally, in the last year, when my sister's griping and hints about taking care of mother got to be too much for me, I simply replied, "Boy, paybacks for all that free babysitting mom did for you are a bitch, aren't they?"
I've said that twice in the last few months and now, I don't hear her bitching to me anymore.
Ah, bliss. 8)
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gawd, del, yuck! Hope the rant made you fele better in some way!
Unfortunately not.
The world angst I can do nothing about.
As for my job...I would quit and find another job if I wasn't just trading one office for another. When I leave, I want a career change to something I actually like instead of something that pays decently. But of course, the difficult caveat is that I don't want to take a paycut to start over in a new field.
I would feel better blowing off steam if it wasn't for the fact that the COO isn't the only workaholic. My two counterparts, people who do the same job as I but for different clients, are both workaholics or badly need the overtime. One lady works 13 hour days during the week. She only leaves because our computer system goes down at 10 pm.
The other lady regularly works 10-11 hour days during the week and comes in for a full 8 hours on the weekend.
So, of course, my complaining falls on deaf ears because if they can find time in their lives to work 55-70 hour work weeks, why can't I? They're showing their dedication not me.
They like to stand around and complain how overworked we are and why doesn't the company hire enough people, but they're full of shit. I have told them and told them and told them,
"It's cheaper for the company to pay YOU overtime than to hire a new person. The more you're willing to work crazy hours, the more they're willing to let you. They're not going to hire another person, pay salary and benefits when you are willing to work all this overtime. If you stop, work reasonable hours and our task loads start to stack up unacceptably, that will force the company to hire new people to help."
But of course, they won't. They like the money/have no social life to speak of/have deluded themselves into believing this is some sort of job security and I'm stuck as the non-team player. >:(
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I don't know what to tell you about that situation. But I know you are one of the smartest, most outspoken people I know. You deserve better. Not every office is the same. Please think of looking for something else. Better the unknown than the evil you know...
(so easy for me to say from the security of my home I know... :P :-\ )
but you do deserve better.
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Thanks for the positive thoughts Jess. They're much appreciated. :-*
OK, here's my bitch of the day. It's more like "Bitch Lite".
The only 'reality' show I like to watch is "What Not to Wear". Makeovers are always fun to watch.
But even I have stopped watching this show after a while because I started noticing trends that I don't particularly like and/or can't bear to watch.
I noticed that they tend to go with a body type that they can make over.
The body types they pick are the type that are not the usual in this country:
heavy but long-legged waistless
tall, slenderish shapeless
very small slenderish shapeless
or hourglass figured
For these types it doesn't matter if this body type is overweight much or not, because they can use the person's new clothes type to give them a shape, a waist and play up their long nice (slim) legs.
I noticed they do not choose guests who have the body shape that the majority of women in this country have -
5'5' women overweight with round tummies, wide hips and meaty thighs
And why? Because no amount of nice clothes and tailoring is going to make these women's bodies look good. Tailored jackets will not close over ballooning stomachs, no pants wide enough to clear protruding stomachs and wide hips will look flattering on shortish thick-thighed legs. Skirts will not help either since they would have to be at least down to the knees to avoid the fleshy parts above the knees.
So the show simply ignores women who have this body type. The subtle message is, there is nothing these fashion experts can do that will help.
Secondly, and this ties into this type of women they choose for their shows, they pick either outlandishly extroverted women or these sad, pathetic women whose body posture and overwrought body images just scream lack of self-esteem and "leave me alone, I want to be a wall flower!".
It makes me sad that these women - some of whom look and should stride the world as glamazons if they would just take care of themselves better - have been so beaten down by their upbringing or family or faith that they cannot bear to hold up their heads and live their lives as if they mattered. They slouch, they stubbornly refuse to show an inch of skin or improve their styles and take this strange kind of pride in clinging to their old ways. I guess this is some sort of security blanket for them. One woman makes fun of her own very lovely ethnic curly kinky hair - holding it up like horns - oh, I look like an antelope. But when offered a chance to shape and restyle and change the look of her hair to something different and possibly more manageable and admirable, she refuses. This is me!, she proudly exclaims. Betcha though she went right back to poking fun of herself and her hair.
WTF?
Another woman wouldn't show any skin below her collarbone due to 'modesty'. I wondered what fundamentalist compound she was raised in and if she'd feel more comfortable in a bourkha. What does this woman wear to the beach? What in the world made this woman so ashamed of showing her own body?
Yet another woman refused to cut her long fabulous hair. The fact that it dragged down her look, was not shaped nor cared for very well and she invariably just tied it into a bun when she went to work - i.e. she couldn't do anything with her fabulously long hair but wear it up or down and so just wore it up all the time to keep it out of her way - didn't matter. She was going to 'stand up for herself' and she felt proud about this. The fact that she will not keep her hair in any better condition nor change her style that she's worn her whole life is actually pathetic. She's a young lovely woman, in the prime of her life and to be so unwilling to experiment with new things in life especially for something that will grow back like hair is strangely sad.
What made these women accept roles on a makeover show if they weren't going to allow themselves to be made over? ??? ??? ???
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All valid points Delalluvia. But I still watch that show. Did you see the one about the "visible thong"? :laugh:
They reaired it yesterday. :)
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All valid points Delalluvia. But I still watch that show. Did you see the one about the "visible thong"? :laugh:
They reaired it yesterday. :)
Yes. LOL! They've been advertising for next week's show - "Where are they now?", but I'm afraid I might want to watch - to see which women backslid, taking pride in returning to being dumpy and fashion disasters.
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The expectations of productivity placed on workers by corporate America is appalling. I personally am convinced that the stress this causes in the reason we see so many obituaries for people in their 40's and early 50's in the paper these days. The deaths of so many young people has risen dramatically in the last 15 years
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I've begun to notice that too Pettifogger. I've heard of 5 people from college who have died in the last year or so. And seems every time I look at he paper the obit are full of younger folks. What's up with that.
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Another "Bitch Lite" of the day:
People who talk loud. The more animated/intense the conversation becomes the louder and louder and louder they get until they're all but shouting. If you shush them once, it's like they got slapped, but the problem is, they look embarassed, lower their voices, but then their tone creeps up and up and up and you realize this is how they speak at home, so they don't even notice how loud and obnoxious they are and if you shush them again, they get resentful and you feel like a martinet.
I've left my cubical and walked 30 feet away to a printer/copier and could still hear and understand quite clearly every single word my cubical neighbor was saying. >:(
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ARGH!
My SISTER does this, Del! Good grief...it is worse in the car...she will talk so loud my EAR hurts! and if you say anything she BLOWS up and the rest of the trip will be a living hell.
gives me a headache.... :P
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ARGH!
My SISTER does this, Del! Good grief...it is worse in the car...she will talk so loud my EAR hurts! and if you say anything she BLOWS up and the rest of the trip will be a living hell.
gives me a headache.... :P
Jess and Del - separated at birth. ;D
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TAILGATERS >:(
Someone tailgated me on my way home from work. He rode on my ass for nearly 9 miles today and wouldn't back off. I tapped my brakes a few times but he didn't get the message. For some reason I get really irked when I get tailgated. I hate it. Especially when they are tailgating so close behind I can see the pattern on their shirt! It's totally ridiculous. And dangerous too. If I was a mean person, I would have slammed on my brakes and let him run into the back of my car, and I thought about doing it too. >:(
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I was just kidding about that last part. I would never purposely cause an accident on an interstate! But when I get really mad like that, it sure is fun to fantasize about! :P
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Jess and Del - separated at birth. ;D
:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
I'd be proud to have you for a sister!!
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I was just kidding about that last part. I would never purposely cause an accident on an interstate! But when I get really mad like that, it sure is fun to fantasize about! :P
*whew*
:laugh: :laugh:
For me it is people in these big ol pickups and SUVs in parking lots....you ever see the commercials for these things?? Fording rivers!!! Slogging thru mud bogs!!! climbing sofa sized boulders!!
but apparently CAN'T go over a speed bumper! >:(
They see the speed bump and come to a complete stop and EASE over it like an old lady afraid of breaking a hip!!
GO ALREADY!!!! I got places to go and things to do!!
ARGH!!!
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I am fed up tonight with hypocrites! Snarky, passive aggressive, small minded, petty people who use any excuse to suck the marrow out of life!!! They'll hide behind any excuse to execute their own brand of control.
>:(
>:(
:'(
OK I'm done now.
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I am fed up tonight with hypocrites! Snarky, passive aggressive, small minded, petty people who use any excuse to suck the marrow out of life!!! They'll hide behind any excuse to execute their own brand of control.
>:(
>:(
:'(
OK I'm done now.
well I LIKE your little saying there about drama and unnecessary heartache!!
SO THERE!!!
One of my favorite country singer said in his song..."If you don't like something, can't you just leave it alone?"
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well I LIKE your little saying there about drama and unnecessary heartache!!
SO THERE!!!
One of my favorite country singer said in his song..."If you don't like something, can't you just leave it alone?"
Yeah, well I've given my notice already, so only 3 more weeks to go and I won't even have to look at them anymore let alone ready any more of their passive aggressive memos and e-mails...so there :P....Thanks Jess, :-* I really do feel better now.
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Yeah, well I've given my notice already, so only 3 more weeks to go and I won't even have to look at them anymore let alone ready any more of their passive aggressive memos and e-mails...so there :P....Thanks Jess, :-* I really do feel better now.
3 weeks!! you are awful nice!! most people only give a couple of weeks!!
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3 weeks!! you are awful nice!! most people only give a couple of weeks!!
Well I have to help train my replacement and I'm only going in 3 days a week (12 hour days)...so I'd don't begrudge it.
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Airports. >:(
The parking. The shuttles. The parking. The baggage. The parking. The lines. The parking. The rude employees. The parking.
My boyfriend's friends are returning to London today and I took them to the airport. I had to park in the long term parking lot, because the short term was filled to capacity. Then the shuttles, and the walking. More shuttles. More walking. Shuttles. Walking. We finally arrived at the terminal. Lines. Lots of them. People queuing up for what seemed like MILES.
Then, I had to turn around and do it all over again, just to get back to my car.
Yeah. Airports. >:(
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AH BUT YOU HAD ALEX COMIONG BACK WITH YOU SO ITS NOT ALL BAD!!!
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AH BUT YOU HAD ALEX COMIONG BACK WITH YOU SO ITS NOT ALL BAD!!!
That's true Kelda! It wasn't ALL bad! ;) :D
Sweet Baby is still here for another few weeks! But LORD what a headache that was at the airport today! :P
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awww.. sweet baby!
;D
Hey Alex!!!
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awww.. sweet baby!
;D
Hey Alex!!!
That's what I call him! He seems to like it. :)
He says hey back to you, Kelda! :D
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Have I told you how much I like your Wolf...Its mesmerizing. Cant stop watching the wolf. :)
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I tell you what pissed me off today, BIG time, hence the reason I,ve started this thread.
My bloody neighbours. I,ve never really liked them anyway. They make as much noise as they like. They think nothing of screaming at their kids all hours of the day and night. They use foul language and so do the children, who couldn,t string a coherent sentence together if their lives depended on it, nor could the parents come to think of it.
Anyway, to the poing of why I,m so furious. My kids have always been taught, NOT to be horrible to other kids. NOT to take things that don,t belong to them, and NOT to tell lies. I,ve always drummed it into them I might be upset with the truth but not half as mad as I,ll be if I find out you were lying to me. So today, my youngest son is over the park. After a while he comes in. Then there,s a knock at the door and it,s the neighbour; accusing my son of pinching his sons bike, letting the tyres down and throwing it in a small pond, oh and pushing him off of his bike as well.
Of course all the kids blame each other. One says one thing, one says another. Neighbours kid says my son pushed him off of his bike, then he says he didn,t. One of the other kids says my son took the dust caps off of his tyres and let them down. They are all blaming each other. This is what my son told me:
He said, that yes, he rode neighbours kids bike, after neighbours kid said he could. He said that no one pushed him off of his bike.(which neighbours kid later admitted was right). He said that another kid, who needed new dust caps, took the caps off of neighbours bike then another kid, got a stone and started to let the tyres down. It was when he started on the second one that my son took the stone off of him and threw it away. Then the other kid, started kicking the bike and bent the tyres. Then somehow, neighbours kids bike ended up down a bank in muddy water. My son says he went down the bank to try and get it out but he couldn,t because it was too muddy so he came home. Neighbour, comes round my house, twice, getting really stroppy with me, and it,s obvious he believes the other kids. He then glares at me as he stomps off, muttering about how much it,s going to cost to fix his kids bike. So there,s me, neighbour and his brat kids, plus a bunch of other kids, all arguing at my front door about who did what, and blaming someone else for it. Neighbour shouted for one of the other kids, who allegedly tok the dust caps but he ran off. I,m so furious, I,m shaking. I really hate it, when people just accuse you, or in this case, your children of something, when they actually don,t have ANY proof it was your child. SO the upshot of all that is, we have obviously now fallen out BIG time with the neighbours, which I dont really care about because I,ve never like them anyway. She,s a foul mouthed bitch and he,s a nob. (susiebell will know what I mean). So now I suppose I,m going to get glared at all the time and muttered about. God I wish they,d move. >:( >:( >:( >:( >:(
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oh god, souxi, that sounds stressful!!! Kids are stressful at the best of times! Good place to vent bettermost - I do it quite often on the Bitch Bitch Bitch thread.
http://bettermost.net/forum/index.php/topic,9778.0.html
Annoying neighbour are the worst!
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Thanks Kelda, I didnt, know that thread existed or I would have posted it there. Can this post be moved there?
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Thanks Kelda, I didnt, know that thread existed or I would have posted it there. Can this post be moved there?
Done.
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So do you feel any less stress now Souxi?
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FAMILY. IS. STRESSFUL.
That's all. Thank you. :)
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Hey Shasta,
I was thinking the exact same thing today. :-\
Thank you!
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Yes, and Sunday evenings are the worst!!
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Hey Shasta,
I was thinking the exact same thing today. :-\
Thank you!
And so was I yesterday - they just know how to get under your sking don't they?!
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So do you feel any less stress now Souxi?
I dunno, I,m working on it lol. Thing is, my youngest is only 8, and theres, gob shyte of the year neighbour standing there, with his equally as gobby foul mouthed kids, plus half the other reprebates of the neighbourhood, all standing there, blaming him for everything. He gets all confused and doesn,t know what he,s saying in the end. I mean he got blamed for everything. I wouldn,t have minded if he,d have come round, without the kids, and we had talked about it calmly, but no, he can,t do that. He,s so confrontational it gets my hackles up right away. Why can,t some people string a sentence together without being aggressive and swearing? That is just so pig ignorant and rude. I hope they never speak to me again. I,ve never liked them anyway so it would suit me just fine. Next thing I,d like to see is a "For Sale" sign outside their house. Now that would make me happy. Horrible people they are...really horrible.
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I dunno, I,m working on it lol. Thing is, my youngest is only 8, and theres, gob shyte of the year neighbour standing there, with his equally as gobby foul mouthed kids, plus half the other reprebates of the neighbourhood, all standing there, blaming him for everything. He gets all confused and doesn,t know what he,s saying in the end. I mean he got blamed for everything. I wouldn,t have minded if he,d have come round, without the kids, and we had talked about it calmly, but no, he can,t do that. He,s so confrontational it gets my hackles up right away. Why can,t some people string a sentence together without being aggressive and swearing? That is just so pig ignorant and rude. I hope they never speak to me again. I,ve never liked them anyway so it would suit me just fine. Next thing I,d like to see is a "For Sale" sign outside their house. Now that would make me happy. Horrible people they are...really horrible.
oh this is my PET PEEVE! and it is always the people that think they are OH SO sophisticated and educated or people from the slums...just REGULAR people are capable of looking at the situation and RESTRAINING themselves!
and if you object to the language then you are some kind of backwards yokel... ::) and they curse more!
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OK, I can't stand it anymore. Must come here to release!!!
LOOSE = opposite of tight. LOSE = opposite of gain.
WTF is wrong with people who NEVER SEEM TO GET THIS??? When they write about "LOOSING their cool" or something I could just die. One O in lose, people!!!
(It was somewhere else on the internet that I just saw this – not Bettermost where the cool people are. ;) )
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One S in lose, people!!!
Um, there is only one S in loose, too.
Did you mean one O in lose?
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OK, I can't stand it anymore. Must come here to release!!!
LOOSE = opposite of tight. LOSE = opposite of gain.
WTF is wrong with people who NEVER SEEM TO GET THIS??? When they write about "LOOSING their cool" or something I could just die. One S in lose, people!!!
(It was somewhere else on the internet that I just saw this – not Bettermost where the cool people are. ;) )
I think it is important to always keep in mind that not everyone who surfs the net, posts in forums, blogs, etc. is a native English speaker. I for one confuse lose and loose often because the pronounciation is the same. It might be easy for you to tell between both terms but it is not the case for me or other people.
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Hi Opinionista. Yes, I'm aware of the many posters out there for whom English is not the native tongue. And they have my admiration and respect, believe me; I could never write in a second language half as well as they (or you).
No, I saw it posted (for about the 1000th time) by a native English speaker who self-identifies as a "author, journalist and editor" so I figured bitching is within my rights!
;D
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Yes. People who have written, spoken, and read English all their lives should be aware of the difference. Those two are always in the "often confused" lists, though.
Actually "loose" is pronounced as rhyming with "goose" and "lose" rhymes with "blues".
I also fight a losing battle trying to get students to use "too" the correct way. They want to use "to" for "to much homework" or whatever! And "their" for "over their" :P
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Yes. People who have written, spoken, and read English all their lives should be aware of the difference. Those two are always in the "often confused" lists, though.
Actually "loose" is pronounced as rhyming with "goose" and "lose" rhymes with "blues".
I also fight a losing battle trying to get students to use "too" the correct way. They want to use "to" for "to much homework" or whatever! And "their" for "over their" :P
Are you a teacher Shasta? Good Lord! You've probably rolled over a few times after reading some of my posts! :laugh:
Can you believe I've actually been to college? More than once!! haha. Bad English is just pure laziness on my part.
Or pure carelessness.
Or forgetting to use the spell checker before I press the post button.
Or a combination of all of the above! :laugh:
;) ;) :D
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Hi Opinionista. Yes, I'm aware of the many posters out there for whom English is not the native tongue. And they have my admiration and respect, believe me; I could never write in a second language half as well as they (or you).
No, I saw it posted (for about the 1000th time) by a native English speaker who self-identifies as a "author, journalist and editor" so I figured bitching is within my rights!
;D
in my mind a bitch is just that....a moment of exasperation...not pointed at anyone in particular and just random venting
as long as it doesn't get personal you're fine, ladies... ;)
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It seems to me the English language is fraught with places that make the proper spelling and usage difficult at times. Exasperating aot others...Lose and Loose, Two Too and To. Then and Than, Their and There and They're . Your and You're. Its difficult at times not to get frustrated with the errors of spelling and usage. Particularly when you are reading text.
I tend to" let be" most times, and try to just grit my teeth. I have learned from past experiences, that people are very sensitive about such criticisms...
But Laura, this is the bitch thread, and you are certainly entitled to make yours to...too. two.. :laugh:
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So why do the Americans and the British spell things differently?? >:(
Susie (http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/11/11_1_201.gif)
Um, cuz you guys are really into vowels? LOL, I have no clue!
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The way I understand it, the spelling of English words (unlike the French, which has had an academy deciding these matters for centuries) has never been high on the agenda. I was reading a biography on Shakespeare a couple a years ago and I learned that, at the time (4 centuries ago) there was no such thing as 'spelling'. Individuals wrote how they thought words ought to be written.
Move up a couple a centuries and not much had changed. Webster created his dictionary about 200 years ago (?) and his idea of the way spelling of words ought to be was based on writtings in the New World (in large parts).
Language evolves over time. By the time the Americans fought for their independance, they were not interested in following the British way of writing. Their evolution had been diff'rent from the mother country's evolution. And the numbers of Americans, even 200 years ago, allowed them to assert themselves in the spelling of words that reflected the commonly accepted ways in the former colonies. Thus, two seperate spelling ways for two seperate cultures sharing the same spoken language.
Now in Canada, we continues to be part of the British Empire long after the second word war (the Queen is still the head of this country!), so we learn and write British English.
As for us Canadian Fracophones, being shut out of the French world for nearly 200 years, we too had evolved diff'rently than the European French. So in the past 50 years or so, we've had to relearn the 'correct' words and ways of speaking and spelling en français, cause a the aformentioned 'Académie française'. However, recentry (about 4 years ago), a very comprehensive French dictionary for French Canadians has become much more useful for us 7 or 8 million francophones. Dictionary's called the 'Multi-dictionaire' and it's a lot easier to understand than the 'Larouse' or 'Le petit Robert'. It even lets us know if the word is old french, 'joual', or an actual Académie' accepted word.
Too much information? Sorry. Teachers are known to be long winded. :)
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Well now I know!! Thanks for being so informative Sheriff!
Still don't understand why Americans call a "tap", a "faucet" though!!
Susie (http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/11/11_1_201.gif)
Thank you Susiebell
Got somethin to do with diff'rent evolution, as I said. At the time of the seperation, 225 years ago, neither tap nor faucet were in use much. These words possibly became part of the common language long after the seperate dictionaries were created.
I hate having to call 'char' (car) une voiture or une auto, but I don't have a choice. You can call em taps (or faucets) all you like and still be understood by most a the people listening to you.
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Hehehe! I agree that we do tend to be a bit long winded!!
We may speak the same, but we don't speak the same!! See what I mean ......
We say "Crisps" .... you say "Chips"
We say "Chips" .... you say "Fries"
We say "Scones" .... you say "Biscuits" (I think they're the same thing ... not entirely sure!)
We say "Biscuits" .... you say "Cookies"
We say "Jam" ... you say "Jelly"
We say "Jelly" .... you say "Jello"
And the list goes on!
..... It's all very confusing!!! (http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/29/29_1_14.gif)
Susie (http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/11/11_1_201.gif)
It sure is confusing! Alex says these things all the time to me, and he's met with a lot of blank stares from me. I have no idea what he's talking about! :laugh:
Poor Sweet Baby! We love each other in spite of ourselves! :D
But Susie, I've heard people around here refer to the "faucet" as a tap! In fact I say it sometimes! I've even heard some people around here call it a "spigot".
Then for toilet, we have "toilet", "toilet stool", "stool", "john"... all kinds of different names for it. Alex calls it a loo! :laugh:
Hoosiers confuse themselves enough with all the different terminolgy we have around here, without bringing the British into it! ;)
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Here is MY bitch for the day...I got this guy that claims to be my friend?? USTA come in the store and BOO me...
now NOTHING! I haven't been startled in WEEKS!
>:( >:( >:( >:( >:(
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Here is MY bitch for the day...I got this guy that claims to be my friend?? USTA come in the store and BOO me...
now NOTHING! I haven't been startled in WEEKS!
>:( >:( >:( >:( >:(
Hey Jess!...........
BOO!!!!!
:laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
Got ya!! :D
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Hey Jess!...........
BOO!!!!!
:laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
Got ya!! :D
AIIIIYYIIII!!
*Jess goes and changes her britches....*
LOL!!!!!
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Here's something that happened the other day...
I was looking for my cat, and Alex said he was in the cupboard! I thought to myself "what the hell?" and I immediately walked into the kitchen to find the cat. But Alex was talking about UPSTAIRS. Here in the US, a "cupboard" is something only found in the kitchen, ie, a kitchen cupboard (little spaces with doors above the kitchen counter). But he was talking about the bedroom CLOSET!
Apparently over there in Britain, ya'll call closets "cupboards". Over here, we call them CLOSETS! ;) :D
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Here's a few more, Susie!
Bonnet = Hood (the cover over the engine of a car)
Petrol = Gas
Tyre = Tire
Windscreen = Windshield
Engaged = Busy
That's another one Alex did to me! :laugh: I've been having these terrible headaches, and Alex was trying to call my doctor to make an appointment. He would dial and then hang up and tell me their phone was "engaged".
Huh? ???
:laugh: :laugh:
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Being an American transplant in Britain, such confusions are an everyday event for me.
One thing Brits tend to say when they understand something and agree to it is: "Brilliant!" and the first few times a Brit said "Brilliant" to me I wanted to find out what was so brilliant about it. Because I don't think Americans ever use "brilliant" to mean anything unless they are talking about the winner of the National Spelling Bee or the kid who skipped two grades in middle school!
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I was thinking about loose and lose and I think part of the problem is that "lose" is not pronounced the same as other "ose" words...
dose, hose, nose, pose, rose --> all have a long o sound while lose has the same oo sound of "choose" or "booze" or the u sound of "muse"
I think it would be better to spell lose either: luse or luze or looze.
My 2 cents.
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English is a very hard language to learn when it comes to pronounciation and spelling. It's grammar however is not as hard as Spanish grammar, IMO. Spanish grammar is quite difficult, partly because we have two verbs to be (ser and estar), gender (el , la) and too many adverbs. There's also the accents rules. But when it comes to pronounciation and spelling we keep it simple. Words are spelled exactly as they are pronounced. We have only five standard sounds for vowels. Sometimes, I don't understand the logic of English pronounciation and spelling. For example the word through. Seven letters just to pronounce three. In Spanish, it'll be something like "tru".
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English is a very hard language to learn when it comes to pronounciation and spelling. It's grammar however is not as hard as Spanish grammar, IMO. Spanish grammar is quite difficult, partly because we have two verbs to be (ser and estar), gender (el , la) and too many adverbs. There's also the accents rules. But when it comes to pronounciation and spelling we keep it simple. Words are spelled exactly as they are pronounced. We have only five standard sounds for vowels. Sometimes, I don't understand the logic of English pronounciation and spelling. For example the word through. Seven letters just to pronounce three. In Spanish, it'll be something like "tru".
through is throo (that would be the phonetic spelling)
But you are right. Think of "tough" and "rough." Why isn't "stuff" spelled "stough"? (and looking at "stough" I would pronounce it "sto" with a long o). Or the other words should be spelled tuff and ruff?
This is the reason why we had to memorize spelling words all through elementary school!
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Here's a few more, Susie!
Bonnet = Hood (the cover over the engine of a car)
Petrol = Gas
Tyre = Tire
Windscreen = Windshield
Engaged = Busy
That's another one Alex did to me! :laugh: I've been having these terrible headaches, and Alex was trying to call my doctor to make an appointment. He would dial and then hang up and tell me their phone was "engaged".
Huh? ???
:laugh: :laugh:
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When you made that statement, I could just visualize the two phones looking at (rings, of the diamond
, variety_) ???
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Yeah, the English language is weird. Like with the word "limb". Why is the b silent? And then, if you add a "c" (climb) the "i" becomes long! Why? This shatters all the rules of English phonetics.
Check these out!
Tough (tuf)
Trough (troff)
Though (thoe) add an h, and you get a long O sound.
Through (throo) stick an r in it, and the diphthong sound changes again! Why?
Thought (thawt)
If we replace the "t" with a "b" we get bough (bow)
Huh? ???
Maybe it's because the English language has borrowed so many words from other languages. Do you think? That's the only explanation I can come up with! :D
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Hehehe! I didn't realise that you don't use the word "Engaged" when referring to a busy line ... I thought everybody did! And talking of cars, we say "boot", you say "trunk": we say "lorry", you say "truck"!
And what about men's .... em .... doodars?? We often refer the them as his "Meat and two Veg" or his "Lunchbox"!! (http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/4/4_11_4.gif)
And what ever you do, don't comment on a British woman's "fanny" or you'll get a swift kick in the goolies!! :o
Susie (http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/11/11_1_201.gif)
I found out about that one the hard way.... well sort of. I once told Alex it was time to get his fanny in bed, and he gave me a weird look. :laugh:
I had NO idea! Over here, fanny means "bottom" or "butt". My MOTHER talked about my "fanny" when I was 3 years old, for God's sake!!
:laugh: :laugh:
Fanny is a very non offensive word over here. But say it to a British person and you nearly get your ass kicked for it! ;) ;) :D
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Hehehe! Oh yeah!!
(for those of you who are wondering what we're on about .... if you refer to a woman's fanny, you may think you're talking about her bottom, but in the UK, you're referring to bits around the front, not the back!!! )
Susie (http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/11/11_1_201.gif)
Yeah. And just imagine how bad it is if you tell a British guy to get HIS fanny up to bed!
It ain't a pretty sight. Trust me!
They don't like it much. :P
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:laugh: Poor Alex!!
I remember telling my American co-worker to "Shut your gob" once. "What's a gob?" was her reply, she looked horrified, thought I was being obscene or something.
Susie (http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/11/11_1_201.gif)
What?? POOR ALEX?
Poor David!!
He almost KILLED me! :laugh:
He was mean to me. ;) :D
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What?? POOR ALEX?
Poor David!!
He almost KILLED me! :laugh:
He was mean to me. ;) :D
oh yeah, I can just imagine how he 'punished' your impudence.... 8) 8) ;)
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I have a newsticker scrolling across the top of the screen. They put up a little of everything but if something newsworthy happens they stick it in there too.
now to me, a NEWSTICKER chould put up things that happened recently.
instead they keep repeating crap from a month ago....not all of it...just bits mixed in. Like they keep repeating over and over a story about some football player faking an injury to keep from getting cut from the team. Has nothing else happened in football since then? Shouldn't there be a time limit on how long you run a 'news story' on a newsticker??
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ok little gripe...heck, I been griping all over the place...ran off all my friends
might as well go all the way and gripe here too!
My mother is on disability. She insists on buying the cheapest crap she can find...although we give her money and we have EXCELLENT beef for her to eat...
She went somewhere...I don't EVEN know WHERE in the world...and bought a frozen tray of sliced turkey and gravy. She is INSISTANT that I come eat that with her. I have avoided it as long as I can. My stomach is turning just THINKING about trying to eat this off brand offal. Why?? Why does she INSIST that I be the one to come eat it??
I called her and told her I would come over and cook her a good homemade meal this evening....she said no...we HAVE to eat that dang turkey to get it out of her freezer...I should have snuck over there and thrown it away while she was at my sisters!! :P :P :P
I know it is going to be awful...and I just don't believe in eating stuff that you don't like...we eat too much junk anyway in this country. Why eat stuff you don't want?? That is wasted calories..ARGH!!
(I know...petty but oh my god I am dreading going over. I guess I will just look at it as taking medicine. And she wonders why I am so reluctant to spend time with her)
bet you anything she bought it at the Dollar Store. If I get sick I am gonna be P*****off...
hmmm....refuse to eat it and watch her cry or eat it and puke....decisions decisions...
I have too much stress in my life for this kinda crap...
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Just eat some of the side dishes, cut the turkey up and push it around---is there a dog? When she's not looking--slip it to the dog. That kinda makes me sick too, Jess.
My granny would get these little hams that were in tins shaped like the ham--you know the ones I mean? I would never eat it. She would try to cajole me into it, but I didn't. I wasn't a picky eater, but I had to draw the line at those!! LOL
Your mom live thru the depression? I think that's why my granny saved leftovers for TOO long--and she ironed wrapping paper.
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Just eat some of the side dishes, cut the turkey up and push it around---is there a dog? When she's not looking--slip it to the dog. That kinda makes me sick too, Jess.
My granny would get these little hams that were in tins shaped like the ham--you know the ones I mean? I would never eat it. She would try to cajole me into it, but I didn't. I wasn't a picky eater, but I had to draw the line at those!! LOL
Your mom live thru the depression? I think that's why my granny saved leftovers for TOO long--and she ironed wrapping paper.
Shasta....there will be no side dishes....she thinks that is a whole meal!!
I think I will open some beans or something....lort anything to help...
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Shasta....there will be no side dishes....she thinks that is a whole meal!!
I think I will open some beans or something....lort anything to help...
LOL--you can bring the dessert Jess--something so yummy that ya'll can't wait to get to it!
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I can't figure out the playlist for the ice cream vendor in my new neighborhood. I almost couldn't believe it when I heard the tinkly little bells playing "Greensleeves" to lure children out to buy icecream.
Greensleeves?
But it got more bizarre today when the truck came around playing "It's Now or Never" - Elvis Icecream truck?
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the other gripe of the day (ok ONE of the other gripeS of the day)
I have been working more than usual the past couple of weeks. 'Boneyfingers' has had a sick family member.
The process is. Money comes in. I count it. Record the sales on a sheet of paper. Add the sheet up and compare to the amount of money I send to the bank.
then I give it to ol fingers and she enters it into a sales report on the computer and into an accounting program on a P&L report. This has to be done everyday and it all has to match.
My figures. Her sales report. P&L.
Last Wed (a week ago...ten days) she was off $50. well, she had to go so she said she would look at it the next day....ok...now we are one day behind.
she comes in the next day....we are OVER...we are SHORT....we are Over again...we are short again...
finally eight hours later she decides I have made a $18 mistake. I am confused as how I could have made a mistake when my figures balanced when I handed her the paperwork!! and she says herself that my figures match up.."You just did something, it is easy to do"...
ok. Now we are two days behind.
but she still won't move on...she is going to find that $18!!
Three days behind...
Four days behind...
now we are TEN days behind in recording our sales. I went to the boss and told him..'the longer this goes on the WORSE it is going to be...write OFF the $18 and move on..." That is when I discover that she is now saying we are over a THOUSAND dollars short!!!!!!
A THOUSAND!!
how?? how can we go from an $18 shortage to over a thousand dollars! I went ballistic!
I told the boss I had been keeping each day seperated...so we could balance EACH day by itself...Boney came tearing in there and got all my paperwork and mixed it all up...there is no way to fix it now. I could scream. He said we were gonna have to have a meeting tomorrow and it is GOING to be straightened out.
I am SO looking forward to going to work tomorrow. Boneyfingers is their god's gift to the world...they believe anything she says.
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OMG--I got stressed out just reading that!!! You must have nerves of steel, Jess. I can see why you need a break today and don't look forward to work tomorrow! You need hugs and a vacation!
Here's a hug:
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Sorry--I have no vacations handy at the present time! :P
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OMG--I got stressed out just reading that!!! You must have nerves of steel, Jess. I can see why you need a break today and don't look forward to work tomorrow! You need hugs and a vacation!
Here's a hug:
(http://i183.photobucket.com/albums/x221/Shasta542/HUGS-1.gif)
Sorry--I have no vacations handy at the present time! :P
no vacation in the tropics??
Thank you for the hugs...I NEEDED that... ;)
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Killed.
No, I'm not tripping out here. Please bear with me.
I think it's probably the most awful word in the English language. How many of you pay attention to the news crawl on CNN? Have you noticed how often that word appears on there?
55 Iraqi civilians were killed.....
7 US soldiers were killed....
7 Coalition soldiers were killed....
15 insurgents were killed.....
10 Taliban fighters were killed....
It seems to be a very popular word in the 21st century. We see it/hear it all the time. All this death and destruction.
Kill. Killed. Kills. Killing.
I hate that word. :'( >:(
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Kelda, I loved that "Twist of a Bitch" video. I hope you don't mind, I posted it over at "Jake Jake Jake".
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go ahead!!!
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mhhhhhhhhhhhhmmmmm!!
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What's up with all these weird toothpaste flavors these days? Flavors like Lemon-Cherry, Tropical Banana and Mango Mint.
It's like brushing your teeth with pudding.
YUCK! :P
I guess I wasn't paying attention and I accidentally bought a tube of toothpaste called "Paradise Fresh". It tastes like a strange mixture of papaya, mint and perfume.
Does anyone actually buy crap like that on purpose? ???
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there are five million pens in this house and not a ONE that WRITES!!!
DAMN it!
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What's up with all these weird toothpaste flavors these days? Flavors like Lemon-Cherry, Tropical Banana and Mango Mint.
It's like brushing your teeth with pudding.
YUCK! :P
I guess I wasn't paying attention and I accidentally bought a tube of toothpaste called "Paradise Fresh". It tastes like a strange mixture of papaya, mint and perfume.
Does anyone actually buy crap like that on purpose? ???
Plain old Colgate for me.. I CANT tolerate all those new tastes.....Its like David says puddin in a tube. Yukk
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there are five million pens in this house and not a ONE that WRITES!!!
DAMN it!
:laugh: :laugh:
I have the same problem Jess. Where do they all come from? They must all get together at night and mate with each other. It's like the Broken Pen Fairy came to my house and did a drive-by. And I don't know about you, but I have dozens of pencils with their erasers missing. ARRGHHHH!! Where do all those erasers go? Do they just fall off? And if so, how come I never find any of them on the floor? I think they just vanish into thin air!
Or the erasers are all dried up and as hard as a rock. That makes me mad too! >:(
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Check your dust buster for the erasers--or Cody! Do you all have the missing sock mystery too? I have a ton of mateless socks, and I am NOT above wearing non-mates!! ;D :)
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Check your dust buster for the erasers--or Cody! Do you all have the missing sock mystery too? I have a ton of mateless socks, and I am NOT above wearing non-mates!! ;D :)
Oh I don't think Cody would be eating the erasers. He's not that nimble. The cat maybe, but not Cody. Now, Cody LOVES to chew electrical plugs. I can't leave anything with a plug laying around because he'll find it and chew it up. He chewed the plug to the vacuum a few weeks ago, and I got shocked when I plugged it in. >:(
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Check your dust buster for the erasers--or Cody! Do you all have the missing sock mystery too? I have a ton of mateless socks, and I am NOT above wearing non-mates!! ;D :)
I have worn mismatched socks... ;D ;D
;D
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Check your dust buster for the erasers--or Cody! Do you all have the missing sock mystery too? I have a ton of mateless socks, and I am NOT above wearing non-mates!! ;D :)
Oh I hate it when one of my socks goes missing! Sometimes they will cling to the top of the dryer barrel, but I keep a very close eye on all my socks. I always bundle my socks together. I place one on top of the other, and then pull the opening of the sock over the other one, so they can't get away! :)
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Plain old Colgate for me.. I CANT tolerate all those new tastes.....Its like David says puddin in a tube. Yukk
and another toothpaste gripe...
why is it they have to change stuff up? I like Close Up red gel. That is it, simple..red package..... BUT NO!! you go to the store and you have to PSYHCOANALYSE every single different Close Up to see how they have changed up the packaging to find the one you want! or try to guess what the 'NEW IMPROVED" name of the same old flavor is.
grrrr!
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Something else that bugs me is the ONE shoe laying on the side of the road. It doesn't really bug me. It just makes me wonder about people. Why ONE shoe? What happened? Did somebody take off one of their shoes, leave it there and then continue walking down the road? That seems strange, doesn't it? Sometimes I think people throw a shoe out the car window as a joke, just to give everyone else something to think about.
I've always wondered about the one shoe on the street. Talk about a mystery! ???
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okay, now you have me wondering. I saw one near my office down in Melbourne... a woman's shoe. It looked expensive. I wondered if the other had been flung in a bush and she just discarded the shoes... but there it was. One shoe.
Edit:
I found a hilarious website article devoted to the Lone Shoe!!!!
http://www.straightdope.com/classics/a3_124b.html
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okay, now you have me wondering. I saw one near my office down in Melbourne... a woman's shoe. It looked expensive. I wondered if the other had been flung in a bush and she just discarded the shoes... but there it was. One shoe.
Edit:
I found a hilarious website article devoted to the Lone Shoe!!!!
http://www.straightdope.com/classics/a3_124b.html
Now that one really makes me curious. Why would someone toss an expenisve shoe into a bush? That doesn't make any sense even if it was a joke. Either this person was extremely wealthy, or totally off their rocker. :-\
.... or BOTH! :laugh:
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Quite a few years ago, when my son Lance was about three, my husband and I were driving near our home and I was musing out loud about the lone shoe on the road phenomenon. As I said this, I pointed to a boot I spotted. Then, as I looked at the boot, I said, "That looks awfully familiar." My husband slammed on the brakes and said, "That's Lance's boot!" It turned out, the day before when he picked him up at day care, he put Lance's boots on the roof as he buckled Lance into his car seat. We actually retraced the route to the day care and found Lance's second boot. The thing that was surprising was that the boot that I saw, which would have been the second boot to fly off the roof, had managed to stay on the roof for a three mile journey from the day care to (almost) our house.
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My day began 12 hours ago as I set out, early (or so I thought) to London Heathrow to catch a flight to Athens. Two and a half hours of stop and go traffic and a reaaaallly sore foot later (thank god my clutch foot is the good foot!) I managed to get to my flight in time, but on the way, I was musing over the Lone Shoe phenomenon and... you guessed it... I saw a Lone Shoe on the shoulder.
These things are everywhere!
And that is a very spooky story, Leslie!
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In my town, back when we had our own policeman, he was so old he lost a leg to diabetes and kept on working. Later his son lost the opposite leg in a car wreck. The joke alaways was they could no share a pair of shoes. I don;t know they ever did. ::)
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Speaking of shoes, some people here in Indy (I think they're kids.... I HOPE they're kids) have a strange habit of tying a pair of shoes together and then tossing them up over power lines. Every so often, I will drive past dangling shoes, and I have no idea what it's supposed to mean. They've been doing it for years, and it really looks ugly and terrible. Perhaps it's some sort of gang sign or something. Normally they are a pair of tennis shoes (sneakers), often of a bright color such as red or blue. I saw a pair dangling up near a traffic signal yesterday on my way to the airport. It's ridiculous looking. :P
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Wasn't it the movie Big Fish that had a whole thing about shoes up in the utility wires?
And then there was the movie The Tree of the Wooden Clogs....
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The way I hear it, running shoes hanging from power or telephone lines, are usually found at intersections, or at least on significantly busy streets. They are apparently advertisement for drug dealers. They say "We sell drugs here." and I have no reason to doubt it!
Not aware of any gangs in my neighbourhood (but what do I know), but I DO know that drugs are sold in my neighbourhood.
Hate passing by the runners hanging 2 blocks away, but they're WAAAY up there - can't be easily to remove em!
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well DON"T try! would get yourself electrocuted!!
here is my gripe for the day...
my job.
I make up sales reports daily for a small company. There is a lady that enters them into the computer and makes sure the computer matches my report. (now...the computer only has what she enters OFF the reports...so they should always balance unless she enters them incorrectly)
well a month ago she messed up. first we were over...then we were under....it is going on three weeks now and today I went out there and she is taking the reports I made and cutting them up and taping them together....now how will she know which sales go with what days?? I think she has lost her mind.
someone needs to STOP her! before I shoot her myself!!
>:( >:(
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Why the hell is she cutting up reports and then taping them back together? ???
Is she nuts? That doesn't make ANY sense Jess. I would find that very frustrating too. >:(
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Why the hell is she cutting up reports and then taping them back together? ???
Is she nuts? That doesn't make ANY sense Jess. I would find that very frustrating too. >:(
that is what the receptionist said...she came in there where I was and said.."JESS! She has lost her mind! go look!"
I coulda screamed!
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that is what the receptionist said...she came in there where I was and said.."JESS! She has lost her mind! go look!"
I coulda screamed!
I sure do hope her medical insurance is up to date, because I think she needs to go see a shrink! ::)
Good Lord! They need to do something about her. She's not acting right. It's not normal to shred up company reports and then try to tape them back together.
[[[Jess]]] You poor baby! :( :-*
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I miss DEL!
(ok that wasn't a bitch...but still!) >:( >:(
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where the &%&^%# is she!!??
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took my mother to the doctor today.
45 minute drive.
"You drive too fast"
"You drive too slow"
"You drive too close to the center line"
"You don't watch the road, do you?"
"You never look ahead"
"You change lanes too much"
"You need to change lanes...don't you see those trucks in front of you?"
"You drive like you're drunk"
"I am surprised you don't get tickets"
I bought a Coke...drank what I wanted...."You WASTED that Coke, knucklehead!"
I found a drivers license on the ground yesterday...meant to drop it in a mailbox when I saw one...she spotted it. Snatched it up."WHO is THIS!!"
(ya got me mom...I am having an affair with a teenage AfricanAmerican boy... ::))
"I found it on the ground"
"Well, you should have left it on the ground! if the cops stop you they will think you stole it!"
I didn't say a word, snatched it out of her hand, rolled down the window and flung it out. ;D BAD Jess...
OY!!!
I need a drink....
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You are the best Jess to sit and listen to that...I wouldnt have..bout the third or fourth I would have said simply, I cant think while I drive, if you are ragging on me all the time..You are going to cause me to get in an accident.. Maybe you should get a cab next time.
I am sorry ungrateful and complaining at the same time...yuk.....I have a lot of patience, but that would be over the top... you are much better person than me i am afraid.
You don't have to take that from anyone. Even your mother...she is disrespecting you, and you dont have to allow it... Just tell her you may get her a ride on a cab or a shuttle bus from now on...maybe that will shut her up....
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where the &%&^%# is she!!??
I believe on a trip to France.
L
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You are the best Jess to sit and listen to that...I wouldnt have..bout the third or fourth I would have said simply, I can think while I drive, if you are ragging on me all the time..You are going to cause me to get in an accident.. Maybe you should get a cab next time.
I am sorry ungrateful and complaining at the same time...yuk.....I have a lot of patience, but that would be over the top... you are much better person than me i am afraid.
You don't have to take that from anyone. Even your mother...she is disrespecting you, and you dont have to allow it... Just tell her you may get her a ride on a cab or a shuttle bus from now on...maybe that will shut her up....
I realized after that rant....she shut up after I flung that guys license out the window...NEXT time as soon as she gets in I am gonna fling something out... :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
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Does your power sometimes go out for absolutely no reason at all?
It seems like we lose our electricity every time a flea farts. Tonight it went out, but it was because of a lightening strike. That makes sense. And it came on again about 10 minutes later. But it got me to thinking about it. Sometimes the electricity will go out when it's perfectly sunny and calm outside. I never could understand why that happens! >:(
It's irritating.
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fleas fart?
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Jess... About the third one of those gripes... I would have stopped the car. I would have explained to her her comments are in no way helpfull. If she don't feel safe with you driving, you could take her back home. Then she could get another appointment with the doctor, and have your sister take her to the doc.
Jess... enough is enough... She is only going to keep this kind of stupid vicious nonsense up just so long as you let her. I had this out with my parents twenty years back. I told them if they couldn't at least be civil to me as they would any stranger, they didn't need to bother to ever try and get in contact with me ever again. Took about three months for mom to call again. We aren't what I would call a loving family, but at least we are somewhat politer with one another. And amazingly, in the last year, we have even got around to telling one another we love each other. Mom even occasionally hugs me now and again. Imagine that!
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Jess... About the third one of those gripes... I would have stopped the car. I would have explained to her her comments are in no way helpfull. If she don't feel safe with you driving, you could take her back home. Then she could get another appointment with the doctor, and have your sister take her to the doc.
Jess... enough is enough... She is only going to keep this kind of stupid vicious nonsense up just so long as you let her. I had this out with my parents twenty years back. I told them if they couldn't at least be civil to me as they would any stranger, they didn't need to bother to ever try and get in contact with me ever again. Took about three months for mom to call again. We aren't what I would call a loving family, but at least we are somewhat politer with one another. And amazingly, in the last year, we have even got around to telling one another we love each other. Mom even occasionally hugs me now and again. Imagine that!
I have said this about my sister. What is it about people that makes them think manners are only something you use on people outside the family?? One of the main reasons we have manners is to make life pleasant for the people around us! and since family is around all the time I would think you would want them to be happy to be around you... ::)
I went a year one time not speaking to my mother. And she was MUCH better afterwards...but it is wearing off again. May have to do that again. It didn't stick like it did for your mom...maybe because I didn't lay it out BEFORE I stopped talking, I just walked out. Next time I need to tell her specifically why I am going so she can't rationalize it as something else....(like some problem I have instead of her rudeness that is causing the rift)
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Front seat drivers !!!!
A once lady passenger was chatting away while I tried to concentrate on heavy traffic.
"Did you hear what I was saying?"
'Ummm, no, sorry, was concentrating on driving.'
"Hmmmmph".
Short silence until chatter recommenced. Listened attentively this time.
Stopped at an intersection, waiting for the traffic to clear in order to turn, still listening.
"You could have turned then. Why didn't you turn?"
'But .. but ... I was listening to you!' :-\ :-\
Concluded 3 things.
Men don't multi-task as well as women do.
Some men seem to spend much of their life trying to understand women.
Women seem to sometimes not care if they don't understand men.
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No David I dont have those kinds of power outages. We have lived in this house now going on 11 years, we have only had a power outage one time...Somone had hit a power pole, and they had to turn the power off to repaid the damage. It was only off for about two hours...so no, sorry
Sounds like they have issues....
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Front seat drivers !!!!
Front seat drivers are the WORST!
>:( >:(
My roommate is a front seat driver. I've actually pulled my car over to the side of the road and got out because he's been so bad about it. I just feel like if he thinks he can do it better, then he can get his ass up, and trade places with me. If not, SHUT UP!! >:(
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And Jess, I totally sympathize with you about the parent thing. I was driving my dad to an appointment earlier today, and we needed to put some gas in the car. Instead of turning into one of the filling stations in front of us, he wanted me to drive 3 miles out of the way so he could save 5 cents a gallon.
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Mothers, who invite you to have sunday dinner with them at a resturant and don;t tell you they are bringing along your least favorite busy body Aent and you see them as you come in the door and it is too late, AND THEN:
Two days later calls you late in the day when you are busy as hell wanting you to come eat at her house with more relatives! I am gone go over there and tell them I am not hungry.
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Relative schmelatives... I had someone ask me yesterday if my family ever gave me any grief....I said yeah,,their family after all....its their job...I wish it was funny, but its truly not...
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I think Garry had the right idea...I want my relatives to treat me like they do strangers...they are NICE to them...
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I love my relatives, but I try to avoid visiting most of them at all costs. They stress me out too much. :P
Santa Claus has the right idea. Visit people only once a year.
-- Victor Borge
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I don't know where to post this but....
I have been having troubles at work. (some of ya'll might be familiar...)
anyway...it has been the week from heck!
This morning? everything is ok...everyone is happy....laughing, chatting....
the police came at 9:30 and arrested our receptionist!!!!
:o :o :o
I mean REALLY!!?? I haven't worked that long...does this happen pretty often? I would die DEAD if I got arrested...let alone at WORK!
They searched her car and then came back and impounded it....
I don't know if she is ever coming back....don't know what is going on...
she has two kids...
I was thinking...I gripe a lot..but at least my life is not THAT hard!
sheesh!
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I don't know where to post this but....
I have been having troubles at work. (some of ya'll might be familiar...)
anyway...it has been the week from heck!
This morning? everything is ok...everyone is happy....laughing, chatting....
the police came at 9:30 and arrested our receptionist!!!!
:o :o :o
I mean REALLY!!?? I haven't worked that long...does this happen pretty often? I would die DEAD if I got arrested...let alone at WORK!
They searched her car and then came back and impounded it....
I don't know if she is ever coming back....don't know what is going on...
she has two kids...
I was thinking...I gripe a lot..but at least my life is not THAT hard!
sheesh!
OMG, Jess!!! Nope--no one has ever been arrested at my job--at least not while we were at work. That is wild! And it would have to happen on a good happy day!
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What an awful thing to witness! Gives new meaning to "stress in the workplace"! Well, at least nobody came and opened fire, postal style, on the employees!!
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well she IS going through a messy divorce ...she went to court yesterday and the judge refused to grant her one...
so we thought maybe her husband made a complaint of some kind...
I AM glad he didn't come in there with a gun, Lee!
sheesh! (again)
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I never heard of a judge refusing to allow a divorce. Wow they must really do things different in Texas....
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she said he wanted them to go to couples counseling...but who knows? She may have gone to court for some other reason. We still have not heard from her...
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I don't know if this is the correct place to put this, but it seems as good a place as any.
My channels are stuck! First CNN got stuck, then CNN Headline News. Next the Sci-Fi channel got stuck, along with the Comedy channel, Discovery Channel, Animal Planet, USA, Travel Channel.... ect, ect, ect....
Is anyone else's channels stuck/frozen? God, what's going on here! It's been like this for about an hour. I'm turning of the TV and taking a walk! ::) :laugh:
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I don't know if this is the correct place to put this, but it seems as good a place as any.
My channels are stuck! First CNN got stuck, then CNN Headline News. Next the Sci-Fi channel got stuck, along with the Comedy channel, Discovery Channel, Animal Planet, USA, Travel Channel.... ect, ect, ect....
Is anyone else's channels stuck/frozen? God, what's going on here! It's been like this for about an hour. I'm turning of the TV and taking a walk! ::) :laugh:
Well, I have been driving all day, not watching TV, so I have no idea what my channels are doing...but...when I have problems and call the cable company, the first thing they tell me is to unplug the cable box, wait 30-60 seconds, and then plug it in again. Often a reset will solve the problem.
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You could try wiggling the aerial plug, or just throw the TV out of the window .. it still won't work but you'll feel so much better!! (http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/7/7_17_3.gif)
Susie (http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/11/11_1_201.gif)
Hi Susie! I don't think I have an aerial plug. I considered throwing the TV out the window though! ;)
I think it's a problem with Comcast (the cable TV company) and the satellites. The channels were all tuning in properly, but they were frozen with a still picture. This went on for about an hour on probably 15 different channels. Like I said, it was probably a satellite problem. Who knows? Anyhow, it's working now. So they fixed what ever it was that was causing it. :)
But the reason I asked the question is because I was wondering if this was something others were experiencing throughout the country or just here in Indianapolis. From the looks of things, it must have just been ocurring here in Indiana.
Still, it was quite annoying! :laugh:
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..... or maybe you've just worn it out with all those Everybody Loves Raymond repeats!! ;D
:laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
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the police came at 9:30 and arrested our receptionist!!!!
:o :o :o
I mean REALLY!!?? I haven't worked that long...does this happen pretty often? I would die DEAD if I got arrested...let alone at WORK!
They searched her car and then came back and impounded it....
I don't know if she is ever coming back....don't know what is going on...
she has two kids...
I was thinking...I gripe a lot..but at least my life is not THAT hard!
sheesh!
That's pretty exciting actually, though I'm not sure that's something to bitch about:
[whiney voice] "I hate my job! They just keep arresting employees here!" [/whiney voice off] :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
We had one employee disappear after a happy hour for a few days. Turned out he'd been picked up for DUI and was in the pokey.
He had to really grovel to the judge stay out of prison - it was his second offense. He managed to talk his way into community service, car breathalyzer tester and probation.
Whenever we used to go out to lunch, he'd drive and we got used to his breathing into his breathalyzer.
Another employee at another job - this is bizarre - showed up early for work, after an hour or so, went down to the lobby and used the company ATM machine (I used to work for the largest mortgage banker in the U.S., we had a lot of perks), then disappeared. The next time anyone saw him, he was found in a motel room, tied up, in his boxer shorts, hanging from a noose tied to the ceiling, dead.
Murder? Adventurous sex gone wrong?
We never found out. All we knew is that his wife got the hell out of Dodge a week later and never came back.
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That's pretty exciting actually, though I'm not sure that's something to bitch about:
[whiney voice] "I hate my job! They just keep arresting employees here!" [/whiney voice off] :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
We had one employee disappear after a happy hour for a few days. Turned out he'd been picked up for DUI and was in the pokey.
He had to really grovel to the judge stay out of prison - it was his second offense. He managed to talk his way into community service, car breathalyzer tester and probation.
Whenever we used to go out to lunch, he'd drive and we got used to his breathing into his breathalyzer.
Another employee at another job - this is bizarre - showed up early for work, after an hour or so, went down to the lobby and used the company ATM machine (I used to work for the largest mortgage banker in the U.S., we had a lot of perks), then disappeared. The next time anyone saw him, he was found in a motel room, tied up, in his boxer shorts, hanging from a noose tied to the ceiling, dead.
Murder? Adventurous sex gone wrong?
We never found out. All we knew is that his wife got the hell out of Dodge a week later and never came back.
I don't know why but that just kills me! :laugh: :laugh:
just all casual...happens every day...I have lots of friends that have to breath into tubes to make their cars go... ::) ::)
well how about this for a gripe??
at what age do you stop caring and just dig wedgies outta your drawers in front of God and everyone? and when does cleaning out your nose become public behaviour????
ol Boney fingers does both...and let me tell you, it ain't no quick job...she is in there digging for gold I think...
(welcome back, Del!!) ;D ;D
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I don't know why but that just kills me! :laugh: :laugh:
just all casual...happens every day...I have lots of friends that have to breath into tubes to make their cars go... ::) ::)
Human beings are wonderfully adaptive. Secret to our success as a species. ;D
well how about this for a gripe??
at what age do you stop caring and just dig wedgies outta your drawers in front of God and everyone? and when does cleaning out your nose become public behaviour????
ol Boney fingers does both...and let me tell you, it ain't no quick job...she is in there digging for gold I think...
(welcome back, Del!!) ;D ;D
Heh, I bellieve at some age, people get old enough to be treated as invisible. No one notices or cares much about older people and they have long stopped caring about what anyone else around them thinks. So they clean house, above and below, talk to themselves, fail to care much about personal hygiene, preferring their own personal effluvia...go figure.
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Human beings are wonderfully adaptive. Secret to our success as a species. ;D
Heh, I bellieve at some age, people get old enough to be treated as invisible. No one notices or cares much about older people and they have long stopped caring about what anyone else around them thinks. So they clean house, above and below, talk to themselves, fail to care much about personal hygiene, preferring their own personal effluvia...go figure.
well she is grossing me out!!
>:( >:( >:(
I never know where to look!
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nice to see you back around dev - how was Paris?
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Heh, I bellieve at some age, people get old enough to be treated as invisible. No one notices or cares much about older people and they have long stopped caring about what anyone else around them thinks. So they clean house, above and below, talk to themselves, fail to care much about personal hygiene, preferring their own personal effluvia...go figure.
Some older folks, if they didn't talk to themselves, they'd have nobody to talk to at all. ... :-\ :(
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nice to see you back around dev - how was Paris?
Thanks. I'll be updating my 'American Girl in Paris' thread soon.
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Some older folks, if they didn't talk to themselves, they'd have nobody to talk to at all. ... :-\ :(
Very true and sad. We have a whole generation - or more - brought up on 6 second image change commercials and hundred-channel surfing remote controls. Who has been raised with the patience to speak to elder folks and actually sit and listen?
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Very true and sad. We have a whole generation - or more - brought up on 6 second image change commercials and hundred-channel surfing remote controls. Who has been raised with the patience to speak to elder folks and actually sit and listen?
I LOVE older people! I love to sit down and talk with them. I've always gotten along with older people very well. They always seem to like me too. I can sit there and chat with them for hours. :)
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I LOVE older people! I love to sit down and talk with them. I've always gotten along with older people very well. They always seem to like me too. I can sit there and chat with them for hours. :)
Me too! I was raised by older people (my grandparents) so we hung with an older crowd, too -- their sisters and brothers. ;)
I like that old guy in the dr. office on "Rainman" -- he just keeps on talkin' about the Pony Express, no matter what. :laugh:
I'm getting to BE an older person, so I appreciate the younger ones who listen now, too. ;D
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I LOVE older people! I love to sit down and talk with them. I've always gotten along with older people very well. They always seem to like me too. I can sit there and chat with them for hours. :)
EVERYBODY likes you!
but let me tell you....when you are standing there talking to someone that has their finger up their nose past the second knuckle....
well let me just say it makes me VERY uncomfortable!
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oh my eyes Jess, that visual is very gross............ ;D
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I can definitely sympathize with older people and their stories.
Though I am not close to being an old person, I'm starting to see where their long-windedness and stories come from.
When you're a young person and you or your friends have a new experience, it's likely no one else can relate, so you/your friend tells this exciting story of some event and everyone else pays attention, rapt, and their reply is like,
"Oh wow, that's cool."
And then they ask you more about your experience because they have none of their own to share.
However, as you get older, if someone tells of an experience, invariably someone else can now relate because they or someone close to them has had a similar experience. Now the story-telling starts to build.
"Oh wow, that's cool. Reminds me of this story/my adventure in..."
And life's experiences just pile this on until you're some old geezer, sitting in a cafe somewhere, going
"That reminds me of the time, back in the day, that..." and the recollections can last hours.
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You ever hear a little kid tell a story? They give you EVER excruciating detail..."There was a dog...he was brown, and he was dirty and he didn't have a collar and my friend was playing on the swing set and....and ....and" and at the end the story had NOTHING to do with the dog or the friend?
I guess when you are really young you assume since it is new to you, it is new to everyone...then you go thru the period Del was talking about when you are a certain age...
then you are off to being the ol geezer...
the circle of life!!
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(and none of us are gonna escape it....so be prepared and bring a tissue!!)
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oh my eyes Jess, that visual is very gross............ ;D
It's very gross looking to me too Janice! :P
Yuck.
Jess, I completely sympathize with you here. :)
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Bitch of the Day:
Sadistic food servers.
I just ran over to my local Central Market deli to pick up some lunch and dinner and on my way out, laden with my purse and grocery bag, noticed a gelato stand - and now that I'm free to get ill at my leisure, unlike a recent trip (more on that later in my "Girl in Paris" thread) - decided to stop and get a small cone.
I never carry cash, I always pay with debit card.
So while the transaction is going on, it is very obvious I'm struggling to pay electornically with one hand, inputting my info, etc while carrying my stuff in the other. The guy just stands there with my cone, looking at me.
Then the moron hands me my cone in my only free hand while I fumbled to put my wallet away. It starts dripping on my hand. I give him a helpless look,
"Napkins?"
"On the counter." And he just turns and walks away.
Shithead. >:( >:( >:(
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oh that STINKS! was it a GOOD cone though??
at least??
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Bitch of the Day:
Sadistic food servers.
I just ran over to my local Central Market deli to pick up some lunch and dinner and on my way out, laden with my purse and grocery bag, noticed a gelato stand - and now that I'm free to get ill at my leisure, unlike a recent trip (more on that later in my "Girl in Paris" thread) - decided to stop and get a small cone.
I never carry cash, I always pay with debit card.
So while the transaction is going on, it is very obvious I'm struggling to pay electornically with one hand, inputting my info, etc while carrying my stuff in the other. The guy just stands there with my cone, looking at me.
Then the moron hands me my cone in my only free hand while I fumbled to put my wallet away. It starts dripping on my hand. I give him a helpless look,
"Napkins?"
"On the counter." And he just turns and walks away.
Shithead. >:( >:( >:(
I'm a little confused. How is it the server's fault that you didnt set your packages down before ordering an ice cream cone?
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Generally in this thread we don't do analysis...the nature of a B**** is that it is just a personal irritation.
Think Pet Peeves...
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I'm a little confused. How is it the server's fault that you didnt set your packages down before ordering an ice cream cone?
I wasn't holding my packages, I was holding onto my purse and the cart containing my paid-for groceries, since if you live in some parts of town, can take a quick hike when you're not paying attention. The counter wasn't big enough to set my purse down in front of me like I normally do, so I had my purse dangling through my left arm, my left hand on my cart, my right hand holding my wallet and trying to work the debit card machine, put my card back in my wallet, then in my purse, while the guy is handing me a cone of ice cream. Most places - my first boyfriend used to work at a Baskin Robbins - have a courtesy cone holder. They wrap it with a paper towel and stick it in this holder while the money transaction is being done. Then you can pick it up at your leisure.
Not this place! >:( >:(
Hope that's clearer!
And yes, it was worth it, a nice cinnamon ice-cream (cooking cinnamon, not kid's cinnamon candy)
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And yes, it was worth it, a nice cinnamon ice-cream (cooking cinnamon, not kid's cinnamon candy)
Yum -- that sounds good -- I've never had cinnamon ice-cream.
My bitch for the day is.......I hate when people take off work when they don't need to and I have to do their job and mine. :-\
And.......friends who go on elaborate vacations, buy fancy furniture, and eat out daily, but whine to me that they can't make their house payment. I don't care how they spend their money---just keep it to yourself when you can't pay your bills, especially when you never deny yourself anything. Sorry. I showed little compassion. :P
That's all for now. Thank you for allowing me to vent.
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Yum -- that sounds good -- I've never had cinnamon ice-cream.
My bitch for the day is.......I hate when people take off work when they don't need to and I have to do their job and mine. :-\
And.......friends who go on elaborate vacations, buy fancy furniture, and eat out daily, but whine to me that they can't make their house payment. I don't care how they spend their money---just keep it to yourself when you can't pay your bills, especially when you never deny yourself anything. Sorry. I showed little compassion. :P
That's all for now. Thank you for allowing me to vent.
:laugh:
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And yes, it was worth it, a nice cinnamon ice-cream (cooking cinnamon, not kid's cinnamon candy)
How do you do it? If I eat an ice-cream I immediately get sick (I'm also lactose intolerant) :-\ It's so horrible because I LOOOVE ice-cream, pizza, and cheese. And those lactaid pills do absolutely nothing to me. They did for a while but not anymore. My doctor said it gets worse with time and it was better that I completely cut dairy products off my diet. And I did. I now eat soy made ice-cream. My sister says it's pretty similar to milk ice-cream.
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So sorry Natalie..I know that it must be awful to have food allergies..I have environmental ones, but not
really a bad reaction to any foods.. That sucks..
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Most places - my first boyfriend used to work at a Baskin Robbins - have a courtesy cone holder. They wrap it with a paper towel and stick it in this holder while the money transaction is being done. Then you can pick it up at your leisure.
What a neat idea! I've never seen one of those.
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And.......friends who go on elaborate vacations, buy fancy furniture, and eat out daily, but whine to me that they can't make their house payment. I don't care how they spend their money---just keep it to yourself when you can't pay your bills, especially when you never deny yourself anything. Sorry. I showed little compassion. :P
I can relate to this. I have an acquaintance who has a house here in Philadelphia and his own condominium in Provincetown, Massachusetts, and all he ever does is bitch that he doesn't have any money.
Well ... hello!
I get so sick and tired of hearing about this. One of these days I'm liable to say some things he isn't going to want to hear. :laugh:
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How do you do it? If I eat an ice-cream I immediately get sick (I'm also lactose intolerant) :-\ It's so horrible because I LOOOVE ice-cream, pizza, and cheese.
It's very bizarre. I get sick with lactose products, but different kinds of sick. I drink milk, I get immediate cramps. Cheese and ice-cream, I don't get cramps, I get violently painful projectile runs later. That's why I tend to say "I'm going to live to regret this." :P
And those lactaid pills do absolutely nothing to me. They did for a while but not anymore.
They never did anything for me except give me gas.
My doctor said it gets worse with time and it was better that I completely cut dairy products off my diet. And I did. I now eat soy made ice-cream. My sister says it's pretty similar to milk ice-cream.
I eat soy products from time to time, but seeing as the medical community cannot make up their minds as to whether soy is good or bad for women who have a propensity for breast cancer, I tend not to eat a lot of soy. I'm on a carb-restrictive diet most of the time and my 'miilk' is a low-carb milk product. Essentially a white chemical soup that tastes like milk, but isn't. ;D
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The neighbors next door to us have 3 teenage boys and they decided to try and get "cute" tonight. Their father owns a bunch of very expensive sound equipment, and they climbed up on the roof of their house with a high powered public address system, turned the volume up and started passing gas in it. At first I couldn't figure out what I was listening to. I knew I was hearing flatulence, but I thought maybe it was coming from the television downstairs. But when I walked outside, I could see them up there on the roof, bending over and holding the microphone behind them. It was so loud it was hurting my dog's ears. He would squint his eyes and grimice every time they did it.
After about 10 minutes of putting up with these annoyances, I walked over and asked them to please stop doing it, but they just laughed at me. So I went back home and called the police. Well, needless to say, that was the end of THAT!
How RUDE!! Or as Jar-Jar from Star Wars would say it, HOW WUDE! :laugh:
>:( >:(
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That is probably one of the funnier things ive seen. However I can say it is probably very irritating also.
so you were well within your rights to call the cops....
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(http://i167.photobucket.com/albums/u140/gooseggz/100.gif)...David you certainly have "colorful" neighbors..... (http://i149.photobucket.com/albums/s64/dotEmatrix/beefcake/Beefcake%202/Smilies%20Emoticons%20and%20Avatars/roflmao.gif) ... I would have called it in to after I stopped laughing ;) Gotta admit it was VERY creative. :laugh:
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Heh, just a quick note to let y'all know that a time-waster workaholic fellow employee got the wind taken out of her sails today.
She works long hours during the week - 9 am to 10-11 pm at night. But after the bosses leave at 5 pm, I'm not quite sure how much time she actually works.
I don't stay until 10 pm. No fucking way.
I work a little overtime, and will only work crazy hours when absolutely necessary.
But on a normal day, I stay an hour or two extra, mostly to clean up loose ends a bit better, so my OT hours are strictly dedicated, otherwise, why waste time socializing there when I could just go home?
Anyway, her attitude seems to be when the cat's away, the mice will play. She'll wait for the bosses to go home, then strolls up to my cubical and starts to chitchat about nothing, or comes to talk about a certain case - she doesn't exactly have a question or a problem, it's just something to do so she looks like she's working, but in reality, it's just an excuse to get up and walk around and talk to people - and let the overtime hours rack up.
Hurray for her. But I stayed late so I can finish some things and leave. This habit of hers slows me down because I'm obliged to stop what I'm doing and listen to her - ignoring her doesn't help, I've tried - especially if it's even remotely work-related as we're two of the most senior people on the floor.
So, tonight, it's a Friday night, after hours, I'm trying to finish some quick tasks, instead I'm sitting there steaming, listening to her - and she's the Edith Bunker of problem explaining, giving you every little excruciating detail, whether it's important or not - I've tried before to cut her short to ask what she's really concerned about, but like a spring-wound toy, she'll answer my question, then go right back to where she left off and keep going. She's bragging/complaining about how she stayed until 11 pm the night before working this problem and...
BING!
An e-mail popped up on my computer screen from one my upper bosses. It's addressed to her and me (she and I?) giving us a new list of files that need to be done - and oh, by the way, can we come in and work this weekend to help get the numbers down by Monday?
I wanted to laugh at the look on her face.
She works long hours so she can have her weekends off with a clear conscience and conviction that she has impressed the bosses with her dedication and exceeded their expectations. Then upper management slaps her in the face, showing that they don't give a rat's ass about what she thinks she's given them when the client demands come in.
:laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
The lesson I learned a long time ago at that place, is that if you work a little bit more every day, you're expected to work a little bit more every day.
Now she's more aware of why I don't give a shit about working myself to death at that place.
It isn't appreciated.
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LOL!!
serves her right!! I have a coworker that spends all her time just head down...working working working....busy busy! and never gets anything done...she has been working on the same report since Sept 6. ::) ::)
(this is a report that the previous employee completed in less than two hours.)
and I am not talking she works on it every now and again...no, she has it out....throwing things, swearing she has 'had about all she can take!!"...it apparently is the most complicated report since the Watergate trials...
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Driving--I'm on the interstate on my way to work. A big truck is passing another big truck--FOR 8 FREAKIN' MILES!!!! He knew I was trying to get by--I know that's why he took so long. OMG---steam was coming out my ears. Jerk.
Audio books--Does anyone listen to audio books? I drive so much that I do. Right now I am listening to Janet Evanovich's "Thanksgiving" -- very light, fluffly stuff. Here's what I hate -- the girl who is reading it tries to do voices. That grates on my nerves -- she changes her voice from the woman to the man. It's annoying. I can listen only so long and I have to turn it off. LOL. This is not the first one either. I just want the reader to read it -- no voices.
The Dog--He definitely should not have said what he did, but what kind of asshole son would do that to his dad?
Editorials--I'm not bitching about this. It's just that there were 2 editorials in our hometown newspaper that were so red-necky and politically incorrect -- my hilarious cousin read them to me in a very funny manner, and even tho they were bashing (*someone I like*).......I was rolling with laughter.
Here's an excerpt from one of them:
"You [Republicans] persecuted the finest president we ever had (Bill Clinton) for his indiscretion while almost 100 percent of all his accusers were guilty of worse. If there is a hell, you foolish Republicans who preen and strut and boast of your piety have a special place reserved for you. My greatest wish is for Hillary to be your next president."
LOL. He's using Hillary to curse the Republicans? :laugh:
Parents who lie for their kids to get them out of responsibilities--Idiots. They should know that the kid brags about it, the other kids tell, and the lie gets back to the teachers. Great role models.
Looking forward to Thanksgiving break!!!! YAY for the weekend and I don't have to work this one. Happy Weekend, Bettermostians--may no Republicans preen, strut, or boast anywhere near you and may you have nothing to bitch about until Monday!! :P ;D
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Headline writers that don' proof read...."Crocodile Hunter's wife write book"
huh?
Hey, Shasta...I was driving down a split highway and came up on two people that were driving side by side at about 20 miles an hour having a conversation with each other!!! They apparently hadn't seen each other in a while...met by chance and rather than PULL OVER!!...and decided to catch up as they drive..
regarding 'Dog''s son. His lawyer was practically bragging about how much money he got for the tapes... ::) ::) ::)
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Headline writers that don' proof read...."Crocodile Hunter's wife write book"
huh?
Sounds like she's getting a command.
Hey, Shasta...I was driving down a split highway and came up on two people that were driving side by side at about 20 miles an hour having a conversation with each other!!! They apparently hadn't seen each other in a while...met by chance and rather than PULL OVER!!...and decided to catch up as they drive..
Man, I thought Texas drivers were courteous! Did ya honk? ;)
regarding 'Dog''s son. His lawyer was practically bragging about how much money he got for the tapes... ::) ::) ::)
Yeah--pretty bad when you can't trust your own kid. None of the news shows that I've watched have said a word about what a scumball Tucker Chapman is for doing that.
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yeah, that boy has some bad karma going there. It is not like he did it as a public service or anything....he did it for money..
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Dog's son? Tapes? I don't get it... (sounds like a horrible story so I may regret asking...) :P
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http://www.reuters.com/article/peopleNews/idUSN0122488920071103 (http://www.reuters.com/article/peopleNews/idUSN0122488920071103)
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Store sales associates who agree to telephone you at one number and then use another. >:(
I went out last Saturday morning to order a new pair of eyeglasses. The associate said it would take three to five business days to get the glasses. Fine. I gave him my office number and my home number and suggested it would be better if they used the office number--I could stop on my way home after work to pick up my new glasses. The associate said, fine, during the week they used "work" numbers anyway.
I got home from work yesterday (Thursday) to find a message on my home answering machine that my new glasses were ready. ... >:(
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Store sales associates who agree to telephone you at one number and then use another. >:(
I went out last Saturday morning to order a new pair of eyeglasses. The associate said it would take three to five business days to get the glasses. Fine. I gave him my office number and my home number and suggested it would be better if they used the office number--I could stop on my way home after work to pick up my new glasses. The associate said, fine, during the week they used "work" numbers anyway.
I got home from work yesterday (Thursday) to find a message on my home answering machine that my new glasses were ready. ... >:(
Quote From Jeff Wrangler, today on the Circumcision thread:
Well, obviously, I have no way of comparing, but I think this "circumcision denies males sexual pleasure" business is baloney. I have my reasons for thinking this. I will not elaborate.
Maybe if you had spent a little less time investigating the above you wouldn't be NEEDING them glasses!! you KNOW that stuff causes blindness!
>:( >:(
:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
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Quote From Jeff Wrangler, today on the Circumcision thread:
Well, obviously, I have no way of comparing, but I think this "circumcision denies males sexual pleasure" business is baloney. I have my reasons for thinking this. I will not elaborate.
Maybe if you had spent a little less time investigating the above you wouldn't be NEEDING them glasses!! you KNOW that stuff causes blindness!
>:( >:(
:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
If only. ... :laugh:
Unfortunately I've been needin' spectacles since long before Little Wrangler realized he was good for more'n makin' pee-pee!
:laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
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Well that was wayyy too much to know there Jeff. :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
You crack me up,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,?
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Well that was wayyy too much to know there Jeff. :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
You crack me up,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,?
Jess was askin' for it. Blame her. ;D
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hey! I was just trying to save what is left of his eyesight!
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hey! I was just trying to save what is left of his eyesight!
Too late, Honey, that's past hope! ;D
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Too late, Honey, that's past hope! ;D
no no...we can start making you wear Baseball mitts to bed...
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no no...we can start making you wear Baseball mitts to bed...
Whutre you gonna do about the other 18 hours in the day? :laugh:
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Whutre you gonna do about the other 18 hours in the day? :laugh:
EIGHTEEN HOURS!!
No wonder you are going blind!!!
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I'm so fucking pissed at my sister and the situation in general that I could just spit!!!! >:( >:( >:(
My sister got her daughter a puppy last week.
She searched through shelters/rescues all day but because she'd decided she had to get a puppy *that day*, when the Humane Society put her through the wringer then was very hesitant to even have her look at puppies, she got fed up and left.
She ended up getting a puppy from someone who was giving them away.
I hadn't seen the puppy until just this evening.
I'm at her house, kneeling down, playing with the puppy, it's peeing all over my shoes and the floor because it's showing its submission, it's licking my hands, you know, doing puppy things...
Then I asked, "So, it's all nice and healthy right?"
My sister goes, "Oh, no she's getting over parvo."
I freeze, "What?"
The puppy was sick with parvovirus which as you know is extremely contagious and can be deadly to dogs.
The stupid bitch who gave my sister the puppy didn't even know what parvo was when my sister called to tell her.
My sister took the puppy to the vet and it was on an IV for a few days, then it was put on a round of amoxicicillan.
The puppy was entering into Stage 2 of the disease, so there's a good chance she'll survive. She's very
rowdy now and starting to eat very well - her bones are still showing though.
However, there I am stuck at my sister's house, hands covered with puppy spit and shoes dripped with puppy urine.
"Is it catching to cats?"
I have cats don't forget. Have had cats all my life.
My sister just shrugged. She didn't know and it never crossed her mind to warn me so I could check before I went over for a visit.
My best friend owns a dog that my sister dogsits on occasion.
I'm glad my sister took the dog to the vet, but she's so unversed with animals she doesn't know when to question her vet and when not to. I was looking the puppy over and noticed dark stuff in her ears. Again, since this isn't a Shelter or Rescue dog I asked, "Those aren't mites are they?"
My sister replied, "Oh, the vet just said her ears were dirty."
"Yeah, but did she test to make sure?"
Silence.
I told her to go clean out the puppy's ears good with a q-tip and warm water and watch carefully. If the gunk came back, then it was mites or maybe a fungus and the puppy needed to be treated for them.
The puppy also had fleas that they had to treat.
Before I left her house, I made my sister call her vet to make sure the disease wasn't carried over into cats. The vet assured me that they did not - but this was the same vet who didn't bother to check a puppy for ear mites.
I asked my sister for bleach so I could at least disinfect my hands and shoes before I left.
"Oh, we're out."
>:(
I washed my hands and arms and ankles before I left. When I got home, I left my shoes and socks outside, put my
clothes in the washer and took a bath before I even touched my cats.
From what I read, cats can be carriers. I e-mailed my friend to warn her since it's unlikely my sister will and I'm going to call my vet in the morning to find out if I need to throw away my running shoes or just wash them in bleach.
>:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:(
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I tell you Dev....we are related....we have to be...
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It just aggravates the living shit out of me.
It's Thanksgiving.
My sister and her daughter will be over my mother's house - does the virus shed on the floor? Will they get it on the floor of my mother's house? Did the puppy shed the virus in the car we're going to use to go to my brother's house for the dinner?!?!?
From what I read, the virus can live 4-6 weeks outside the body.
I may have to cancel my plans to go to my brother's house for dinner so I'm not carrying the virus back into my home - >:( >:( >:( >:( I think my brother has a cat and not a dog, thank the gods.
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You know, there is just no polite way to tell someone that they are a stupid doormat, a piss-poor mother and that their daughter is an irresponsible, emotional retard and a cheating, manipulative slut.
You ever meet someone as a friend and really hit it off? You find out you share a lot in common - attitudes about life, spirituality, politics, feminism, sexuality, men, society...and you start to hang out since you have so much in common and the more time you spend together, the more the other person comes to like and admire and trust you and begins to confide about her background.
Then with dawning horror the more you find out the more you realize that if you had known what this woman was really like, you wouldn't have touched her with a 10 foot pole.
And now you can't get rid of her.
It is a new co-worker of mine. She's older than me, a widowed single mother (her husband committed suicide, which should have warned me I guess).
She has done nothing wrong really, she has just turned out to be the kind of personality that I abhor and cut out of my life a long time ago.
And here I am, stuck with her.
Her latest crisis is just so ridiculously stupid, it's a Jerry Springer episode. Her college daughter - bragged on by her mother as incredibly intelligent, mature for her age, is on the fast track to be a vet, has a gift for working with animals and independent as hell - has called her mother.
Oh, she's dropped out of college after flunking 4 classes, working in vet offices as a vet tech didn't pay very well, so she has been topless dancing for a while now, but she stopped doing that, and is now unemployed, uninsured, and - oh, yes, pregnant and she wants to keep the baby. Oh, the father? A recent boyfriend she's cheated on several times, dumped him, took him back, he ignores her, tunes her out which causes fights and he's unemployed too.
And they're coming down to be with her mother.
She e-mailed me this travesty and I was just appalled. Worse, I was appalled because my friend simpered, "Oh I'm going to be a grandmother! The timing is not good, but if she's happy, I'm happy for her."
If it could have, my jaw would have hit the ground.
Apparently all the talk about feminism, controlling one's own life and being responsible was just that. Talk.
Her daughter just called to say she's joined the very large group of poor unwed pregnant young women with no health insurance and she's happy for her?!?!?
She talks about her daughter getting on welfare and having her baby on the public dole at a community hospital as perfectly fine and normal.
She never once lectured her daughter on irresponsibility.
Why? Because of her abusive background, my friend has never overcome being a doormat and just wanting to make people around her happy and not confronting them. Hence, her piss-poor parental skills.
So she will accept whatever harebrained idea her daughter comes up with and - lest she alienate her - just accept it with a happy smile.
My sister after hearing this tale wondered how I would face my friend without a look of disgust on my face.
I said it would be easy. I wasn't going to see my friend much anymore. Her daughter and unemployed boyfriend were moving in with her, she was going to support them while they looked for jobs and once the baby came, babysit so her daughter could take night classes. Not that her daughter has actually said she is GOING to take night classes. :P
My friend was taking night classes, practicing her music - she used to be a torch singer in a nightclub - wanting to improve her life and economic status. She was all excited about coming with me to Italy on my next European sojourn...and now all that's in the toilet. She's never going to do anything but stay at her level because she no longer has the luxury to quit or change careers or even take a vacation - not with her daughter and soon to be present grandchild dependent on her.
Sad sad sad and extremely pathetic.
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You know, there is just no polite way to tell someone that they are a stupid doormat, a piss-poor mother and that their daughter is an irresponsible, emotional retard and a cheating, manipulative slut.
You ever meet someone as a friend and really hit it off? You find out you share a lot in common - attitudes about life, spirituality, politics, feminism, sexuality, men, society...and you start to hang out since you have so much in common and the more time you spend together, the more the other person comes to like and admire and trust you and begins to confide about her background.
Then with dawning horror the more you find out the more you realize that if you had known what this woman was really like, you wouldn't have touched her with a 10 foot pole.
And now you can't get rid of her.
It is a new co-worker of mine. She's older than me, a widowed single mother (her husband committed suicide, which should have warned me I guess).
She has done nothing wrong really, she has just turned out to be the kind of personality that I abhor and cut out of my life a long time ago.
And here I am, stuck with her.
Her latest crisis is just so ridiculously stupid, it's a Jerry Springer episode. Her college daughter - bragged on by her mother as incredibly intelligent, mature for her age, is on the fast track to be a vet, has a gift for working with animals and independent as hell - has called her mother.
Oh, she's dropped out of college after flunking 4 classes, working in vet offices as a vet tech didn't pay very well, so she has been topless dancing for a while now, but she stopped doing that, and is now unemployed, uninsured, and - oh, yes, pregnant and she wants to keep the baby. Oh, the father? A recent boyfriend she's cheated on several times, dumped him, took him back, he ignores her, tunes her out which causes fights and he's unemployed too.
And they're coming down to be with her mother.
She e-mailed me this travesty and I was just appalled. Worse, I was appalled because my friend simpered, "Oh I'm going to be a grandmother! The timing is not good, but if she's happy, I'm happy for her."
If it could have, my jaw would have hit the ground.
Apparently all the talk about feminism, controlling one's own life and being responsible was just that. Talk.
Her daughter just called to say she's joined the very large group of poor unwed pregnant young women with no health insurance and she's happy for her?!?!?
She talks about her daughter getting on welfare and having her baby on the public dole at a community hospital as perfectly fine and normal.
She never once lectured her daughter on irresponsibility.
Why? Because of her abusive background, my friend has never overcome being a doormat and just wanting to make people around her happy and not confronting them. Hence, her piss-poor parental skills.
So she will accept whatever harebrained idea her daughter comes up with and - lest she alienate her - just accept it with a happy smile.
My sister after hearing this tale wondered how I would face my friend without a look of disgust on my face.
I said it would be easy. I wasn't going to see my friend much anymore. Her daughter and unemployed boyfriend were moving in with her, she was going to support them while they looked for jobs and once the baby came, babysit so her daughter could take night classes. Not that her daughter has actually said she is GOING to take night classes. :P
My friend was taking night classes, practicing her music - she used to be a torch singer in a nightclub - wanting to improve her life and economic status. She was all excited about coming with me to Italy on my next European sojourn...and now all that's in the toilet. She's never going to do anything but stay at her level because she no longer has the luxury to quit or change careers or even take a vacation - not with her daughter and soon to be present grandchild dependent on her.
Sad sad sad and extremely pathetic.
I know EXACTLY what you are talking about....I am faced with the same delimna...though in my case it is not a person that has revealed itself to be something different than I believed it to be....and I am questioning my own judgement over it.
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I know EXACTLY what you are talking about....I am faced with the same delimna...though in my case it is not a person that has revealed itself to be something different than I believed it to be....and I am questioning my own judgement over it.
Can you tell us?
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She talks about her daughter getting on welfare and having her baby on the public dole at a community hospital as perfectly fine and normal.
Unfortunately I think this sort of attitude isn't exactly rare. I mean, I've read about young women in certain communities whose goal--goal--was to graduate from high school and go on welfare (at least they wanted to graduate from high school).
And about others who think that having a baby before they are old enough to have a driver's license gives them status in their community.
I mean, WTF? ??? :P
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Unfortunately I think this sort of attitude isn't exactly rare. I mean, I've read about young women in certain communities whose goal--goal--was to graduate from high school and go on welfare (at least they wanted to graduate from high school).
And about others who think that having a baby before they are old enough to have a driver's license gives them status in their community.
I mean, WTF? ??? :P
I have a friend that worked in a Kmart.....she said a couple of teenage girls (both with babies and one pregnant) came in and got mad cause they couldn't return their crap and were sneering at her and one told the other..."We may be on welfare but at least we aren't working at KMART!!"
OY!!
so being on welfare is better than working for a living....
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"We may be on welfare but at least we aren't working at KMART!!"
OY!!
so being on welfare is better than working for a living....
Geez. ... :-\ Sigh. ... :(
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If something terrible has happened in one's life and one needs the parachute of welfare and community hospitalization - that's one thing.
But this isn't that sort of thing. The daughter's situation was COMPLETELY preventable.
She is just displaying the irresponsibility, selfishness and complete lack of ability to learn anything from experience - my friend was widowed young. Her daughter certainly remembers how hard it was trying to live on a single woman's salary.
And what does she do? Get herself knocked up when she has no job, no money, no stable relationship with the father, has not finished her degree, has no real job skills, no means by which to raise a child properly much less pay for the pre-natal care required for a healthy baby. She has shown none of the foresight, planning and maturity that raising a child is going to demand.
I've no idea why her mother is optimistic about her daughter's ability to raise a child and make her relationship with her boyfriend 'work'. ::)
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can you say "Denial"??
I think most people do live in a fantasy world half the time
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She has shown none of the foresight, planning and maturity that raising a child is going to demand.
Y'know, I can just never understand that kind of thing. I'm in a good marriage, my husband would make a great dad to a child, we have a nice home, we're conscientious people, etc. etc. But I still worry like hell about what kind of parent I would be. It's the biggest responsibility in the world, IMO, and it scares me shiitless. I just can't fathom how some people can take it all so casually, and get into it so carelessly.
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I've no idea why her mother is optimistic about her daughter's ability to raise a child and make her relationship with her boyfriend 'work'. ::)
Especially since she apparently didn't do such a hot job--or maybe her daughter wouldn't be in the situation she's in.
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Y'know, I can just never understand that kind of thing. I'm in a good marriage, my husband would make a great dad to a child, we have a nice home, we're conscientious people, etc. etc. But I still worry like hell about what kind of parent I would be. It's the biggest responsibility in the world, IMO, and it scares me shiitless. I just can't fathom how some people can take it all so casually.
People as self-aware as you need to reproduce Laura, otherwise the world is going to be full of people like my friend's daughter who breeds so heedlessly that it's almost criminal.
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Especially since she apparently didn't do such a hot job--or maybe her daughter wouldn't be in the situation she's in.
She's a crappy mother. Her excuse is that she was in such an abusive family she didn't know how to be a good mother or what it was to be a good parent.
I don't really buy this rationale, though.
She may have had a Valium/alcohol addicted, emotionally distant mother and a wealthy, completely abusive narcissistic wealthy father but she had a wonderful grandmother. Why didn't she learn from her? Did she graduate from high school unable to read self-help books or was so blind she didn't watch TV and see syrupy sweet TV families which to emulate?
I don't get it.
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My bitch for today:
The use of the phrase "sexual preference" instead of "sexual orientation."
I'm sorry, IMNSHO, preference implies choice. I did not choose to be gay. It's just the way I am. (As has been so often said, given the homophobia that gay people face, who in their right mind would choose to be gay?)
I might prefer steak to pork chops for supper, but one's sexuality isn't like picking something from a menu. It's the way I am orientated. >:(
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I could never figure out what "female persuasion" or "male persuasion" was supposed to mean either, as if someone gets "persuaded" to be what sex they are!
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I could never figure out what "female persuasion" or "male persuasion" was supposed to mean either, as if someone gets "persuaded" to be what sex they are!
Really! :laugh:
I'll weigh the pros and cons of each and then pick a gender! :laugh:
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Just an update on my friend and her pregnant daughter situation.
Just when you thought a train wreck couldn't get any worse...I'm detached now, watching with horrified fascination as this Jerry Springer episode appears to be morphing into a CSI episode.
The mother, my friend, is at least talking and acting disgusted and ticked at her daughter now.
Mind you the daughter isn't a teenager. She is pushing mid-20's now.
Well, the daughter wasn't actually dancing topless - she was dancing in one of those fully nude clubs. Is there a sleazier occupation that is still legal?
The daughter had been diagnosed a few years ago with some female problem that her doctor cautioned her would make it difficult to conceive...so in this age of AIDS, herpes, ovarian cancer viruses, her daughter wasn't using any birth control whatsoever.
And mirable dictu, what a shocker, she ends up pregnant. ::)
Considering what an accomplished liar the daughter has turned out to be, it's hard to put stock in anything she says, but now she is saying that the father isn't her current no-account unemployed boyfriend. It's another ex-lover, this one is from an abusive family that he 'doesn't like to talk about'. This man reacted very badly to their breakup, he's already stalked her and has a police record.
My friend told her daughter NOT to tell this guy she was carrying his child.
(Personally, considering how this girl sleeps around, I wonder if she even knows whose child she's carrying)
So, her daughter was planning on coming down to Texas with her bum boyfriend. Turns out though, the bum is divorced and has joint custody of his son. Well, he can't leave the state without making new custodial arrangements. But of course, he's unemployed and can't get the legal paperwork together and afford to hire a family lawyer. And he's not going to give up his custody rights. So he's already told her he's not leaving the state.
Now the daughter, being a pathetic excuse for a human being, whose mother's talk about being one's own woman and being independent registered not a whit in her empty head, decided she can't leave the state without a man or something with 3 good legs. :P
She went back to her ex-boyfriend - the sweet, recovering alcoholic boyfriend - and told him she still loved him and did he want to come to Texas with her to raise another man's child?
Well, she fucked him over so much, and he knows her so well, he knew she was lying and wisely said NO! to her face.
So pissed, and desperate for a man - ANY man apparently - she ignored her mother's advice and common sanity and went to the stalker ex-lover, told him everything and asked him to come to Texas with her and be a father to their child. The fact that he's controlling, had threatened to kill her ex-lovers and threatened to commit suicide when she first left him, and they do nothing but fight, did not overcome the most important fact that he has, in fact, a penis.
So, seeing as he is in LURV with her, he said, no problem, and jumped at the chance.
My friend put her foot down. She was willing to take in her daughter and the - by comparison - innocuous bum boyfriend, but she is NOT taking in this type of man.
I told her this was turning out to be a very dangerous situation. The man has already threatened with violence people around the daughter and himself. It was just a matter of time/stress/the daughter being uncontrollable by him before he turns that violence on her and possibly the child as well.
You read about this stuff all the time.
My friend is furious.
I urged Tough Love - telling her daughter that she's a big girl and this situation is something she wanted, so she needs to take on all the responsibilities thereof (i.e. get a job and have her baby without any financial help from her mother) - and that may bring the daughter to her senses if she realizes she'll be living in shelters while pregnant, and decide to abort or give the child up for adoption. Otherwise, IMO my friend is just adding to the problem, offering to help her out.
Don't know what my friend is going to do, but sadly, it won't be what she needs to do.
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Geez. This really is one of those situations where you can't tear your eyes away, no matter how much you want to. :(
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Geez. This really is one of those situations where you can't tear your eyes away, no matter how much you want to. :(
And people wonder why I don't watch reality TV shows.
Why would I need to?
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Yikes...that is sure a nightmare during the daylight hours!!!
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And people wonder why I don't watch reality TV shows.
Why would I need to?
You sure you are not related to me??
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Standing there at the gas pump, watching the numbers click by and I happened to glance down.
Doncha just hate it when someone backs into your car and runs?
Yep, bumper/frame is bent down on one side.
Not sure when or where that happened.
I'm standing there wondering if it's worth the money to fix on a 23 year old car.
But there is an upside. Karma works fast. 8)
My car is a very old Jeep. The bumper is actually part of the frame of the car - the steel frame. The Jeep sits high up, so whoever backed into me, did some serious damage to their car. Last person who hit my car in that same spot did $2000 worth of damage to their car. ;D
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Standing there at the gas pump, watching the numbers click by and I happened to glance down.
Doncha just hate it when someone backs into your car and runs?
Yep, bumper/frame is bent down on one side.
Not sure when or where that happened.
I'm standing there wondering if it's worth the money to fix on a 23 year old car.
But there is an upside. Karma works fast. 8)
My car is a very old Jeep. The bumper is actually part of the frame of the car - the steel frame. The Jeep sits high up, so whoever backed into me, did some serious damage to their car. Last person who hit my car in that same spot did $2000 worth of damage to their car. ;D
no I wouldn't ....
that sucks that they would do that....people are awful sometimes
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We got a new secretary/receptionist at work...she thinks VERY well of herself. They have been going over the books for the last year. Well, she picked Friday afternoon at 4:30 to ask me about a petty cash reciept from Aug. AUG!
It is 4:30 on a Friday, this has waited FOUR months (it couldn't wait til Monday?), I had to make the deposit, balance the room, buy dollar coins and balance THAT fund, balance the sales, and fill out my paperwork before five.
I know I wasn't overly patient but.
She asked me what account to post it to and I said "I don't know you will have to ask the boss". End of discussion, right? NO. She insisted on pulling out all of the receipts for that week and going over each one. I was furious...I told her I would have to pull MY paperwork, she responded "Oh no...dont' do that...just tell me this..." on and on...me insisting I don't know...and I needed to get my paperwork...
"It was four months ago I don't remember"
"well was it this?"
"It was four MONTHS ago I dont' remember!"
"I KNOW it was four months ago but could it be this?"
"I DON"T KNOW!!!! You want me to pull the paperwork??"
"no no!! You don't have to!! look at this...could THIS be it??"
AARGH
It wasnt' pretty. She told me not to be short with her. She is lucky not to be slapped down.
>:( >:(
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My rant was this morning my stupid cat woke me up laying on my legs...He weighs about 17 lbs. an i have
a bad leg...he is always trying to lay on it....
So he wouldnt let me sleep, I kept pushing him off, and he kept getting back on me. So finally I got up and was going to get up and get on line..Tried to turn my computer on...It wouldnt turn on...dead as a doornail.
Now mind you its 6:00 am...so i get online to sony, trying to see if this contraption has a reset button. I find a telephone number, and call that too. Get in line and wait. While waiting I find an online chat room you can actually talk real time to a support person...so ok, about the time exactly the guy answers me at the chat room, the guy on the phone finally says "hello, thank you for using Sony." and proceeds to ask all the same questions. How old, is it still under warranty and so on. I say no its not.. "Do you have an extended warrantee...?" No I
say i dont. So he tells me, he can only talk to me if i pay him, $29.95/ I say no thanks goodby....
So go on talking to the guy online he wants to know all the same things, and the purchase date...I tell him i only know approximately the date...he then says well what does it say on your sales receipt...? Gosh by now
I am getting crazy. I told him I dont have the receipt handy..all i want to know is does it have a reset button...so he proceeds to ask me the model number...I said the number that is listed on the bottom, he tells me its really not the number and he will send me a linc, in order that i may look it up on the diagram...so ok i pull up the linc.
and i cannot find the number...he then tells me it starts with such and such..which i cannot find anywhere on the bottom of the computer an on any of the diagrams... Finally I found it...no where near the places listed on said
diagrams of the bottom of the computer...it is actually on the front of the computer. in little tiny letters on the bottom of the screen....facing....I told him what a goose chase that linc was....stupid...
So then he starts to ask me stuff like have you reformatted any of you componants. I said no its just like i
bought it. All I have done is routine maintainance. He is then on a mission he keeps asking me all those kinds of
questions which all more or less are diffeerent ways of saying the same thing.
Then he says turn to page 99 of the owners manual and it should tell you how to remove the battery and the hard drive.. I tell him i dont have the manual. He then says i can download one and gives me the linc for that.... So ok i do that.. and tell him i would need a microscope to read that stuff...You wont ever believe the size of that print...any how this is the first half hour of this ordeal and it continues in pretty much the same vane for the next hour and a half. So i look at the time and it is now 8;10 and i have been on talking to this boob for over two hours...no closer to the fix than when i started...Finally he says could i remove the hard drive if he walks me thru it..? I say no i will take it to a shop and let them do it. He says would you llike me to give you the names of some local certified repair places...I politely say no thanks. I have a place i use... my parting shot was i
cant believe there isnt a quick fix on this problem.. whena computer is in obvious lock mode...he said no i dont think so....so wish him good day go and decide to use the old computer. Now it wont work either because my on going problem with the wireless is in full death mode also.
Anyway i decide to tough it and have my husband take my computer by the shop on his way out, and tell him not to leaave it there,, just ask them to starr it if possible. He takes it to the shop...It took ten minutes tops. they took the battery out..unplugged it, and then returned the battery. Wa Laa.. it then worked...well shit, that is one of the things i had already done...?????? I iwas just about to explode. 2 freakin hours on
the phone to an idiot.... >:( >:(
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Can't have another holiday without a bitch. ;D But it's a minor one.
What fucking theater runs out of gift certificates?!?! I was going to go Sunday to my brother's favorite art-house theater (he only sees art house movies) to buy gift certificates for him and his wife, but a friend I haven't seen in a long time called up and she wanted to go out, so I lost my chance to pick up his tickets then. So I called and they said they'd be open late on Christmas Eve. So I went last night - late, so I could actually find parking around this theater (I was working during the day as well) - and they were out!
Now I don't have a gift for my brother. Guess I'm just going to have to mail them to him late. >:(
Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.
Now, my other bitch.
I feel like Linus in a 'Charlie Brown Christmas' where he's told to memorize his lines for the play and be prepared to recite on queue.
"I can't do this!"
I'm not a cook. I'm not much of a prepare at home food person. My family is celebrating Xmas at another relative's house. I called my sister to get the word on what we are to bring, usually we bring bread or sodas or side dishes. This time my sister said, "Oh we're to bring salad and dessert and dinner has an Italian theme."
Italian? For Xmas holidays? Okaaaaay.
Salads are hard to do well. You have to do them fresh. So I decided it was easier to bring dessert, but before I could open my mouth to do so, my sister quickly says, "Oh, we're bringing dessert, you bring the salad."
Shit.
Some people here gave me some nice suggestions for a salad, but when I started adding up all the ingredients to be added to this salad, it was going to cost me a fortune to feed 10 people and this year is pretty tight on money as it is. So I decided to go get a nice prepared salad from the local deli. They always have a tomato and mozzarella salad that is tasty, fresh and Italian. But salad has to be fresh. So, last night, right before the deli closed, I went down there to buy it.
No, they were not out of the salad...they hadn't made any at all!!!!
After all, who has Italian salad for Xmas dinner?
Panic!!!!
So, in panic mode and still locked into my Italian theme, I grabbed some salad greens and some Caesar dressing and some Parmesan - they were out of croutons - for a Caesar salad.
Then I got home and realized for a classic Caesar salad, I needed Romaine lettuce and not field greens - and Caesar salad is not to everyone's taste.
It would have been simpler and more to everyone's taste just to take a simple lettuce and tomato salad and forget any Italian theme.
Now I'm stuck. I either have to take what I have or not take anything at all. :P
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Take what you got and maybe next year they will give you more NOTICE...
jeez.
I already told my family I am NOT coming out to the big gathering...we have our own plans for the afternoon (and they are VERY exciting...)
so now they have the KIDS calling "Auntie Wess Is u comin to Chrisssmiss?? We Mizz u"
>:( >:( >:(
NO!! I am not being guilted in to giving up OUR plans!
thank you very much for listening to My gripe!
*bows*
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Take what you got and maybe next year they will give you more NOTICE...
jeez.
I already told my family I am NOT coming out to the big gathering...we have our own plans for the afternoon (and they are VERY exciting...)
so now they have the KIDS calling "Auntie Wess Is u comin to Chrisssmiss?? We Mizz u"
>:( >:( >:(
NO!! I am not being guilted in to giving up OUR plans!
thank you very much for listening to My gripe!
*bows*
You go, girlfriend!!!
It's time you have your own traditions and you can't make them if you're still living someone elses!!!
The salad gods have smiled on my pitifulness.
I had a flash of inspiration. I had bought sweet salad greens and when mixed with the parmesan and Caesar dressing have taken the bite out of the salad and have made it a nice mild Caesar salad!!
So if they still don't like it, fuck 'em. I brought Italian, like they wanted.
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The salad gods giveth and the salad gods taketh away.
My salad turned out perfect. However, when I got to my relative's house, turned out they had no room in their refrigerator for my salad.
And they weren't done cooking yet.
And after appetizers, they wanted to open gifts before dinner.
So, an hour and a half later without refrigeration, my salad resembled a wilted hot greens dish. All slimed together, warm at the bottom of the my salad bowl.
Maybe two people tried some.
I'm taking dessert next year. :P
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This really isn't a bitch, but rather my guilty conscience talking to me. One of my Dad's close friends passed away last week, and I went to the funeral with him. While I was there, something very funny got stuck in my head and I couldn't stop laughing. I felt terrible about it, but the more I tried to stop thinking about it, the more I would start laughing. It was terrible. I wasn't laughing out loud really, it was more of a silent giggle but I knew if I sat there any longer, I would have busted out. So I got up and walked out to the lobby area for a few minutes.
Has something like this every happened to any of you before? I felt ashamed and embarrassed but for some reason I couldn't help myself.
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This really isn't a bitch, but rather my guilty conscience talking to me. One of my Dad's close friends passed away last week, and I went to the funeral with him. While I was there, something very funny got stuck in my head and I couldn't stop laughing. I felt terrible about it, but the more I tried to stop thinking about it, the more I would start laughing. It was terrible. I wasn't laughing out loud really, it was more of a silent giggle but I knew if I sat there any longer, I would have busted out. So I got up and walked out to the lobby area for a few minutes.
Has something like this every happened to any of you before? I felt ashamed and embarrassed but for some reason I couldn't help myself.
Yes. Don't beat yourself up too much. It's a tension reliever and the mind just gives you an outlet that isn't related to grief. You did the right thing by going outside to the lobby. Probably people thought you were overcome with grief. So no harm done.
People thought I was overcome with emotion, crying on my sister's shoulder at a wedding, when in fact I was laughing so hard I was crying.
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David the funeral thing reminded me of the Mary Tyler Moors show...Where the clown died, and all
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the people from the station attended..Mary got the giggles in the middle of the ceremony, and everyone
was so embaressed... :laugh: :laugh:
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This was not funny and I am sorry, but I couldn't help it.
I was with my family at my niece's piano/voice recital. A little boy sang a sad country/western song (can't remember what it was) and it just struck me as funny for some reason. I first tensed up so I wouldn't let any sound burst forth. Then my eyes started to water. Then my shoulders started to shake. I put my head down. I absolutely did not want to laugh while this poor youngster was singing -- how RUDE!!!! Thankfully, I covered -- the family members on either side of me thought I was crying because of the sad song. I was soooo glad when he stopped singing.
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thats discipline.... :-\
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This really irks me and it seems to be happening more and more these days, since gas prices are so volatile....
I hate when I go to the gas station and fill up the tank and pay...oh, $3.09/gallon. Then the very next day I drive by the station and the price is down to $3.04/gallon. 5 cents on 15 gallons is 75 cents. I know it's not alot of money but it is one of those mildly annoying things...especially since by the time I need to fill up again, the price will likely be back up to $3.09.
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Radio stations that began blaring Christmas music 24/7 on Thanksgiving or the day after, and then on Dec. 26 it's all gone. >:(
OK, that might sound like a peculiar bitch. Granted, after a month of nothing but assorted rock 'n' rollers belting Christmas tunes, I'm thoroughly sick of them. But my point is, why can't they start playing the music a little later, like, maybe, the middle of December? Or even (gasp!) not until the week before Christmas? And then play them at least through Christmas week, until, say, New Year's Eve, rather than have the tunes all vanish on Dec. 26, as if Christmas had never happened? >:(
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I agree, Jeff. And the Christmas ads disappear off the TV and people stop turning on their Christmas lights in their yards. I even drove by a house yesterday and the tree was out front, waiting to be picked up by the garbage men. After a total Christmas barrage for a month, I think we need to be weaned off slowly....
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And.....when I went to buy dog food yesterday....Wal-Mart had a bunch of Valentine's Day items neatly displayed. :P
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And.....when I went to buy dog food yesterday....Wal-Mart had a bunch of Valentine's Day items neatly displayed. :P
And Easter is early this year (March 23rd). They'll probably have Easter egg dying supplies and baskets of candy on display on January 2nd!
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And Easter is early this year (March 23rd). They'll probably have Easter egg dying supplies and baskets of candy on display on January 2nd!
:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: I wouldn't doubt it!! :-\
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And.....when I went to buy dog food yesterday....Wal-Mart had a bunch of Valentine's Day items neatly displayed. :P
I was in A.C. Moore (art and craft supply store) last Saturday (Dec. 22), and they had Valentine's Day stuff on display, too.
And Easter is early this year (March 23rd). They'll probably have Easter egg dying supplies and baskets of candy on display on January 2nd!
I wouldn't be a bit surprised!
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I was in A.C. Moore (art and craft supply store) last Saturday (Dec. 22), and they had Valentine's Day stuff on display, too.
I wouldn't be a bit surprised!
That IS early!!
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I was in A.C. Moore (art and craft supply store) last Saturday (Dec. 22), and they had Valentine's Day stuff on display, too.
Well, I give craft stores a little leeway because presumably you are going to be buying stuff to make something, and you need some time for that.
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Well, I give craft stores a little leeway because presumably you are going to be buying stuff to make something, and you need some time for that.
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Sure enough, but it was still a bit of a shock that three days before Christmas you couldn't find an artificial poinsettia left in the place! :laugh:
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Sure enough, but it was still a bit of a shock that three days before Christmas you couldn't find an artificial poinsettia left in the place! :laugh:
That's what you get for procrastinating! LOL
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That's what you get for procrastinating! LOL
I wasn't looking for Christmas stuff. I was looking for an awl in the leather craft area. But it was impossible not to notice the lack of Christmas stuff in the store.
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This really irks me and it seems to be happening more and more these days, since gas prices are so volatile....
I hate when I go to the gas station and fill up the tank and pay...oh, $3.09/gallon. Then the very next day I drive by the station and the price is down to $3.04/gallon. 5 cents on 15 gallons is 75 cents. I know it's not alot of money but it is one of those mildly annoying things...especially since by the time I need to fill up again, the price will likely be back up to $3.09.
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Well, I write this and guess what happened today? It worked in reverse!
I filled up yesterday and paid $3.07/gallon. Today I drive by the station and it was $3.11/gallon! Friday at the beginning of a four day weekend? Do I sense a relationship here? Maybe I should pay more attention to the day and the price.
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Well, I write this and guess what happened today? It worked in reverse!
I filled up yesterday and paid $3.07/gallon. Today I drive by the station and it was $3.11/gallon! Friday at the beginning of a four day weekend? Do I sense a relationship here? Maybe I should pay more attention to the day and the price.
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Hmm. A little private study like that might yield interesting results.
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Well, I write this and guess what happened today? It worked in reverse!
I filled up yesterday and paid $3.07/gallon. Today I drive by the station and it was $3.11/gallon! Friday at the beginning of a four day weekend? Do I sense a relationship here? Maybe I should pay more attention to the day and the price.
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Yay!!! Yep. So, you gotta get into a pattern! Good to know! ;)
Actually, I heard that oil prices will soar resulting from the Bhutto assassination. Don't know how true that is. I hope not.
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Yay!!! Yep. So, you gotta get into a pattern! Good to know! ;)
Actually, I heard that oil prices will soar resulting from the Bhutto assassination. Don't know how true that is. I hope not.
Hm. Interesting.
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Yay!!! Yep. So, you gotta get into a pattern! Good to know! ;)
Actually, I heard that oil prices will soar resulting from the Bhutto assassination. Don't know how true that is. I hope not[/size]
She wasn't assasinated. Last I heard, this morning, though shot in the neck and chest, she died because when ducking to avoid the blast, she hit her head so hard against something she fractured her skull and that killed her.
So officially, she wasn't assasinated ::) ::)
Gripe of the day -
anticipating each other's interests can backfire.
I told a relative I'd take their teenage daughter to the movies with me.
The mother said, 'Oh, what time do you think you'll be going?'
Me: Oh, probably around 7:30 show
Her: I get off at work at six, then I have to pick her up and drop her off at the mall (where the movie is playing) don't get too early a showing.
Me: OK
So, today, my friend says, there's a 7:05 show and an 8:20 show, which one do you want? Me, thinking to give my relative all the extra time she needs, decided on the 8:20 show. My friend makes arrangements to pick me up.
I call to tell my relative once my friend hangs up.
Her: 8 pm? What time is the show?
Me: 8:20 why?
Her: Because she's already at the mall. She called at 4:45 pm and I thought since you'd said a 7:00-7:30 show, that it would be OK for her just to stay at the mall and wait for you.
Me: Well, I chose a later show because you said you had to pick her up and drop her off at the mall and it would give you more time.
Her: That changed.
Me: Well, I didn't know that, now did I? >:( >:(
Minor gripe -
Why do people ask you to e-mail them about something, and then when you do, giving them them the info they requested, then asking a couple of questions about it, they respond with a "OK, thanks." never having answered any of your questions? Do you just assume they didn't read your entire e-mail or just didn't want to be bothered to type in a few sentences before they hit "Send"? >:( >:( >:(
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Why do people ask you to e-mail them about something, and then when you do, giving them them the info they requested, then asking a couple of questions about it, they respond with a "OK, thanks." never having answered any of your questions? Do you just assume they didn't read your entire e-mail or just didn't want to be bothered to type in a few sentences before they hit "Send"? >:( >:( >:(
I assume they didn't read the entire e-mail. I've learned at work never to ask more than one question in any single e-mail, because I never get an answer to more than one question at a time. :-\
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I assume they didn't read the entire e-mail. I've learned at work never to ask more than one question in any single e-mail, because I never get an answer to more than one question at a time. :-\
you should just come to work with my bosses....we don't even HAVE email....heck, they are still using pencils (them pen thingys are just a passing fad ya know)
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I assume they didn't read the entire e-mail. I've learned at work never to ask more than one question in any single e-mail, because I never get an answer to more than one question at a time. :-\
:laugh:
Yeah, my bad. Just because my clients are like this too, I shouldn't expect that it's not a universal problem.
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you should just come to work with my bosses....we don't even HAVE email....heck, they are still using pencils (them pen thingys are just a passing fad ya know)
I recommend wet clay tablets and pointy sticks. ... ;)
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:laugh:
Yeah, my bad. Just because my clients are like this too, I shouldn't expect that it's not a universal problem.
Naw, I wouldn't say "bad" of you. But I think it is a universal problem. :-\
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I recommend wet clay tablets and pointy sticks. ... ;)
that is how they were doing it LAST year...and let me tell you...them clay tablets are hard to file.
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you should just come to work with my bosses....we don't even HAVE email....heck, they are still using pencils (them pen thingys are just a passing fad ya know)
Jess, I swear... ;)
You and I must work on different floors of the same company. A few years back, one of the partners of our firm - trying to get out of paying for an upgrade to our computer system - wondered why his employees couldn't just use a yellow note pad and pen.
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Jess, I swear... ;)
You and I must work on different floors of the same company. A few years back, one of the partners of our firm - trying to get out of paying for an upgrade to our computer system - wondered why his employees couldn't just use a yellow note pad and pen.
LOL!!
yep....living parellel lives!
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I forgot to gripe about this yesterday....and NO I am not letting it go!!
I went to Subway yesterday....I go there pretty often. Get the same thing...ham on italian bread, lettuce, tomato, and pickles...no cheese no dressing. I asked for a few extra pickles.......
and the manager GRIPED at me!! She said her cost of product was too high! now really!! You want to tell me those three extra pickles cost more than cheese and dressing?? My sandwich is probably the cheapest one she sold that day!
::) ::) ::)
the NERVE!
ARGH!
and another thing....why are they wrapping their dang straws in that cellophane?? It is nearlly IMPOSSIBLE to get it open with out BENDING the straw....which makes the straw leaky....
ok.
I feel better...glad I got that off my chest...
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Since many of the concerns raised on this thread have dealt with poor customer service, I thought the results of this survey might be of interest....
L.L. Bean Jumps To No. 1 In Customer Love
by Sarah Mahoney, Thursday, Jan 17, 2008 5:00 AM ET
L.L. BEAN'S FOLKSY FORMULA--COMPLETE WITH user-friendly snowshoes, monogrammed backpacks and that no-nonsense "satisfaction guaranteed, since 1916" philosophy--is paying off. Consumers named the company No. 1 in customer satisfaction, up from third place in the previous year, reports the National Retail Federation.
The Freeport, Maine-based company, judged the best across all formats, is the only "old-school" retailer in the top five this year. Internet shoe giant Zappos.com came in second, Amazon.com third, Overstock.com fourth and Newegg.com tenth. Multichannel retailers Blair ranked fifth, Sears-owned Lands' End sixth, Coldwater Creek, seventh, Nordstrom, eighth, and Lane Bryant ninth.
Last year, Amazon ranked No. 1, followed by Nordstrom, L.L. Bean, Overstock.com and Lane Bryant. But favoritism is fleeting: Four of last year's Top 10--Boscov's, Kohl's, REI, and Macy's--have fallen off this year's list entirely.
The poll, conducted by BIGResearch, also revealed shifting consumer expectations, with shoppers demanding the most from restaurants and specialty stores. (Both types of retailers rated 4.4 out of 5.0.) They lower the bar a little for department stores (4.1), drug stores (4.0), grocery (3.9), Internet retailers (3.8 ) and membership warehouse clubs (3.7). And they expect the least--just 3.4--from discount stores.
The survey, which polled 8,877 consumers, asked the open-ended question, "Which retailer delivers the best customer service?" In order to develop a fair comparison, regardless of a retailer's size or geographic coverage, the trade group says, responses were compared to each retailer's 2006 revenues to develop the overall rankings.
Separately, the NRF announced that total retail sales for December (excluding automobiles, gas stations, and restaurants) rose 1.7% over last year, and actually slipped 0.4% on a seasonally adjusted basis from November. And it also says that November retail industry sales were revised downward to 4.7% growth, from 5.1% reported last month.
Add it all up, and you've got a 2007 holiday sales period of $469.9 billion, a 3% gain from the prior year and weaker than the 4% forecast.
Sarah Mahoney can be reached at [email protected]
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Since many of the concerns raised on this thread have dealt with poor customer service, I thought the results of this survey might be of interest....
L.L. Bean Jumps To No. 1 In Customer Love
by Sarah Mahoney, Thursday, Jan 17, 2008 5:00 AM ET
L.L. BEAN'S FOLKSY FORMULA--COMPLETE WITH user-friendly snowshoes, monogrammed backpacks and that no-nonsense "satisfaction guaranteed, since 1916" philosophy--is paying off. Consumers named the company No. 1 in customer satisfaction, up from third place in the previous year, reports the National Retail Federation.
The Freeport, Maine-based company, judged the best across all formats, is the only "old-school" retailer in the top five this year. Internet shoe giant Zappos.com came in second, Amazon.com third, Overstock.com fourth and Newegg.com tenth. Multichannel retailers Blair ranked fifth, Sears-owned Lands' End sixth, Coldwater Creek, seventh, Nordstrom, eighth, and Lane Bryant ninth.
Last year, Amazon ranked No. 1, followed by Nordstrom, L.L. Bean, Overstock.com and Lane Bryant. But favoritism is fleeting: Four of last year's Top 10--Boscov's, Kohl's, REI, and Macy's--have fallen off this year's list entirely.
The poll, conducted by BIGResearch, also revealed shifting consumer expectations, with shoppers demanding the most from restaurants and specialty stores. (Both types of retailers rated 4.4 out of 5.0.) They lower the bar a little for department stores (4.1), drug stores (4.0), grocery (3.9), Internet retailers (3.8 ) and membership warehouse clubs (3.7). And they expect the least--just 3.4--from discount stores.
The survey, which polled 8,877 consumers, asked the open-ended question, "Which retailer delivers the best customer service?" In order to develop a fair comparison, regardless of a retailer's size or geographic coverage, the trade group says, responses were compared to each retailer's 2006 revenues to develop the overall rankings.
Separately, the NRF announced that total retail sales for December (excluding automobiles, gas stations, and restaurants) rose 1.7% over last year, and actually slipped 0.4% on a seasonally adjusted basis from November. And it also says that November retail industry sales were revised downward to 4.7% growth, from 5.1% reported last month.
Add it all up, and you've got a 2007 holiday sales period of $469.9 billion, a 3% gain from the prior year and weaker than the 4% forecast.
Sarah Mahoney can be reached at [email protected]
or maybe they didn't follow thru? Have you tried to complain lately? It is nearly impossible to get any satisfaction anymore. Many of the service industries adopt the attitude that customers are like buses..there will be another along in a minute.
Walmart has gone from being willing to take back soiled underwear and buy other stores merchandise to keep customers happy (which is ridiculous) to refusing to take merchandise back when you have a receipt that is a week too old.... ::)
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or maybe they didn't follow thru? Have you tried to complain lately? It is nearly impossible to get any satisfaction anymore. Many of the service industries adopt the attitude that customers are like buses..there will be another along in a minute.
Walmart has gone from being willing to take back soiled underwear and buy other stores merchandise to keep customers happy (which is ridiculous) to refusing to take merchandise back when you have a receipt that is a week too old.... ::)
I agree. WalMart offers an awful shopping experience as well as abysmal customer service. Which is precisely why I don't shop there. As a consumer, my power is with my money and I can choose where to spend it. Interestingly, I buy from LLBean (both in the store and online), Zappos, and Amazon (nos. 1, 2, and 3 on the list). Locally I buy from Hannaford (groceries) and CVS (drugstore).
I went into Macy's the other day with my daughter and realized that was the first time I had been in that store for a year.
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I shop for groceries either at Brookshires or a locally owned store called Skinners.
My boss shops at Walmart. I was returning a cell phone we didn't need (for work). I was not happy with the experience. I have a friend that used to work there, she told me stories that would curl the hair..
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*sigh*
I'm pretty sure we've covered this particular bitch before, but I'm going to go ahead and repeat myself. Many friends of mine are very religious, conservative, right wingers. Normally, I don't respond to the stuff I get sent, the Christian stuff about saving America from the godless secularists or gays or what have you or the political stuff, but in this election year, I've finally put thought to action.
Silence implies consent, not politeness, even over the internet, so after receiving the below e-mail, I returned it to my friend with the word "debunked" in the subject line and the snopes link that tells the truth about the matter. Let her deal with it:
CAN MUSLIMS BE GOOD AMERICANS?
This is very interesting! We all need to read it from start
to finish......... and send it on to anyone who will read it.
Maybe this is why our American Muslims are so quiet and not speaking out about any atrocities.
Can a good Muslim be a good American?
This question was forwarded to a friend who worked in Saudi Arabia for 20 years.
The following is his reply:
Theologically - no. . . . Because his allegiance is to Allah, The moon God of Arabia.
Religiously - no . . . Because no other religion is accepted by His Allah except Islam (Quran, 2:256) (Koran).
Scripturally - no. . . Because his allegiance is to the five Pillars of Islam and the Quran.
Geographically - no. . . . Because his allegiance is to Mecca , to which he turns in prayer five times a day.
Socially - no. . . . Because his allegiance to Islam forbids him to make friends with Christians or Jews.
Politically - no. . . . Because he must submit to the mullahs (spiritual leaders), who teach annihilation of Israel and destruction of America, the great Satan.
Domestically - no. . . . Because he is instructed to marry four women and beat and scourge his wife when she disobeys him (Quran 4:34).
Intellectually - no. . . . Because he cannot accept the American Constitution since it is based on Biblical principles, and he believes the Bible to be corrupt.
Philosophically - no. . . . Because Islam, Muhammad, and the Quran do not allow freedom of religion and expression. Democracy and Islam cannot co-exist. Every Muslim government is either dictatorial or autocratic.
Spiritually - no. . . . Because when we declare 'one nation under God,' the Christian's God is loving and kind, while Allah is NEVER referred to as Heavenly father, nor is he ever called love in The Quran's 99 excellent names.
Therefore after much study and deliberation, perhaps we
should be very suspicious of ALL MUSLIMS in this country.
They obviously cannot be both 'good' Muslims and good Americans.
* * * Call it what you wish; it's still the truth.
* * * You had better believe it.
* * * The more who understand this, the better it will be for our country and our future. The religious war is bigger than we know or understand.
And Barack Hussein Obama, a Muslim, wants to be our President?
You HAVE to be kidding?! Wake up America!
Obama even says if he wins the election, he will
be sworn in on the Quran (Koran)---not the Bible!
PLEASE, please pass this to all in your address book.
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oh lort night a living, Del.
even MY friends know not to send me crap like that....
well maybe I better check first!! I do have one friend that sends me everything under the sun....
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*sigh*
The latest from my right-wing friends. I'm not even sure this has been confirmed:
http://littlegreenfootballs.com/weblog/?entry=28915_Che_Guevara_Flags_in_Obamas_Houston_Office
Mind you, I'm getting these messages from people who think it's OK for the city to fly Confederate flags or for elected officials to have them in their offices. ::)
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I agree Sen. Obama should not have to worry about every low level staffer's choice of decor -- the staffers, however, should have more sense than to cause controversy like this for their candidate.
http://www.outsidethebeltway.com/archives/2008/02/obama_che_guevara_flag_scandal/ (http://www.outsidethebeltway.com/archives/2008/02/obama_che_guevara_flag_scandal/)
My bitch for the day is not political.
My car's gas cap is on the passenger side. I pulled off the interstate to a station where I usually fill up. Eleven spots were full -- one left. I had to pull around to get it in position. As I rounded in, another car zoomed off the road right into that spot -- they saw me.
Then I pulled down to the end and sat waiting for a truck to move. WHILE I was sitting there, another car came off the road and pulled up behind that truck. (I had to pull in front of it.) So as he left, they pulled in.
OMG -- I was furious. They were SO rude.
I just sat there. Then the spot right beside them emptied, so I pulled right there. The two boys just walked into the station with their heads down. I said "that was really nice" and they just ignored me. I think they were embarrassed that I filled up right beside them.
Then when the first two ladies who'd broke in came out and got in there car -- I slowly cruised by them. And I knew one of them. She saw me and I know she was embarrassed.
Good. Maybe they'll all be nicer to the next person.
My normally low blood pressure went up, I think. :P :-\ >:(
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Boy, you have guts Shasta to confront them like that. You at least made me feel better. I've had that happen to me and it's nice to know someone else is standing up for themselves and browbeating some shame into those usurpers.
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Boy, you have guts Shasta to confront them like that. You at least made me feel better. I've had that happen to me and it's nice to know someone else is standing up for themselves and browbeating some shame into those usurpers.
(http://i183.photobucket.com/albums/x221/Shasta542/thumbs-up.gif)
Well -- not always wise, I guess. :P But it made me feel better whether it had any impact on them or not. 8)
But I didn't feel threatened. I wasn't cussing them or making rude gestures or anything -- just looking disgusted. They were more embarrassed-acting than anything. The poops.
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I agree Sen. Obama should not have to worry about every low level staffer's choice of decor -- the staffers, however, should have more sense than to cause controversy like this for their candidate.
http://www.outsidethebeltway.com/archives/2008/02/obama_che_guevara_flag_scandal/ (http://www.outsidethebeltway.com/archives/2008/02/obama_che_guevara_flag_scandal/)
My bitch for the day is not political.
My car's gas cap is on the passenger side. I pulled off the interstate to a station where I usually fill up. Eleven spots were full -- one left. I had to pull around to get it in position. As I rounded in, another car zoomed off the road right into that spot -- they saw me.
Then I pulled down to the end and sat waiting for a truck to move. WHILE I was sitting there, another car came off the road and pulled up behind that truck. (I had to pull in front of it.) So as he left, they pulled in.
OMG -- I was furious. They were SO rude.
I just sat there. Then the spot right beside them emptied, so I pulled right there. The two boys just walked into the station with their heads down. I said "that was really nice" and they just ignored me. I think they were embarrassed that I filled up right beside them.
Then when the first two ladies who'd broke in came out and got in there car -- I slowly cruised by them. And I knew one of them. She saw me and I know she was embarrassed.
Good. Maybe they'll all be nicer to the next person.
My normally low blood pressure went up, I think. :P :-\ >:(
oh i woulda been PISSED shasta!
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Some people around here feel it's necessary to pull up inbetween TWO SETS of gas pumps. The front part of their car blocks off one set, and the ass end blocks off another. I find that type of thing extremely rude.
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Not a bitch, but for those who've been interested in the ongoing adventures of my co-worker's wayward daughter.
The mother has seen the light!! - finally.
Her latest message to me after over six weeks of silence - I had assumed she was spending quality time with her knocked up, college-drop out, full nude dancer daughter:
[my daughter] has turned out to be a very selfish and dishonest young woman, and I'm not so proud of her as I once was (though I'll always love her, of course). She's been hurting people right and left, myself included, resulting in me TOTALLY rethinking the wisdom of living with her to help her finish her education. Among other things, she got {her ex-boyfriend, the nice guy] to move down here with her, and at this moment, she's back in [another state] cheating on him with an abusive guy [the stalker/verbally abusive/criminal father of the child - at least we think he's the father of the child]. She says she may be back in a week or two, but she's lied so much to everyone lately that nobody really believes her anymore... and we're getting to the point that we no longer care one way or the other. My workmates keep telling me to distance myself from her, and I'm afraid they're right.
Be glad you don't have kids, [Del]. Some of them can grow up to break your heart!
Very sad for her. How disappointing. I am taking her out to dinner and a movie to celebrate an early birthday to try to cheer her up.
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Very sad for her. How disappointing. I am taking her out to dinner and a movie to celebrate an early birthday to try to cheer her up.
Good for you, Del. She needs it right now, I bet. And good for her for seeing the light . . .
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There's a book or a screenplay in this saga somewhere. I just hope for the sake of all concerned that it ends up a comedy and not a tragedy. :-\
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There's a book or a screenplay in this saga somewhere. I just hope for the sake of all concerned that it ends up a comedy and not a tragedy. :-\
The jury is still out, unfortunately. :-\
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Good for you, Del. She needs it right now, I bet. And good for her for seeing the light . . .
Thank you. And I can't tell you how relieved I am that she did see through all the subterfuge.
We had to reschedule for next week, but that just gives me more time to shop for her. I'll probably take her out to her favorite Greek place - or my favorite restaurant - and either let her talk or distract her, depending on what she's feeling.
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Car repair places. >:( >:( >:( >:(
I had my oil changed at the Kwik Kar Lube place yesterday and when they checked my battery said it was down to 30% efficiency and needed to be replaced.
I said, sure, you guys put in the last battery and it hasn't been that long for a 5 year battery. It should still be under warranty.
They tried to replace it, didn't have the right size, so said they'd replace it today.
I drove in today and they told me it would be another day before the battery would come in. Oh, and by the way, the battery wasn't under warrantly. I'd last had it replaced in 2004.
"But it's a 5 year battery."
"No it isn't."
"The battery you replaced in 2004 was a 5 year battery, are you telling me you replaced an under warranty 5 year battery with only a 3 year battery?"
I'm staring him in the face accusing him of ripping me off.
He just shrugs. He doesn't know, he wasn't working at the place then.
So, unless I can find a 3-6 year old receipt, it's their word against mine.
SOOOOOOOOOOOO fucking pissed off. >:( >:( >:(
I'm half tempted to go somewhere and get my own 5 year battery so I can have the paperwork and not depend on those clowns again.
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my battery has a tag on it with the date it was installed...and yes I would go somewhere else...
(I see you found the Bitch thread!!!)
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my battery has a tag on it with the date it was installed...and yes I would go somewhere else...
(I see you found the Bitch thread!!!)
Had to. ;D
Minor bitch of the day.
When managers have afternoon meetings, get out late, then rush to their departments, catching people starting to clean up their desks for the day, and ask "Are you leaving now? Do you have time for quick 15 minute meeting?"
45 minutes later, we're all still there. >:(
Can't they save whatever they were going to say for the next morning instead of between 5 and 6 pm?
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Had to. ;D
Minor bitch of the day.
When managers have afternoon meetings, get out late, then rush to their departments, catching people starting to clean up their desks for the day, and ask "Are you leaving now? Do you have time for quick 15 minute meeting?"
45 minutes later, we're all still there. >:(
Can't they save whatever they were going to say for the next morning instead of between 5 and 6 pm?
oh my lort...ok...here is mine..
I have to take the deposit to the bank. The bank requires I be there before 5 so I leave work at 4:15 to make it to the bank at 4:50. On Fridays everyone leaves at 4. I made the comment that I never got off early...that is about my reg time to get off..
so the secretary smarted off "You get off early every day!"
no I don't. as long as I have the money in the car I am officially working...I can't stop at the corner store and shop. I cant' go off and run an errand...I am tied up until my reg time at the bank!
>:( >:( >:(
I dont' hear anyone else volunteering to go to the bank and 'get off early'...
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U.P.S.
I'm on the goddamn phone for the 3rd fucking time today.
For those who don't know, UPS is a package delivery service. Well known world wide.
Also well known for only delivering during the hours of 8 am to 5 pm Monday through Friday, no late or weekend hours.
So needless to say, if you are a working person, you are NEVER GOING TO BE HOME during their delivery times to sign for a package.
Unfortunately for me, a great many people use this service.
Also unfortunately for me, no other place that is convenient for me will sign for a package - my place of work, my apartment managers office - due to the liability involved.
So I have to always make other arrangements to pick up a package sent to me.
THIS time, I was relieved. I got the notice Monday and I have today off from work. So I called them Monday and had them reschedule the delivery for today.
Around 3 pm, I finally called to see where my package was. I have to leave home at 5 pm.
UPS operator: Yes, we have your package scheduled for delivery on 3/31/08.
Me [deadly]: No, I scheduled it for 3/21/08.
UPS: Oh, we show you called in, then...[pause]...it was rescheduled for the 31st.
Me: Who did that? It wasn't me and I gave no one permission to do that.
UPS: We'll find out and have them call you back.
ME: I'm leaving in 2 hours. I need them to call me back and my package delivered by then.
Needless to say, despite waiting an hour, no one called.
I called back and am currently on hold while the supervisor keeps trying to reach the incompetent boobs at the delivery center and it's looking - OF COURSE - like no one will be able to get back with me today, my package won't be delivered today and I HAVE WASTED AN ENTIRE DAY OFF sitting here like an idiot waiting for this.
Of course, the clock is ticking down. I have to leave in 25 minutes and the best I got out of the supervisor is that a supervisor of the idiots who started this whole shitty scenario is "going to call me back in 10 minutes" to "further discuss" the issue.
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U.P.S.
Supervisor called.
She can't find my package. It's currently lost somewhere in their center. It will be Monday before she will know if she can find my package or not and she will call me then.
>:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:(
Why don't we have an icon with a red face and steam coming out its ears?!?!?
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U.P.S.
UPS found my package and promptly re-shipped it to my home address, like normal and left me a message saying "hey you weren't home when we came by.."
Luckily, I had gone home for lunch and when I found the little yellow note, I promptly called UPS and went absolutely ape-shit. I was shouting at them on Friday. Monday, I was literally screaming at them for their incompetence.
I got the supervisor who was supposed to call me Monday and never did on the phone and sounding sullen - like all this was MY fault - asked what delivery arrangements I wanted.
"AFTER 5 pm TODAY." I replied.
She agreed.
I left work at 4:30 pm, got to my home by 4:48 pm and had just enough time to use the bathroom before the doorbell rang.
Yep, UPS having no clue what AFTER 5 pm meant. They docked the delivery of my package at 4:53 pm.
Imagine if I had - yet again - taken them at their word and arrived at my home at 5 pm?
>:( >:( >:( >:( >:(
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U.P.S.
UPS found my package and promptly re-shipped it to my home address, like normal and left me a message saying "hey you weren't home when we came by.."
Luckily, I had gone home for lunch and when I found the little yellow note, I promptly called UPS and went absolutely ape-shit. I was shouting at them on Friday. Monday, I was literally screaming at them for their incompetence.
I got the supervisor who was supposed to call me Monday and never did on the phone and sounding sullen - like all this was MY fault - asked what delivery arrangements I wanted.
"AFTER 5 pm TODAY." I replied.
She agreed.
I left work at 4:30 pm, got to my home by 4:48 pm and had just enough time to use the bathroom before the doorbell rang.
Yep, UPS having no clue what AFTER 5 pm meant. They docked the delivery of my package at 4:53 pm.
Imagine if I had - yet again - taken them at their word and arrived at my home at 5 pm?
>:( >:( >:( >:( >:(
ummm....you would have been even more displeased??
;D ;D
is that not so irritating?? seems customer service is a dying concept WE are now the ones that have to bend over backwards for THEM!
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My mother has been very ill and is now recovering.
She was in the hospital for 3 weeks and is now in rehab and has been for a week.
During the first week my mother was in the hospital and doing so extremely badly, I didn't think she'd make it, I was there every single day after work and on weekends because my sister had strep and we didn't want her near anyone. After my sister recovered, she and I started alternating days visiting my mother as her health was precarious and would improve then degenerate sometimes within an hour.
I don't have to tell you guys how exhausting emotionally and physically this situation is.
PLUS, we're also checking on her home every few days to make sure it isn't broken into, paying her bills, keeping up the lawn, keeping the relatives informed, haranguing the doctors and nursing staff, etc. and since the hospital is across town from where we live, I don't have to tell you guys how my gas bill has skyrocketed till I can't really afford it.
FINALLY, thank the gods, she recovered and is now in rehab. After a week of alternating days visiting her, last night after sitting there a few hours, listening to my mother complain about the staff, watch her eat dinner and watch TV, perfectly normal, I decide she's fine and I tell her that instead of seeing her Saturday, I'd see her Monday. She said OK. I was taking a day off.
My sister just called. Among the conversation tidbits of her visit to mom, she said, "Oh, when you go there tomorrow, tell mom X."
Me: I'm not going tomorrow. I told mom I'd see her Monday.
Sister: God you're such a bitch!
Me: Me? Why am I a bitch?
Sister; Can't even spend a few hours with your own mother!!
Me: I HAVE been spending time with her.
We went on in the same vein for a few minutes, but basically I told her that mother wasn't sick anymore, was coherent and able to attend to her own affairs at the rehab place and so constant attention by us wasn't really needed and she was perfectly free to take a day off if she wanted to as well, no one was making her go. She changed the subject.
Jeez, like I was Satan incarnate because I wanted a day to myself. She just wanted to call me names, I reckon. >:( >:( >:(
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Jeez, now there is a supportive sister! Don't let her put her issues on you Del. You will be able to be much more 'there' for your mom Monday having had some time off. It is important when you are a caregiver to take care of yourself too.
You are NOT doing anything wrong by taking a break. The worst is over.
{{Del}}
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Jeez, now there is a supportive sister! Don't let her put her issues on you Del. You will be able to be much more 'there' for your mom Monday having had some time off. It is important when you are a caregiver to take care of yourself too.
You are NOT doing anything wrong by taking a break. The worst is over.
{{Del}}
Thank you, Jess. I can't tell you how much I wanted to PM and tell you what was going on and how bad it was when I was going at it alone without help (the tarot card reading I did at the first of the year was haunting me as well), but in the end I didn't because I wanted BM to be a refuge for me to take my mind off of things.
Thanks again {{{{Jess}}}} :-*
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Thank you, Jess. I can't tell you how much I wanted to PM and tell you what was going on and how bad it was when I was going at it alone without help (the tarot card reading I did at the first of the year was haunting me as well), but in the end I didn't because I wanted BM to be a refuge for me to take my mind off of things.
Thanks again {{{{Jess}}}} :-*
You can pm me anytime, Del....Even if you just want to vent. :-* :-*
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I get things like this from my very religious friends, and this one I'm at a loss for words. I want to e-mail her back
ARE YOU JOKING?
The woman who sent me this is very well off, runs her own business, is extremely intelligent and this religious e-mail she forwarded to me is so illogical, so misleading, so moronic in parts, obviously not understood by some and insulting to any religious person who lost a loved one and anyone's intelligence in general it's bordering on criminal that people pass around this kind of ignorance as if it's stone cold fact of divine retribution:
DID YOU KNOW THESE FACTS?
I SURE DIDN'T TILL NOW
Death is certain but the Bible speaks about untimely death!
Make a personal reflection about this.....
Very interesting, read until the end.....
It is written in the Bible (Galatians 6:7):
"Be not deceived; God is not mocked:
For whatsoever a man sow,
that shall he also reap.
Here are some men and women
Who mocked God :
John Lennon (Singer):
Some years before, during his interview with an American Magazine, he said:
"Christianity will end, it will disappear.
"I do not have to argue about that. I am certain.
Jesus was ok, but his subjects were too simple, today we are more famous than Him" (1966).
Lennon, after saying that the Beatles were more famous than Jesus Christ, was shot six times.
Tancredo Neves (President of Brazil ):
Durng the Presidential campaign, he said if he got 500,000 votes from his party, not even God would remove him from Presidency.
Sure he got the votes, but he got sick a day before being made President, then he died.
Cazuza (Bi-sexual Brazilian composer, singer and poet):
During A show in Canecio ( Rio de Janeiro ),
while smoking his cigarette, he puffed out some smoke into the air and said:"God, that's for you."
He died at the age of 32 of LUNG CANCER in a horrible manner.
The man who built the Titanic
After the construction of Titanic, a reporter asked him how safe the Titanic would be.
With an ironic tone he said:
"Not even God can sink it"
The result: I think you all know what happened to the Titanic
Marilyn Monroe (Actress)
She was visited by Billy Graham during a presentation of a show,
He said the Spirit of God had sent him to her. After hearing what the Preacher had to say, she said:
"I don't need your Jesus"
A week later, she was found dead in her apartment
Bon Scott (Singer)
The ex-vocalist of the AC/DC. On one of his 1979 songs he sang:
"Don't stop me; I'm going down all the way, down the highway to hell".
On the 19th of February 1980, Bon Scott was found dead, he had been choked by his own vomit.
Campinas (IN 2005)
In Campinas , Brazil a group of friends, drunk, went to pick up a friend.....
The mother accompanied her to the car and was so worried about the drunkenness of her friends and she said to the daughter holding her hand, who was already seated in the car:
"My Daughter, Go With God And May He Protect You."
She responded: "Only If He (God) Travels In The Trunk, Cause Inside Here.....It's Already Full "
Hours later, news came by that they had been involved in a fatal accident, everyone had died,
the car could not be recognized what type of car it had been, but surprisingly, the trunk was intact.
The police said there was no way the trunk could have remained intact. To their surprise, inside the trunk was a crate of eggs, none was broken
Christine Hewitt (Jamaican Journalist and entertainer)
said the Bible (Word of God) was the worst book ever written.
In June 2006 she was found burnt beyond recognition in her motor vehicle.
Many more important people have forgotten that there is no other name that was given so much authority as the name of Jesus.
Many have died, but only Jesus died and rose again, and he is still alive.
"Jesus"
PS: If it was a joke, you would have sent it to everyone.
So are you going to have courage to send this?.
I have done my part, Jesus said "If you are embarrassed about me, I will also be embarrassed about you before my father."
You are my 8 in 8 seconds. I am not breaking this. No way!
I'M TOLD THIS WORKS!!!!! Bishop T.D. Jakes "8 Second Prayer." Just repeat this prayer and see how God moves!!
"Lord, I love you and I need you, come into my heart, and bless me, my family, my home, and my friends, in Jesus' name. Amen."
Pass this message to 8 people {EXCEPT YOU AND ME}.You will receive a miracle tomorrow.
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oh good lort....that is hilarious!
sooooo.....what? I mean, that is about stupid. Are they saying everyone that dies before they are old are dying cause God is wandering around looking for insults?
OOPS!!
well if ya'll dont' hear from me no more, you'll know why!!
:laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
and what is old? 50? 100? ever??
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Idiot relatives who make helpful suggestions for someone else to do.
Stupid fucking cousin of mine.
My mother is in a rehab hospital because right now she needs 24/7 care. She needs help walking and standing and getting to the bathroom, much less cooking or cleaning for herself.
My mother's mother died in a shitty nursing home and my mother has sworn never to go into one, and this rehab hospital is a combination rehab hospital/nursing home. My mother must feel she's in her worst nightmare. She complains constantly about the help, the food, etc. She also gets depressed "I'm so heartsick."
So I've been encouraging her. She is getting stronger, there is a light at the end of tunnel.
"Three more weeks", I tell her. "Then you're out of here." I encourage her to eat, exercise and get strong, giving her home as her goal.
Then my cousin sashays in.
"Hmm," she says, "Have the girls ever taken you out? They could take you home for the weekend and bring you back on Monday."
At this suggestion, my mother brightened and looked at me hopefully. I glared at my cousin and hoped she burns in hell.
My mother needs 24 hour care, you stupid fucking bitch!!! She needs a wheelchair which she cannot move herself and since she's also on permanent oxygen therapy means bringing her oxygen tank along with her, she cannot walk without someone holding her and her oxygen, she cannot cook, she cannot yet bathe herself, she has a lot of trouble getting off the toilet and out of bed, but she is getting stronger, she is able to stand a little and dress herself, but cannot yet put her shoes on.
Thanks so much you piece of shit for getting my mother's spirits up in vain and volunteering me and my sister to be on call and at my mother's home round the clock on our weekends when YOU don't work, don't visit very often yet live 4 blocks away from the hospital instead of the 15 miles that me and my sister do and could just as easily have volunteered to do this lovely deed yourself.
So keep your goddamned helpful suggestions to your stupid ass self!!!!!
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yeah you WITCH!!
You tell her, DEL!
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My boss and I were discussing current events...(not my favorite thing...I too often disagree with him and he cant' take it....)
so
he was talking about how he saw a tv show about a volcano blowing up in the 1870s and how the Muslims said Allah did it to punish us (christians)..."Even back then they blamed us!!"
and I merely pointed out that people have ALWAYS done that....blamed the 'other people' for 'Gods wrath"
he got a little hot....
but come on...learn some history. would it KILL him???
people from ancient times have said God made this and that happen to punish people.
I know he is my boss but GOOD GRIEF! Do I really have to sit and listen to this stuff??!!
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My boss and I were discussing current events...(not my favorite thing...I too often disagree with him and he cant' take it....)
so
he was talking about how he saw a tv show about a volcano blowing up in the 1870s and how the Muslims said Allah did it to punish us (christians)..."Even back then they blamed us!!"
and I merely pointed out that people have ALWAYS done that....blamed the 'other people' for 'Gods wrath"
he got a little hot....
but come on...learn some history. would it KILL him???
people from ancient times have said God made this and that happen to punish people.
I know he is my boss but GOOD GRIEF! Do I really have to sit and listen to this stuff??!!
Yeah you do. ;D He's the boss. :P I had one boss e-mail the floor a Christian urban legend story and another boss look at me appalled when she told us that a Democrat in the White House was going to put a homosexual on the Supreme Court. I recall her outraged look and her slow puzzlement when nobody was aghast at the thought and some of us snickered.
I read about Krakatoa blowing up on the 1880's and the Muslim community in the Dutch/British/German colonies using the collapse of the infrastructure in the wake of the disaster to finally outwardly rebel. But the Europeans had it coming seeing as the colonialists weren't egalitarians in their thinking or treatment of the native people.
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Idiot relatives who make helpful suggestions for someone else to do.
Stupid fucking cousin of mine.
My mother is in a rehab hospital because right now she needs 24/7 care. She needs help walking and standing and getting to the bathroom, much less cooking or cleaning for herself.
My mother's mother died in a shitty nursing home and my mother has sworn never to go into one, and this rehab hospital is a combination rehab hospital/nursing home. My mother must feel she's in her worst nightmare. She complains constantly about the help, the food, etc. She also gets depressed "I'm so heartsick."
So I've been encouraging her. She is getting stronger, there is a light at the end of tunnel.
"Three more weeks", I tell her. "Then you're out of here." I encourage her to eat, exercise and get strong, giving her home as her goal.
Then my cousin sashays in.
"Hmm," she says, "Have the girls ever taken you out? They could take you home for the weekend and bring you back on Monday."
At this suggestion, my mother brightened and looked at me hopefully. I glared at my cousin and hoped she burns in hell.
My mother needs 24 hour care, you stupid fucking bitch!!! She needs a wheelchair which she cannot move herself and since she's also on permanent oxygen therapy means bringing her oxygen tank along with her, she cannot walk without someone holding her and her oxygen, she cannot cook, she cannot yet bathe herself, she has a lot of trouble getting off the toilet and out of bed, but she is getting stronger, she is able to stand a little and dress herself, but cannot yet put her shoes on.
Thanks so much you piece of shit for getting my mother's spirits up in vain and volunteering me and my sister to be on call and at my mother's home round the clock on our weekends when YOU don't work, don't visit very often yet live 4 blocks away from the hospital instead of the 15 miles that me and my sister do and could just as easily have volunteered to do this lovely deed yourself.
So keep your goddamned helpful suggestions to your stupid ass self!!!!!
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Part Deux - my stay at home sister-in-law this time.
My mother is in a rehab hospital and will be home in about 3 weeks. She is stronger, looking great and anxious to be home.
On Mother's Day, we were all talking about equipment and logistics for when mom came home.
Sister-in-law: Oh she won't be able to spend nights by herself. Someone is going to have to be there with her.
Me [silent]
Sister-in-law: Del, you and your sister should do it.
Me [silent, noticing she didn't volunteer herself who doesn't work or her husband, my mother's son]
Sister-in-law keeps insisting.
Me [finally, laughing]: It ain't going to be me or my sister.
End of conversation.
Funny how others love to tell others what to do. I ain't your husband or your kids, sister in law.
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Part Deux - my stay at home sister-in-law this time.
My mother is in a rehab hospital and will be home in about 3 weeks. She is stronger, looking great and anxious to be home.
On Mother's Day, we were all talking about equipment and logistics for when mom came home.
Sister-in-law: Oh she won't be able to spend nights by herself. Someone is going to have to be there with her.
Me [silent]
Sister-in-law: Del, you and your sister should do it.
Me [silent, noticing she didn't volunteer herself who doesn't work or her husband, my mother's son]
Sister-in-law keeps insisting.
Me [finally, laughing]: It ain't going to be me or my sister.
End of conversation.
Funny how others love to tell others what to do. I ain't your husband or your kids, sister in law.
well it IS so much easier to solve everyone ELSE"S troubles... ;)
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I really should be pissed off about this, but this is so
typical of my sister's self-absorbed selfishness, control issues and possibly subconscious insecurity and jealousy that I have just kinda let it slide off me.
I love to go to Renaissance Faires. I have several outfits and love to just hang out there all dolled up. I tend to go early in the season when the Faire's open as Texas is ungodly hot and my outfits are designed with sufficient fabric worthy of a spring day in medieval England rather than 21st century early Texas summer.
I didn't want to go this late in the season wanting to go earlier, because it
does get so hot, but my sister wanted us to wait until her income
tax rebate check came in so she could have money to
spend. She's been telling us this since April when we last went.
And guess what?
After making us all wait on her until now, we're scheduled to go this Saturday she e-mails me today
and says she thinks she's going to pass on the Faire, it's already too hot and there's nothing much else she
wants to see this year.
Can you say passive aggressive?
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Oh, I'm so sorry to hear this Del. These events and experiences of yours, are reminding me of what I went through with my own sister when mom was dying. I hope things get better for you! :-* :-*
Thank you. These things just come out of left field. I don't know what I used to think, but apparently I've been very naive in believing people normally think before they open their mouths.
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This isn't really a BITCH, but something that struck me as a bit odd. Last week when I was at Wal-Mart, this woman was in front of us and walking very stiff and with a slight limp. Both her hands looked slightly deformed. Later when we were in the grocery section, we saw her over in the produce section talking to herself and picking up green peppers off the shelf and throwing them on the floor. She'd pick up a pepper, look at it and quickly throw it over her shoulder. Then she'd shake her hands as if the pepper hurt her. Then she'd pick up another one and the process would continue. There must have been 15 or 20 green peppers laying on the floor behind her. So, I walked up to her and asked if I could help her, and she turned to me, gave me an angry look and shouted NO! I think I may have offended her. I'm not sure. I worried about it for the rest of the day, and I HOPE I didn't offend her or hurt her feelings. :(
Don't worry about it. The lady has some mental issues and is not all there to begin with.
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I ate too much...
that IS a bitch....Roland is trying to make me fat!
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Bitch, bitch, bitch! ;D
So you like the recipe - who wouldn't? hunh?
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Bitch, bitch, bitch! ;D
So you like the recipe - who wouldn't? hunh?
you should put a warning label on it!
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I just don't get it.
I've been torturing myself watching shows on the HG network like Househunters and Househunters International, looking to see what houses are out there at what price.
Today's episode on Househunter International was about a San Diego couple wanting to buy a house in New Zealand.
She was a cake decorator - not a caterer.
He was a butcher.
They met at the grocery store where they both worked.
I looked up the salary ranges for both those jobs and I was thinking, hey here's an episode about people making regular Joe money, let's see what kind of houses they can afford abroad.
Their "budget"?
$500,000.00 :o :o :o
(the dollar is apparently still strong in NZ, the Kiwi dollar price was $800,000.00)
My jaw just dropped. How do two working stiffs whose jobs do not pay a lot, afford a half-million dollar home??!?!?
??? ??? ???
All I can think is that they saved up a great deal or inherited some money, otherwise, they might be these sub-prime people buying more than they can reasonably afford in the long run.
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exactly...
I would SO love to see some shows featuring real people...if the median income is $100,000 that means that half the people have incomes UNDER $100,000 so....
where is the advice for them?
I will never forget reading about an older woman in Redbook...the poor woman was struggling so they brought in a counselor for her...
she had three cars and a pickup, a house, a cottage, a club membership...and couldn't get by on an monthly income of $13,000
::) ::)
my heart just bled for her...
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Hey there, Roland,
I've been meaning to pop in and say howdy, see how you're doing. No good excuses, just haven't had good internet access, lately. I hope you're OK...Know I've been thinking of you...you're in my heart and prayers.
Love,
Lynne
:-*
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I just don't get it.
I've been torturing myself watching shows on the HG network like Househunters and Househunters International, looking to see what houses are out there at what price.
Today's episode on Househunter International was about a San Diego couple wanting to buy a house in New Zealand.
She was a cake decorator - not a caterer.
He was a butcher.
They met at the grocery store where they both worked.
I looked up the salary ranges for both those jobs and I was thinking, hey here's an episode about people making regular Joe money, let's see what kind of houses they can afford abroad.
Their "budget"?
$500,000.00 :o :o :o
(the dollar is apparently still strong in NZ, the Kiwi dollar price was $800,000.00)
My jaw just dropped. How do two working stiffs whose jobs do not pay a lot, afford a half-million dollar home??!?!?
??? ??? ???
All I can think is that they saved up a great deal or inherited some money, otherwise, they might be these sub-prime people buying more than they can reasonably afford in the long run.
I think that every time I watch those programmes.I think of my own kids and wonder how or if they will ever get on the housing ladder.Or will they be living with us for ever,now that's a sobering thought.!
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I am SICK SICK SICK of everyone on TV using the phrase 'harm's way'.
the soldiers are 'in harm's way'
the people along the Mississippi are 'in harm's way'
the panda is losing its habitat and 'in harm's way'
ARRGH!!
just say DANGER!! talk about OVERDOING IT!
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One thing I'm getting sick of hearing - especially with more and more celebrities getting public about their various charities:
"Once I had my child, I realized that wow, the world needs...blah blah blah." ::)
If I were them, I'd be embarrassed to admit how self-absorbed, uncaring and clueless I had been before I had a child. There are plenty of charities around who are grateful that many people are more aware, concerned and involved whether they have children or not.
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One thing I'm getting sick of hearing - especially with more and more celebrities getting public about their various charities:
"Once I had my child, I realized that wow, the world needs...blah blah blah." ::)
If I were them, I'd be embarrassed to admit how self-absorbed, uncaring and clueless I had been before I had a child. There are plenty of charities around who are grateful that many people are more aware, concerned and involved whether they have children or not.
well you DO realize that having a child makes one SO much smarter...
:laugh: :laugh:
just because any dog can get pregnant and THEY dont' suddenly start writing books and looking down on other dogs that dont' have pups doesnt' mean it isn't a whole other process for HUMANS..oh no...we are so much different...
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Whiny baby department heads or department heads with a Napoleon complex.
Last month, a meeting was scheduled. My department was not invited. The person holding the meeting called my supervisor to ask why our department was not attending. He replied that we had not been invited to the meeting, he had no e-mails, no calendar events scheduled.
When the meeting was held, it was poorly attended, obviously due to the dept. head not being very organized in scheduling people to attend.
She e-mails the Chief Operating Officer to complain and he e-mails my supervisor asking why we didn't attend. My boss grinds his teeth because in order to defend us, he has to contradict what this other department head said. But he agreed we would attend the next meeting.
Trouble is, the next meeting was scheduled a month in the future.
Things happen.
The meeting was today. Of the people in my department slated to attend, one was on vacation (my boss), another was on emergency personal leave, the other quit, the other was out that day, etc., etc. until basically there was only two people in my dept who could attend. Me and another woman.
Trouble is, we both forgot about the meeting and there was no one to remind us. Yes, our electronic system will notify us of meetings but only 15 minutes ahead of time. However, if you - as in my case - didn't remember there was a meeting at all and left for lunch 20 minutes before the meeting, you had no clue. My counterpart's reminder system failed and she didn't even get noticed about the meeting. The dept. head holding the meeting physically came to escort her to the meeting, wondering where everyone else was.
Needless to say, the dept. head complained again - not to my absent boss, not to her immediate boss - but to the head guy. I found myself having to explain to the Chief Operating Officer of my company why I wasn't at this meeting. :o :o :o
And it wasn't like this meeting was very important. It was a review of a client's telephone etiquette.
I kid you not.
I don't know why this woman is so insistent on mandatory 100% attendance at her meetings. Few people have 100% attendance at any meeting. The information was simple and could have easily been passed out to those who missed the meeting with instructions to review it with the people who did attend the meeting. That's SOP normally.
So if the COO didn't like my response - I was honest - I may be out of a job soon. The reason will be interesting.
There's always alligator wrestling for a living...
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sheesh...and I was feeling sorry for myself cause Don won't let ME ride the tractor while HE weedeats..
I guess it COULD be worse..
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I need a big ol sign for the front of my car that says:
"PLEASE! DO pull out in front of me! I LOVE having to put on my brakes, especially when I JUST got this little bitty thing up to the speed limit! If you could, please, check and make sure that there is no one behind me because knowing you could have waited two seconds and let me get by really puts an extra layer of enjoyment for me.
THANKS!!"
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one of these days I am gonna stop being a nice person and just RAM the stuffing out of someone!
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ARRRGHHHH!!
I HATE when a website offers a 'free test' or whatever and then to get your results, you have to either pay with a credit card or switch to their service! I just spent twelve minutes taking a 'free' IQ test only to get to the end and find they want $10 to give you the results. I guess technically they DID let me take the test for free.....but what good is it if you don't get your score?? DECEPTIVE!
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ok my bad...they did send my score to the email address I gave them..they just charge you to find out what it means.
some of those questions didn't make any sense at all....like they had a question that said:
Steve likes 400 but not 300, he likes 100 but not 99, he likes 3700 but not 3600, what does he like?
a)200
b)1200
c)1400
now seriously, how am I supposed to know what that means? They should ask questions a NORMAL person would know.
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Just found a fitting needlework for this thread and thought I'd share ;D
(http://i101.photobucket.com/albums/m47/Penthesilea06/Sonstige/bitchlg.jpg)
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Just found a fitting needlework for this thread and thought I'd share ;D
(http://i101.photobucket.com/albums/m47/Penthesilea06/Sonstige/bitchlg.jpg)
Perfect!! (http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/4/4_1_210.gif)
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Dear old friend,
It was good to see you again. It's been what? Six years since you stood me up 3 times after making plans? Yes, I accepted your reason for being rude and disappearing as being reasonable and was very encouraged when we exchanged phone numbers and promised to catch up. In fact, when I got home, I was even more pumped when I found a voicemail message from you making sure you have given me the right number...Soooo..after nearly a month, it would be nice if you returned the messages I have left almost weekly for you.
Just a thought. :P
Dear sister,
You're a selfish, fucking scut. Cut out one happy hour and getting fucking voicemail so you don't inconvenience everyone else when we are trying to reach you.
Dear mom,
I love you. But after giving up grad school, moving back to town, staying at a job I hate in a state I don't want to be in so I could be near to help you out in your last days, after 14 hour days working then helping you out, when I couldn't take you to one doctor appointment it was a bit much to hear from you that I "wanted you to die of cancer". :( >:(
*(I am out of sick days myself and work for a company whose benefits are all on paper - they disapprove greatly, deduct from your annual review and any salary increase if you dare to actually take all the sick days they offer) >:(
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oh DEL
:'( :'( :'( :'(
I wish I had more to offer
{{{{Del}}}}}
I hope you know you are very much in my thoughts....You are doing a great job. I know you are doing your level best and you deserve to have that acknowledged. I am so proud of you for your strength but I know sometimes you get tired of carrying the load for everyone.
:'( :'(
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oh DEL
:'( :'( :'( :'(
I wish I had more to offer
{{{{Del}}}}}
I hope you know you are very much in my thoughts....You are doing a great job. I know you are doing your level best and you deserve to have that acknowledged. I am so proud of you for your strength but I know sometimes you get tired of carrying the load for everyone.
:'( :'(
Thanks babe. You do help a lot. Actually it's really nice when I have bad days to simply know that you guys are here.
I'm being patient. I've written off my sister as being much help at anything. It's worthless making plans with her, because she'll agree, and then pretty much do whatever she wants anyway (to make sure my mother had someone visit her at least 6 days a week, along with nurses and rehab guy, my sister and I alternated days, that way our mother was covered...well I made plans that we were to alternate days. I think my sister kept that up for about a week. Now she pretty much shows up whenever it's convenient for her >:()
My mother - as in the example tonight - needs something the next day, my sister is supposed to come over tomorrow morning...but I can't reach her so she can bring this item because she doesn't have vm. I left a nasty message on her work vm
Other times, my mother needs her to bring something, so I call her or e-mail her at work with a list. I say, "write this down" or "print this out".
Does she?
No.
I arrive at the house, fully expecting X to be there just to be told by my mother that when asked, my sister replied, "Oh, I forgot." >:( >:(
My mother's lawn needs watering. It took my sister three weeks of reminding before she finally bought a waterhose for my mother. I had given up on her and had bought my own, then had to go get a refund.
She's power of attorney, executor of the estate and has done nothing to find hospice care for my mother. I'm doing all the research into that.
My mother I forgive a lot more despite the hurtful things she says. She's sick and so is self-absorbed, she wants what she wants and nothing is ever good enough. Trouble is, I grew up with the idea of not being good enough, being called stupid, and have spent my entire life proving to myself and the world at large that I'm not stupid and can be good enough so her attitude does not give me warm fuzzies.
So, life is not very pleasant right now, but at least my friends online and real (for the most part anyway) have all stepped in to offer to help out or cheer me up.
And that does mean a lot. :)
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Thanks babe. You do help a lot. Actually it's really nice when I have bad days to simply know that you guys are here.
I'm being patient. I've written off my sister as being much help at anything. It's worthless making plans with her, because she'll agree, and then pretty much do whatever she wants anyway (to make sure my mother had someone visit her at least 6 days a week, along with nurses and rehab guy, my sister and I alternated days, that way our mother was covered...well I made plans that we were to alternate days. I think my sister kept that up for about a week. Now she pretty much shows up whenever it's convenient for her >:()
My mother - as in the example tonight - needs something the next day, my sister is supposed to come over tomorrow morning...but I can't reach her so she can bring this item because she doesn't have vm. I left a nasty message on her work vm
Other times, my mother needs her to bring something, so I call her or e-mail her at work with a list. I say, "write this down" or "print this out".
Does she?
No.
I arrive at the house, fully expecting X to be there just to be told by my mother that when asked, my sister replied, "Oh, I forgot." >:( >:(
My mother's lawn needs watering. It took my sister three weeks of reminding before she finally bought a waterhose for my mother. I had given up on her and had bought my own, then had to go get a refund.
She's power of attorney, executor of the estate and has done nothing to find hospice care for my mother. I'm doing all the research into that.
My mother I forgive a lot more despite the hurtful things she says. She's sick and so is self-absorbed, she wants what she wants and nothing is ever good enough. Trouble is, I grew up with the idea of not being good enough, being called stupid, and have spent my entire life proving to myself and the world at large that I'm not stupid and can be good enough so her attitude does not give me warm fuzzies.
So, life is not very pleasant right now, but at least my friends online and real (for the most part anyway) have all stepped in to offer to help out or cheer me up.
And that does mean a lot. :)
ARGH!! Is Mom not willing to change that? If you are having to do the leg work you should have the power.
And yes, be as patient as you can with your mom...in the future it WILL pay off. I know that aint' gonna be easy...
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ARGH!! Is Mom not willing to change that? If you are having to do the leg work you should have the power.
And yes, be as patient as you can with your mom...in the future it WILL pay off. I know that aint' gonna be easy...
She is willing, but she was afraid my sister would make a big stink about it, having been jealous of me all these years...I never realized it, being rather oblivious about such things, but my mother and several friends finally pointed it out when my sister's behavior toward me was puzzlingly hostile.
Yes, I bitch bitch bitch here and to my friends, never to my mother. I know she can't help it, so I just disregard it and keep a cheerful attitude around her. But it is hard.
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She is willing, but she was afraid my sister would make a big stink about it, having been jealous of me all these years...I never realized it, being rather oblivious about such things, but my mother and several friends finally pointed it out when my sister's behavior toward me was puzzlingly hostile.
Yes, I bitch bitch bitch here and to my friends, never to my mother. I know she can't help it, so I just disregard it and keep a cheerful attitude around her. But it is hard.
well it can be hard to see things when you are so close to them, Del. You grew up in a toxic atmosphere...hard to see clearly thru that mess isn't it?
it is good to have somewhere to vent...you know you are always welcome to come fuss. Do it as often as you need to...then go give them heck in Current Affairs!
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Oh dear Del, big hugs and kisses from me.... you're not having an easy time of it.
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Oh dear Del, big hugs and kisses from me.... you're not having an easy time of it.
Thank you, you're sweet. :-*
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Much arguing with my sister this morning over her inconsideration for others when she is inaccessible because she doesn't have vm.
We went back and forth for a while, until she finaly came out with what I always suspected, but I finally got to read in her own words.
1) that she didn't care if people were inconvenienced trying to reach her
(this includes her own mother, dying of cancer) >:(
2) that if they really needed to talk to her or leave a message they could call me
(I am now her personal secretary, taking and screening her calls and messages) >:(
3) that the messages were never important
(to her. That other people may feel the message is important is not something she concerns herself with) >:(
At this point, I just dropped the conversation before I said something I knew I would not regret but would eventually pay for. Selfish, self-absorbed bitch, like I always suspected. :P
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you know I can understand not wanting to be on a leash but when you have power of attorney and your mother is deathly ill..
you put yourself to the side. It is not like this is going to be a permanent thing. selfish describes it perfectly.
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I am posting this in the hope it might help you. My mother is a class A1 bitch and hypochondriac. She has been dying for 20 plus years and her second home is the local private hospital. She is unpleasant in the extreme and when I was in the U.K everything I did was wrong, period.She told me my oldest son should never have been born,then when he started to show signs of problems she told me he just needed a good smack.Then a couple of months ago on the phone she asked me when I knew how ill my son was, why on earth had I moved to a country where I could not get cheap psychiatric drugs.
He is now ill you see, up until recently he was badly behaved, lacking in discipline and just generally poor parenting.
She now blames his genetic father for his problems, despite the fact my brother has ADHD I am bi polar and she is a raving lunatic.
Long story short, when I told my brother who lives in Japan we were moving to the states, he was unfucking believable. Who was going to look after mum if anything happened to dad.
I pointed out she has been dying for a good 20 years, all the time he has been in Japan and all the running around had been done by me.I had held my tongue for so long, every Xmas when he came home and told me not to be so hard on her blah blah. I just opened my mouth and let rip.Told him if he was so concerned then he could move back.He does not live with his wife and daughter and his job is done on computer.So he can work anywhere.I could not just leave my husband with 3 kids and a full time job while I popped back to the U.K to open another bottle of pills for mum.
I ranted on and on,aid I had done the last 20 years he could do the next.
It took several months for us to talk again, but in the end he emailed me to say sorry, and how selfish he had been.He also admitted that he would have killed her years ago.
I also ranted at my mum as well.All the insults she had hurled at me all the times I wasn't good enough,telling me my oldest should not have been born, telling her it was the longest ongoing death in history and why did she just get on with it and stop making everybodies lives a misery.Most of all my fathers.She too cut off communications for a good while.In the end I had to ring her and apologise as my dad rang me and sad she was making his life even worse.So I gritted my teeth and apologised.That was followed by the why take an obviously sick child to the states.!!!!!
Then the final blow, so she thought, she had persuaded my father to rewrite the will, leaving everything to my brother, and his daughter.Everything being a very substantial sum.
I don't give a fu-k about me, I can't believe she would be so callous to her other grandkids.My bother mailed me about it and said he had told her to stuff it and as he pointed out, she will probably outlast my father, and cost all the money she has left in 24/7 nursing care.
My point is, maybe just have it out with your sister.It worked for me and my brother, eventually.I sure felt a hell of a lot better once I ha said it all.He needed some home truths and we are now really close.So maybe it would work for you.The change was not overnight it took a few months, but it was worth it.
I hope some of this may help your very unenviable situation.I can't believe how long I put up with both my brother and mother before completely blowing.As a byproduct, my blood pressure came down !!!! So I could come off meds. for that.
I wish you luck in dealing witha selfish sibling.I truly do know how that feels.There were lots of reasons for moving here, but one was certainly in part my mother.
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I am posting this in the hope it might help you. My mother is a class A1 bitch and hypochondriac. She has been dying for 20 plus years and her second home is the local private hospital. She is unpleasant in the extreme and when I was in the U.K everything I did was wrong, period.She told me my oldest son should never have been born,then when he started to show signs of problems she told me he just needed a good smack.Then a couple of months ago on the phone she asked me when I knew how ill my son was, why on earth had I moved to a country where I could not get cheap psychiatric drugs.
He is now ill you see, up until recently he was badly behaved, lacking in discipline and just generally poor parenting.
She now blames his genetic father for his problems, despite the fact my brother has ADHD I am bi polar and she is a raving lunatic.
Long story short, when I told my brother who lives in Japan we were moving to the states, he was unfucking believable. Who was going to look after mum if anything happened to dad.
I pointed out she has been dying for a good 20 years, all the time he has been in Japan and all the running around had been done by me.I had held my tongue for so long, every Xmas when he came home and told me not to be so hard on her blah blah. I just opened my mouth and let rip.Told him if he was so concerned then he could move back.He does not live with his wife and daughter and his job is done on computer.So he can work anywhere.I could not just leave my husband with 3 kids and a full time job while I popped back to the U.K to open another bottle of pills for mum.
I ranted on and on,aid I had done the last 20 years he could do the next.
It took several months for us to talk again, but in the end he emailed me to say sorry, and how selfish he had been.He also admitted that he would have killed her years ago.
I also ranted at my mum as well.All the insults she had hurled at me all the times I wasn't good enough,telling me my oldest should not have been born, telling her it was the longest ongoing death in history and why did she just get on with it and stop making everybodies lives a misery.Most of all my fathers.She too cut off communications for a good while.In the end I had to ring her and apologise as my dad rang me and sad she was making his life even worse.So I gritted my teeth and apologised.That was followed by the why take an obviously sick child to the states.!!!!!
Then the final blow, so she thought, she had persuaded my father to rewrite the will, leaving everything to my brother, and his daughter.Everything being a very substantial sum.
I don't give a fu-k about me, I can't believe she would be so callous to her other grandkids.My bother mailed me about it and said he had told her to stuff it and as he pointed out, she will probably outlast my father, and cost all the money she has left in 24/7 nursing care.
My point is, maybe just have it out with your sister.It worked for me and my brother, eventually.I sure felt a hell of a lot better once I ha said it all.He needed some home truths and we are now really close.So maybe it would work for you.The change was not overnight it took a few months, but it was worth it.
I hope some of this may help your very unenviable situation.I can't believe how long I put up with both my brother and mother before completely blowing.As a byproduct, my blood pressure came down !!!! So I could come off meds. for that.
I wish you luck in dealing witha selfish sibling.I truly do know how that feels.There were lots of reasons for moving here, but one was certainly in part my mother.
You poor thing {{{optom}}. Thank you for this. I will definitely keep it in mind. I, too, can be blamed for not saying things in order to keep the peace. Matter of fact, I just did a ritual tonight to Juno Lucina for a friend of mine whose daughter is giving birth and to Juno Viriplaca to keep the peace in the family. While things need to be said, I decided, why cause trouble now? Make mom's last months tense and miserable? This won't last forever, then there will be a reckoning.
Whew. My mother doesn't hold a candle to yours, optom. For which I'm very thankful. She is truly ill and would very much not like to be -as we all would.
I would like to have it out with my brother and sister, but my sister can be petty and vindictive and holds grudges for a long time. She is not above character assassination and poisoning events and relationships to get her way or drum up sympathy for herself. My brother, even though he's the oldest and has an equal stake in the estate, does very little to help and my mother does not pressure him like she does us girls. They had some falling out years ago and are just now repairing their relationship, but what the falling out was is a deep dark secret, so I can't really give him flak for not doing his part since I don't know what the standoffish issue is between them is. He might be perfectly justified. [shrug] Dunno.
But I will keep your words in mind. Thanks so much.
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good morning Del.
I know that with the immediate crisis, confronting your sister is not an option but Fiona is right...and at some point you will and it will be hard...but it will improve your relationship. I stopped talking to my mother for a year and it really made an impression on her that I was serious about her knocking off the insults.
You will 'hit the wall' one day. It will just have to wait for while I think..
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Bitch of the day - my sister.
She doesn't have vm, yes? As per my above rants?
Today I'm at my mom's, mopping, doing dishes, filling up things, watering, just helping around the house and my mother asks if I will call my sister to see if she called in a prescription to the local pharmacy.
I call from my mother's phone, not thinking I will get her, but I try anyway.
To my surprise, my sister answers and she, in a hurried, impatient voice, snarls
"What do you want?"
Note whose number is showing up on her caller ID?
Her sick mother.
That is how she addresses her.
Bitch. >:(
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You poor thing {{{optom}}. Thank you for this. I will definitely keep it in mind. I, too, can be blamed for not saying things in order to keep the peace. Matter of fact, I just did a ritual tonight to Juno Lucina for a friend of mine whose daughter is giving birth and to Juno Viriplaca to keep the peace in the family. While things need to be said, I decided, why cause trouble now? Make mom's last months tense and miserable? This won't last forever, then there will be a reckoning.
Whew. My mother doesn't hold a candle to yours, optom. For which I'm very thankful. She is truly ill and would very much not like to be -as we all would.
I would like to have it out with my brother and sister, but my sister can be petty and vindictive and holds grudges for a long time. She is not above character assassination and poisoning events and relationships to get her way or drum up sympathy for herself. My brother, even though he's the oldest and has an equal stake in the estate, does very little to help and my mother does not pressure him like she does us girls. They had some falling out years ago and are just now repairing their relationship, but what the falling out was is a deep dark secret, so I can't really give him flak for not doing his part since I don't know what the standoffish issue is between them is. He might be perfectly justified. [shrug] Dunno.
But I will keep your words in mind. Thanks so much.
Note I was not that brave. I waited until I knew I would be many thousands of miles away, very soon, before opening the whole can of worms.What it did for me, was almost like having a cancer cut out. I truly am not exagerating. For the best part of 20 years I had let the situation go on.I had let it eat away at me bit by bit, as I became more and more bitter.It was really in danger of completely destroying me.
The opening my mouth and letting years of anger etc out into the open was like opening up an abscess.Sure it hurt, as I am not naturally vindictive, but the realease way more than compensated for that.
I knew I stood a real chance of being ostracised by the family, but how much worse could it be than what I was going through.In the end after a very long break in communications, it turned out to be the best thing I ever did.
I was not brave though, it took me 20 years , several Vodkas and the protection of the telephone before I plucked up the courage to open the pressure valve.
I wish you the courage to do it way before I did.Look after yourself, as it sounds like no one else will.
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Two months ago, the French policeman who is an internet friend of my sister's e-mailed us both. He is coming to Texas. My sister agreed to put him up for his short stay.
I believed based on his message that he was coming through for about 3 days, Friday through Saturday. Seeing as he would arrive on a weekday, I thought it would be best if he stayed at my place instead of my sister's because I'm within walking distance of a lot of places. Her home is in a residential area far from any place of interest. I could leave him a key and he could walk around until I got home from work.
So I volunteered.
A week or so later, my sister let me know that he was actually coming in on a Wednesday night and she was getting a day off and if I could get a day off we could each show him round before the weekend, he would never be alone.
A few days later, I was having lunch with a friend and mentioned this to her.
She stopped eating and stared at me.
Her: That doesn't sound like the Del I know.
Me: What do you mean?
Her: Do you often invite strange men you don't know to spend the night at your place?
Me (flustered): Er, no.
She made me realize belatedly, that I had just invited a total stranger to spend 3 nights alone with me.
Do I know the guy?
No.
He's my sister's friend. A guy she met on the internet. I met him several times. Once in London, and he showed us around Paris for a day or so, we visited his home. I think I exchanged perhaps a paragraph or two of conversation with him.
He says he is a policeman.
Have I or my sister seen a badge? No
Have I or my sister seen him in uniform? No
Did I see in his home a picture of he and his buddies, perhaps in uniform? No
All I have is his e-mail address but it is a government e-mail address in France
And my friend also threw in the fact that he had come to visit my sister, not me, so perhaps it was just as well that I withdraw my offer and instead just take over my niece's care as well as my mom's for the weekend so that would free up a bed in her house and give her more time with her friend. I would still take a day off and drive him around so he would never have a reason to need to walk anywhere.
I thought it a good enough compromise and e-mailed my sister.
She didn't respond, so I figured, she agreed and no big deal.
Today, 3 weeks later, I asked her what day she was taking off from work, so I could take the other. She responded that she didn't think she could take a day off, but that didn't matter since he was staying with me anyway.
I was like, Whoa. Didn't you get my e-mail I sent a few weeks ago?
She replied, Yes. [silence]
She got my e-mail and just ignored it because I wasn't telling her what she wanted to hear.
So I hammered my points home again.
She blew up.
She accused me of being immature and that if he couldn't stay at my place, then she didn't need my help or need me to entertain him at all. I could just not bother.
I'm like WTF ??? This is HER friend and she's pissed off that I changed my mind and I won't put him up?
This is one of those situations where I'm not allowed to inconvenience her, you see.
Not this time. I went right back at her that I was perfectly within my rights to change my mind if I had a good reason and I did. It wasn't immature and I was being perfectly reasonable and why was she throwing such a tantrum about it?
I could understand her being dismayed if he was flying in the next day and I suddenly bailed, but his visit is still about 3 weeks away. Plus I had e-mailed her earlier in the month anyway.
She tried the martyr route - "Fine, I'll have to spend my birthday weekend cleaning, thanks to you."
I told her to get off the cross because her birthday weekend was this weekend and she still had the weekend after to clean before he flew in.
So right now, again, basically, if she doesn't pull her head out of her ass and grow up 15 years in the next 3 weeks, she is going to condemn her friend to who has flown 3000 miles to see her to sit in her home, without any company, telephone, cable, computer or any place near to walk because she didn't get her way.
My co-workers and friends were, And this is HER friend, right?.
I'm like, Yup. This is what a good friend she is. [shakes head]
So despite the fact that I didn't do anything wrong, I'm all stressed out due to this latest fight.
Grrrrrrrrrrr
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oh GOOD for you, Del!
DON'T let her in your head like that...you did EXACTLY the right thing. PERFECTLY.
as far as you are concerned it is over....she invited him, he is HER friend, NOT your problem!
stuff her!!
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I am proud of you for standing up to her, you put up with enough stuff from her with your mother that you HAVE to deal with, don't let her dump this on you too.
(and just to be catty....if she wouldnt' let her house GET so bad it wouldnt' take a whole weekend to get ready for a visit! *MEEEEOOOWWW*)
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sisters, eh!?
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sisters, eh!?
Yep. She's still ignoring and giving me the silent treatment. Even though it's her birthday this weekend. OKayyyyy...
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Not really a bitch, just a depressing observation. Saw an old co-worker today, haven't seen him since before I left for college. Last time he saw me, I was very fit, and about 30 lbs lighter. He looks exactly the same. I gave him a hug and - I guess I asked for it, should have said something more neutral - said,
"It's good to see you, you haven't changed a bit."
He instantly fell over himself, trying to find something nice to say, "Oh, yeah, it's good to see you and well, thanks and - you - you look good too."
*sigh* :(
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Yep. She's still ignoring and giving me the silent treatment. Even though it's her birthday this weekend. OKayyyyy...
dang and you are feeling under the weather and REALLY REALLY wanted to spend at least an hour or two celebrating with an ungrateful wench!
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dont' feel bad...YOU are in the right.
You have the right to take care of Del. No one else will. Pamper yourself in any way you can. You deserve it.
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Not really a bitch, just a depressing observation. Saw an old co-worker today, haven't seen him since before I left for college. Last time he saw me, I was very fit, and about 30 lbs lighter. He looks exactly the same. I gave him a hug and - I guess I asked for it, should have said something more neutral - said,
"It's good to see you, you haven't changed a bit."
He instantly fell over himself, trying to find something nice to say, "Oh, yeah, it's good to see you and well, thanks and - you - you look good too."
*sigh* :(
aw. Del.
Don't do that to yourself, sweetie. You are feeling down and no wonder, considering all you are going thru. I am sure he didnt' mean it the way you think...
{{{{Del}}}}
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aw. Del.
Don't do that to yourself, sweetie. You are feeling down and no wonder, considering all you are going thru. I am sure he didnt' mean it the way you think...
{{{{Del}}}}
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Yup - what Jess said.
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Dear college-friend.
Love you to death - love ya like a sister.
I know you're small town Texas, didn't meet a black person until you were 15, married a chicken farmer good ole boy from small town Texas, I know you are as Red-State, conservative, religious country as you can be, but please do not send me any more bigoted racist shit about Obama, OK?
None of this "his father got a white girl pregnant and left" garbage.
Thank you,
Love Del
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Dear college-friend.
Love you to death - love ya like a sister.
I know you're small town Texas, didn't meet a black person until you were 15, married a chicken farmer good ole boy from small town Texas, I know you are as Red-State, conservative, religious country as you can be, but please do not send me any more bigoted racist shit about Obama, OK?
None of this "his father got a white girl pregnant and left" garbage.
Thank you,
Love Del
oh my gawd....
that is terrible!
jeez. I am amazed at people...
good to see you back and bitching, Del!
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oh my gawd....
that is terrible!
jeez. I am amazed at people...
good to see you back and bitching, Del!
I know, jeez, lotsa people have broken homes, why bring race into it? It was really appalling to read and that she sent it to me. I'm hoping she just didn't read it carefully. She is such a sweet girl and has such a lovely family - though I wasn't happy with her choice of husbands - I'd hate to think she's so surrounded by racist attitudes that she's picking them up unthinkingly.
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Not a bitch, just a sad bewilderment on the vagaries of life and the cruelty it can deal out.
I cannot fathom why life would be so cruel as to give each of us such a will to live - and what do you need to live? To keep one's heart beating, lungs breathing and belly filled - yet take it away at the same time.
Why would the Fates return cancer to an aging woman who has already suffered most of her life with this condition and at an age where she is now too delicate to fight it off as she had done before?
And so begins the last slow dance with Death.
Need a heart to keep pumping? Years of chemotherapy have damaged my mother's heart and sprung a leak. So she has erratic blood pressure that can make her breathless, nervous and giddy and also dizzy, weak and faint, sometimes in the same day.
And due to her condition? Inoperable.
Need those lungs pumping? Let her diaphragm muscles slip out of their normal spot and push so completely against one lung that she is down to 1.3 lungs and is on oxygen 24/7. I imagine she must feel like she's just about to suffocate almost every day.
And due to her condition? Inoperable.
Oh, and how about keeping oneself fed? Let the cancer metastasize, one tumor lodge in her neck, slowly growing and squeezing her esophagus shut.
And due to her condition? Inoperable.
It's as if Death is squeezing her, cutting off every lifeline, one at a time, killing her slowly, but keeping her in full awareness of each desperate breath.
And still mom has hope. One phone call to me to tell me, my stomach clenches and gets sick, while her call is full of irritation that her doctor doesn't give her any options.
I wonder - does she know that's probably because she really doesn't have any - or worse still, she does know that, but is going to keep on fighting even though the battle is already lost?
I can't be angry - the Wheel of Fortune spins for us all, but not equally - I just wish the Dance had been a quick one.
>:( :( :'(
Second woe - discussing politics with friends of opposing political parties. Spent most of today back and forth with a conservative friend and despite being two adults with good, college educations, equal ability to communicate ideas, ideals and effective skills at negotiation, compromise, equal access to a legion of information and media sources, our discussion ground down and left us two kids on a playground, both convinced we were right, unwilling to budge because we know we are right and
Me: Yes, it is.
Him: No, it isn't.
Me: Yes, it is.
Him: No, it isn't.
Me: Yes, it is.
Him: No, it isn't.
Is it any wonder this country is still so divided? You start to understand why there are some spots in the world without any chance of peace because of this same situation. :P
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I wish there was more that I could do.
Your mother is in denial. It won't last forever...let her have it for now. It is all you can do for her...let her rant...I know it is hard, Del mon ami...lord you have a hard time ahead of you. Take it one step at a time. One breath at a time and remember it won't last forever...though it will feel that way.
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Thank you, dearest Jess.
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Thank you, dearest Jess.
it is so hard to see people go thru such hard times. I remember when I was very very depressed many years ago, I would wonder why I lived when everywhere you turn there are people dying that dont' want to.
That kind of stuff is hard to figure out...hard to think about. Life is so random.
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Dear boss - I really appreciated you calling me into the office today to tell me that the trainer of the training class I attended yesterday didn't appreciate the 'confrontational' and 'inappropriate' manner in which I asked her about a certain topic.
I was told I needed to respect my peers.
Translation?
The trainer was wrong, didn't understand what I was asking and really resented feeling like a fool in front of the training class. So the next time when this trainer asks "Are there any questions?" I'll know that's just a rhetorical statement and I'm to keep my mouth shut.
Respect is supposed to go both ways - but it apparently doesn't. When I replied to my boss that I was surprised the trainer said this because she had thanked me for my 'good questions'
So, next time, when I hear "thank you, those are good questions." from this trainer, I'll know that that person is a lying hypocrite and behind my back will report a complaint against me to my manager.
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I just now read about your Mom, Del. I am so, so sorry. Shit.
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Me too, Del.
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Thanks guys. Appreciate it, much.
One of the reasons I disappear from the board from time to time. :(
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Thanks guys. Appreciate it, much.
One of the reasons I disappear from the board from time to time. :(
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Here's where I can't fucking wait to move away from all these goddamn people I call family.
My mother asked me the other day, if she has to go to hospice/nursing home for her last days if I wanted to move into her house.
I agreed instantly, as I had already told my sister that when mom passed on, I would live in the house a couple of years and save for a down payment on my own home and then I'd move out and she could do the same.
Sounds reasonable, right? Considering my sister has already moved in and out of my mother's house twice, staying anywhere from a couple of years to 6 months, saving rent and money. AND my mother has already given her $10 grand in inheritance money.
I haven't moved home at all since I left, nor have I received any money from my mother.
I told my mother about my plans and what I had told my sister and she asked, "What did your sister say?"
I replied, now the some trepidation, "She didn't say anything."
Which I now know is my sister's code for "do not agree".
Sure enough, I told my mother to tell my sister this plan - since my mother is the one who asked me - and my sister pitched a fit. Got all pissed off, saying SHE needed to live in the house since her job was nearby. All the benefits she has already received from my mother and staying at the house don't count, you see.
I'M the one being selfish. >:( >:(
You understand why I'm reluctant to let my sister in the house before me? Possession is 9/10ths of the law. I don't think I could get her out once she gets in. Seriously. I have some benefits to moving in first, but then I have no guarantee my sister will help with taxes or insurance while I'm there.
I begged my mom to write this in her will, but she's cheap and just says "write it down on a piece of paper and I'll sign it' - as if that would mean anything in a court of law.
All I can do is push really hard to move in first - fucking break in if I have to - it would be a war of whose lease is up first when the time comes.
My sister is such a goddamn fucking selfish bitch if I get in the house and stay my two years, I'm out of here. Never fucking looking back, never claiming her as family. >:( >:( >:(
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Jeez, Del, she can't wait til your mom passes before she wants to start fighting over the inheretance...I don't blame you a bit.
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Jeez, Del, she can't wait til your mom passes before she wants to start fighting over the inheretance...I don't blame you a bit.
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Exactly what my mom said. She knows the jealousy and selfishness isn't coming from me. She said I'd better write down what I want from the house/her personal stuff, otherwise my sister will snatch it all up.
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Exactly what my mom said. She knows the jealousy and selfishness isn't coming from me. She said I'd better write down what I want from the house/her personal stuff, otherwise my sister will snatch it all up.
better yet why doesn't she start letting you HAVE some of the items that she won't miss that much.
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better yet why doesn't she start letting you HAVE some of the items that she won't miss that much.
She would if I asked and as a matter of fact, I'm going to ask for some things tomorrow, seeing as I can't trust my own sibling to be an honest and a standup person. >:(
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She would if I asked and as a matter of fact, I'm going to ask for some things tomorrow, seeing as I can't trust my own sibling to be an honest and a standup person. >:(
good, and when your sister fusses, just ignore her. (hey it beats choking her and having to serve time!)
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She would if I asked and as a matter of fact, I'm going to ask for some things tomorrow, seeing as I can't trust my own sibling to be an honest and a standup person. >:(
God, that must be awful. :(
So sorry to read about the whole situation, Del. :(
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God, that must be awful. :(
So sorry to read about the whole situation, Del. :(
Thanks.
I know a lot of people on this board have it worse with even more vindictive relatives and utterly heartbreaking tragedies in their own lives. I guess it's just one of those things that happen in families that just come out of left field. I expected my siblings to be helping out in these last days, not grubbing over who gets what while my mother is still alive.
The car even became an issue. My mother gave me her car when she was no longer able to drive which was when she began her steep decline this spring. She had made her plans known to everyone back in 2003-4 when she came out of remission because though my sister has been through a fleet of cars in her life, I was still driving my ratty but still functional 24 year old jeep from my college days.
My mother is too invalid to go with me to the Registration office to sign over the title to me. My sister has power of attorney so she could sign, but she already told me she was "too busy" to take off lunch and go with me to sign the doc.
(mind you, I know nothing about this kind of stuff)
Was my sister just being a bitch again or was there a method to her madness?
If my mother passes away before she signs over the title, the car becomes part of the estate and thus my sister has a claim to it.
I finally drove to the office myself, explained my situation and they said no problem, the signing didn't have to be witnessed, just have my mother sign it over and come back and pay the fee and it will be a done deal.
Now all I have to worry about is the house - and the major appliances inside. I want my mother to add a codicil to her will that says the appliances stay in the house, lest my sister show up with a pickup truck and haul them away, but my mother is too cheap to do it.
*sigh*
I did ask my mother for the one thing of hers I really wanted - her emerald ring. She had offered her wedding ring to me a few years back when my father passed, but my sister bitched so much, I told my mother to just give it to her to keep the peace.
My mother gave me the emerald ring. It's in my possession now.
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I begged my mom to write this in her will, but she's cheap and just says "write it down on a piece of paper and I'll sign it' - as if that would mean anything in a court of law.
You know, I think you may want to do this anyway. In a claims court case that basically comes down to "she-said/she-said" — any little thing might help tip it in your favor.
Also, I think the hassle of going to the lawyer and changing the will might be part of what is holding your mother back. (Calling, scheduling the appointment, getting there, etc.) What if you were to call, make the appointment, and just take your mom there? You've thought of all these things to update and make more specific. If there were just one appointment in which all these changes can be made, it would be worthwhile. (And could it just be with a paralegal or a notary or something? Not a full-on attorney?)
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(((((((del)))))))
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And the hits just keep onnnnnnnnnnnnnn comin'. >:( >:( >:(
My mother called yesterday. My sister's car got repo'd, so since she cannot take care of her own financial affairs, my mother is going to take my sister off her bank account and make me her Power of Attorney.
However, and sadly for me, mom offered my sister to come stay with her so she can save up money and get another car - because she has already spent the $10,000 in inheritance money she got from my mother earlier.
My mother plans on making it a short term offer, but my mother still harbors some hope she will be around longer and be able to evict my sister after a few months. And she doesn't want my sister's dog in the house and she doesn't have a good fence for her yard. And my sister's dog is an indoor dog. Will my sister sacrifice her daughter's dog to save on money and get a chance to move into the house ahead of me after all?
I told my mother if my sister takes her up on her office, that's it for me ever getting a chance to live in the house and save up for a downpayment on my own house because legally I will be unable to evict her and my sister doesn't care about her moral/ethical or emotional obligations to her siblings.
And then of course if she is still in the house when mother passes away, she will be responsible for paying the newly increased taxes - lest she lose the house in a tax sale - and the homeowners insurance - which she doesn't even pay renters insurance now.
Will we be able to depend on her to spend money on the house to keep it up?
I have no idea. My sister has failed to live up to any expectations so far.
So basically, the irresponsible sister will likely get the bulk of the estate and a free house and I'm left to make other plans for my future.
Stay tuned in for more soap opera digest!
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Not sure what to say here Dela, :(
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Not sure what to say here Dela, :(
I know how you feel, Kelda. I was speechless when I got the latest this evening...my sister had been borrowing her ex-husband's car because he normally takes the train to work...and he and his car were involved in a carwreck today.
I guess the upside is that the wreck was the other guy's fault, he was insured and my ex-brother-in-law wasn't hurt (at least yet that we know of).
The downside is my sister trying to get another car to borrow...
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Just been back to IMDb after a long time away.
What is this authentication shit? I just want to post on the boards and NO, I don't want to give them my ID on other sites that contains personal information with financial data on it.
Why the fuck can't I just post?
Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrr >:( >:(
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Just been back to IMDb after a long time away.
What is this authentication shit? I just want to post on the boards and NO, I don't want to give them my ID on other sites that contains personal information with financial data on it.
Why the fuck can't I just post?
Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrr >:( >:(
cause you are BAD!! BAD Del!!
they got you on the naughty (but nice) list!!
:laugh:
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My poor mom.
It isn't bad enough that she's terminal and invalid, but things just keep happening.
Last night around 11 pm, some stupid drunk MF plowed his car into a brand spanking new car parked on her street. He tried to run, but was so drunk, he jumped his car over the sidewalk and right into her front yard and fence, tearing down the concrete posts, driveway gate, sidewalk gate, two shrubs and all the fencing in-between.
He was so drunk, he couldn't even stand to try to escape on foot. The neighbors - whose new car he totalled - kept a watch over him until the police arrived - 1.5 hours later.
The cops took him off to jail and impounded his car. For all the good it will do.
He had no driver's license, was an illegal alien and so of course, he had no insurance.
>:( >:(
Boy, was my mom pissed. We were over there today, taking pictures of the damage, hauling away loose pieces and hoping she has full coverage on her homeowners insurance policy to pay for all the damage.
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God, thats a real shame Del.. :-\ >:(
And what an ass!
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God, thats a real shame Del.. :-\ >:(
And what an ass!
Thanks Kelda. My sister thinks it's "exciting", I think it's a pain the ass and makes me grumpy about our helplessness - that people can be so irresponsible and for all practical purposes get away with it. >:( It ups my mother's blood pressure and stresses her out which is not good for someone with a suppressed immune system. We can only hope insurance will pay for the repairs, otherwise my mother will be forced to use more of her retirement/savings to pay to repair the damage. >:(.
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New bitch of the day.
Why is it that on internet community boards, I seem to get along fine with boards whose posters are the majority men and boards that are co-ed, but on boards where the majority of the posters are women, I don't.
I find this extremely strange seeing as men are scarce in my life and I do nothing but interact almost daily with no one but women. I've not dated or had sex with a man in over 5 years, my sister hasn't had men in her life on a regular basis since her divorce, my father passed away years ago, I only see my half-brother one or twice a year, all my closest friends are women and when I was employed, the majority of my fellow co-workers were women as well.
I am invariably confronted, told I am too upfront, too blunt {that is seen as a bad thing, apparently), the wording of my posts is 'unfortunate' or trollish. Some posters react with teary and/or very angry bitchy emotional posts.
Not that they all do, of course. A few women support and/or understand what I was saying/meant, but they invariably get beaten down by the outpouring of outrage. But seeing as I behave and the mods don't caution me and indeed they have posted several times cautioning the others that the board is a discussion board and not a 'support' board, there isn't much they can do except gang up against me whenever I post - sort of like a high school clique.
This has happened on at least 2 boards for me so far.
Anyone else have this problem or it is just me?
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New bitch of the day.
Why is it that on internet community boards, I seem to get along fine with boards whose posters are the majority men and boards that are co-ed, but on boards where the majority of the posters are women, I don't.
I find this extremely strange seeing as men are scarce in my life and I do nothing but interact almost daily with no one but women. I've not dated or had sex with a man in over 5 years, my sister hasn't had men in her life on a regular basis since her divorce, my father passed away years ago, I only see my half-brother one or twice a year, all my closest friends are women and when I was employed, the majority of my fellow co-workers were women as well.
I am invariably confronted, told I am too upfront, too blunt {that is seen as a bad thing, apparently), the wording of my posts is 'unfortunate' or trollish. Some posters react with teary and/or very angry bitchy emotional posts.
Not that they all do, of course. A few women support and/or understand what I was saying/meant, but they invariably get beaten down by the outpouring of outrage. But seeing as I behave and the mods don't caution me and indeed they have posted several times cautioning the others that the board is a discussion board and not a 'support' board, there isn't much they can do except gang up against me whenever I post - sort of like a high school clique.
This has happened on at least 2 boards for me so far.
Anyone else have this problem or it is just me?
Hunh. I take it you mean at boards other than BetterMost? I haven't noticed this happening to you here. You and I have certainly had our disagreements, some pretty intense but never teary or bitchy. In fact, I've always thought you were very good at keeping your cool. Other times, of course, we've agreed.
But then, maybe this is one of the co-ed boards you were referring to. Here, I don't think I see much difference between the way that women in general and men in general express themselves. Some of both sexes are very outspoken and opinionated, others of both sexes avoid debate and don't like conflict.
BetterMost and IMDb's BBM board are the only message boards I've ever contributed to extensively. I was on a yahoo board for mothers for a while -- all women, obviously -- and I did contribute some posts, sometimes disagreeing with other POVs, but it never got too carried away. For the most part, people posted lone opinions or articles rather than debating back and forth. It was more a newsletter-style board, though.
So I have nothing more to add from personal experience, though I would be interested in hearing others' thoughts. I can see where it might be possible that women, who are often socialized to cooperate, would get more upset by strong arguments than men, who are socialized to compete. As I said, I don't see that happening here, but maybe at all-women's boards it does.
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I told my mother if my sister takes her up on her office, that's it for me ever getting a chance to live in the house and save up for a downpayment on my own house because legally I will be unable to evict her and my sister doesn't care about her moral/ethical or emotional obligations to her siblings.
What did your mom say when you said that?
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What did your mom say when you said that?
She said she would limit my sister's stay to six months and planned on making sure she lived past that 6 months to make her stick to the date for leaving. ;D
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Hunh. I take it you mean at boards other than BetterMost? I haven't noticed this happening to you here. You and I have certainly had our disagreements, some pretty intense but never teary or bitchy. In fact, I've always thought you were very good at keeping your cool. Other times, of course, we've agreed.
But then, maybe this is one of the co-ed boards you were referring to. Here, I don't think I see much difference between the way that women in general and men in general express themselves. Some of both sexes are very outspoken and opinionated, others of both sexes avoid debate and don't like conflict.
BetterMost and IMDb's BBM board are the only message boards I've ever contributed to extensively. I was on a yahoo board for mothers for a while -- all women, obviously -- and I did contribute some posts, sometimes disagreeing with other POVs, but it never got too carried away. For the most part, people posted lone opinions or articles rather than debating back and forth. It was more a newsletter-style board, though.
So I have nothing more to add from personal experience, though I would be interested in hearing others' thoughts. I can see where it might be possible that women, who are often socialized to cooperate, would get more upset by strong arguments than men, who are socialized to compete. As I said, I don't see that happening here, but maybe at all-women's boards it does.
I'm sorry I wasn't clear. This is a co-ed board that I don't have a problem with. :)
Your theory is my tentative theory as well - that on boards that are exclusively women - there seems to be more concern on keeping the social cohesion of the board by sacrificing personal expression (I'm asked to tone myself down to avoid hurting other people's feelings). I'm interested to see if anyone else has similar experiences.
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I'm asked to tone myself down to avoid hurting other people's feelings.
Have you heard of Myers-Briggs Del? Where they categorize people (along a continuum) as either Thinkers or Feelers?
Thinkers tend to be factual and logical. And they state their opinions definitively. And Crayons is right that most women (regardless) aim for cooperation and mutual support — so they frequently couch their opinions delicately, amid all kinds of qualifiers.
"Well in my experience..."
"I don't know, but..."
"I'm sorry, but..."
I was brought up in the South, and I remember being downright startled and shocked when someone would have the nerve to offer a different opinion. (That tendency was spotty; I once corrected my pediatrician's grammar – LOL.) I remember my mom was talking with a guest she'd had over for lunch, and they said "I don't agree with that", and I was SHOCKED. It took me a long time to realize it was okay(!)
Anyway, by many female cultural standards, you are quite blunt, Del. Sorry to hear those things have happened to you, but to be blunt (hee) I'm not surprised.
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Have you heard of Myers-Briggs Del? Where they categorize people (along a continuum) as either Thinkers or Feelers?
Thinkers tend to be factual and logical. And they state their opinions definitively.
I underwent personality testing along with fellow trainees at one company I was with that was very similar or maybe the same thing. I don't recall.
The categories were based on how one came to a decision - when confronted with an issue in what order and with what strength did one
Think
Decide
Feel
about it?
They used a Star Trek example
Kirk = Decide
McCoy = Feel
Spock = Think
They also had a cute experience to relate. When they did their testing in offices across the country, they're always given a company contact. They could instantly tell what a person's personality strength was by how they were given instructions on how to get to the company.
One company contact sent detailed instructions on how to get to the office, with pages from Mapsco copied and the route and subway lines highlighted, phone numbers, etc.
One company contact personally called the testers and gave directions, "Oh, it's that big blue building next to the red brick building after you get off at the stop that has a bunch of flower stands..."
One company contact sent the address, phone number, time and said "Be there."
:laugh: :laugh:
We were all tested and went around with badges signifying what was concluded about us. I - if you can believe it ;D - was TDF with emphasis on the T.
The testing was pretty spot on with everyone. I found that I got along best with people who were Big Ts or Big Ds but less so with people who were Big Fs. The feeling was mutual. I made close dear friends with Big D and Big T people, but with Big F people, we got on each other's nerves after a while and took 'vacations' from one another from time to time.
And Crayons is right that most women (regardless) aim for cooperation and mutual support — so they frequently couch their opinions delicately, amid all kinds of qualifiers.
"Well in my experience..."
"I don't know, but..."
"I'm sorry, but..."
I was brought up in the South, and I remember being downright startled and shocked when someone would have the nerve to offer a different opinion. (That tendency was spotty; I once corrected my pediatrician's grammar – LOL.) I remember my mom was talking with a guest she'd had over for lunch, and they said "I don't agree with that", and I was SHOCKED. It took me a long time to realize it was okay(!)
Well, for some people, it's apparently still not OK.
I think I read similar things in that book Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. I know for a fact that I always had to crouch my e-mails with personal touches and qualifiers to some co-workers (all women) otherwise they got very offended, like I was barking at them or treating them like a cog, when to me, all I was doing was saving myself time and keystrokes.
Anyway, by many female cultural standards, you are quite blunt, Del. Sorry to hear those things have happened to you, but to be blunt (hee) I'm not surprised.
:laugh:
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To be honest, though I am a pretty vociferous arguer, I get put off when people express an opinion as if it were a fact: "The Rolling Stones were better than the Beatles" as opposed to "I like the Rolling Stones better ..." or "I've always thought the Rolling Stones were better ..."
People who do that, come to think of it, are usually men.
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The Stones ARE better than the Beatles....... :laugh:
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The Stones ARE better than the Beatles....... :laugh:
Well, I agree. I guess that was a bad example, because it's not an opinion, it's a fact. :laugh:
(Actually, while I like the Stones better in general, I do think the Beatles probably did more to advance rock as an art form, so they have their place, too. And really I like them both.)
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I've been called for a job interview. Hasn't been scheduled yet. I am waiting for the HR person to call me back with my time to come in.
So here I am wanting to print out copies of my references just in case I need them.
But I can't do it.
After 4 years of working fine, printing out pics and stuff for home use and scrap booking, when I finally need my goddamn printer to work and print out resumes and cover letters, it's messing up and I can't get it to print clear. I've cleaned and cleaned the nozzles and aligned the print heads and still it doesn't print right.
So finally I said fuck it. I'll just download my stuff to disk and take it over to the local office print center for them to print..
But of course, and quite surprisingly, I can't get my disk drive to work. I don't know what's wrong with it.
I can't format the disk, I can't download anything to disk. The computer is identifying that I have a disk drive, but it won't acknowledge that I put a disk in the drive itself. It just keeps telling me to load a disk.
Now what the fuck am I supposed to do??!?!?!
Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
Edited to add: Called the office supply place and luckily I can e-mail them my docs and they can print them out. Thank the gods!!!
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Bad Luck Del. But good luck with the interview.
Email. Or USB Drive.
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That's cool that you have a job interview so soon!! Awesome!
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That's cool that you have a job interview so soon!! Awesome!
Thanks all. I'm trying not to get nervous. They have testing and I haven't been through that in over 10 years.
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Fun, fun.... ::)
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Fun, fun.... ::)
Good news and bad. The interview part went very well. It always does. My sister can't understand it, but apparently I come across in interviews as very professional, very intelligent and very charming. ;D
The reason the HR person was so keen on me is that out of the 4 test phases, I did well-to-excellent in 3 of them. I crashed and burned on testing in Word. But that was the HR person's fault. Her e-mail to me said the testing would include Word 2003 and Excel 2003.
No problemo. I used both at work and had Word 2003 at home.
Get to the testing center and bingo!!! Everything is from Office 2007. Word 2007 doesn't look anything like Word 2003.
I mentioned that to the HR person later and she was chagrined. She informed me that they just switched over to 2007 two weeks ago and she keeps forgetting to make that change when she talks to applicants. ::)
But she liked me so much - apparently - that she asked that I find a 2007 Word tutorial and come back within a week and retake just that part of the test.
I'm going to do just that, but I am less enthusiastic now. We spoke of salary - since the job openings said the salary was negotiable. But what they actually mean is that they're negotiable inside their company salary ranges.
I had my salary requirements and was willing to take a big cut. However the jobs that HR thinks I qualify for top out salary-wise even lower than my willingness to cut.
Not sure I want to try hard for a job whose maximum salary is less than the lowest salary I'm willing to accept. :-\
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Well it doesn't hurt to update your skills to the new Microsoft Office. And it would be good for your self confidence to be offered the job and have the option of taking it or turning it down ... so I'd say go for it anyway ... then you can decide if and when they offer you the job.
Good luck!
Susie :)
Thanks Susie. You're right. Plus the HR person said since they're a state office, it's a long process for them to make a decision on a hire and that I'd probably have to come in for more interviews, etc. So I'll go ahead and make myself eligible and possibly in a few months, if nothing else comes up, I might be desperate enough to not want to move to take any offer that might come my way. What the state lacks in salary might be made up in benefits.
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What is it with some people these days that they are so inconsiderate? >:(
A friend is buying a used car from this family in a nice part of town.
She went and looked at the car, liked it, test drove it, the price was right and she was ready to buy on the spot. The guy though, hemmed and hawed and said, he didn't have the title on him, he'd have to go to his office the next day and get it. So she signed a promissory note, and put some money down.
My friend called me to see if I would drive her up there (about 20 miles away) the next day to get the car. I said sure. So all day, we wait for this guy to call to say he has the title so we can go. As it gets later and later, we decide we're now waiting for the guy to call to tell us why he still doesn't have the title.
My friend finally calls the guy, leaves a message. We wait another few hours and he calls back to say he lost the keys to his office - WTF? >:( - and he'll have to get the title when he's at the office Monday. So my friend tells the guy she can be there after work Monday around 7 pm. He agrees.
So here it is, nearly 6:30 pm. I'm waiting for my friend and she calls me, furious. The guy called and left her a message saying,
"Oh, I'm heading for football practice, call me when you get this message."
Um did he forget they made plans to meet to buy the car and turn over title? In about a half-hour? So she's now called him back and had to leave another message. She was pissed and giving him the benefit of the doubt told him she was on her way to his house and she hoped he left the title with his wife to finalize the sale.
We're waiting on a response. >:( >:(
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When it rains it pours.
Unemployed, no job, living off unemployment and my damn TV breaks.
I checked briefly, but does NO ONE sell just a regular TV anymore??!?! >:(
I see flat screens, HD/plasmas and TV/DVD combos and that's it.
I don't want a combo, I just want a regular digital TV!!!
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When it rains it pours.
Unemployed, no job, living off unemployment and my damn TV breaks.
I checked briefly, but does NO ONE sell just a regular TV anymore??!?! >:(
I see flat screens, HD/plasmas and TV/DVD combos and that's it.
I don't want a combo, I just want a regular digital TV!!!
Poor del! :-\
Try the thrift shops and Salvation Army. I was in there today and saw bunches of them.
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Soooooo unbelievably frustrating.
Is it just me? Am I following instructions too closely?
I am still looking for a job and I see these positions and I look at the list of qualifications and I meet 99% of all of their requirements except for the specialization part.
NONE of the companies/organizations I'm applying for are willing to train!
And the shit that is specialized doesn't appear to me to be brain surgery. I mean, how hard can it be to pick up?
Should I just ignore that part and apply anyway seeing as I'm probably way overqualified for what I'm applying for in the first place or am I just wasting both of our times?
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Del, I have had the exact same experience, and I have been looking for a year. I've applied for many jobs I know I could do well, jobs I feel way overqualified for, and not even gotten calls.
My theory is that there are so many people out of work that companies get picky and hire people who have experience in that exact narrow specialty. Not that those candidates are necessarily the most qualified, but that they at least have some demonstrated ability to do that specific thing, so they seem like a safer bet.
I felt a little better when I interviewed a woman the other day for an article I was working on. She's been out of work for almost a year. She's in product development. Prior to this, she was always in fast-track, six-figure jobs, traveling around the world, soaring up through the ranks, etc. She has had to switch jobs a few times before when she moved or her company went out of business, but never had any trouble finding new ones, even if in somewhat different industries. Recruiters calling, companies flying her around the country.
This time she has sent out, she figures, 250 resumes and had like six or seven interviews. She has even applied at retail shops at the mall for $8 an hour and not gotten called.
I interviewed another woman, an economist, who told me that for every job opening there are currently 6.3 people out of work.
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Del, I have had the exact same experience, and I have been looking for a year. I've applied for many jobs I know I could do well, jobs I feel way overqualified for, and not even gotten calls.
My theory is that there are so many people out of work that companies get picky and hire people who have experience in that exact narrow specialty. Not that those candidates are necessarily the most qualified, but that they at least have some demonstrated ability to do that specific thing, so they seem like a safer bet.
I felt a little better when I interviewed a woman the other day for an article I was working on. She's been out of work for almost a year. She's in product development. Prior to this, she was always in fast-track, six-figure jobs, traveling around the world, soaring up through the ranks, etc. She has had to switch jobs a few times before when she moved or her company went out of business, but never had any trouble finding new ones, even if in somewhat different industries. Recruiters calling, companies flying her around the country.
This time she has sent out, she figures, 250 resumes and had like six or seven interviews. She has even applied at retail shops at the mall for $8 an hour and not gotten called.
I interviewed another woman, an economist, who told me that for every job opening there are currently 6.3 people out of work.
Grumble grumble.
I hear you. A guy on another board told me that when they posted a job opening last year, they got 15 resumes, this year they got 300.
EDITED TO ADD; Well, trying to look on the bright side - kinda - is being happy you're not as bad off as someone else feeling positive?
A friend who got laid off 3 weeks after me with his back still needing an operation, a mortgage, a truck payment and a teenaged son to support, e-mailed me to say he was still unemployed, about to go into foreclosure but he had an interview coming up. Problem was, he'd just fallen down the stairs and broke his foot. He has no health insurance so he can't afford to go take care of it. But he doesn't want to miss his interview either. Jeez, things could certainly be worse.
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A minor bitch this time.
I visit and am a member of many boards, so let me just clarify right off the bat that I'm not talking about this board.
On another board I visit I see these people post personal stories asking for advice and input, but they always preface their stories with such things as
"I'm posting here because I know you guys won't be judgmental"
Then they post a problem sooooooooooooooo entirely caused by their own stupidity or self-absorption or carelessness that you can't help but think things like
"Maybe if you'd listened to the advice you got, you might not have ended up where you are."
or
"Maybe if both of you hadn't been stoned out of your minds, you might not have gotten in the situation you are now."
But if someone even hints at this sort of thinking
"Well, neither of you were in a condition to make good decisions..."
Other people just rush in with
"OMG I can't believe you're blaming the victim! This is a support thread!"
Basically, I think these people post this kind of stuff and then use that proviso to make sure that they aren't criticized for being brainless. Probably they've already been lectured to and/or know they were stupid but are tired of being held responsible for their own actions and want to be coddled and told they are blameless. IMO such threads are emotionally manipulative and it makes me feel like an enabler if I contribute to them, so I don't.
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Jeez, such hostility and childish behavior that's exhibited by some grownups is just astounding.
On another board I visit, we're talking about women breastfeeding in public.
One women in the discussion openly proclaimed
So if I am at the mall, and I sit on a bench, and a woman sits next to me, and whips out her boob, I am going to ask her to do it somewhere else because I don't want to look at her boob
and when she was challenged on this, just because she didn't like it on a personal level, she said that she felt perfectly within her rights to tell these women what she thought because their actions were offensive to her
What you do about it is your own decision. But if you do something I find unpleasant, be prepared to hear about it. That's all.
When this was pointed out to her as rude and childish (only children blurt out to complete strangers their personal likes and dislikes) for such an innocuous act, she replied
Personally, I think keeping your mouth shut when something annoys you makes you a weakling that is going to be taken advantage by others
And this is an adult human being. :o A grownup who has no concept of manners or empathy or understanding of any way other than her own.
So I suggested she travel to the east side of her city and find some gang members and tell them out loud she finds them offensive instead of picking on nursing mothers. >:(
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So I suggested she travel to the east side of her city and find some gang members and tell them out loud she finds them offensive instead of picking on nursing mothers. >:(
What did she say to that!?!
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Personally, I think keeping your mouth shut when something annoys you makes you a weakling that is going to be taken advantage by others.
Geez---I think there'd be a lot more fights going on if people subscribed to that belief.
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What did she say to that!?!
She didn't. We discussed a little bit longer, where she compared nursing mothers to flashers asking 'what's the difference?' and when I called her on exhibiting childish behavior when she was accusing others of being childish, she put me on ignore.
She will therefore miss my post where I pointed out the irony of someone who can dish out criticism, but can't take it. :laugh:
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Personally, I think keeping your mouth shut when something annoys you makes you a weakling that is going to be taken advantage by others.
Geez---I think there'd be a lot more fights going on if people subscribed to that belief.
Exactly. Which is why I recommended her speaking out to people who were actually able to beat her up* instead of nursing mothers. She didn't respond.
(*this is my version of the criticism against PETA who throw paint on rich socialites and super models when they wear furs but ignore bikers wearing leather)
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Exactly. Which is why I recommended her speaking out to people who were actually able to beat her up* instead of nursing mothers. She didn't respond.
(*this is my version of the criticism against PETA who throw paint on rich socialites and super models when they wear furs but ignore bikers wearing leather)
do you have any evidence to show that PETA has a policy of 'ignoring bikers wearing leather'? Because PETA has an aggressive campaign against beef production and beef consumption and has been proactively working with McDonald's to buy its beef from sustainable sources while at the same time conducting a campaign of "Unhappy Meals" which it will only withdraw when they are satisfied that McDonald's has done all it can to source its products in an ethical manner. This would also be true of leather goods manufacturing - the goal of PETA is not to stop the world from using animals for food and clothing - it is to stop the unethical misuse, abuse, and mistreatment of animals under all circumstances. So 'ignoring bikers wearing leather' is not in their mission statement.
and yes, I am a past member of PETA. I am not active with them due to my objection to their selling my name in a mailing list swap with the Sierra Club, not because I object to their campaigns.
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do you have any evidence to show that PETA has a policy of 'ignoring bikers wearing leather'? Because PETA has an aggressive campaign against beef production and beef consumption and has been proactively working with McDonald's to buy its beef from sustainable sources while at the same time conducting a campaign of "Unhappy Meals" which it will only withdraw when they are satisfied that McDonald's has done all it can to source its products in an ethical manner. This would also be true of leather goods manufacturing - the goal of PETA is not to stop the world from using animals for food and clothing - it is to stop the unethical misuse, abuse, and mistreatment of animals under all circumstances. So 'ignoring bikers wearing leather' is not in their mission statement.
and yes, I am a past member of PETA. I am not active with them due to my objection to their selling my name in a mailing list swap with the Sierra Club, not because I object to their campaigns.
The criticism of PETA in regards to 'ignoring bikers' was in not throwing paint on them for wearing leather like they did older women and supermodels wearing fur.
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I was trying to save money, upset that I was looking more and more like Ozzy Osborne in my favorite sunglasses, I cut my own bangs...
Can you say George Clooney's Caesar cut?
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Hair grows out.. :P
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I'm UNEMPLOYED!!! Why is my employed sister still calling me to borrow money?!?!?!
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I'm UNEMPLOYED!!! Why is my employed sister still calling me to borrow money?!?!?!
*shakes head in disbelief*
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Man, am I behind the times!
A friend is loaning me her garage for free storage as I'm preparing to move. She wanted me to make a duplicate garage key so she and I could both have copies.
I swung by my local hardware store so I could get a copy made. They couldn't do it and recommended I go to a locksmith.
Easy enough...or so I thought.
Guess what? There are next to NO locksmith shops anymore. They are all on-call businesses. Yes, they will make you a key but you have to pay $39 for them to come to you because they don't have a shop you can go to.
But you only want a fucking $1 key made!
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Man, am I behind the times!
A friend is loaning me her garage for free storage as I'm preparing to move. She wanted me to make a duplicate garage key so she and I could both have copies.
I swung by my local hardware store so I could get a copy made. They couldn't do it and recommended I go to a locksmith.
Easy enough...or so I thought.
Guess what? There are next to NO locksmith shops anymore. They are all on-call businesses. Yes, they will make you a key but you have to pay $39 for them to come to you because they don't have a shop you can go to.
But you only want a fucking $1 key made!
Weird, del. The True Value hardware stores here make keys, and last I checked so does Wal-Mart and Lowe's and Home Depot...I've had keys made and all these places in the past year or so.
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Weird, del. The True Value hardware stores here make keys, and last I checked so does Wal-Mart and Lowe's and Home Depot...I've had keys made and all these places in the past year or so.
Oh, they do, but they can't make it if they don't have a blank for your key. That's what happened when I went to Home Depot. They didn't have the blank, so they couldn't make me a key and they have a greater selection of keys than do local drug stores.
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Oh, they do, but they can't make it if they don't have a blank for your key. That's what happened when I went to Home Depot. They didn't have the blank, so they couldn't make me a key and they have a greater selection of keys than do local drug stores.
good grief...what a pain. :-\
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Most moronically stupid thing I've read in a long time.
>:( >:( >:(
Such arrogance and self-righteousness makes me want to just slap the shit out of some people because they're obviously completely unaware of how fucking superior and ignorant they come across.
On another board I go to, a guy wondered why AIDS was still around. He commented,
What made me ask was when my mother and I had a conversation about gay marriage rights, and she said, "Gays can be allowed to marry as soon as they apologize for AIDS." I didn't know how to answer that...
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I've already bitched about this to a friend of mine, but I don't see why you guys here should escape reading about my crappy experience.
Unless I win the lotto, just shoot me next time I say I want a house. As most of you know, I'm still unemployed and am having for several reasons to move back in with my mother.
I was at my mother's today moving stuff in and TRYING to get her washing machine out of the back bathroom where she had it installed for some ungodly reason so I can actually use it as a bathroom.
It seemed to me to be a simple thing to get the plumber to come out and put in some new hookups.
The plumber came today and did an estimate.
He wanted $2300 to do the job! To move the fucking machine 5 feet from where it is now and put in new hookups.
I wanted to cry. No way we could afford to pay this. I was SO upset. So after he left, I figured, well, fine, I'll just use a step ladder and climb over the machine anytime I want to use the toilet. So I climb over and fill up the toilet tank and turn on the valve so water will start flowing toward the toilet....
and the tank starts to leak...
which I fix but in doing so I managed to break off the floater. Then the water valve behind the toilet seat starts to leak. Badly. Water is running all over the floor. I have to turn it off.
At this point I wonder why the fuck anyone buys a house.
Who am I going to call to fix this?
Not a professional, and why?
BECAUSE THE FUCKING WASHING MACHINE IS IN THE WAY!!!!!
I can just manage to squeeze in there next to the toilet because I'm 5'1" and am not a butterball. No way a man can get back there.
So guess what? Yes, I had to go to the hardware store, get instructions and next time over I'm going to have to shut off the water, carefully unscrew and move the tank, remove the valve, take it in so they can figure out why it's leaking and if they can figure it out, then I can put in the new goddamned floater and maybe get the toilet working.
My mother saw how upset I was and tried to offer an alternative,
"Well, we have bed pans, you can use that and then empty it out...."
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
It's the 21st century!!!!! Is a working toilet too fucking much to ask?!?!?
My apartment was so lovely and wonderful and repairs were a phone call away... :( :( :(
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Jeez, Del. I am so sorry. That completely bites and is exactly why I've vowed to never own a home again. It is ALWAYS something and it will ALWAYS cost major $$$. :/
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Jeez, Del. I am so sorry. That completely bites and is exactly why I've vowed to never own a home again. It is ALWAYS something and it will ALWAYS cost major $$$. :/
Which is why I bought a condo. I have better things to do with my time than clean out gutters and mow lawns. And now, with a big snowstorm predicted, all I have to do is sit and watch it snow (if and when it snows) while someone else shovels the sidewalks. :)
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My mother saw how upset I was and tried to offer an alternative,
"Well, we have bed pans, you can use that and then empty it out...."
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
It's the 21st century!!!!! Is a working toilet too fucking much to ask?!?!?
Aw, c'mon, Del, where's your pioneer spirit? Nothing wrong with using a chamber pot. At least you won't have to go out the back door and down to the end of the backyard and into a dark, smelly little building that's inevitably full of creepy, crawly spiders. ...
And when this is all over, you're going to know all about how to fix a toilet! :D
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Aw, c'mon, Del, where's your pioneer spirit? Nothing wrong with using a chamber pot. At least you won't have to go out the back door and down to the end of the backyard and into a dark, smelly little building that's inevitably full of creepy, crawly spiders. ...
People in the old days sure were tough ... :P :-X
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People in the old days sure were tough ... :P :-X
Aw, c'mon, Del, where's your pioneer spirit? Nothing wrong with using a chamber pot. At least you won't have to go out the back door and down to the end of the backyard and into a dark, smelly little building that's inevitably full of creepy, crawly spiders. ...
And when this is all over, you're going to know all about how to fix a toilet! :D
If I didn't have to empty out my own chamberpot, maybe I might feel more excited about it. >:(
As it is, I'm already cleaning out my mother's used and stinky diapers. When she sees me grimacing as I pick them up, she said, "Honey, why don't you wear plastic gloves? There are some right over there."
I looked at her and said, "I'd rather you be more neat and not throw them on the floor, than me have to use gloves to pick them up."
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Jeez, Del. I am so sorry. That completely bites and is exactly why I've vowed to never own a home again. It is ALWAYS something and it will ALWAYS cost major $$$. :/
It is, and on top of that, my mother has neglected having someone fix the roof ("Let's wait for spring." She said this a year ago.). The house is seriously going downhill. Paint is peeling off the window boards, The awning over the back door is rotting, the boarding around the pier and beam foundations are warped and the nails are pulling out of them. I don't know much about houses, but it looks as if the wood is drying out and separating in many places. What do you do about that sort of thing? Do you have to rebuild or what?
I'm about to call Habitat for Humanity and see if they will fix a roof.
Which is why I bought a condo. I have better things to do with my time than clean out gutters and mow lawns. And now, with a big snowstorm predicted, all I have to do is sit and watch it snow (if and when it snows) while someone else shovels the sidewalks. :)
I had always wanted a nice little house with a garden, but now I'm thinking condo is the way to go - I might be satisfied with a small patio with my condo.
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I had always wanted a nice little house with a garden, but now I'm thinking condo is the way to go - I might be satisfied with a small patio with my condo.
For a single person--like myself--I highly recommend it. As for gardens and gardening, I've seen some very nice container gardens on condo patios.
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Finally all moved in.
I HOPE AT&T BURNS IN HELL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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A small matter, perhaps, but I have decided that I hate the word bromance.
It's homophobic. It belittles the affection two guys may feel for one another out of fear that affection is gay.
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A small matter, perhaps, but I have decided that I hate the word bromance.
It's homophobic. It belittles the affection two guys may feel for one another out of fear that affection is gay.
That's interesting. I've never perceived it at all as a belittling term, more a kind of celebratory or even affectionate term for male friendship -- particularly in movies, of course, where male friendship is one of the most popular and enduring themes.
It's flippant, of course, like "chick flick." That's a term I find offensive -- not so much the words themselves, but what they signify: a movie so trivial or silly (often merely because its main characters are women) that no male moviegoer would be interested.
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That's interesting. I've never perceived it at all as a belittling term, more a kind of celebratory or even affectionate term for male friendship -- particularly in movies, of course, where male friendship is one of the most popular and enduring themes.
It's flippant, of course, like "chick flick." That's a term I find offensive -- not so much the words themselves, but what they signify: a movie so trivial or silly (often merely because its main characters are women) that no male moviegoer would be interested.
That's interesting, too. I never thought of "chick flick" as indicating that the movie was trivial or silly, just that its plot dealt with themes or subjects of more interest to women than to men--like relationship stuff, as opposed to car chases and explosions.
I guess either way it stereotypes both the film and the audience.
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People in the old days sure were tough ... :P :-X
No kidding, and after the advent of photography, it was easy to see how fast people aged compared with today.
I spent 7 years working at a Living History museum; that's one of those reconstructed communities where people re-enact everyday life from earlier historical periods. (Williamsburg is the granddaddy of them all) In our case it was 1855, an interesting period in the US Midwest, as people were in transition between rural self-sufficiency and widespread use of manufactured goods. People used to ask me if I'd like to live in that era and I'd tell them no, I'd love to visit. Every historical era has its plusses and minuses but the "good old days" were rarely as good as we might like to think they were.
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. . .like "chick flick." That's a term I find offensive -- not so much the words themselves, but what they signify: a movie so trivial or silly (often merely because its main characters are women) that no male moviegoer would be interested.
What's interesting there is that there's no equivalent term for a male-oriented escapist movie that focuses on boobs and car chases.
IMO, "bromance" sounds like some kind of arcane cooking term. ;)
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What's interesting there is that there's no equivalent term for a male-oriented escapist movie that focuses on boobs and car chases.
Dick flick.
That's interesting, too. I never thought of "chick flick" as indicating that the movie was trivial or silly, just that its plot dealt with themes or subjects of more interest to women than to men--like relationship stuff, as opposed to car chases and explosions.
I guess either way it stereotypes both the film and the audience.
Maybe both of our reactions to those two terms highlights our personal sensitivities. I'm probably reading the "trivial and silly" part into the term a little bit, because I am all too aware of the phenomenon that girls and women are much more open to seeing movies about boys and men than the reverse. True, women probably aren't as interested in car crashes and explosions. But they are interested in pretty much any other kind of movie whose protagonists are male. Whereas men tend, at least theoretically, to be less interested in movies whose protagonists are female.
There's a lot of discussion of this phenomenon lately in writing about movies, following the success of Twilight and Mama Mia. Apparently studio bigwigs have traditionally assumed that women-driven movies won't do well at the box office because men won't see them, but I guess there's been some rethinking of that.
When my brother was here over the holidays, I discovered he likes chick flicks! We went to It's Complicated, which I'd been lukewarm about but he really wanted to see (it was pretty good after all), and then he and his girlfriend even went to that horrible-sounding one with Sarah Jessica Parker (is it Did You Hear About the Morgans?), which even I drew the line at. Whereas he doesn't like action, refused to see Avatar and revealed that he's unfamiliar with Judd Apatow's oeuvre. I found that refreshing (but did urge him to check out some Judd Apatow titles -- movies about relationship stuff, BTW, that are spared the chick-flick label thanks to male protagonists and crude humor).
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No kidding, and after the advent of photography, it was easy to see how fast people aged compared with today.
I spent 7 years working at a Living History museum; that's one of those reconstructed communities where people re-enact everyday life from earlier historical periods. (Williamsburg is the granddaddy of them all) In our case it was 1855, an interesting period in the US Midwest, as people were in transition between rural self-sufficiency and widespread use of manufactured goods. People used to ask me if I'd like to live in that era and I'd tell them no, I'd love to visit. Every historical era has its plusses and minuses but the "good old days" were rarely as good as we might like to think they were.
This is what I say about my medieval and Renaissance reenactments/recreations. You get to experience the plus side without the minus side--like the Black Death and witch hunts.
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Maybe both of our reactions to those two terms highlights our personal sensitivities. I'm probably reading the "trivial and silly" part into the term a little bit, because I am all too aware of the phenomenon that girls and women are much more open to seeing movies about boys and men than the reverse. True, women probably aren't as interested in car crashes and explosions. But they are interested in pretty much any other kind of movie whose protagonists are male. Whereas men tend, at least theoretically, to be less interested in movies whose protagonists are female.
Unless, of course, they've got big boobs and don't wear a lot of clothes. :-\
There's a lot of discussion of this phenomenon lately in writing about movies, following the success of Twilight and Mama Mia. Apparently studio bigwigs have traditionally assumed that women-driven movies won't do well at the box office because men won't see them, but I guess there's been some rethinking of that.
When my brother was here over the holidays, I discovered he likes chick flicks! We went to It's Complicated, which I'd been lukewarm about but he really wanted to see (it was pretty good after all), and then he and his girlfriend even went to that horrible-sounding one with Sarah Jessica Parker (is it Did You Hear About the Morgans?), which even I drew the line at. Whereas he doesn't like action, refused to see Avatar and revealed that he's unfamiliar with Judd Apatow's oeuvre. I found that refreshing (but did urge him to check out some Judd Apatow titles -- movies about relationship stuff, BTW, that are spared the chick-flick label thanks to male protagonists and crude humor).
I figured It's Complicated was probably OK. I suppose it's OK to see Meryl Streep slumming from time to time. I confess an interest in Did You Hear About the Morgans? because I picked up that they get sent out West. I think I even heard Wyoming mentioned. ... :-\
Of course, Apatow appeals to another low common denominator of straight male fantasy. I mean, Katherine Heigl sleeping with Seth Rogen? Puh-leeese!
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Unless, of course, they've got big boobs and don't wear a lot of clothes. :-\
Right. And preferably are also getting in car chases and exploding things.
I figured It's Complicated was probably OK. I suppose it's OK to see Meryl Streep slumming from time to time. I confess an interest in Did You Hear About the Morgans? because I picked up that they get sent out West. I think I even heard Wyoming mentioned. ... :-\
What makes you feel that Meryl is slumming in IC?
Of course, Apatow appeals to another low common denominator of straight male fantasy. I mean, Katherine Heigl sleeping with Seth Rogen? Puh-leeese!
Yes. But his movies are genuinely funny and sometimes even sort of heart-warming. They're dick flicks in multiple literal senses, but I like them anyway.
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What makes you feel that Meryl is slumming in IC?
Well, it ain't Doubt.
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Well, it ain't Doubt.
No, though I'm not sure there are all that many rungs between the two (but I've never seen Doubt). And as overall films, I liked It's Complicated better than Julie and Julia or Mama Mia. Maybe not better than The Devil Wears Prada.
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What's interesting there is that there's no equivalent term for a male-oriented escapist movie that focuses on boobs and car chases.
Action flick/Buddy movie. Because both invariably have women characters as eyecandy. And if the hero is not some Rambo/Batman-type loner, he's got a sidekick.
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Man, I hate spooky houses. I'm trying to sleep I'm so tired, but my mother's house is spooky. Not the inside, but outside. I know in her yard neighborhood cats pass through on noctural jaunts, possums live in the attic, rats argue noisily in the bathroom wall and snakes make housecalls on the backyard rodents, but odd sounds occur often.
My mother has outside motion sensor lights. Nothing gives you a heart attack more than one of those lights suddenly coming on and illuminating your window. :o
We hear strange things. My cats whip around, having heard the noise as well, but we can't figure out what it is, or what caused it. We see nothing, don't hear it again. :-\
I miss my clean, quiet, landscaped, peaceful apartment. :( :'(
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Man, I hate spooky houses.
When I was a small boy we would sometimes stay overnight at the home of my maternal grandparents, the house my mother was raised in. It was a very old house, built, I believe, in the 1870s. It also wasn't a very large house. There were only three bedrooms. As a child my mother slept in one room--in one bed--with her three sisters, and my four uncles shared another room, and my grandparents shared the third bedroom with my great-grandparents.
Anyway, the attic was entered by way of an enclosed staircase that opened into the back bedroom. The room was so small there was barely room for a large bed, a small nightstand, and a large chest of drawers--which was placed so it effectively acted as a barricade to the attic door. That freaked me out as a small child. I mean, it was like, What were they trying to keep from getting out of that attic? ??? :o :laugh:
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That freaked me out as a small child. I mean, it was like, What were they trying to keep from getting out of that attic? ??? :o :laugh:
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Del, things will only get better as they say. i have my fingers crossed for you.
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Thanks Kelda. :-*
Did you ever hear anything up in the attic, Jeff? Creaking floorboards? Knocking perhaps?
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Did you ever hear anything up in the attic, Jeff? Creaking floorboards? Knocking perhaps?
Fortunately, no. Still, at the time I was little enough that I could refuse to sleep in that room with the "barricaded" door by myself and get away with it. My mother always shared it with me when we stayed overnight.
The really funny thing, I guess, was that many years later, when I was older, say, about 12 or so, I discovered that what that attic really held was lots of wonderful antiques, like the enormous family Bible that had been given to my great-grandparents at their marriage in 1897, a lovely washbowl and pitcher set, and a huge oak-and-gilt picture frame. Grandma didn't care for any of that stuff, so she let me take it.
I have since passed the Bible and the washbowl set on to cousins who will leave descendants, as I believe those things should remain in the family, but I still have the picture frame. I used it to frame a reproduction Currier and Ives steam train print.
Plus, after Grandma died and the house was cleaned out for sale, my mother brought home that old chest of drawers that had blocked the door. She thought I might want it! :laugh: It really was a beautiful old piece of furniture, but at the time I anticipated frequent moves and life in small apartments, and I considered it too large a piece of furniture to be practical. I forget who Mother gave it to, and, honestly, I don't regret not keeping it.
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Dear mom,
I know you want to do things sometimes for your own edification or own reasons, but please do not attempt to do something if you cannot do it ALL.
e.g.
if you plan on clearing out the closet shelves looking for a lost item, please do not throw everything on the floor, find what you need, then turn to me and say,'Oh can you pick that up?"
>:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:(
I did pick it up. I washed, dried, folded and put all the linens in there 3 days ago. I do NOT appreciate you making more work for me to clean up by just throwing things on the floor when it's too much trouble for you to deal with. If it's too much trouble for you to put everything back the way you found it, let ME do it, so I don't have to clean up a new mess.
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People charging into the elevator as soon as the doors open..... knocking you down as you are trying to get out!
You beat me to it. But likewise trains. And just crowding round the door so there's nowhere for you to go.
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GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! >:( >:( >:( >:( >:(
So FUCKING frustrated with my mom I want to scream.
She's nearly invalid, has shown every desire to keep living by trying new medicines, new doctors, new treatments, but she abso-fucking-lutely refuses to help herself in any other way.
She needs to eat to keep up her strength. But she needs to eat things that are NOURISHING.
Left to herself, she'd live on cream cheese and crackers.
When nurses, relatives and homecare workers come over, they're appalled at what she eats - she's living on the energy the sugar and carbs give her -
Popsicles, ice cream bars, cookies, waffles, milk, croissants and cream cheese, are her main diet.
The house is bursting with all kinds of food. So I prepare her things.
She'll take half a bite of the eggs, or sausage or steak or chicken or tuna I've given her, with slices of fresh oranges or bananas, cup of pomegrante juice and turn them away.
"I'm too breathless to eat. I'll eat it later."
So I put it all away.
Later comes and she says, "Bring me some cookies and cream cheese."
I reply, "Why don't you finish your dinner?"
"Because I'm nauseated."
It's like talking to a fucking 5 year old.
"Well, if you're too nauseated to eat your dinner you're too nauseated to eat cookies and cream cheese."
"But I'm not too nauseated for that."
"Mom! You need to eat something!"
"Well bring me the cream cheese and cookies -."
"You need to eat something GOOD."
She waves at me in dismissal, hauling out the emotional blackmail,
"Don't bring me anything then, I'll just go to bed."
Needless to say, I stomp to the kitchen, get her her goddamned cookies and cream cheese and toss her dinner in the trash. I bring it to her and say,
"Fine, and when you get too weak and end up in Emergency again, don't you come crying to me."
I just want to fucking strangle her.
You start to get the attitude of 'Fine, go, starve to death' and then people wonder why you're so blase and why you aren't trying harder to help your invalid mother... ::) ::) ::) ::)
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Now I know why I don't have a green thumb. >:(
Goddamn yard has goddamned poison ivy SOMEwhere. I broke with it two weeks ago. Ugly hives on my legs that will take a fucking 6 months to heal up and the discoloration on my skin to fade will take a couple of years longer unless I use fade cream.
I would like and want to wear shorts this summer and dresses and skirts to work. But who wants to look at my legs all covered with gross welts? >:( >:( >:( >:(
And just when I thought the worst was over, the itch was slowly slowly starting to fade, the hives to calm down...I broke today with at least 5 NEW weepy hives. Where the FUCK did I pick it up? I haven't been out in the garden since the last infestation. So it has to be somewhere else. On a piece of clothing I haven't washed, or a piece of clothing that TOUCHED another piece of clothing I haven't washed, or a pair of shoes or a throw or I don't know what.
I miss my hermetically sealed and clean apartment. Fuck this gardening shit. >:( >:( >:( >:(
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I live in my mom's house - my and my sister's house now, I mean :( - and it's heated and fueled mostly by gas. The gas guys have been working down the street from my house for a few days now. I've just recently discovered - no thanks to any sort of notices from them - that they've been turning my gas off to help facilitate whatever the fuck it is that they're doing.
And guess what? Does it ever occur to the morons that some gas-fueled houses have appliances that contain such a thing as a pilot light? So when they turn off the gas, then turn it back on, these don't relight automatically and instead just start happily spewing natural gas into someone's home?
Apparently not. They've done it twice to me in two days. Each time I call and bitch to the company, they have no fucking clue that there is anyone from their own company working near my street at all.
Their helpful hints aren't helpful - upon telling the girl I can't wait for the guy to come turn off my gas because I have to leave to go back to work - she suggested I leave the door open to ventilate.
Excuse me?
Right, leave my house empty with the door open. That's fucking helpful.
Am I surprised those poor people in San Bruno, CA who had smelled gas for days and reported it to their gas company were still were blown and burned to Kingdom Come? Nope.
I'm sitting right now waiting for them to come out and return on my gas and worrying about the next time they decide to shut my gas off, then back on while I'm not home and gas my cats to death or blow up the house.
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That sounds downright scary friend! As the subsequent news has proven, gas can be dangerous!! Keep nagging until the company pays attention!!
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how is the house these days del?
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how is the house these days del?
The heater doesn't work at all now. :( Have to call in a repair man, but haven't felt like it as I came down with a seriously bad cold two weeks ago and had to go to the doctor and have been pretty much sick and fatigued ever since.
Of course, over a holiday weekend, I took my antibiotic prescribed and it did nothing. Unfortunately for me, my doctor is extremely conscientious, AND - unlike a thousand other doctors who are too well aware that infections being resistant these days usually do not hesitate to prescribe a different round of antibiotics should the first not work - asked me to come back into the office for another checkup. The office is 30 miles away from my current home and between the cold and snow days and then being out sick, I didn't want to take off YET ANOTHER DAY just because this stupid doctor wanted me to come back in so I could show her the same goddamned symptoms I had two weeks ago!!!! >:( >:( >:( So I am attempting to get better on my own. It's a very slow process. And work got stressful and I decided to go get a massage two days ago. BIG mistake. The massage was wonderful, but it triggered a bad nerve spasm. So on top of the non-working heater, slowly recovering sinus infection and I now have massively painful all over body aches.
I normally take ibuprofen when my myalgia flares up, but I've already been taking it for nearly a month due to my cold and the stress and my stomach is finally rebelling against my taking anymore, so I don't have any painkiller that will work on the aches otherwise.
So, with my sister pestering me about the fence and getting a new stove and fixing the heater, I finally just told her I wasn't feeling well, and there was nothing stopping her from going out and doing all the research herself if she was in such a hurry.
She shut up.
So, thank you for the interest Kelda, but the house is pretty much no better for me than it was before, and in fact worse since the heater is now not working at all and I haven't had a chance to do anything to rectify the situation because of my sudden bad health.
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hmmm... sorry to hear that Del. Get well soon..
i think this has been spoken about before but there is no way to sell it in its current condition?
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hmmm... sorry to hear that Del. Get well soon..
i think this has been spoken about before but there is no way to sell it in its current condition?
No. My mother didn't worry about the house in her later years. She was too busy worrying about her health, so the house fell into a state of shabby neglect. It needs a lot of work.
My sister thinks we can rent it, but I don't, unless we cater to a rental client that isn't very picky - which I don't care to do. My sister has some suggestions that we just add on additional rooms and live together there, so we can put our money into refurbishing the house for ourselves, rather than some possible renter, or failing that, tear the house down and together finance a new house together. Either plan is workable, except for the fact I really don't want to live with my sister or in this particular area.
You do what you have to do, I guess.
Thanks, Kelda for asking.
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My bitch of the day.
It's entirely my fault for not reading the small print but the situation falls under the idea that in our commercial economy today, no one is interested in you having something that's useful...just in case.
You have a credit card with no balance that you can have just in case? The banks weren't making any money off you, so they started charging a fee for you simply having it.
Now, my sister had given me an old pay-as-you-go phone. I still have the thing. It's old, but it still has 15 minutes of airtime on it and I've had the thing over a year.
Now since my mom died, my sister emphasized to me that all we had anymore was each other so I needed to be reachable 24/7. So as an Xmas gift for myself, I bought a fancy nice new pay-as-you-go phone.
Only I didn't read the small print. It's really a 'pay as you go until they get tired of not making any money off you' phone. My other phone, the unused minutes rolled over every month. This phone, they don't unless you buy more minutes every 60 days. But I don't need more minutes. I have 1/2 hour left and that could easily last me another 2-3 months. So unless I buy more minutes, I will lose them all in 2 days and be stuck with a pretty $90 plastic box that lights up in the dark and does nothing else.
>:( >:( >:( >:(
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I really wish these medical shows wouldn't show you a heartbreaking story of a poor child afflicted with some horrible disease, get you involved and invested emotionally in how the doctors work to bring this child back to a relatively normal life, see the joy and tears of everyone involved...only to drop the boom on you at the credits and tell you the poor child died a year later...
>:( :'( >:( :(
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Novemthree_Siahaan
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My boss is anal retentive. I like that about her though, but what she's demonstrating as of late is being anal retentive and questioning when she doesn't have sufficient information and I'm the only one she does this to because of my lunch schedule.
I'm supposed to leave to eat lunch at 1 pm. I don't always leave exactly at 1 pm. Sometimes I forget and leave a few minutes later or today, there was an emergency and my counterpart was running around the office trying to find people and I voluntarily stayed at my desk to cover the phones until she got back, which was about 1:20 pm.
My boss came back from lunch at 1:30 pm and at 2 pm asked my counterpart why I wasn't back from lunch.
My office counterpart had to explain to her that I had left my desk for lunch later than normal. But when my office companion told me this later, she made sure I knew my boss was starting to ask regularly about my timeliness.
>:(
Obviously, my impromptu changes in the regularity of things upsets my boss. So here I was thinking I was doing an 'above and beyond the call' of my job, taking my lunch when the office coverage allowed for it, instead, it's reflecting badly on me because my boss thinks I'm taking long lunches.
It makes me frustrated because my office counterpart is usually at her desk before I get there in the morning. My boss comes in an hour before either of us, so she's obviously impressed that my co-worker is always at her desk early.
But what my boss doesn't know - and doesn't bother to ask - is what time this girl goes home.
My boss leaves before either of us. We're supposed to be there until 5 pm. What my boss doesn't know is that for every minute this girl comes in early, she leaves that much earlier. She's not supposed to.
She one time left 1/2 hour early and I didn't say anything to anyone about it.
But that's never anything I bring up or can bring up and my boss doesn't think to ask because that situation is not as transparent to her as my alleged 'long' lunches. She thinks this girl is like her and just works the extra time in the morning and doesn't count it toward her work time because she's not supposed to.
She's wrong.
So now, I'm going to have to be extra perfect on my timeliness, so she can quit asking about it while my counterpart can sashay out of the office at the end of the day whenever she wants to and my boss will never think to ask.
>:( >:( >:(
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Perhaps you could bring it up in the next one to one / appraisal?
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Perhaps you could bring it up in the next one to one / appraisal?
If my boss brings it up, I certainly will. If she doesn't, I really can't.
Minor bitch of the day: Went to the Renaissance Faire today. Alas, why is it that when you try to really take care of something it ends up being lost? I bought a lovely gold and moonstone pair of earrings. $35. They were lovely and delicate. I had a plastic bag with my sandals in them in which I was throwing everything, but I thought they'd be safer in my pouch where I had my important stuff - phone, credit cards, money. I should have just thrown them in the sack. Apparently, sometime in the afternoon, while I was digging out cash or ID or something, they fell out.
Now someone has a nice $35 pair of earrings that I bought. >:(
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Another minor bitch.
I had a wake to go to yesterday. Took a long time deciding what to wear, all the normal toilet stuff women do to prepare for a big event, ex-boyfriends/admirers were going to be there I hadn't seen in years...and the shower head in the shower stall breaks. No shower head. Just a thin line of water puttering out of the pipe. With this I had to wash my hair, bathe and shave and brush my teeth in the shower to get ready for a big event.
*sigh*
So, today, I ran errands in the 100 degree heat and ran by the hardware store to get a new showerhead.
I've never owned a house before, so I don't think of these things. I just grabbed a simple one that screws on and was reasonably priced and thought that was that.
I come home and - yay! - the thing screws on easily and then I tilt it to bend it down over the shower stall floor and it only moves 1/2 inch before it goes thunk!
The shower head is not meant for a very narrow shower stall.
It's meant for a bathtub.
I didn't know they had types of showerheads.
If I kept the stupid thing, it would be throwing water horizontally at head level against the opposite wall of the shower stall.
*sigh*
Can't something be fucking easy just once?!?!? >:( >:( >:(
If it wasn't already 9 pm, when I haven't eaten dinner, I'd wrap the thing back up and take it back to the store and exchange it, but I just want to eat and cool off and wind down.
So another day of bathing in a tiny stream of water... >:(
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Holiday dress bitch.
Spiegel's really sucks.
I got their "Holiday dress" catalog. Found a gorgeous lace dress. I thought, well, it might not flatter me, but if I order it now, and try it on and it doesn't fit, I can still return it in time and get another dress.
So I call them up, because strangely, these holiday frocks are not on their website.
Am on hold for about 8 minutes and finally get to talk to a rep:
Yes, the catalog is out, but the items are not available yet.
They're taking orders, but they won't ship until Nov 28.
The dress may or may not come any earlier.
No, once you pre-order, you cannot cancel the order if the dress won't arrive in time for your party. You have to get it, then pay for shipping it back for a refund.
When's my party? Dec 3.
I hung up after telling the rep that was ridiculous business and no, I could easily get a dress somewhere else a lot sooner.
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If someone told you you had until midnight on say December 1st to buy something, when would you consider that time?
I was thinking that since it was 9 pm on December 1st, I had another 3 hours to buy something.
It never occurred to me that midnight on December 1st, was at the end of the day of November 30.
I've been told that since midnight is written as AM, then midnight of the day you are in, occurred BEFORE 11:59 PM.
Isn't that wonky? Or is it just me?
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If someone told you you had until midnight on say December 1st to buy something, when would you consider that time?
I was thinking that since it was 9 pm on December 1st, I had another 3 hours to buy something.
That's the way I would have interpreted it.
And look at it this way. When they say you have to have your income tax filed by midnight April 15, they mean it has to be filed by, say, 11:59 p.m. April 15, not April 14. Post offices stay open late on April 15 to accommodate filers, not on April 14.
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Wow, can't believe it's been a year since I bitched.
Well here it is.
Thanks sis for ruining another party day for me.
I told you I had a party to go to on the Saturday before Daylight Savings Times day but you said since you had driven all the way up, you could still have lunch with me before I had to leave for the party.
You showed up an hour late and then explained your tardiness by saying you 'forgot' it was Saturday and not Sunday and had already turned your clock back and thought it was an hour earlier than it was.
I missed the party thanks to you but we still had lunch, so you wouldn't be inconvenienced.
Yesterday, another party and happy hour. I told you about it weeks ago.
The office closed down at 11 am and I didn't check my phone until I was about to go to the Happy Hour at 6 pm, still in party wear. Upon which I found a slew of text messages from you.
Thinking it was a family emergency I called, just to find out that you needed me to drive your daughter down to meet you 60 miles away. Tonight - not tomorrow. Because your ex-husband bailed on driving her down to meet you and you didn't want to bother to drive all the way up and inconvenience yourself. So you chose to inconvenience me by suggesting I interrupt my party to go home, change and drive 60 miles one way and drive back alone in the middle of the night.
I repeated to you that I was in a party outfit, about to go into the bar as per my plans.
I paused, waiting for you to do the right thing and say, "Oh, that's right I forgot, never mind, go to your party, I'll just drive all the way up and pick up my own daughter."
Nope. You waited me out, expecting me to agree to your plan.
I did at first, then called the ex-brother in law to bitch him out. He agreed to take her. I texted back, "Fine" and didn't look at my phone the rest of the night.
But was I thinking about it? I sure was and thus my night of fun was ruined yet again.
When your frenemy is your own sister, what do you do?
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That's bad of your sister - isn't she the parent why did she think you should drive?
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That's bad of your sister - isn't she the parent why did she think you should drive?
Because that's the way she is.
Get this. My car has been in the shop for two weeks due to a chronic problem that is so intermittent, it only happens with me and NEVER with the mechanic. But it's a serious problem that has been going on for months.
So frustrated, I finally rented a rental car for a month, hoping the car will act up in a month. Cost of over $600 - no one will be getting gifts for the holidays from me this year - and of course, the rental car's engine light went on and it's starting to have problems. I intend to turn it back to the rental car this weekend and get another one.
BUT I hadn't done that yet when she called.
So I'm in a rental car I don't trust. She KNOWS this. But she's perfectly fine with me giving up my night of partying, going home, changing clothes, getting a new rental car and then driving down to meet her.
All so she doesn't have to bother driving all the way up to town to get her own daughter. She's more than willing to inconvenience me, rather than herself.
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Say "No", Del. It´s hard the first few times, but you´ll get better at it.
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At the moment, I have nothing to bitch about. ;D
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That is sooo sad ...