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Re: Stay Home.
« Reply #50 on: May 04, 2006, 04:44:15 pm »

I remember asking a class of 8 year olds on "Multiculturalism Day" last year: "why should we let people from other countries come to our country?"  Believe me, 24 hands shot up into the air. The first kid replied "why shouldn't we?"  the next kid replied "well cause they have cool stuff like pizza and we wouldn't know about it if they didn't come here" and another kid said "cause its probably really bad where they come from. They might not have anywhere to live and since we have lots of room here, they should be allowed to come here instead".

They were 8 year olds and they get it!! On a much simpler scale of course, but they understand. I'm an immigration advocate too, lemme say.

This is a very interesting thread...
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Re: Stay Home.
« Reply #51 on: May 04, 2006, 04:54:03 pm »
Sheyne,

Funny how kids see the obvious.  Recently a friend told me that she and her husband were going through some serious problems and when she tried to explain to her eight-year-old how they did not see eye to eye on anything anymore, and that happens to some people, her daughter said:

"Well, at least you agree on the furniture and stuff." 

It's a little funny and a little sad that this child would see that her parents could connect on superficial things and not on anything else.   >:(

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Re: Stay Home.
« Reply #52 on: May 04, 2006, 05:05:53 pm »

Three little words I have learnt since becoming a teacher and a mum:

KIDS.... MISS.... NOTHING.

They are perceptive, they are smart and they know more than anybody gives them credit for. My son is the best loser-radar I have. If he doesn't like someone, I pay close attention.

In fact, if we had kids solving the worlds problems, i think the world would be a better place!!  Talk about tough love -  they're not afraid to actually be honest!!  I remember sitting near a woman and her young son in a cafeteria. Somebody walked past their table and stopped to chat to the mum.  After a while, she introduced the woman to her son.  (i observed all this through the corner of my eye.... honest!!!  ;) God I love people watching and here's why:) The son scrutinised the woman's face for a few moments and then said in this big loud voice "Well, Mrs (can't remember the name), if you're two-faced like mum says, why don't you wear your best face for going out places?"  :o

Talk about ooops.  ;D
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Re: Stay Home.
« Reply #53 on: May 04, 2006, 05:33:15 pm »
You know there's something about this whole immigration issue that bothers me. Some people have stated, not necessarily on this board, that part of the solution to stop illegal immigration, lies in reinforcing surveillance on the US-Mexican borders and approving laws that violate human rights like the one Bush is seeking to approve. Law makers do not seem to realize those solutions are useless. Their effect is the same as curing a deep wound with a band-aid. A person who is dying from hunger would do anything in their power to cross the border and to stay in the country. It's very hard to stop them. They always find a way to go in and stay and no law can actually stop that.

To give you an example, Spain recently reinforced a huge and large fence they have in their african territories of Ceuta and Melilla to stop morrocans and africans to enter the country illegaly. They did a piece on this in the news and you could see those immigrant doing anything to jump that large fence. They didn't mind getting all tangled up on the barb wires. The situation is so bad that Spanish Red Cross put up a camp accross the fence, in Spain's territory, to cure their wounds or take care of their corpses. A lot of them die, either from the falls or the bullets shot by immigration police, but that doesn't stop the ones that come behind.

One TV news station did a piece about some of the countries where most illegal immigrant in Spain come from. And all you could see were those skinny little african kids we see Angelia Jolie and Brad Pitt hugging and kissing in People Magazine pictures. It turns out that the ones who try desperately to jump that fence are mostly parents, brothers, sisters or other relatives of those little kids. It was very heart breaking.

Well, my point is that the real solution to illegal immigration lies in doing something to help those countries either in Latin America or Africa to overcome their economic problems so people don't have to migrate. I'm sure all of them would rather stay home that having to go to such an terrible experience. Moving to a country where you don't speak the language or don't know anybody is tough. I know the solution is actually in the hands of those countries' government and politicians but the US need to back off.  The United States Government claims illegal immigration is taking a toll in the economy, social services and so to speak but when a poor country like Venezuela or Bolivia decides to nationalize their natural resources to solve their economic problems US doesn't support them. I'm not sure what Bush have said about Evo Morales plans, but he has tried to put Chaves government down because of the oil issue. This doesn't make sense to me.
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Re: Stay Home.
« Reply #54 on: May 04, 2006, 07:14:35 pm »
Ok, everyone take a deep deep breath.   Let’s respect our differences and don’t get frustrated, because it could only cloud our judgment, and maybe misinterpret things that have been said here.   I just feel some points have been missed or misinterpreted here, but could not pin point where as the thread gets longer.

There are two aspect of the issue.  One deals with the existing illegal immigrants or undocumented workers, however you want to call it.  To me the term illegal does not bother me as it merely states the different between legal means to come here (as defined by the current law) and illegal means.  It does not bare any significance on how an individual should be treated.  Undocumented workers (let’s use this word so everyone is more comfortable) want their status to be legalized or documented in US period.  If you read through this thread, I don’t think anyone suggested the solution is deportation.   Most people do agree that they should be provided the opportunity to legalize their status, and should be treat fairly.

Another aspect deals with the on-going enforcement/prevention so that this won’t become a pressing issue again in 5 or 10 years.  This is where probably our differences in opinion lay.  As I stated earlier somewhere and don’t mind to say it again, when there are more people want to come here than what you can accommodate, shouldn’t some rules be applied and enforced so that it’s fair to everyone?  Right now we are talking about 12 million, what if it’s 100 million, 1 billion.  Can you honestly still say everyone is welcomed here for a chance at a better life?  I am told that I am a dreamer on many things, but I don’t dare to dream that big.  Like it or not, the world is divided by the visible and invisible borders to separate one country from another, hence lays the difference in national interests.  The world is not one big happy family where everyone shares the common interest, but it does not mean that we can not be civil to each other either.

As to the question whether US has one of the most open immigration policy, I can only speak to my own view based on many of my friends’ experience in UK, France, Germany, Japan, my own knowledge of China, and what my immigration lawyer told me.  I did not mean it to be the final say on this issue and will do more research if time permits.  Also when you talk about immigration, it’s different from come to visit, study or work.  “An immigrant is a person who intends to stay permanently, in contrast to a casual visitor or traveler.” (from wikipedia) It may be easier to visit some countries, but it’s hard to actually become a permanent resident or citizen of that country.  Many countries currently simply do not offer that as an option.  It could definitely change as it’s all driven by demand and supply.  If they are a lot of people who wants to immigrant to, let’s say China for example, I am sure the government will start to recognize the need and make that option more accessible.

Let’s give everyone the room to express their opinion and don’t dismiss their view too quickly.  Honestly I am little concern to continue posting on this thread as what I said may be misinterpreted since I don’t articulate my points well.  I always think what brought us here together beside Brokeback Mountain is not being judgmental on the things that different from you, or you don’t necessarily agree to.
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Re: Stay Home.
« Reply #55 on: May 04, 2006, 09:12:44 pm »
Del,

I love you dearly, you know that much.  But that just smacks of idealism and not reality.

 :D  Actually I was thinking that the other side of our discussion was being very idealistic.

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Compared to these people, our lives are Disneyland.  Period.

Um, would that be Jack and Ennis people?  You want to start comparing, there are plenty of poor comparisons in this country as well.  Did you check out the news while watching those poor people in Louisiana?  Somehow I doubt they think their lives are Disneyland.

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I don't understand why it's so hard to admit that while immigration advocates like me are not advocating open borders by any means, we are attempting to adjust what is largely, on both sides of the house, considered an inequity and unfair bitch of an unsatisfactory situation for 12 million people.

True, but I haven't heard any real economic answers.  If you read my earlier posts, you'll have noticed the Cesar Chavez migrant farm workers example another poster brought up.  Cesar Chavez back in the 70's organized migrant farm workers - mostly illegal - who were treated horrendously in their seasonal jobs.  Paid a pittance and treated almost like slaves.  He managed to get them organized and strking for better conditions/money, etc.

What happened to them?

They were 'Americanized' in their demands.  What did their employers do?  Promptly went out and hired NEW illegals who were not unionized.  Suddenly, there were a bunch of migrant farm workers who were unionized but now without jobs.

The problem doesn't lie with the workers, it lies with the employers who want to save money by hiring illegal and under the table workers.  It keeps their overhead low and subsequently, prices.  To destroy the illegal supply, you have to cut off the demand.

Grapes from Mexico, probably picked by dirt poor workers cost $1.89 a pound.  Organically grown grapes, grown in co-ops, tended by the individual farm owners in this country are $3.49 a pound.  Which ones are a strapped, harried mother of 3 going to buy? 

Illegals are essentially the WalMart of workers.  They come into an area and undercut the working wage for several types of jobs.  Would you hire a $900 a month per child daycare/nanny/au pair or a $350 a month illiegal alien caretaker?  Pay $350+ for a GreenThumb company to service your lawn or hire the local lawn care guys who don't speak much English at $25 a pop?

Pretty soon, the local daycare, GreenThumb service or what have you is losing money or out of business and no one wants to pay more for the services offered than they're paying illegals and the cry goes out that 'illegal workers take the jobs Americans don't want' when that isn't true.  Those who hire them were the ones who invented such slave wage jobs by preferring to pay illegal rates rather than legal ones.

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Why can't everyone "have it?"

What makes you think we can?  Currently the U.S. is only 6.7% of the world's population.  Yet we use over 30% of the entire world's energy sources.  If we just used our 'fair share' of energy resources and let everyone else 'have it', Americans would probably only be able to use 1.5-3 hours of electricity per day.

I don't see everyone rushing to want to give up their 24/7 power so that others can have it.

But that would be fair.  That would be allowing 'everyone to have it'.  Currently the Western worlds are pouring money and technology into 3rd world countries.  Why?  Because these countries are moving from pre-industrial to industrial and since they don't have the money to buy oil, they want to use cheaper sources, burn wood, coal to fuel their new economies.

Obviously the rest of the world doesn't want the pollutants pouring in the air and seas.  They rightfully charged the West with 'YOU had your Industrial Revolution, why are you trying to keep us from having ours?'  So what the West is having to do is dump enough resources, money and technology so these countries leap-frog from pre-industrial to 21st century. 

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The message last Monday was clear.  If you removed the "illegals" as you call them from society, particularly cities, you would see a complete debilitation in the efficiency of your own life -- your clothes would not get cleaned

Um, I do my own laundry.

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your bus would not arrive

I walk or drive and most of the bus dirvers I see are NOT illegal aliens.

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your dishes would not be washed

Are you rich?  Only rich people don't do their own dishes.

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your hotel room not straightened

Doesn't bother me.  If doing my own cleaning would drop the hotel rates, I'd trade in a second.  Unfortunately, I can't afford to travel much as it is, much less rent a hotel room.

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your food would go unprepared, your vegetables unharvested, your taxis would not be driven, your gardening not done, your home not cleaned, your cable TV not installed, your.... should I keep going?

You could, but NONE of those things applied to me or my family.  We would do quite well.  Again, the loss of their work only affects those who use it.  For the majority of the unskilled labor intensive jobs, families such as mine, do it ourselves. 

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This is a very large social issue that cannot be addressed with ideals like what "should" be -- we need to address what simply IS.

I agree, but what we both see as simply IS is the opposite side of the same coin.  I see social services being overwhelmed, neighborhood tax values falling, reckless uncaring drivers on the road.  What can be done about that?

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Undocumented workers can get TIN numbers, they can get driver's licenses in some places and they can even buy homes.  And they are doing all of these things, and planning for the future.

Yes, they get drivers licenses - and in my state, you are required to have insurance to take advantage of this privilege.  They buy one months worth of insurance, get their license, then let the insurance lapse.  Then such dirivers total my family's cars and RUN.   >:(  I think you'll agree that's unlawful.  Had me or my mother been killed, would their running be excused?  They obviously cared more for themselves than for the safety of other people.  This is the attitude of people who think flouting a country's laws is OK because of THEIR needs.

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It's naive for anyone to deny these privileges they have rightfully earned just because some silly law on the books doesn't measure up to the situation in this country today.  The law needs to be changed, period.

And it's naive to think that undocumented workers don't cause as many problems as they solve. 

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And when that law changes, and they are suddently not looked at as second class citizens anymore but rather, equal citizens, then what?  Will American society crumble?  No, it will get stronger and more diverse.

Or perhaps we'll have a whole new class of citizens who are unskilled and uneducated who are now themselves, priced out of the workplace by new illegals and thus become burdens to the society at large.

Heard the latest from a relative.  He was stupid enough to bring some mail order bride home from south of the border.  He got her a visa and paid for her to come up.  Several months of living together (chastely apparently), they made plans to get married.

We all bought outfits for this shindig.  Then right before the wedding, girl says she wants to borrow his car to pick up a friend at the airport.  Since she can hardly dirve, he says he'll go with her.  She doesn't want him to go.  He asks why her fiance shouldn't meet her friends.

Tearfully she admits the friend is her boyfriend, but she's very grateful to him for bringing her to this country.

He asks for his money back.  She doesn't have it, of course.

He has her visa revoked, reports her to Immigration, packs her up and buys her a ticket home.

Unfortunately, he couldn't afford a non-stop flight to her home country.  Do you know where I'm going with this?  She gets on the plane, but when it lands in another U.S. city to make the connecting flight, she gets off, gets the final part of the flight refunded to her and disappears.

A few months later, she calls from where she is living with her boyfriend to mock my in-law.  Laughing and making fun of him.

Oh, no, not the end of the story.

She shows up a year later on his doorstep, destitute begging for forgiveness.

Where is her boyfriend?  In jail, doing 7-10 on a drug charge.

She's 8.5 months pregnant.

We told him to call Immigration and ship her home quick before she had the baby here and then could stay since her child would be a citizen.

Doofus didn't act in time and she had the baby here.

Welcome to our new illiegal immigrant citizen and her baby.

The father a convicted criminal, the mother uneducated, no visa, no green card, doesn't speak the language, no money, no job skiills.

Can you say, welfare mother?  Because that is what she is, among such things as liar, thief and conwoman.

You can say I'm naive rtprod - and you  know I've got nothing but love fer ye  :-* - but I think I'm the realistic one.
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Re: Stay Home.
« Reply #56 on: May 04, 2006, 09:52:31 pm »
Del, Del, Del, what can I say :)

We don't have the most number of posts in this thread, but I think we probably can easily get the longest post on average here.  :)

Maybe group hugs for everyone? ;)
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Re: Stay Home.
« Reply #57 on: May 04, 2006, 10:08:10 pm »
Hi Jenny!!

Heh, I think we're going for a world record!  Naw, I think the Jake's Eyelashes thread on the Dave Cullen Board is that.  1178 pages before they had to start a new thread!

I don't think anyone is upset.  We all feel very strongly about this issue, but I don't think anyone is really angry about any of the posts.  I could be wrong though.   ???


In fact, if we had kids solving the worlds problems, i think the world would be a better place!!  Talk about tough love -  they're not afraid to actually be honest!!

Hiya Sheyne,

You know, this really caught my eye.  I did a paper on this topic in college.  When I was in my Polysci class, we had several options for additional credit.  One was to attend a seminar and write a synopsis on it.  This seminar in particular - I can't recall the name of it - was about children and the nuclear/terrorist threats.  The seminar and film were about the psychological affects of terrorism on children, the scars constant media attention on nuclear destruction during the arms race of the 80's caused.  There was quite a bit on children giving their opinions and voicing their fears and how it affected their daily lives, and the film showed therapy that parents could give, how people said "if these scared children would just appear before the world leaders, things would change." etc.

Afterwards, we the audience sat around and discussed what we had seen and heard.  They were all in agreement, how children were so honest and thoughful and caring and if they could run things, we wouldn't have the troubles we had today, etc., etc.

I took a look around the room at the audience.

There was not one single man in attendance.

Apparently, only women were interested in what children had to say.

Who are the world's leaders?

99% men.

Children evoke emotional responses from people.  World leaders today are not known for reacting emotionally.

Chances are the world leaders would smile at a coalition of children, pat their heads, give such sound bites of their preciousness, innocence and then 'out of the mouths of babes' return to the negotiation table.   :P
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Re: Stay Home.
« Reply #58 on: May 04, 2006, 10:30:20 pm »
del, i think you're taking the issue too personally.  you need to look at the bigger picture.  this sounds bad, i really don't want to seem negative, but because you or people you've known have had a few bad experiences with illegal immigrants does not make them all bad people.  as with any major group of people, there are always a few bad seeds. 

looking specifically at mexico, you said yourself you've seen first hand how serious the conditions are there.  the sad part is that things aren't all that great HERE, but there is some truth to what RT said: this place is like disneyland to some people.  do you really think that people are in mexico right now saying "gee i can't support my family, let's leave everything we've worked for, the lives we've built, our friends and family, and go to america!"  ok, maybe there are some people willing to do that, but for someone to leave, illegally, it takes a LOT.  this argument reminds me of the abortion debate.  pro-lifers act like women have abortions for fun.  having an abortion is one of the hardest choices a woman would ever have to make!  are there people that take advantage of it?  yes.  but a very tiny percentage do.  because of that tiny percentage, do we want to make abortions illegal for ALL women?  regardless of how desperately they need one?

the reason so many of these issues overlap is because people try to demonize the victims of these types of oppression, when all you do is put a human face to it, and everything's suddenly changed. 

as far as people not having children, i can't really comment further on that.  the issue of access to contraceptives has been brought up, and i agree i think people who have children without means to support them is STUPID, people do it regardless for a number of reasons.  but i haven't lived it.  so i don't think it's fair for me to judge.  i just appreciate what i have, and if i'm in a position to help someone who needs it then i'm going to help them without thinking twice. 


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Re: Stay Home.
« Reply #59 on: May 04, 2006, 10:37:10 pm »
Del, your story on the mail order bride is certainly interesting.  But there are bad apples everywhere; Timothy McVay is 100% US citizen and a home-grown terrorist.  We can not use this to hold against the majority hard working, law biding people.  As a foreigner here, I find it perfectly understandable that a country only wants contributing immigrants into its border, not trouble makers.  This goes back to the point of enforcement, without enforcement, you have no control over who is coming here.  Human trafficking, sex slavery, these are all tied to illegal immigrants issue. 

I do agree that a relatively larger portion of the illegal immigrants (when compared with general population) are uneducated, working under unfairly low wage, therefore tend to rely more on welfare.  Maybe the entire county has not feel the impact yet, but I certainly heard that cities that are closer to the border have seen the impact on their education and healthcare system.  NPR did a special on this topic maybe a month ago.
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