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On the lighter side!! (BBM Trivia)
« on: March 08, 2006, 08:41:04 am »
Just thought I'd interject a little lighter...brighter side to OUR Movie.  Some interesting trivia here!!!  I think we ALL could use a little brightening....huh?

Enjoy my friends.... :)



http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0388795/trivia
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Re: On the lighter side!! (BBM Trivia)
« Reply #1 on: March 09, 2006, 01:12:07 am »
[b]Good evening, all you wonderful Brokeback-loving
 ladies.  Apologies for not participating in this forum as much as I thought I would.  Had a little trouble in the beginning with the way it worked, still haven't got it down, but thought it time for me to thank everyone of you for your honest outpourings in response to this phenomenon we are experiencing.

I woke up Monday, after the awards, and felt as though I had been kicked in the chest, and I couldn't help weeping and mourning all over again (and I thought I might have been through with that phase of things! LOL) What I was feeling was so much sadness, particularly for Heath and Jake (and he [Jake] seemed to have just dropped under the radar - haven't heard a bit about him since before the awards). And also alienation  -- like we have this tiny, tiny minority who seem to "get" this film's message and we'd just had gotten shot down.  And my own sense of alienation, a life-long thing, just so rarely finding a person, or persons with whom I feel completely free to be myself.  A deep, old lonesome aching thing I remember having when I was quite young.  [/b] So I got through the day, just on the edge of tears all the time, and finally late in the afternoon got in to see my wise therapist, whose Kleenex I consumed with great gusto, and then when I had spilled it all out to her, and my hour was over I began to feel better than I have for months and today my spirits and energy had miraculously lifted, like a dark cloud had at last dispersed.  I am convinced that this film has and continues to have some deep transformational energy for me, it's like a dream that I get to keep coming back to and savoring in all its detail and learning more aspects of myself each time.  And this evening I read the story over again and wept anew.  The best to all of you as we continue this journey.  Iris
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Re: On the lighter side!! (BBM Trivia)
« Reply #2 on: March 09, 2006, 04:43:06 am »
[b]I began to feel better than I have for months and today my spirits and energy had miraculously lifted, like a dark cloud had at last dispersed.  I am convinced that this film has and continues to have some deep transformational energy for me, it's like a dream that I get to keep coming back to and savoring in all its detail and learning more aspects of myself each time.  And this evening I read the story over again and wept anew.  The best to all of you as we continue this journey.  Iris

Oh Iris....I DO know that feeling.  Was it a feeling of peace....enlightenment??  When you cry now are they joyful tears?  I waver back and forth....still....between WAVES of sadness and then pure peace.  Like being on a softly curved roller coaster.  No sudden curves like before.  No startled exclamations.  Just a very good feeling of peace and well being.  But I cannot forget our purpose.  Somehow...this love has GOT to spread around this world.  That may be a naive wish....but as I've always said in this life:  "If you never have a dream....you'll NEVER have a dream come true"   ;)
I'm so glad for you Iris.....SO very glad!!!   
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Re: On the lighter side!! (BBM Trivia)
« Reply #3 on: March 10, 2006, 01:51:27 am »
I just want to interject that...be it naive... I want this to carry forward in our lives.  If not now, when?  This is a calling for me.  I've never felt this way before - so raw, so happy.  I can feel myself reaching out to others.  It's small ways.  It's not as if I'm an ogre.  But I do tend to be the quiet one, stand-off-ish, and I'm finding myself joining more in the laughter, making some jokes of my own at work, trying to be more open and approachable.  In my own life, I was Jack at 19 and I'm Ennis at 38....I've let the burdens dampen my spirit.  If not now, when?

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Re: On the lighter side!! (BBM Trivia)
« Reply #4 on: March 10, 2006, 02:49:50 am »
I've let the burdens dampen my spirit.  If not now, when?

I love this group.



Dear Lynne...

I doubt VERY much if your spirits have EVER been dampened.  My guess is that they were just slightly submerged in the muck and mire of life...that we happen upon in this journey.  I can feel your spirit...Lynne!!  YOU may feel that it isn't 'out there' but I'll bet 'dollars to donuts' that everyone on this forum...AND in your life....are starting to see that light shining through.  And...it's getting brighter every day.   ;D

I LOVE this group too...Lynne!!  It's most definitely my comfort zone.  When I get here it feels like a warm blankie wrapping around me!!   

BIG warm HUG.....Nancy 

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Re: On the lighter side!! (BBM Trivia)
« Reply #5 on: March 10, 2006, 01:58:45 pm »
Lynne and Karma -- I'd guess by now you've gotten Nancy's page of links (to the ad, to Eberts commentary, and to the Brokeback Pledge site.) In response to feelings of wanting to continue this BBM thread out into our lives, I deeply appreciate all the folks on these sites who are putting their best creative thinking and love into continuing this on.  I'm personally feeling as though the path to becoming a gay rights activist is opening up before me, and that quite possibly I am making the first steps upon it right now. And after all the tears of these past six weeks on The Mountain, and the body blow of the Academy awards, I've miraculously arisen for two days now with a whole new astonishing appreciation for myself, just as I am.  Feels like transformation to me. And good morning and good wishes and peace to you both.
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Re: On the lighter side!! (BBM Trivia)
« Reply #6 on: March 10, 2006, 02:11:17 pm »
KARMA?

And now I feel like a silly old fool, laughing at myself.  lol iris
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Re: On the lighter side!! (BBM Trivia)
« Reply #7 on: March 10, 2006, 05:30:02 pm »
KARMA?

And now I feel like a silly old fool, laughing at myself.  lol iris

LOL IRIS....I just love ya to pieces!!  Isn't it wonderful to laugh at oneself...and ENJOY IT?? 

From one 'silly old fool' to another!!! <and ALSO lmfao here...heheh> 

Hugsss....Nancy    :-*
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Re: On the lighter side!! (BBM Trivia)
« Reply #8 on: March 12, 2006, 11:33:33 pm »
Hey ladies, just had to tell someone:  I saw BBM for the 10th time this afternoon (as powerful as ever) and finally saw the spit thread!!!!!!!!  Holy smokes, is that sexy, or what?  Also, incredibly, I was more teary this afternoon than when I saw it last week. Go figure . . . best to you all and hope you've had a swell weekend.
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Re: On the lighter side!! (BBM Trivia)
« Reply #9 on: March 13, 2006, 05:32:40 pm »
I just want to interject that...be it naive... I want this to carry forward in our lives.  If not now, when?  This is a calling for me.  I've never felt this way before - so raw, so happy.  I can feel myself reaching out to others.  It's small ways.  It's not as if I'm an ogre.  But I do tend to be the quiet one, stand-off-ish, and I'm finding myself joining more in the laughter, making some jokes of my own at work, trying to be more open and approachable.  In my own life, I was Jack at 19 and I'm Ennis at 38....I've let the burdens dampen my spirit.  If not now, when?

I love this group.


Wonderfully said, Lynne.  I was Ennis all my life, I'm not as closed off as I used to be but I still tend to be somewhat reserved, but its no longer from fear and shyness, but rather my nature as I've learned how much I enjoy my own company.  In real life I think Heath tends to be like this...he doesn't like all the media attention, he likes his privacy, as I do.  Jake on the other hand seems to be more of a party animal, lol.  What is it about this film that has touched us all so deeply?  I'm a 56 yr old hetero grandmother.  I applaud your being able to tell your therapist.  I have been thinking about seeing a therapist I had years ago, who was wonderful, but I'm embarrassed to talk about this with her...is that silly?  And I can't CRY.  So I don 't get those feelings of release that you usually get from tears.  I must be internalizing it like Ennis does.  Saw BBM again yesterday for the 8th time.  First time seeing it with someone else (my sister whose son is gay).  She liked it but it didn't have the impact on her that it has had on us.  I didn't mind answering her questions but I realize seeing it alone is so much better.  You can sit there and just let it wash over you and absorb in into your very essence.   Its great reading your posts, and everyone else here at Bettermost who have given us a safe and welcome place for our love of BBM. 

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Re: On the lighter side!! (BBM Trivia)
« Reply #10 on: March 13, 2006, 08:33:19 pm »
Dear Lynne and Donna and Nancy -- I so much appreciated your sentiments about carrying this forward.  This experience we share is so HUGE I find it difficult to express in words.  Although we're blessed by our ability to connect via e-mail, I'm at this moment feeling frustration also -- I want to see you all, and get to know you and exchange big strong Ennis/Jack hugs all around.  I too feel that a new path is opening up for me (becoming active in the gay rights movement has come to mind) but it might be something else entirely. I'm just all blown open and sensitive to everything in a new way.  Being reborn is not too strong an expression. I've been fortunate enough to have a therapist who is totally in synch with my Brokeback experience and encourages me to go with it, as far as it will take me. Donna, I'd urge you to try sharing your experience with yours; if she isn't sympathetic maybe you can find someone else who is. We really need all the support we can get. It seems as if there are no reins on this one.

I'm just so craving closeness with like-minded people, having felt alienated and estranged and shy most of my life (the old Ennis syndrome).  I feel as though the love I lost was my love for my own self, but last week, the Tuesday after the awards, after weeping on and off all that Monday, feeling just kicked in the gut by the Acadamy's decision, and going in to my counseling appointment and using up half a box of kleenex, then waking up Tuesday morning and feeling as though I had miraculously turned the corner into the light. It was amazing -- nothing had changed but I suddenly realized that I actually LIKED myself, just as I am, that I am a good and valuable member of the human race, and as though I could share the gift of myself with others and all would be good.

I'll quit now. This is a rant that I can go on and on about (tears of joy) but I want to hear more of your thoughts about the "path."  I love you all, Elaine :-* :-* :-*

PS:  I think the threads have become entangled -- this is certainly not Brokeback Trivia we're talking about here. LOL :D
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Re: On the lighter side!! (BBM Trivia)
« Reply #11 on: March 16, 2006, 01:24:10 am »
This is completely off topic ~ especially after Iris's post but I just received my Rolling Stone with Heath on the cover.  I enjoyed the article which is located at the URL below. http://www.rollingstone.com/news/profile/story/9448111/heath_ledger_lonesome_cowboy


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Re: On the lighter side!! (BBM Trivia)
« Reply #12 on: March 16, 2006, 01:44:28 am »

Forgot the link to Annie Proulx's article in the "Guardian".  Here it is in case anyone want to read it.  "We were ROBBED!"

http://film.guardian.co.uk/oscars2006/story/0,,1727312,00.html
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Re: On the lighter side!! (BBM Trivia)
« Reply #13 on: March 16, 2006, 02:27:30 am »
WOW....thanks "J"  I ordered a copy from the link you gave us!!  I LOVED the article.  Sounds like Heath is the 'real deal'....wouldn't you say?  Down to earth...!!!

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Re: On the lighter side!! (BBM Trivia)
« Reply #14 on: March 16, 2006, 03:42:26 am »
Great article -- thanks J for posting it.  Iris
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Re: On the lighter side!! (BBM Trivia)
« Reply #15 on: March 16, 2006, 05:00:06 am »
Dear Sweet Iris...

Hi my friend!!  I was so swept away by your feelings and emotions on that last post of yours.  GOD...I KNOW the feeling....!!  I want to HUG my fellow Brokeback Broads...I want to sit around and just gab away.....into the night.  A JAMMIE PARTY...doesn't that just sound like TOO much fun?  HELL...I wanna hug our Brokeback guys...too!!!  I want to make popcorn...put on our newly acquired DVD of our movie...and just CRY together!!  <No...I haven't got the DVD yet...I'm just projecting... ;)

I'm so glad that you've been ignited...my friend.  Have you ever found a candle...where the wick was just imbedded too deeply down into the wax...and you couldn't light it?  I'll bet a lot of folks would throw it away.  But the folks we have here...decided to something harder!!  They decided to get a sharp knife and carve away the excess wax.  With enough work...and patience....VOILA!!  Suddenly we have a candle WICK..One that can be lit....!! 

Jeeeeeeeeeez....I'm waxing  <sorry...pun> philosophical this evening.  I'd best stop while I'm a wee bit ahead...

Anyway...I'm so glad your journey is helping you find that light at the end of that tunnel...Iris!! You've come a looooooooong waaaaaay....baby!!   :D

and BIG congrats on finding that great lady that you love....YOURSELF!!!  She's pretty neat...isn't she? 

I'm off to go peek at 'stuff'

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Re: On the lighter side!! (BBM Trivia)
« Reply #16 on: January 15, 2017, 08:42:50 pm »
Brokeback, or Wyoming trivia. . .does anybody know where the name Kaycee, Wyoming, came from?
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