There is a dating site I have belonged to, off and on, that has been going for several years and is now one of the most popular, with a huge number of members. It used to be good, a few years ago when it was much smaller (and when I met someone really nice via that service).
I tried it again, recently, but now it seems saturated with people who have trouble finding someone who will meet them twice.
It's sad, but it seems over time a site's percentage of people with that problem grows, they become more competitive (desperate?), and there is more temptation to lie (ooops ... extoll one's virtues?). I'm a straight male, but I suppose it's quite likely the case on a lot of sites, regardless of gender inclination.
A good friend of mine recently met a guy on-line who was 'an oil industry executive'. Unfortunately, he must have been a little out of touch when they met at a pub, barged in ahead of her, and then asked her to pay for her own drink. As she said later ... 'Yuk'.
I must admit, 'though, that I recently went back 'on-line', and met someone really nice who is new to the site, and thought maybe it could be ok. Ah, but it seems she wants to check out all the other exciting prospects who have been 'waiting all their life to meet someone like her'. Most of those are the old hands who pounce on any newbie. Guys who seem to have made an art form of 'extolling their own vitues'. By the time the poor, bewildered soul has worked them all out, she is disgusted with the whole thing and vows to stick with the tennis club.
Does that sound a tad cynical? Well, after a lot of trying, it is. But, then again, it will take only one special person to change my mind. And that's really what it's all about, isn't it?
Three dates? If each person meets one person in ten they are very attracted to, that multiplies to one in a hundred. So, on average, the odds would be one in fifty. That's not too bad. I do know a couple who met on the site, and who are very happy.
I used to think the old saying 'friends first' was a load of rubbish. You either like someone, or you don't, and answered them with 'how do you like someone slowly?' Now I know it's very true, but it took quite a while and a lot of disappointment to understand. Maybe the person you share with will be a 'friend first'? You never know.
Good luck, ZK.
Rob
