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Offline Ellemeno

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Re: "Fixer" or "Stander"
« Reply #20 on: June 07, 2006, 02:41:36 pm »
Oh good, a disorder I don't have.  That's always nice.  :)  But I do agonize too much at times.  It's not all rational research.  And I do sometimes have remorse (but rarely).  I work so hard to avoid remorse. :)

(Barb, I'm going to use my moderator powers to go into your post above and move your words out from within the quotes you accidentally put them into.)

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Re: "Fixer" or "Stander"
« Reply #21 on: June 07, 2006, 03:32:27 pm »
Thanks for fixing that, Clarissa.  D'oh!
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Re: "Fixer" or "Stander"
« Reply #22 on: June 08, 2006, 06:41:58 am »
well if you ask my b/f, he would prolly call me a 'stander'.  He would view himself as a 'fixer' or that he is fixing me...wha eva, I fix things (I own a lot of tools) but he would be right in some ways i guess that maybe I'm not utilyzing my full potential. So I would like to add, that maybe a 'stander' would be well served by pairing up with a 'fixer'
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Re: "Fixer" or "Stander"
« Reply #23 on: June 08, 2006, 08:47:41 am »
I answered a "fixer", but I think I am a bit of both..

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Re: "Fixer" or "Stander"
« Reply #24 on: June 19, 2006, 04:04:22 am »
I'm a stander. I WISH I was a fixer. I always admired fixers.
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Re: "Fixer" or "Stander"
« Reply #25 on: July 01, 2006, 02:44:21 am »
What a great question....makes one stop and think a bit about the answer to that one.....

Im a fixer.....i always say we are responsible for our own destiny, so if its not want we want FIX IT......
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Offline Brown Eyes

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Re: "Fixer" or "Stander"
« Reply #26 on: July 02, 2006, 11:30:28 pm »
It's just fascinating... fixers and standers are almost equal in representation here so far.  I think this is a really hard question... thanks to all who have particiapted here!
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Re: "Fixer" or "Stander"
« Reply #27 on: July 03, 2006, 11:37:17 am »
It's just fascinating... fixers and standers are almost equal in representation here so far.  I think this is a really hard question... thanks to all who have particiapted here!

Yes, it is a really hard question.  So hard, in fact, that I'm contemplating changing my answer (so much for having no patience with people who have a decision-making disorder...).

Lately I'm wondering if I'm being a stander by staying in a geographical location I *hate* in order to appease my husband, who, heaven help me, loves it here.  I have had a few near-opportunities over our 13 years in South Florida to get him to change his mind and move "back North" with me.  I've come close to convincing him it'd be better - to the point of even getting him to look at houses with me in New Hampshire in the event that we relocated to have him based out of Logan, but have always backed down after his final rebuttal.

I do like to fix the "little things."  When issues come up at work or at home that are relatively minor, I don't like to hem and haw about them - I like to come up with a solution and follow through as soon as possible, because I can't stand the thought of there being little fires going here and there that need to be extinguished.  But when it comes to the big stuff, I think I back down.

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Re: "Fixer" or "Stander"
« Reply #28 on: August 16, 2006, 12:57:11 pm »
NOw that we have been through the health scare with Chris, I am more of a stander than ever. But who knows how much our thoughts, prayers, posts and lighted candles helped to "fix" him; we'll never know, but I am convinced it made a difference!! So, if that's part of fixing something, then I guess I am a fixer after all.
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Re: "Fixer" or "Stander"
« Reply #29 on: August 17, 2006, 12:12:11 am »
Hi Lee,
That was a really nice post and a good way of looking at things.
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