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Offline Ellemeno

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Re: My Dad is gone.
« Reply #10 on: September 30, 2008, 04:25:17 am »
Hey Barb, big hug to you and your son.  I remember nice stories you told about your dad and was it bonfires?

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Re: My Dad is gone.
« Reply #11 on: September 30, 2008, 04:47:16 am »
I'm very sorry for your loss Barb.
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Re: My Dad is gone.
« Reply #12 on: September 30, 2008, 06:12:36 am »
My thoughts are with you, Barb. And September's almost over.

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Re: My Dad is gone.
« Reply #13 on: September 30, 2008, 08:42:49 am »
Im sorry for your loss Barb.  Both my parents have passed away.  Grief is a process and over time, your pain gets lessened

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Re: My Dad is gone.
« Reply #14 on: September 30, 2008, 11:12:22 am »
I can only reiterate what others have said.I know how Bettermost helps at times like this. Peace is a state we all try and aim for. No need to feel guilty that your dad has found that peace, and that in doing so has given you some peace through relief.
No caring and loving child ever wants their parents to die, but then neither do they want them to be suffering and gradualy losing everything that made them who they are.
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Re: My Dad is gone.
« Reply #15 on: September 30, 2008, 11:19:03 am »
Barb, I'm so sorry. ...  :'(

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« Reply #16 on: September 30, 2008, 12:46:50 pm »
I'm so very sorry for your loss.  My condolences to you and your family.  I think anyone who has been through a similar experience understands your feeling of relief.  It's not cold at all; in fact, quite the opposite.

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Re: My Dad is gone.
« Reply #17 on: September 30, 2008, 01:40:48 pm »
Barb, thank you for sharing this sad news with us, so we can try to help you get through this pain.  I lost my dad to cancer 22 months, 2 weeks, and 1 day ago.  Today, my dear mom turned 80 years old, but she is in a nursing home, on her deathbed, we're told, with 6 kinds of cancer, including the brain, which seems to really take its toll the most.  I feel for you and your family, and please, like others here have said, do not beat yourself up for your relief.  When my mom passes in the next few days, I too will feel relief first, that she is no longer in pain and just a mere shadow of her self.  I am certain that relief is all that she wants right now, and is praying for it.  All the best from one Brokie to another in grief.
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Re: My Dad is gone.
« Reply #18 on: September 30, 2008, 02:37:16 pm »
Oh, Barb, I'm so sorry to hear this. And I do understand the sense of relief. Grief can be an overwhelming feeling. Please don't feel guilty for feeling the way you do. It's clear from your post that you cared deeply about your father. Take it one day at a time. The happy memories will come back, eventually.

Big hugs to you!


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Re: My Dad is gone.
« Reply #19 on: September 30, 2008, 03:45:03 pm »
Oh Barb, I'm so sorry I didn't know.  :-\

You don't sound cold at all.

I'm sending my love and thoughts to you and the whole family just now.

I'm so glad the bettermost family is there for all those going through troubling times at home.

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