Jack's and Ennis' gaydar

[loneleeb3]

How do you know the difference between gaydar and wishful thinking?

[brokebackjack]

You know the difference because.

lol

because!!

[moremojo]

Lee, personally I don't know the difference between gaydar and wishful thinking, which is why I have learned to make no assumptions about sexual orientation and let it be revealed by the other person themselves in some unambiguous way. Placing myself in contexts in which it is reasonable to assume that many others around me are also gay or bi, such as in a gay bar or bookstore, is about the only way I know of to interact with others and not fear that I'm barking up the wrong tree.

[nic]

Does gaydar just mean knowing someone is gay, or does is mean detecting they are gay and attracted to you (if you are gay too)?

[Scott6373]

Does gaydar just mean knowing someone is gay, or does is mean detecting they are gay and attracted to you (if you are gay too)?

"Gaydar" is a social myth...an urban legend so to speak.  Since the prime driving force in humans is self-preservation and reproduction, "gaydar" really boils down to the same intuition that heterosexual people have when they meet someone who represents a potential mate.

[moremojo]

"Gaydar" is a social myth...an urban legend so to speak.  Since the prime driving force in humans is self-preservation and reproduction, "gaydar" really boils down to the same intuition that heterosexual people have when they meet someone who represents a potential mate.

I'm not so sure if it's really so simple. I once worked with a woman (straight) who had exemplary "gaydar" (meaning she could sense the homosexuality of others). Within a few moments of talking to someone, she would get a strong sense of whether that person was or wasn't, and more times than not she would be proved right. She said she knew about me within seconds of meeting me, and also picked up on my friend, who worked in the same place as us at that time.

[loneleeb3]

I'm not so sure if it's really so simple. I once worked with a woman (straight) who had exemplary "gaydar" (meaning she could sense the homosexuality of others). Within a few moments of talking to someone, she would get a strong sense of whether that person was or wasn't, and more times than not she would be proved right. She said she knew about me within seconds of meeting me, and also picked up on my friend, who worked in the same place as us at that time.

maybe she was a physic?

[moremojo]

maybe she was a physic?

I wonder about that myself! Her intuition was certainly uncanny. I know she had had a near-death experience many years before, and had a very spiritual outlook on people and life. I lost touch with her some time ago, and miss her.

[loneleeb3]

I wonder about that myself! Her intuition was certainly uncanny. I know she had had a near-death experience many years before, and had a very spiritual outlook on people and life. I lost touch with her some time ago, and miss her.

Well, thats too bad that you have lost touch.
Would have been cool to rent her out and help the love lorn find true love!

[moremojo]

Would have been cool to rent her out and help the love lorn find true love!

Dang--missed opportunites all over the place!