I realize this is heretical and doesn't even fully answer the questions at hand, so maybe I'm just stirring up trouble for nothing. But I think possibly we are stumbling over of a couple of flaws (gasp!) in the story.
First, I think it is a flaw to portray Story Ennis as unwilling to embrace Jack from the front. It doesn't make any sense given the reunion scene or what he says in the motel. Yes, the argument has been made that Ennis simply matured by then. But now that I think about it, given that the
description of the dozy embrace occurs toward the end of the story, it should say something like
Nothing marred it, even the knowledge that Ennis would not then embrace him face to face because he did not want to see nor feel that it was Jack he held -- and thank god, Jack thought, that Ennis eventually got over that hangup!
which I know would be ridiculous. Annie wouldn't write that. So maybe she should have left that part out altogether.
Also, I also can't help thinking it's a flaw to have Ennis take a year to figure out why he puked. It just don't fit my understanding of human nature that someone could be so oblivious to their own emotions that they dismiss their reaction as bad food and then, a whole year later, suddenly realize what they
really felt. (Joe, I'm open to other ideas -- I asked you for your thoughts about this in another thread and would still like to hear them.)
If we ignore those things, maybe Story Ennis is more in touch with his feelings than we think.
As for Movie Ennis, I agree with what all of you have said, Chris, Penth and Silk. IMO, Ennis recognizes his feelings but has managed to divide them into two very separate emotional compartments. On the one hand, I believe he knows how much he
loves Jack. He is sometimes afraid to express it, especially verbally. He doesn't think of it as love at first -- it's "this thing" -- but he fully realizes his feelings for Jack are intense and overwhelming -- scarily uncontrollable, in fact. (My theory is that it first occurs to him that it might be "love" after he hears Cassie use the word, and that by the last scene, his conversation with Alma Jr., he has fully recognized it as such.)
On the other hand, he's ashamed of their
relationship. He doesn't want to think of himself as "queer" because he's been taught that's a horrible thing to be. He doesn't want anyone to "suspect" what's going on. He can't imagine being with Jack in an open partnership -- not just because it's dangerous, but also because it's shameful.
So his internal struggle is between his love and his homophobia. One good example of this compartmentalization occurs in the post-divorce scene. Yes, he is paranoid about the 10 people Jack asked and the white pickup. On the other hand, when he first sees Jack his face lights up and he gives him a huge loving hug. He clearly feels terrible about letting Jack down, but he believes he has to do it.
Somehow he is able to go for years keeping those two contradictory emotions separate in his head. But then Jack's implied threat in the lakeside showdown, suggesting the possibility of losing the love of his life because he can't honor the relationship, causes the wall between his compartments to come crashing down and he collapses.
(PS, speaking of flaws, I agree, Silk, that Jack's nonchallance upon leaving Brokeback was out of character. He appears not to fully understand why Ennis is so bummed out. And even if he is confident they'll meet again in a year, clearly that is chancey. Plus, even if not, who isn't distraught about saying goodbye to their new love for a whole year?)