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*Slightly* OT Confessions: How Much is TOO MUCH Before You'd QUIT Someone?
dmmb_Mandy:
Well, a relationship got "too much" for me, but I don't think I realized it until much later...
I was with a guy for a year, and he treated my quite terribly, not so bad at first, but it got pregressively worse. I thought I loved him, so I took it. At least I learned something from it. But it got so bad that he made me feel like every little thing that went wrong for him was my fault. Looking back at it now, I can see little things that indicate that it really was too much, especially emotionally, but I couldn't see that then, and I guess Jack was in a similar situation; he loved Ennis so damn much. For example, one night we were sleeping at his place and he had left the window open, and it started pouring raining out and the rain got in on everything: his TV, his computer, important documents on his desk..etc. He woke up and started freaking out. He was so mad. When I awoke, I didn't know what was going on, and my first reaction to his anger was "I'm sorry! I'm sorry!". I just blurted it out, almost instinctively. I didn't even know what I was appologizing for, and of course it was in no way my fault. I wish I had noticed things like this while we were still together and before he had the chance to break my heart. But I've learned from it and am grateful for that much. I know it doesn't completely relate to the "too much" that Jack endured, but nonetheless..
Chanterais:
Whoa, Scott, that's a doozy of a story. I've had a similar experience with the deal-breakers like you describe. Not UFOs, but those moments when someone seemingly-normal comes out with something so awful that you're not sure whether to laugh or cry.
My own line comes when I was dating a very nice fellow who very responsibly owned up that he had gonorrhea just as we were getting friendly. I wish I could have been more understanding, but you know, the clap isn't really something I look for in a potential mate. Next.
delalluvia:
Too painful to discuss. I never quit them, they quit me first in rather horrendous acts of betrayal then came crawling back - wanting to 'be friends' to either fill in the gaps in their social schedule in between times with their new lovers or to fulfill the other needs their new loves weren't providing.
I don't know, I didn't bother to invite them back into my life to find out which it was.
David:
Try about 25 years too much..
I was Jack Twist and had a married Ennis in my life. Just like the movie, we met very young. We were 16 yrs old. We even shared a tent scene of our own. I kid you not. Here we are over 20 years later, he is married with kids, and I thought I was just his friend at this point. But after seeing BBM, I realized that I was still carrying a torch for him. So the only cure for me was to bring him to see the movie with me. He was shocked. He said it was amazingly similar to our lives. BUT he said, that part of his life was behind him now and he had no emotional attachment to me as anything but a close friend. Those were hard words to hear, but they made my decision all the more easier to "quit him". So I told him that much like Jack Twist, I needed to move on and find my Randall to ranch up with. That was March 1st. I haven't looked back since.
twistedude:
My first husband moved out on me one day, without a word. I didn't even know he was unhappy! Nine months later, he came around, and wanted to move back in. "Hey, I don't even know why you left! Why should I let you back in?" I said.
We now both live in Berkeley (we livvd in Chicago), and until husband #2 kicked him out one night (without my knowing it!) we had become good friends...
Never did find out why he left. I know, women lack curiosity...
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