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Dealing With Aging Parents
Kelda:
((((Del))))
Def what Lynne & Katherine said...
Penthesilea:
Katherine and Lynne are right. You don't have reason to feel guilty. You're only human, as we all are. Look at all the things you've done for her. I also remember the conversation about the milk supply. I know you're a loving and caring daughter, you take family duties very seriously.
Best wishes for your mom. And for you!
(((Del)))
Jeff Wrangler:
(((Del)))
So sorry to hear your mother has taken this turn. I'm sure this is a painful time for you both.
Mandy21:
--- Quote from: delalluvia on March 24, 2010, 10:03:44 pm ---She's not dying and she's not dead, but I can't stop crying because she left home so suddenly and not a single one of us ever thought she wasn't coming back and now I'm walking around the house thinking about the services she gets that I have to call to cancel, I'm looking at all the things I bought her to make her life easier, all the food and drinks she's never going to taste and I feel so guilty about being impatient with her over the last few months and I just want to die.
--- End quote ---
Del, so sorry to hear this, but I know exactly what you're going through. My mom passed away in a nursing home, it will have been 18 months next Wednesday. My brother and I still own our family home we grew up in, and neither of us can bring ourselves to enter it to clean it out. Fiona put it best when she said it must feel like a mausoleum to us now, and she's spot-on. Before I even open the front door, I can smell the memories, and I usually just sit down right there on the floor of the entryway and bawl my eyes out, then continue crying and shaking my head in disbelief for the whole 10 minutes I can be there. It's just awful. I definitely feel for you. I wish I'd spent more time by her side in the nursing home, but I couldn't ever contain my tears to see her in the shape she was in. Wish I'd been stronger.
delalluvia:
My mother is gone.
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