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Dealing With Aging Parents
delalluvia:
--- Quote from: injest on July 18, 2007, 09:59:26 pm ---Del, I swear...if I didn't know my sister is NOT going to Paris...I would SWEAR you were her...cause we got the SAME family!
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It's why we get along so well.... :laugh:
--- Quote ---and that is the thing, Dev...I DO love her and I know when she goes I will be devastated..but right now I have to vent so I don't blow up at her!
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Me, too. I'm going to be horrifically bereft when she goes but she's not making it very easy for anyone. Go ahead and vent, but you will eventually blow and then - like me - you'll feel incredibly guilty because you yelled and got mad at your mortally ill mother. :(
--- Quote ---Del, my mother insists she can take care of herself
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So does mine. :P She's so proud about her 'independence' but still wants someone around as much as possible.
--- Quote ---then she can't remember what meds she is supposed to take when...or how much...and we will ask."Mom, did you tell him you have been dizzy?"
"No it never came up"
AAAARRRRRGGGGHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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... :o ...What's your mother's name?!?!?! :laugh: My mother does the exact same thing
Lumière:
--- Quote from: injest on July 18, 2007, 06:50:41 pm ---I have always heard that saying that you end up parenting your parents...that is how I feel.
Do your parents live nearby, Milli?
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No they don't, alas.
But I've just spent a small fortune on herbal supplements, vitamins, etc.. for them.. Coz I get to see them soon. :)
mvansand76:
OMG guys, you touched on a very sensitive subject here! I can't even think about my parents aging because it scares the shit out of me! The biggest fear I have is of my parents becoming ill or dying. I honestly think I would not be able to get over it.... :( It would leave such a HUGE gap in my life, I am not sure I could live with that....
It's such a deeply ingrained fear, I have nightmares about it from time to time. I am very close to them (but like I read in the previous posts here) they drive me up the wall most of the time! :laugh: Well, that seems to be the case with everybody!
Scott6373:
Well, I think that it's something you slip unconsciously into. First it's the calls for a little advice then the rides to MD appointments, then helping them with financial choices. It comes on in dribs and drabs, until you find yourself in the postion of being almost entirely reponsable for their well being. I know...that's where I am with my mother, and it only got worse after my brother passed away in 2005. She very nearly willed herself to die that year, not that I can blame her. The rest of us kids have made a concerted effort to make her be vital, to make her be active in her life with and without us.
serious crayons:
I don't call my mother as often as I should.
She has Alzheimer's, and although she can still talk on the phone and probably would even recognize my voice and remember my name, any conversation past that point is almost impossible. She answers questions and talks, but her words bear no relationship to reality, they're just rambling nonsense. And she can't hold any kind of continuous dialogue. For example, if she says A, then I respond B, she has no idea what I mean by B because she's already forgotten A.
Because she's in a nursing home without a phone in her room, it's kind of hard to get her on the phone. When I do call her, I'm sure she forgets the second she's hung up the phone. And it's hard to be reminded of how much unlike herself she is.
But those are rationalizations. I still feel guilty about not calling her more.
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