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What do you think of Spanking?
louisev:
the P.E.T. model does not imply anything about income level. It implies that withdrawal of reward (or of positive attention) can be a potent influence on child behavior.
Jeff does bring up an excellent point about age being a factor in being able to apply the method though. However I disagree that spanking is more suitable for younger children who don't quite grasp logical consequences. I think it is less suitable.
mvansand76:
--- Quote from: Nutmeg Guy on August 06, 2007, 08:19:55 am ---I voted "for" spanking. Too many kids today are out of control. Part of the beauty of the spanking is just the threat of one. My Mom would say :" You'd better behave or your father will spank you when he gets home". That was usually enough of a threat t oget us to behave. LOL
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Oh I have to strongly disagree with you.... You see, the really interesting question is "why are they out of control?" and "is this the child's fault?". And to echo Chrissi, why in the hell is it OK to hit your child, when it's so NOT ok to hit your wife or husband or just anybody on the street?
I vote "No, absolutely NOT!". There are too many parents who take their lifelong frustrations out on their children and so many children are actually being molested by their parents and the line between spanking and abuse is so fine. I would say keep your hands off your child and find a different way to discipline him/her and start finding out why your child is out of control and what your part is in that.
I think spanking is putting the blame of the child's behavior entirely with the child, when the parent is to blame as well. This sets a bad example and burdens the child with feelings of guilt that are destructive for him/her.
David In Indy:
--- Quote from: ifyoucantfixit on August 07, 2007, 03:28:46 am ---
That Dottie seems to be the norm around here. Like selling a house. Lots of lookers, and no
buyers.. I had over 160 people look at my campaign issues poll..only seven people voted...I dont know if
some people dont care about the heavy issues, or if they dont want others to know their opinion for
whatever reason...
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This is one of the things that discourages me the most as moderator of this forum. I'm always trying to encourage people to not only cast votes in the polling threads, but to leave comments as well, in order to start a dialogue. I've tracked the traffic in this forum for about 6 months now, and there's a lot of it! Lots of visitors but few contributors. :(
Shasta542:
I got a few spankings when I was little growing up and I don't feel like I'm warped because of it. No one yelled at me, and I never had bruises or anything---really--it didn't hurt. haha But I had people who loved me and looked out constantly for my well-being. I was definitely never abused. I was talked to a lot. :P
So many kids today get no attention from their parents unless the parents are screaming/cussing at them or hitting them. That is heartbreaking---giving your children a good raising has to be top priority--that doesn't mean giving them everything they want, but giving them everything they need.
Discipline means "teaching" -- what is the best way to teach your child? If you love the child, you won't administer physical or emotional harm. If you need to spat their bottoms, send them to their room, have a sit-down discussion, etc---you should know your child well enough to know what works and what doesn't. Whatever you do, the child should be aware that there are consequences to bad choices on their part, but you have the responsibility to guide them in making wise choices. And that guidance should start at an early age.
Jeff Wrangler:
--- Quote from: louise van hine on August 14, 2007, 05:22:58 pm ---the P.E.T. model does not imply anything about income level. It implies that withdrawal of reward (or of positive attention) can be a potent influence on child behavior.
Jeff does bring up an excellent point about age being a factor in being able to apply the method though. However I disagree that spanking is more suitable for younger children who don't quite grasp logical consequences. I think it is less suitable.
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OK, seriously, does the P.E.T. model address what to do with very young children who get into situations like I did? Spanking is less suitable than--what?
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