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jstephens9:
I had originally posted this with the thread concerning stress inducers, but I decided I wanted to make this its own topic. I really want to find out if others ever experience this problem. I seem to have a really hard time making decisions especially about things such as taking trips. I have a hard time with decision making in general, but this area seems to be the worst with me. I question to death whether I should go places or not. I seem to find reasons of why not to go such as I don't want to go through the airport hassle, or I don't like flying that much, or I should build up my vacation time, or I shouldn't spend the money. I will then think I do want to go and get excited about it. Then I start going through my reasons for not going again and talk myself out of it. So I switch from one side of the decision to the other over and over. I hate this. I sometimes think things like I have been enough places this year so I should wait until next year for any more travel. One thing is that I have never really traveled that much anyway. I have always said that I like to travel, but up until a year or go or less I spent an incredible amount of time at home. I do know that when I look at pictures of places I have been I feel a real strong sense that I am glad I went. But then of course there’s all those issues that come up again in my mind (amount of vacation time used, amount of money spent, flying, etc.)  Does anyone else have these types of issues or does anyone have any thoughts about this? Thanks!

Jack

Jeff Wrangler:
I have this trouble, too, Jack.

Add to it, sometimes, such as in the case of travel to a summer resort during the high season, you often have to make the decision many months in advance in order to get the accommodations you want.

For me the essence of vacation has not been running around seeing things; it's been going some place and plopping myself down and not having to do anything. Now I find myself facing my fiftieth birthday next year, feeling that my life is, what, maybe two-thirds--or more--over, and feeling that I've hardly been anywhere or seen anything and have thrown away vacation time "just relaxing"--except that "just relaxing" is what I've always felt I needed. So that conflict in demands on vacation time induces stress and tends, in me, to also induce a kind of stasis, an inability to make up my mind what I want to do with the time now available.

LauraGigs:
Well to tie this in with Brokeback, the lesson there is that you only live once, and that in the end you'll regret the things you didn't do.

So from that POV, the obvious answer would be "Go for it! See the world! Don't worry about days-off-from-work and other pissant nonsense that counts for nothing in the end!"

The one problem you mentioned that does tend to affect my overall enjoyment and taint memories of travel is the hassle. My last trip ended with terrible delays and hassles on the return home which put a negative aftertaste on the whole thing. Just do your best to minimize the chances of that by scheduling early flights (less likely to be delayed), carrying on luggage, etc.

But as I said, none of the other issues bothers me. More vacation time will come.  And even though I don't have a heckofa lot of money, when it comes to gaining life experiences and good memories, I never regret spending it.

Kelda:
Just pasting in what i said in the other thread.


--- Quote ---My holidays is the thing I love - so I always spend on that but I do spend a lot of time researching trying to find the best price etec etc. I quite like that excitement part of the planning! But I can undertand why it's stress you out. It does to me sometimes when things aren't going my way - ie I can't find what I'm looking for!

How about saving a little each month specifically for your holidays - that way you'll not feel guilty about spending the money and you have an idea of yor budget etc.
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Jeff Wrangler:

--- Quote from: LauraGigs on September 04, 2007, 04:56:22 pm ---Well to tie this in with Brokeback, the lesson there is that you only live once, and that in the end you'll regret the things you didn't do.

So from that POV, the obvious answer would be "Go for it! See the world! Don't worry about days-off-from-work and other pissant nonsense that counts for nothing in the end!"
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Maybe that's possible if you're self-employed, or don't have a mortgage to pay. It just seems to me that most folks simply can't afford--perhaps on several levels--to be that cavalier about days off from work.  :-\


--- Quote ---The one problem you mentioned that does tend to affect my overall enjoyment and taint memories of travel is the hassle. My last trip ended with terrible delays and hassles on the return home which put a negative aftertaste on the whole thing. Just do your best to minimize the chances of that by scheduling early flights (less likely to be delayed), carrying on luggage, etc.

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One morning last week I heard NBC's travel correspondent, Peter Greenberg, say, "There are two kinds of airline luggage: Carry-on and lost."  ;D

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