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Singles R Us
notBastet:
I was driving home from the grocery store last night (I do all of my best thinking in the car), and I thought, "Hey, there should be a singles thread on Bettermost."
So, here I started one!
I shall tell a few stories about myself and my 'single-ness' I guess, to get things started...
Story 1:
I recently broke-up with my significant other. I had tried to make the relationship work for a really long time, 6 or 12 years, depending on your prospective. And, you know what, it just didn't work, and I realized I could go on struggling and being miserable, or get out of dodge. I chose the latter. I do find it frustrating sometimes that 'the world' acts like you failed, or you didn't try hard enough, when you choose to end your relationship. Maintaining the relationship just for the sake of saying you maintained the relationship is not always a good thing to do.
Story 2:
I received an email from a longtime friend today - someone I email regularly, though not frequently. I announced my recent break-up as news in my reply. I hope my friend is happy for me, and not sad, and not feeling sorry for me...
Story 3:
The real reason I started the thread - I wanted to know how much money other single people spend on groceries per week! I spend anywhere between 25 and 50 bucks...! 25 seems reasonable, but 50 seems a tad ludicrous.
:)
Brown Eyes:
Hey Friend! Thanks for starting this thread. It's a great idea for a topic.
For the record I usually spend about $50 per week on groceries. I always go into the store thinking I'll only spend $20 this time... but I always end up spending $50. I guess I'm a victim to temptation a lot once I'm surrounded by all that good food...
::) ;D
Anyway, you're right that cooking for one can be tricky.
And, as for me... I'm a really, really (really) independent person. So, I've often found it hard to commit to a relationship.
Since I moved to Pittsburgh 2 years ago I've dated 3 people. Two of those were really, very brief little attempts at dating and the third was a little bit more substantial. Actually... number three was the only person I went to see Brokeback with in the theatre when it was still in general release! I went to see it with her for my third viewing of the film (I saw it a total of 5 times in the theatre). But, I remember telling her that it was only my second time seeing it because I already felt like BBM was becoming a somewhat *different* kind of obsession for me. To her credit, the woman I was dating really liked the movie. And, I remember a few days later we were having coffee and she started talking about how she couldn't stop thinking about the movie... and how the more she thought about it the more she liked it, etc. So, it looked like the beginnings of Brokie fever. Despite this, things fizzled out between us.
That's a big trend for me... I start dating someone and it begins *great* and then it fizzles. :-\
I've only been in love once, and that was with my college girlfriend. We had a second "round" of trying to make it work when I was in my mid-20s and it became clear that it wasn't going to work. So, ever since then it's been a series of short flings and dating.
C'est la vie. I guess. :-\
Shasta542:
I spend about 20-25 on groceries each week, but I probably spend that much on eating out too. So....not good. Also about that much on dog and cat food and treats.
I have been divorced for several years after being married for 20 years. I've had a few boyfriends and been engaged twice since the divorce---but none of those worked out. The last guy I was engaged to---we were both 42---started dating a 20 year old. I took that as a sign that the marriage was off. :P
At first, I wanted to get married again. Now, I have gotten accustomed to living alone, doing what I want, when I want--and having pets---so, right now, I am pretty happy with the way things are. :)
Nice thread, nb! ;D
Brown Eyes:
I think hearing the diversity of our experiences on this topic will actually be fascinating! This really is a great topic.
For the record, a lot of the time I'm really quite happy being single. Maybe I'm just set in my ways... but there are lots of things to celebrate about being single, which seems important to keep in mind sometimes.
:)
notBastet:
Hi ladies!
Thanks for speaking up... I feel much better about my grocery money, now.
(life doesn't change all that much really, lunch money as a kid, grocery money as an adult...)
I actually feel like I have been in love a lot... three times, total. Maybe that's not really a lot, maybe my definition of "in love" just changes as I age. Well, whatever you want to call it, it certainly hasn't helped any of my relationships work out, lol!
I am currently enjoying not having to worry about the heart going "thump-thump," but I still hope that maybe it will again one day...
;)
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