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Jeff Wrangler:

--- Quote from: injest on September 15, 2007, 05:42:26 am ---The point I guess I am getting at in our own lifes is this. Parents make mistakes. What kind of mistakes and how they deal with those mistakes are what is important. My father molested me for years….from two to thirteen. Still calls me sometimes and tries to have phone sex with me…my mother gets angry I hang up on him. But as bad as that was, the abuse that hurt me worse was the emotional abuse my mother heaped on me. And still does.

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We need to look at our parents and forgive where we can…but not leave ourselves open to being abused further. My father can not have my forgiveness while he keeps trying to use me sexually. My mother can not while she mocks me. I can’t change them. I can only deal with them the best way I can and still protect myself. My choice with my father is complete severance of all communication. My choice with my mother is to limit my contact when she strikes out at me….and that is not the one I would prefer…but it is the one I can live with..

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Jess. ... OMG. I had no idea until I stumbled in here this afternoon. ...

Why isn't his sorry ass in jail?

 :'(

Jeff Wrangler:

--- Quote from: injest on September 15, 2007, 05:42:26 am ---I can’t imagine a father telling one child to go beat up another but that was his ‘solution’ to Ennis being harassed by his older brother. Might equals right.

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Actually, in the case of boys, I can, especially in that time and place. Even today boys learn that to gain respect, you have to hit back harder. At least little Ennis dd it with his fists. On the streets of Philadelphia today, they do it with guns.

Doesn't make it right, but that's the way it seems to be.

Kelda:
Jess - you are brave at telling this story publicly and also still dealing with your family.  :-*

I salute you.

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