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Cellar Scribblings
Shakesthecoffecan:
I have had some similar experences, in that I recognize the feelings of unease you describe. In my experences these people usually have some unease on their part like they recognize me and remember their hormore induced behavior from a lifetime ago.
I know you did the right thing in being cordial to him and not confrontational. It would have brought bad karma to your friends party. Perhaps this is an indication you might run into him again if she has another get together. If that is the case, remember that it is the present you are living in and decide if you are going to let this guy know the person you are now or not. The person you always have been that he riticuled as well as the person you have become. Your life experence will be your guide.
We don't often know what motivates these people when they hate us. Sometimes it is fear of the unknown, sometimes the unknown in theirselves. I think we got to know what motivates us. I have a fantasy that I vist probably way too often in which I am at a class reunion and I take the microphone and forgive the class bully for his actions, but god help me if I were to ever do that. ;D
loneleeb3:
I think you did the acceptable thing.
You thought of your friend and put her feelings above your own.
That said, you have every right to feel the way you did.
Im not as even keeled as you I would not have been plesant and probably would have let him know in no uncertain terms why.
But I think you did the right thing. i'm proud of you. Your a good man Charlie Brown! ;D
Penthesilea:
(Chuck) :-*
Jeff Wrangler:
I think it's natural to continue to feel the way you do. Of course you shouldn't have expected an apology. You did the right thing--you were both guests under your hostess' roof, so you were right not to make an issue of the past. Sounds to me, though, that you let him take up more of your time than maybe I would have. I would have said, "Oh, nice to see you again," tried to avoid shaking hands--and almost immediately excused myself and pretended I needed to go to the bathroom. ;D
Brokeback_Dev:
--- Quote from: Jeff Wrangler on November 14, 2008, 05:09:33 pm ---I think it's natural to continue to feel the way you do. Of course you shouldn't have expected an apology. You did the right thing--you were both guests under your hostess' roof, so you were right not to make an issue of the past. Sounds to me, though, that you let him take up more of your time than maybe I would have. I would have said, "Oh, nice to see you again," tried to avoid shaking hands--and almost immediately excused myself and pretended I needed to go to the bathroom. ;D
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good answer
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