Yes, we have this rosy view of childbirth. That every woman looking for an abortion is a selfish white woman with resources....and if carried to term the child will be born perfect and white and cute and there would be a line of loving parents BEGGING to adopt it.
The reality is different. Sure there are a bunch of couples out there looking for babies...but they don't want a handicapped, mentally challenged child. Or a crack baby.
Or an older child or an ethnic child for the most part.
And how many of these people that are so concerned about abortioin have adopted the children that are already here?
And suppose we do require all these aborted babies to be born? Typically the Pro Lifer's are Republicans (who are against social programs) sooo....what happens to the babies? Are we going to force poor women to surrender their babies or should we let them starve? Otherwise we are going to have to supplement their families...
And here is where the judging and gender-bias comes in,
Jess.
When I and a friend were debating the abortion issue with my two male Right Wing friends, one Born Again, the other giving lip-service to his religious beliefs, my friend said,
"OK, so you don't support sex education, Planned Parenthood Clinics or any social programs that help parentless children/unwed mothers, but you're all for forcing me to have this child (hypothetically) and me picking up the bill for it even if I don't want it. What was I supposed to do?"
His answer?
Well, as a single, unwed adult/near adult woman, she was NOT supposed to be having sex in the first place. She was supposed to be 'waiting' to be made an honest woman, guarding her virginity like an Old Testament heroine, waiting for the 'right' man. And if he didn't show up? Oh, well, too bad for you, be celibate your whole life.
This is also why my Born Again friend was all for letting AIDs take its course. After all, if these gay men weren't having promiscuous 'wrong' sex, the plague would have never spread. If they're gay and know they have the 'wrong' tendencies, they too should have remained celibate.
Yeah, he's a fucking idiot now that he's sown his wild oats without mishap and then was Born Again, safely married with children and can now condemn others for doing what he did.
Do as I say, not as I do.Abstinence is a solution, to be sure. However, it's a completely impractical one. NO one, is going to abstain for very long unless they have other goals in life. When the new Pope was being installed, I think someone on this board or I read it somewhere, reported how Italy was the biggest supporter of the Pope and the Catholic Church...but how they also had the lowest out of wedlock birthrate in Europe.
My Born Again friend assumed this was due to abstinence as per the Catholic dogma.
Yeah, right.