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Keeping BetterMost Alive...
serious crayons:
--- Quote from: Pipedream on May 14, 2006, 12:33:41 pm ---Why don't you just not read the posts you find annoying?
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I find that strategy works really well for me! Well, there are only a few posts I find out-and-out annoying. But like everyone else, I find some more interesting than others. My solution has been to read the ones I like, and skip the ones I don't.
Phillip, my vote would be to let anyone talk about pretty much anything they want to, so long as others are not offended. Much as I hate to admit it, there may eventually come a day when our interest in discussing the movie itself will start to fade (it hasn't yet, has it? HAS IT?). I hope that even then, people here will still be interested in talking to each other. So I'm all in favor of whatever works to sustain those connections.
Gaylee, I like your idea of a Watch it Again Day!
Shuggy:
--- Quote from: Pipedream on May 14, 2006, 12:33:41 pm ---Phillip, thank you so much for making this site such a great place and for letting it live, prosper and devellop! :-*
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TJ, I know that name-calling is forbidden on here, but this time I just can't help it: what a smart-ass you are! Of course, the German word for it sounds much more impressive: Klugscheißer. Why don't you just not read the posts you find annoying?
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On the techie side, I find this an extremely navigable, flexible site with heaps of useful features. Most amazingly, it doesn't have an Ignore button and I've never missed it! On the human side, I find the people here very open and friendly: it IS a community, and a growing and developing one. Bravo, Philip for your plans to keep it so!
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Pipedream, please cut TJ some slack. He's posted his background here: http://bettermost.net/forum/index.php?topic=1010.msg22961#msg22961
Aussie Chris:
--- Quote from: TJ on May 14, 2006, 01:40:01 am ---Some of my comments here are related to the fact that some of the people posting the stuff which seems a way off from Brokeback Mountain AND that the only connection of Brokeback Mountain and their lives is they took time to see the movie.
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Really TJ, sometimes you are too much. The hypocrisy and double-standards reflected in this statement astound me.
Phillip Dampier:
--- Quote from: TJ on May 14, 2006, 01:40:01 am ---Some of my comments here are related to the fact that some of the people posting the stuff which seems a way off from Brokeback Mountain AND that the only connection of Brokeback Mountain and their lives is they took time to see the movie.
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I don't think that is a fair comment. There are a ton of users on here who have posted 700+ messages on this system, even more than I have (I write long, wordy messages so it takes me longer). I'd say I could make a million bucks if I bottled the enthusiasm people have for this movie and called it Obsession BBM: The Unisex Fragrance for the Outdoor Type. :) The setting is a part of the film, but for those of us who weren't alive in 1963 and have never been to Wyoming in their lives, we *still* got it, trust me.
--- Quote ---But, so many things in the story and the movie, including the dialog or conversations, remind me of my own live and people in my life.
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I don't doubt this for a second. But I wouldn't question other people who can legitimately say the same thing. For me, I have an Ennis-type friend in my own life, and there is a user on here who can relate to Ennis quite a bit - he's starting to go through some of the same things Ennis did and he lives in Idaho, which isn't exactly the most tolerant state around.
The impact I felt personally was not as much related to the specific characters, although I saw traits of both Jack and Ennis in me and around me, but rather to the theme of missed opportunities and questioning what I was allowing to slip away in my own life. I *got* the film and it impacted me enough to provoke me to start this site.
I say this to you with respect and kindness - I really do want you to be a part of our family here. But you do not gain respect and friendship by alienating other people on here by dismissing their own heart-felt feelings and interpretations about the film and its meanings. Remember Annie also said that people finish the story through his or her life experience, prejudices, world view and thoughts.
I don't think she could tell us to pick up what she is putting down more clearly than she did. Each of us will take something different from the film and the story. And if she's okay with that, than so should we all.
Phillip Dampier:
A bad pun I was told by one of the people I consult with about this site.
Me: On the other side of the ledger, the thing is growing.
Him: Isn't that something Jake said about Heath?
Now that that is out of the way, he also believes BetterMost has plenty of potential to broaden into a social networking site themed on all-things Brokeback but not limited to discussions about the movie itself. My opinion has always been we gradually revise the theme of the site from "all things Brokeback" to "all the things in our lives that Brokeback changed" and that, of course, includes all of the new friends we've made.
So, if users approve, I'd like to start bringing new features into the mix that emphasize community a bit more than just movie. None of the old stuff will be removed - I just want to consider focusing new stuff more on our lives in general and less on the movie.
Meanwhile, my next big project, which I am going to delegate to someone else to administer for us, is a BetterMost version of the Welcome Wagon. Active users here would help greet the new folks, show them the ropes, and help encourage their participation. I never want any part of this site to be a "clique" where outsiders have to fight their way in. Having new people welcomed into the discussions will help bring new folks into our many discussions. I envision one administrator of the program with a team of volunteers who will see new folks register for the system and send them a PM welcoming them and offering to guide their journey on here.
We only have around 50 regular posters on here with 354 members. I'm sure some of the 354 were one time visitors who either moved on or didn't find the site a good fit and that is fine, but I'm sure there are lurkers out there who would probably join in if they felt more invited to do so.
I like the fact we remain the small-town feel forum out there.
Let me know your thoughts.
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