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tango:
My goodness, that's sad and kinda defeats the purpose of sharing a holiday with people you care about in a meaningful way which I thought was the point. It's almost like they used the amount of food you ate as a barometer to evaluate the strength of the friendship instead of the using the proper measure of how you felt about them - the time you spent at their house on a holiday sacrificing some time with your immediate family.
I'd be thrilled if a friend popped in for a bit to have a drink, a few bites and a chat before leaving for their parents house for their main meal. I think that shows great regard. But only if I knew that beforehand when I extended the invitation, otherwise I could see my feelings being hurt if I put in a lot of effort and time on a dinner to find it not appreciated. The hosting couple if they didn't know beforehand might think the guest didn't like the food or company so was using "I have to go to my parents house and eat dinner" as a way to bail and head out for better pickings.
delalluvia:
--- Quote from: tango on November 30, 2009, 11:07:10 am ---My goodness, that's sad and kinda defeats the purpose of sharing a holiday with people you care about in a meaningful way which I thought was the point. It's almost like they used the amount of food you ate as a barometer to evaluate the strength of the friendship instead of the using the proper measure of how you felt about them - the time you spent at their house on a holiday sacrificing some time with your immediate family.
I'd be thrilled if a friend popped in for a bit to have a drink, a few bites and a chat before leaving for their parents house for their main meal. I think that shows great regard. But only if I knew that beforehand when I extended the invitation, otherwise I could see my feelings being hurt if I put in a lot of effort and time on a dinner to find it not appreciated. The hosting couple if they didn't know beforehand might think the guest didn't like the food or company so was using "I have to go to my parents house and eat dinner" as a way to bail and head out for better pickings.
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I agree and certainly would tell my hosts in advance, which I did, and since I wasn't the only friend invited, I didn't think my presence one way or the other made that big of a deal to my hosts, but apparenly so.
I felt particularly bad about one time because the friends were a gay couple, neither of which were in contact with their families, so in effect their friends were their families, so I could see the impact might be more major to them. But then again, their situation didn't make my family go away or change my circumstances. :-\
Front-Ranger:
--- Quote from: delalluvia on November 30, 2009, 12:49:14 pm ---
I felt particularly bad about one time because the friends were a gay couple, neither of which were in contact with their families, so in effect their friends were their families, so I could see the impact might be more major to them. But then again, their situation didn't make my family go away or change my circumstances. :-\
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That was the case with me last Thanksgiving. My friends and I all agree that T-day should be spent with family, but when all you do there is eat and be assaulted by loud football on TV (there were something like 40 games broadcast last Thursday) then it's not worth it. It was so relaxing and companionable to spend time with my gay friends talking about recipes, landscaping, decorating, travel, art, movies, and literature, and listening to them play piano, than watching mud-covered men on a field crashing into each other!!
Marge_Innavera:
I'm not sure how many people would like to tackle this for Thanksgiving!
The picture above looks like a carrot cake, but it's actually a kind of one-dish Thanksgiving dinner. It's made with layers of ground turkey, sweet potatoes, cranberry sauce and stuffing, with mashed potatoes as the "frosting."
The whole recipe is at a blog called "chow". Sounds like it's as complicated as making Thanksgiving dinner twice. :laugh:
http://www.chow.com/recipes/29029-thanksgiving-turkey-cake
BayCityJohn:
Found this on Craigslist today. I can not vouch for authenticity
Set of 6
$75 each
Whole set is $450
These chairs were used in the Thanksgiving Dinner scene at Jack's house in the award winning Brokeback Mountain
Excellent condition
Plush aubergine velvet
http://vancouver.en.craigslist.ca/van/fuo/2055775536.html
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