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MaineWriter:
--- Quote from: ineedcrayons on March 14, 2008, 09:45:02 pm ---To tell the truth, I sometimes find it odd that everyone in my family has the same last name except me.
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My ancestors came to this country in 1664 and I can trace my family history earlier than that in England. In my family, it was just my sister and me and I determined, at a very early age, that I would keep my name when I got married. My boyfriend/fiance/husband (as he moved through the stages) never had any issue with any of this.
When it came time for children, another decision loomed. We talked about it and came to the agreement that the children would have my name, since we needed to keep that going. My husband's family (good Irish Catholics that they are) had plenty of folks with his last name.
So, maybe, Katherine, my husband feels like you--the only person with a certain name in the family.
As for the "too confusing for the kids" argument...that's just nonsense. Read any news article in the newspaper about something to do with a family and it seems like everyone has a different last name. And in my own experience, with my children, it has never been a problem. Forms all have a place for "father's name" and "mother's name" and we fill them in. No big deal.
Interestingly, one of my aunts--who was considered to be one of the most liberal and feminist women in the family--was the one who was most opposed to me keeping my name when I got married. First she tried to argue that it is legally required (it isn't) and then she tried to argue that it was the "right" thing to do. That didn't go anywhere. She had always given me a check for Christmas as a gift. After I was married, she made it out to "Mrs. Anthony Jendrek" which was really insulting, since that wasn't my name. But I still took the money! LOL
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Shasta542:
LOL -- Did you endorse it with the name you'd kept? ;D
forsythia12:
--- Quote from: MaineWriter on March 14, 2008, 10:17:48 pm ---Interestingly, one of my aunts--who was considered to be one of the most liberal and feminist women in the family--was the one who was most opposed to me keeping my name when I got married. First she tried to argue that it is legally required (it isn't) and then she tried to argue that it was the "right" thing to do. That didn't go anywhere. She had always given me a check for Christmas as a gift. After I was married, she made it out to "Mrs. Anthony Jendrek" which was really insulting, since that wasn't my name. But I still took the money! LOL
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lol . omg i can relate to that. my 86yr old grandmother-in-law (god rest her soul) always made the cheques out to mrs.(husband's first and last name) >:(
pissed me right off. i gave up my last name, NOT MY FIRST TOO! lol
she's totally old-school farm wife from with the 'submit to thy husband' attitude. whatever.
Kelda:
I love that I now know what Raspberry and scattered are in other languages....
MaineWriter:
--- Quote from: Shasta542 on March 14, 2008, 10:34:15 pm ---LOL -- Did you endorse it with the name you'd kept? ;D
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I sure did! And I never had any problem with that, either!
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