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Love vs. beast
delalluvia:
Pet.
I can't imagine being with a partner who asked me to give them up.
After all, he would have started dating me knowing I had cats, so why would he think that after some time invested in our relationship he could now tell me what to do with my 'property'? Does he think just because we've been dating for months that I will now turn over my car or bank account to him as well?
If a partner asks me to give up something he knows is precious to me, whether pet, bank account or even friends and family then I would consider him to have massive insecurity and controlling issues and quickly dump him.
So I guess it's not so much a matter of pet vs partner, but more of a control issue.
injest:
--- Quote from: delalluvia on March 11, 2008, 08:15:06 am ---Pet.
I can't imagine being with a partner who asked me to give them up.
After all, he would have started dating me knowing I had cats, so why would he think that after some time invested in our relationship he could now tell me what to do with my 'property'? Does he think just because we've been dating for months that I will now turn over my car or bank account to him as well?
If a partner asks me to give up something he knows is precious to me, whether pet, bank account or even friends and family then I would consider him to have massive insecurity and controlling issues and quickly dump him.
So I guess it's not so much a matter of pet vs partner, but more of a control issue.
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hear hear!!
optom3:
--- Quote from: injest on March 11, 2008, 10:35:18 am ---hear hear!!
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Anyone who claims to love you,then sets about trying to change you,does not love you.Getting you to give up pets is in my opinion trying to change you.
I personally (allergies excepted) mistrust people who do not like pets ,and even worse when the pet,particularly dogs refuse to go near the person.
I had a crippling migraine last night, and my retriever did not leave my side.She just knows when all is not well.
optom3:
--- Quote from: susiebk on March 11, 2008, 09:01:20 pm ---A golden? I have one too. They are amazingly empathetic, aren't they?
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Yes a golden.I just adore her.She so struggled to get up on the bed with me.She is only 5 but we bought her of a woman who had just bred her non stop.Poor thing looks 50 not 5.Anyway despite terrible arthritis,she got onto the bed,right next to me as she knew I was not well.Bless her!!!!
Every so often she would nudge me with her nose or stick her paw on my arm.
They so definitely have feelings,don't care how mad people think I am.
Even the little Maltese is bright,she knows when the alarm on my phone goes off that it is time to get my daughter from the bus.No matter where she is in the house she comes to get me and then runs to the car,tail wagging like mad.She adores my daughter.
I would not be without either of them.!!!!!
ZK:
--- Quote from: delalluvia on March 11, 2008, 08:15:06 am ---Pet.
I can't imagine being with a partner who asked me to give them up.
After all, he would have started dating me knowing I had cats, so why would he think that after some time invested in our relationship he could now tell me what to do with my 'property'? Does he think just because we've been dating for months that I will now turn over my car or bank account to him as well?
If a partner asks me to give up something he knows is precious to me, whether pet, bank account or even friends and family then I would consider him to have massive insecurity and controlling issues and quickly dump him.
So I guess it's not so much a matter of pet vs partner, but more of a control issue.
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I quite agree with you, if someone was dating asked me to give up something precious whether it be family, friends or pet I'd run a mile or more me being me would tell him to take a hike. Hence my search for a partner without furry friends. It does seem however in the search for the petless man, gay men seem to love to have cats....sneeze..........sneeze
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