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MsMercury:
Palmetto bugs love to live in those big oaks too.  I hate those things too!

Kerry:

As a gay man, the common misconception about gay men, from straight people, that I've often heard, is that if the gay man is big 'n' butch, he MUST,  automatically be sexually dominant. And that if the gay man is cute, slim and pretty, he MUST definitely  be sexually passive.

WROOOOOOOOOOOOONG!  :o

In my vast experience of more years than I care to count (and I can only speak for Australian gay men here), the bigger and butcher (??? - you know what I mean!!!) a man is, the more likely it is he's gunna just wanna lie back in bed and be adored. And I am more than happy to oblige!!!  ;)   :D

forsythia12:
well, i have several lesbian friends, and one in paticular said to me "it really sucks when i hang out with you or any straight girl 'cause automatically people that know us automatically think 'something's going on', when really, i'm just hanging out with another girl...."
when she said this, i realized that it's so true.  i've never thought about it before, but people i know might get the wrong impression if  i start hanging out with another man, since i'm married, and yet i never thought about my gay friend as also being thought of as .....well.......'someone of concern'....(you know what i mean) like a 'threat' to my marriage, when all along, i simply just consider it hanging out with any other girl, but people don't always see it that way.  not that i care, but just something i never really thought about before.  people think crazy things sometimes........

Kerry:

--- Quote from: forsythia12 on March 21, 2008, 04:09:17 am ---well, i have several lesbian friends, and one in paticular said to me "it really sucks when i hang out with you or any straight girl 'cause automatically people that know us automatically think 'something's going on', when really, i'm just hanging out with another girl...."
when she said this, i realized that it's so true.  i've never thought about it before, but people i know might get the wrong impression if  i start hanging out with another man, since i'm married, and yet i never thought about my gay friend as also being thought of as .....well.......'someone of concern'....(you know what i mean) like a 'threat' to my marriage, when all along, i simply just consider it hanging out with any other girl, but people don't always see it that way.  not that i care, but just something i never really thought about before.  people think crazy things sometimes........

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Several years ago, a cute guy came to my office to work. We had to work closely together and over a period of time, as we exchanged pleasantries, discovered we had a lot in common. From very early on, it became abundantly clear to me that he was very heterosexual. But he was also gay-friendly, had worked with gay people in the past and had lived in West Hollywood, whilst working as a chef, before coming to work in my office in Sydney, as a public servant.

We had lunch together a couple of times to start with and this progressed to having lunch together every day. And then we started seeing each other on the weekend occasionally and also had dinner together a couple of times each month.

He knew I was gay and we were always very honest with each other about our personal sexual proclivities, without being explicitly gross about the details. He was of mixed Italio-Hungarian heritage and was very sexy.

Because I respected his friendship so much (besides the fact that he was so overtly straight), I never made a pass at him - and nor did I want to (well, maybe just a little bit, early on in our friendship!).

I'm very open about my sexuality at work, I've worked there for 28 years, and everyone knows I'm gay. It wasn't until after my friend had resigned and moved onto anther job that I started to hear the rumours. Apparently it had been widely believed, for years, that we were an item. Even my boss, a lesbian, thought we were bumping uglies. They were all wrong. We were just friends. Platonic friends.

opinionista:
One misconception I don't like is when people tell me I speak Mexican very well, when "Mexican" is not a language. The language is Spanish. When I was living in Wisconsin and New York people congratulated me for 5 de mayo and that date means nothing to me.

Also some people get so surprised that I'm really not into hot spicy food. Not all hispanic countries have hot spicy food or tacos or burritos in their daily diet.

There are so many misconceptions, especially in the USA, about hispanic people and the general culture. The worst part is that a lot of white and black American citizens show little interest in learning about the culture and the people. It's like we don't exist. There's also a lot of racism. Not everybody is racist of course but it is a sad reality.  :-\

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