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From the Ridiculous to the Sublime
bbm_stitchbuffyfan:
A Brokeback lover in Atlanta, huh? :o I'm from Atlanta! How cool.
As for the ridiculous... I am getting so tired of homophobes who deny that they're homophobic. I mean that "tired of being labeled [homophobic]" bullshit is exactly what I'm talking about. This movie has taught me a lot about homophobia and really opened my eyes to just how many homophobes I know (again, I'm from Georgia) -- it's a startling number.
That's why I really appreciated this one episode of Family Guy that delt with gay marriage. At it's start I was thinking, "Oh, Jesus Christ, Family Guy and gay marriage? Here comes the stereotyping." I was pleasantly surprised to see, however, that they addressed the issue from all sides. One character (Brian) was a heterosexual, avid supporter of gays' rights. Other characters such as many of the people in their town, the politicians, and the family's grandparents were Republican homophobes. And then there was Lois, who repeated "I've never had any problems with gays before... but I just don't think they should be allowed to marry."
(Her character was redeemed, by the way; she realized the err of her ways.)
Sorry for that tangent but I just wanted to share.
ednbarby:
I hear ya there, Buff. I am *beyond* tired of that mentality of "I'm not a homophobe - some of my best friends are gay. But..." GAH!
And Ruby, funny you should mention the tokens of love in the way that you did. Tonight, my son goes, "What are these?" referring to my cowboy hat charms. I said, "They're cowboy hats." He goes, "Why are you wearing them?" I said, "Because they represent my favorite movie characters." He goes, "Oh. OK." (as if that was all the explanation he needed to be satisfied. God love 4-year-olds.) Then he said, "Why are there two cowboy hats?" I said, "Because you can't have one without the other." He goes, "Oh. OK."
:)
Lynne:
--- Quote from: ednbarby on May 23, 2006, 10:42:35 pm ---I am *beyond* tired of that mentality of "I'm not a homophobe - some of my best friends are gay. But..." GAH!
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Echo that, Barb...
Just thought I would chime in here with another 'homophobe' story...A few days ago a guy I know peripherally asked what I'd been doing the past few months...Before I got 'BrokeBack Mountain' into one sentence, he's saying 'You know how homophobic I am.' And proceeds to give me a list of examples/reasons/etc...My only answer was 'I hope you'll give it a chance one day; it changed my life.'
That's the first time I've heard homophobia expressed in the positive, as opposed to 'I'm not homophobic, but...'. Actually I did NOT know that about him. But I could have guessed because he's made extremely classist comments to me before. All this happened in northern Alabama, if that matters.
BTW, I liked that Family Guy episode - Family Guy tickles my funnybone just the right way.
-Lynne
ednbarby:
--- Quote from: nakymaton on May 23, 2006, 10:48:45 pm ---Hey, Barb, I love your son's questions and the way he accepted your answers. My son's three, and he loves the soundtrack. ("Cowboy hat music," he calls it. Favorite song: "I Will Never Let You Go.") We had a conversation about why Jack and Ennis were sad that went about the way your conversation did. ("Oh." I love that response. Though I suspect that we'll be moving onto "But why?" very soon.)
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That's what's so stunning about his acceptance of my answers - he's *totally* in the "But why?" stage. He's also doing this thing where he'll ask me what something is, I'll tell him, (e.g., "What's that animal on the TV, Mommy?" "It's a hippopotamus.") and he'll go, "No, it isn't." :P
ednbarby:
--- Quote from: Lynne on May 24, 2006, 01:10:32 am ---That's the first time I've heard homophobia expressed in the positive, as opposed to 'I'm not homophobic, but...'. Actually I did NOT know that about him. But I could have guessed because he's made extremely classist comments to me before. All this happened in northern Alabama, if that matters.
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That's a new one - I've never heard someone admit to it like that. But it's also quite disturbing, and just proves the point Kirk, I think it was, made here the other day - that it's no longer socially acceptable to be a racist, but it's still socially acceptable to be a homophobe. I'd bet you a million dollars this same guy would *never* say "You know what a racist I am."
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