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BBMGrandma:
Hi My friends....Just needed to let you know that I need help.  I need your strength...your positive thoughts and your love for my Friend.  My Dearest friend in the WHOLE WORLD...38 years of kicking around together...loving each other and caring deeply.  We rushed him to ER on Monday morning and he's critically ill.  He's just been diagnosed with Tuberculosis AND AIDS...!!! 
I can't tell you how grief stricken I am right now.  I go to San Francisco almost every day and just sit with him and hold his hand.  I'm so sad I can hardly explain it.  My heart is breaking.  This guy has been my rock....for ALL these years.  I've cried with him through all his lost loves....and he's cried with me...over mine. 

I won't be posting too much here for a little bit...I'm exhausted and trying to keep MYSELF together too. 

My LOVE to you ALL....Nancy  :'(

Impish:
Oh Nancy, I'm so sorry to hear about your friend.

I was the primary caregiver for the last year for a friend (we were never lovers) who dies of AIDS in 1991.  What hurt him most is that most people in our circle of friends "disappeared" after he got really sick. 

I mention this because your attention, love, and caring is very important to your friend, I'm sure.  You already know this, but I wanted to reinforce the point just the same.  My friend, Roland Green, had time enough to make peace with himself and his family and  the fact that he was dying.  In his heart, I think he even forgave the "friends" who abandoned him before the end (something I still haven't been able to do).

In any case, I'm SURE your visits are a source of strength and love for your friend, and I'm SURE he's very grateful, whether or not he's the kind of man who can express it verbally.

Hang in there, my dear! 

iristarr:
Dear Nancy-- please do know that all of us are keeping you and your dear one in our thoughts and prayers, and we lift you up, send you strength, and support you both without end. Is there anything else we can do from a distance?  Cards, flowers? With much love, Iris

Lynne:
Dearest Nancy,
Please let us know if there's anything at all we can do for you and your friend.  I'm saddened that his prognosis looks to be so poor.  I know he must find great comfort in the friendship you've shared throughout the years and now in the end.  Please remember to try to take care of yourself during this time too.  I know that's much easier said than done, but even small meditative 5- or 10-minute breaks can make a big difference in keeping you centered.  You both are in my heart and prayers.  Definitely let us know if there's anything else at all you need.  We seem to have built up quite a network of caring involved people in a short amount of time...Anything you need at all, I'm sure we can muster.  We love you.
Peace and gratitude,
Lynne

Fla_Tim:
Dear Nancy,

My thoughts and love are with you and your friend, he is so fortunate to have a friend as dear as you. Your comfort and strength will help him more than you'll know. Remember to take care of yourself while you take care of him too. Modern medicine works wonders, I know several people who have come back from the brink with AIDS and are living full lives again. Your support for him will help him in ways that the doctors can't. Hang in there and know we are all thinking of you both.

Much love,

Tim

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