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Thermometer of Love
Kerry:
The Thermometer of Love
You can’t precisely measure love, but you can’t deny that it comes in different temperatures: cool, hot and scalding.
Three decades ago, psychologist Elaine Hatfield and sociologist Susan Sprecher devised the Passionate Love Scale, which remains in wide use today.
Think of the person you love passionately now or someone you felt that way about in the past. Base your answer on when your feelings were most intense.
Here’s how it works: For each of the 15 sentences below, chose a number from 1 (not at all true) through 5 (moderately true) to 9 (definitely true) that most accurately describes your feelings toward the person you love. Choose any number from 1-9.
Add up your total. Your score can range from a minimum of 15 to a maximum of 135. The higher your score, the more your feelings reflect passionate love; the items for which you picked a particularly high number indicate the components of passionate love you experience most.
Here are the 15 sentences. To respond, go to the next post for the easy-copy, stand-alone template and choose the “Quote” option to respond from there.
1. I would feel deep despair if …… left me.
2. Sometimes I feel I can’t control my thoughts; they are obsessively about ……
3. I feel happy when I am doing something to make …… happy.
4. I would rather be with …… than anyone else.
5. I’d be jealous if I thought …… was falling in love with someone else.
6. I yearn to know all about ……
7. I want …… physically, emotionally, mentally.
8. I have an endless appetite for affection from ……
9. For me, …… is the perfect romantic partner.
10. I sense my body responding when …… touches me.
11. …… always seems to be on my mind.
12. I want …… to know me – my thoughts, fears and hopes.
13. I eagerly look for signs indicating ……’s desire for me.
14. I possess a powerful attraction for ……
15. I get extremely depressed when things don’t go right in my relationship with ……
Source – Time Inc.
Kerry:
Respond via “Quote” from this template:
1. I would feel deep despair if …… left me.
2. Sometimes I feel I can’t control my thoughts; they are obsessively about ……
3. I feel happy when I am doing something to make …… happy.
4. I would rather be with …… than anyone else.
5. I’d be jealous if I thought …… was falling in love with someone else.
6. I yearn to know all about ……
7. I want …… physically, emotionally, mentally.
8. I have an endless appetite for affection from ……
9. For me, …… is the perfect romantic partner.
10. I sense my body responding when …… touches me.
11. …… always seems to be on my mind.
12. I want …… to know me – my thoughts, fears and hopes.
13. I eagerly look for signs indicating ……’s desire for me.
14. I possess a powerful attraction for ……
15. I get extremely depressed when things don’t go right in my relationship with ……
My score out of 135 = ……. (The higher your score, the more your feelings reflect passionate love; the items for which you picked a particularly high number indicate the components of passionate love you experience most.)
Kerry:
Here are my responses. They relate to someone from my past, at the height of our passion. I fell in love with him at first sight. It was a very Romeo & Juliet, across a crowded room moment, when we first met. We were in our 20s and our relationship was passionate and intense, which is represented in my scores.
1. I would feel deep despair if …… left me. 9
2. Sometimes I feel I can’t control my thoughts; they are obsessively about …… 9
3. I feel happy when I am doing something to make …… happy. 9
4. I would rather be with …… than anyone else. 9
5. I’d be jealous if I thought …… was falling in love with someone else. 9
6. I yearn to know all about …… 9
7. I want …… physically, emotionally, mentally. 9
8. I have an endless appetite for affection from …… 9
9. For me, …… is the perfect romantic partner. 9
10. I sense my body responding when …… touches me. 9
11. …… always seems to be on my mind. 9
12. I want …… to know me – my thoughts, fears and hopes. 9
13. I eagerly look for signs indicating ……’s desire for me. 9
14. I possess a powerful attraction for …… 9
15. I get extremely depressed when things don’t go right in my relationship with …… 5
My score out of 135 = 131 (The higher your score, the more your feelings reflect passionate love; the items for which you picked a particularly high number indicate the components of passionate love you experience most.)
injest:
--- Quote from: Kerry on May 09, 2008, 12:07:05 am ---Respond via “Quote” from this template:
1. I would feel deep despair if …… left me. 9
2. Sometimes I feel I can’t control my thoughts; they are obsessively about …… 5
come on...it has been 25 years!!
3. I feel happy when I am doing something to make …… happy. 9
4. I would rather be with …… than anyone else. 9
5. I’d be jealous if I thought …… was falling in love with someone else. 9; jealous? enraged!!
6. I yearn to know all about …… 1; pfft! like I said...after 25 years I know ALL I need to know...
7. I want …… physically, emotionally, mentally. 9
8. I have an endless appetite for affection from …… 8
9. For me, …… is the perfect romantic partner. 7; I dan't deal with the GI Joes...
10. I sense my body responding when …… touches me. hello!! I am getting scared where this is going!! 7
11. …… always seems to be on my mind. 4; I got a life...kinda!
12. I want …… to know me – my thoughts, fears and hopes. 6; oh heck no!! :laugh: :laugh:
13. I eagerly look for signs indicating ……’s desire for me. LOL!! 4; pffft! Hey, he knows where to find me if he needs/wants something...
14. I possess a powerful attraction for …… 9
15. I get extremely depressed when things don’t go right in my relationship with …… 9
My score out of 135 = 103……. (The higher your score, the more your feelings reflect passionate love; the items for which you picked a particularly high number indicate the components of passionate love you experience most.)
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Kerry:
Wow! :o After 25 years, your Thermometer of Love still rates at a very healthy 103 outa 135, Jess! Congratulations! :D
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