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Is it better to have loved and lost?
David In Indy:
--- Quote from: Kerry on September 03, 2008, 08:07:11 am ---I too voted "Other."
I met the love of my life and soulmate in my 20s. I had just left a monastery and he had just left the Royal Australian Navy. We were both needy souls, looking for love. I still remember distinctly the first instant I saw him. I can still remember him standing and walking towards me, to shake my hand. He was so handsome - still is! It was love at first sight for me.
We shared 15 blissfully happy, passionately expressive years together.
And then, one fine day, entirely out of the blue, he announced he was bisexual (I had no idea!) and that he was leaving me to marry a woman 15 years his senior.
It was tough for me to get through at the time (I required counseling), but now, many years later, we have settled into a comfortable, platonic relationship together, where we are each others best friend. We love each other and would do anything for each other. He's still married, but I'm fine with that these days. We were having dinner together the other night (his wife is presently away on vacation) and we agreed that we couldn't imagine what our lives would be like without each other.
So I guess I've loved and lost and loved again!
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It sounds like you found a soulmate Kerry. As did he. And that is the most beautiful love of all, in my opinion. :)
Kerry:
--- Quote from: DavidInIndy on September 05, 2008, 03:41:23 pm ---It sounds like you found a soulmate Kerry. As did he. And that is the most beautiful love of all, in my opinion. :)
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We are indeed soulmates, David. My life would be all the poorer without his loving presence in it.
Front-Ranger:
Attention all of you who chose "Other." Here's what Annie Proulx has to say about it:
--- Quote ---I like the phrase "emotional ignorance." I think that emotional ignorance defines most of us, especially Americans, who believe in romantic, lasting love and happiness. Both beliefs are conducive to an almost innocent expectation of a RIGHT to be loved and to be happy without earning it. Since those expectations are very often dashed in real life, emotional ignorance is often paid for with a laggard sense of betrayal, bitter tears and, eventually, a tablespoon of cynicism. How the cold light of eventuality falls on the characters and what they do with it certainly interests me.
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Lynne:
--- Quote from: Front-Ranger on September 07, 2008, 06:12:37 pm ---I like the phrase "emotional ignorance." I think that emotional ignorance defines most of us, especially Americans, who believe in romantic, lasting love and happiness. Both beliefs are conducive to an almost innocent expectation of a RIGHT to be loved and to be happy without earning it. Since those expectations are very often dashed in real life, emotional ignorance is often paid for with a laggard sense of betrayal, bitter tears and, eventually, a tablespoon of cynicism. How the cold light of eventuality falls on the characters and what they do with it certainly interests me.
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I'm an 'Other' too...Lee - that's an interesting quote by Annie - do you know where it's from?? Very cool.
RouxB:
I'm an "other". Oddly enough it took BbM fan fiction to move me to emotional ignorance. I have always had romantic yearnings but, in reality, never believed in forever love. Guess that kinda explains my attraction to unavailable men (and a couple of women 8) )-the best of both worlds, the illusion of romantic love and the reality of HA!
I am evolving (if it is indeed evolution) into emotional ignorance. Change is good-right?
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