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Is it better to have loved and lost?
Front-Ranger:
--- Quote from: Elle on October 17, 2008, 02:39:19 am ---I voted 'other' because there were no choices that included stable longevity!
I've, luckily, had most of the varieties listed in the poll. But now I'm monogamous (14 effin years!), raising a child together (which changes everything, especially commitment), and want it to be a smooth, well-running partnership (which it very occasionally is). We're at a time now where a lot of our conversation is about the logistics of who will pick up the kid when, who will take out the garbage, etc. It's not very romantic at all very often. But it's what I need to get through the job of the day. He's dependable (though chronically somewhat late), committed, a good provider, and a loving father. I look forward to it getting easier as Mini-Meno gets older, and then it can get more fun again with my husb.
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To me, that sounds like a friendship based love. I'm curious why not many people have selected that, choosing "other" instead. More thoughts, please!
injest:
--- Quote from: Front-Ranger on October 18, 2008, 12:54:22 am ---To me, that sounds like a friendship based love. I'm curious why not many people have selected that, choosing "other" instead. More thoughts, please!
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friendship love seems too platonic for what I would think of as a love relationship..the term doesnt' match up well.
Front-Ranger:
--- Quote from: injest on October 18, 2008, 11:32:07 pm ---friendship love seems too platonic for what I would think of as a love relationship..the term doesnt' match up well.
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you might be right, but on the other hand, it depends on how a person defines friendship. IMO, friendship is more precious than any other relationship. Because often what we call love depends on pheromones, and who is deemed a suitable mate. Friendship is based on something more subtle and more enduring.
injest:
--- Quote from: Scott on October 19, 2008, 12:40:38 pm ---I couldn't agree more, but I also believe there is a sexual component to even a friendship. Nonetheless, I wouldn't want to be in love with someone I would not want as friend first. It would be so pointless in the end.
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well that opens an interesting question..
because I can truthfully say that I have NO sexual interest in my female friends...the thought never crossed my mind...but maybe it is different with gay men since your friends tend to be people of the same sex, which as a gay man you would be attracted to....and you have been exposed to women as possible sex partners since childhood...
injest:
that just seems strange to me. I can see having a sexual relationship with someone you don't love...I can see loving someone and not liking them..but I can't see having a sexual relationship with someone I dont' like.
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